Mother's Day is coming up fast-this Sunday, May 12th!
Do you know what you're getting your mom?
Well, hold off, because your mom might have some shrewd advice for you.
Mother's Day is all about our moms.
Sometimes it goes like this:
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AKA, your family got it hella wrong.
So hoping to solve the problem of what to do for Mother's Day, u/zxkool took to Reddit to ask the moms just what they wanted:
Moms of Reddit: What do you actually want for Mother's day?
u/zxkool
And moms had so many great answers.
"Just a day where I get home from work, they've done their chores and they aren't bickering over nothing. It's not a lot, really..."
BlueMaboo
"I'd really just be excited to get uninterrupted sleep for a night."
AbJ1622
"A clean house, a long nap, and to not have to see my mother-in-law this year. It always turns into her day but hi, I'm a mom too."
Gingerpants1517
We are seeing a pattern here...
"I want to go to the park with my husband and son. Maybe go out for lunch somewhere together. And I don't want to be the one to have to initiate things we do together as a family."
GarnettGreen
"Champagne. Someone to come deep clean my house. Someone to cook me dinner while I sit on the couch with a drink."
tastinginstereo
"I want a house that stays clean for more than an hour, a meal I didn't make that I dont have to clean after, and a lovely day with my children and husband without having to worry about spending money. And chocolate, and a nap I don't have to set an alarm for."
mydearmrsrobinson
"To not have to hide in the bathroom to eat ice cream or sweets by myself. My 3 year old can hear the wrapper on a Klondike bar from a mile away."
mrschukchuk
It seems like the most significant amount of stress is the home life for moms, and for the most part, everybody really just wants a chance to relax.
"Gift voucher for a massage, a clean house and the lawns mowed. And a charcuterie board and a bottle of paired white wine all to myself."
twilexis
"An hour or two of total and complete silence."
RedDeadRedditGirl
"What I've learned from this thread is a clean house and if they have kids living with them, either time with them or a short break from them, is all that they want for Mother's Day. And my mom has told me that she wants a clean house every year yet I still clicked on this thread to see what I should get for her."
appetizerbread
"For you to get off Reddit and. clean. your. room."
justkiddingbutnot
Just a simple task—to not have to pick up all the domestic slack.
"Not to be needed for just a day. I took a trip by myself a couple of years ago and the absolute best part was not being needed by anyone."
"I could just relax without worrying about when my relaxation would be interrupted by my husband and kid coming home and needing help with stuff or attention."
"Don't get me wrong, I love spending time with them and shower them with attention and cuddles, but I really miss having uninterrupted me time without having to worry about getting texts asking me where something is or if we have milk or whatever or watching the clock wondering how much time I have left."
ZoraksGirlfriend
"A clean house, a large iced coffee delivered to me from my favorite coffee place, delicious food I don't have to make and no fighting or being pestered for a whole day."
alternate_life
"A day alone. A whole day. To sleep in. To shower as long as I want. To nap. To drink my tea and coffee HOT. To go to the bathroom uninterrupted. To nap again. To peruse through the shopping centre at my own leisure. To not be bombarded with a million questions (majority of which are "Why?")."
PimpOnTheBarbie
"All I want is to be woken up with a "Happy Mother's Day", then left alone for the rest of the day so I can play video games and nap at will. Also dinner that I didn't have to make or clean up after. This is all I ever want for my birthday as well - along with cake that I didn't buy or make."
witchywoman869
So before you break the bank for your Mother's Day present, check out what these moms are saying and see if your mom could benefit from the same.
It's inevitable... the day will come, and FAR sooner than you we realize. You know the day, the moment we all morph into our parents. We swear it'll never happen, we promise we'll never be that uncool or maybe we're just finally getting cool. It happens in an instant. You're going about your day, the weather is lovely, life is peaceful and then either your kid, significant other, co-worker, boss or complete stranger will do something too stupid and you'll react in a way that is foreign yet oh so familiar. If you respond with.... "You call that music? Can you PLEASE turn off that noise! - You damn kids! - In my day!-.. and so on and so on!" Then you have made the life turn.
Redditor u/itsDaco wanted to know who else among us had made that life turn by asking.... What's the most "I'm turning into my parents" moment for you?
Husband Says He'll Leave Wife If She Doesn't Lose Weight, Now She's Too Skinny And Desirable
The funny (in a tragic kind of way) thing about manipulative and abusive relationships is that sometimes you don't realize you're in one until something so ridiculous happens that you can't deny it any longer. One Reddit user is facing that realization after her husbands ultimatum, an assault by his friend, and the victim blaming that followed.
Yup, it's as bad we it seems. Here is her original post:
I met my husband 6 years ago when we both had just graduated college. He was a lovely guy, handsome and very well put together. He loved muscle cars and weight lifting and I loved everything about him. I fell in love with him instantly and was over the moon when he asked me to marry him.
A year into our marriage, I became pregnant with our son and gained about 30 lbs. I was 5'3" 125 lbs before the baby and 155 lbs after the baby. I still fit into the same clothing sizes so I didn't think I had gained too much weight and that it would come off with breastfeeding and some more exercise.
After the baby, my husband started pressuring me to lose the weight. He said that his friends were making comments about how fat I had gotten and that he was not as attracted to me as he was before I had the baby. He gave me an ultimatum that I either would have to lose the 30 lbs in six months or he would leave me. I was very upset about the demand, but I didn't want to lose him so I tried my hardest to lose the weight.
Every day for months I would wake up and go to hot yoga for 90 minutes. After I got home from work, I would run or do some body weight exercises. I tried to keep my calorie count below 1200 so that I would lose 2 or more lbs per week. The weight slowly but surely started to come off and I was back down to 130 lbs by the end of the six months. My husband was happy and things looked like they would be okay.
After I lost the weight, I noticed a shift in the attitude of my husband's friends. Most of them are perfectly nice guys, but a few of them are absolute pieces of shit (the same ones who called me fat). Once I returned to my old weight, these friends started to make comments about me and how sexy I was. I told my husband to make them stop and he said that he would speak with them, but the rude comments never stopped. I channeled all of my frustrations into working out and I lost an additional 15 lbs of body fat and got more toned.
This past weekend, my husband's friends were over at the house and one of them grabbed me and tried to grope me. I told my husband and even though he was angry at his friend, he was still angry at me. My husband said that I was leading his friends on by losing so much weight and that I was trying to make myself skinny so that I could cheat on him. I was disgusted by this accusation and packed my bags and left for my mom's house.
Last night, my husband called me and begged for me to come back home. He says that he knows that he was unfair and that he won't let his friend come over anymore, but I am so tired of dealing with this that I'm not sure I want him back. He's the one that told me to lose weight, but now he's blaming me for being too skinny and I'm afraid he's going to make me develop an eating disorder. But I also still love my husband and it hurts me to be apart from him.
I'm so confused and I'm not sure what to do.
Reddit swooped in with responses SO DANG FAST. Some of them had to be censored or edited because people had some CHOICE words about this.
H/T: Reddit
Woman Wants To Call Off Her Wedding Because Of Her Lack Of Bridesmaids, And Her Heartbroken Fiancee Turns To The Internet For Advice
Planning a wedding can be a nightmare for some people. It's amazing how quickly an event that is supposed to be about the couple can turn into a whole big production about literally everybody else. I know from experience, I actually cancelled my wedding and surprised people with a beach BBQ/wedding because planning it got to be so stressful. So when one heartbroken man asked Reddit what to do about his fiance's struggles with planning their wedding, I felt for the bride-to-be way down deep in my bones.
He explained that she had no female family members and no friends, so she had gotten fixated on the idea that she would have no bridesmaids. She's an elementary school teacher and writer who is pretty uncomfortable in social settings, so she didn't have a whole lot of chance for connecting with people. The groom has a large group of friends, but she's not so social. She was so upset that she was considering cancelling the wedding entirely! He was genuinely heartbroken that he couldn't help her feel better.
Reddit offered a few bits of advice for him. Some have been edited for clarity.
H/T: Reddit