Sometimes you just gotta walk away. Love is love and it's fabulous and all that jazz, but that doesn't mean it's meant to be... forever.
And no one wants to hurt another person's feelings, especially someone you're in a relationship with; unless they really deserve it. But more often than not, a lot of marriage proposals seem ill timed and not well thought out.
Like, you just cheated on me or stole my money, a "Will you marry me?" does NOT an "I'm sorry" make.
Redditor u/tommygunz007 wanted to chat with the ladies out there about the times they just had to say... "No!" They asked:
[Serious] Women of Reddit who were proposed to by their SO and said no, what's your story?
I am the one who will be proposed to. I decided that long ago. So I'll never have to worry about hearing a no. I just have to figure out my "NO" delivery. I jest...
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"I loved him, If he asked me to get married 3 days before I would've said yes, BUT I received a message 2 days before the proposal from someone telling me that he was part of a gang, with proof and everything."
Isn't it weird?
"An ex, I told him things were going downhill and I wanted to end things so he decided to propose to me (thank god not in public) as an attempt to get me to stay. I said no."
"Isn't it weird? We had problems and he was too lazy to work on them. It wasn't when I bought books, it wasn't when I wanted to talk, it wasn't when I suggested counselling, it wasn't when I gave him a deadline for leaving, it was when the deadline was reached and I was packing that he decided he wanted to "save the relationship" by asking me to marry him. Freaking lazy."
"He brought me up to his apartment about a 2 hour drive from my college. I was basically trapped there. He asked me while he was feeling insecure about the relationship and figured a proposal would lock me in place. I dodged it for a few days, but I needed to get back to classes and he wouldn't take me back till I said yes. I figured he was a bright guy and would come to his senses eventually. He got me back to school. Eventually he realized that coercion is not a good proposal strategy."
"He proposed as a knee-jerk reaction when we were going through a rough patch. It was a pretty inappropriate gesture and I told him no and why it was a no. He wasn't being flippant, just turns out he was scared of where our relationship was going. We ended up working on ourselves and were married five years later."
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"He thought asking me to marry him and tattooing 'private property of' would be a good way to make me forget serial cheating."
See, now how did these guys not see this coming? They really thought marriage was just the simple answer. SMDH. Men can really be dim.
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"He was proposing to show how he was fully committed and dedicated to me and only me after he was caught cheating."
To the Pawn Shop
"Sold my great grandmom's wedding set to buy a gaudy diamond monstrosity of a ring. I had asked him to use the engagement ring to propose with as I would have been the fourth generation to wear it. He said it was ugly and awful and wouldn't have his "woman" wearing second hand garbage. I dumped his butt and got the set back from the pawn shop. Just realized this was the second time I dumped a guy based on this kind of behavior. I sure can pick 'em."
People Explain The Worst Thing That's Ever Happened To Them On Their Birthday
why propose now?
"Dating a guy for a few years. Was 20 years old at the time. Very controlling, wasn't going great. We were opening Christmas presents with his family when he asked. He proposed while saying he loved the woman I would become one day. I said yes in public, but no in private. If you don't even love me now, why propose now? Needless to say it didn't last long."
"About 3 or 4 months after we started dating he asked. It was a moment... we had a fun night out, a little buzzed, in a cab over the Williamsburg Bridge looking at the NYC skyline, weather was beautiful... I think we were both feeling immortal. But I said, you know... I'm saying no now because we haven't been dating so long and we've had a bit to drink and we're just caught up in the moment. He seemed dejected. He was still dejected days later. That said, a few years later after we'd been together long enough I said yes and we got hitched so we still got the happy ending!"
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"A girl I was casually dating, not even in a relationship with, proposed in front of her toddler niece and nephews and a LARGE crowd of people at the aquarium. Even asked her nephew, "Do you want OP to be Auntie OP?" with the ring in hand. I said yes in public and then no privately. Never saw her again after that one."
"A few years back, I was dating this guy. At first, he seemed very kind, sweet and happy. Handsome too. I thought he was a great catch, especially as some toxic friends of mine were lowering my self esteem. A few months after we started dating, he started changing. It was subtle at first, he would stop spending time with me and blaming me for it. Then came the gaslighting and manipulation."
"He started isolating me from my family, and hurting me when I refused to do things for him. Eventually, I got the strength to deal with the situation and tell him that we were over. To get me to stay, he hosted a large party with lots of friends and publicly asked me to marry him. I said no."
"Ex asked me over lunch to marry him. He'd broken up with me about once a week for the last few months over nothing. He had serious emotional/mood issues that have now been diagnosed but he was just a really difficult person to be around in general. I started laughing because it was just absolutely ridiculous."
"He asked why I was laughing and I brought up how he broke up with me every single week. He flat out said he wanted to get married because then he knew he wouldn't be able to leave, as if that stopped people from just getting a divorce ??? We broke up for good not long after this but the whole thing was bananas."
"We were looking at houses, and I had a panic attack whilst he was checking out the bedrooms. And I realised he was the worst person to live with. He had incredible temper tantrums, that he had threatened to hit our future children (if they touched his Dr. Who collection), but no one knew and thought he was perfect for me."
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"I've said "not yet" twice. The first person and I broke up, the second person and I have been married for more than fifteen years."
When in Paris
"We were 19 & 21 and had been together for 2 years. He took me to Paris, pulled out all the stops and proposed under the Eiffel Tower. I told him it wasn't a no, it was a not yet (if he would wait). I wanted to travel and knew I was too young for marriage. We ended up travelling together, making amazing memories through the years - we got engaged when I was 24 and married when I was 27 in the most perfect service and have been happily married 4 years next week!"
In the 90s...
"A friend from high school whom I had known for about a year proposed to me while I was in my first semester of college. The proposal was made over the phone, long distance (this was in the late 1960's). I never saw him as more than a great friend. My Mom thought he was really great which was nice but, no reason to basis a marriage. He really was a nice guy and we had fun together but, I was not "in love" with him."
"A few years ago I found out that he died of cancer in the mid 1980's and I was sorry to learn of his death. We did not keep in touch and I only saw him once after the proposal and he had married a lovely woman who I thought suited him. Seems I was wrong as she divorced him at some point."
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"One ex always proposed when we were fighting and I was about to leave. Some times literally mid yelling would just drop to one knee. I always said "No. I don't want a proposal to end a fight. I want it to be special."
"My mom said no to my dad the first time. He'd decided that he wanted to spend his life with her and wanted that to start asap. Still, they'd been dating less than a year and she was very nervous about rushing into things, even though they were madly in love."
"After a few days of continued discussion, she came around to his point of view (i.e. if we're talking about starting a family, why bother postponing the legalities?) So they got married 6 weeks later and here we all are after 33 years, with them still madly in love."
"I had a boyfriend cheat on me SO many times. The break up was hard, but then he got activated from the military reserves. I didn't meet anyone till 2 months before he came back. The whole time I wanted him back, but he and I weren't really officially together, and I knew he was talking to another girl the whole time he was gone."
"He came back, and saw the other girl first (he says to break up with her, ya right) and I realized I didn't like him, thank God! He showed up at my apartment, saw me with my new boyfriend, and proposed in a crying fit. It was horrid. 3 months earlier and I'd have done it, but thank god for the timing of things."
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"He bought me a ring as a Christmas present. The proposal came the day after with him saying "by the way, that's an engagement ring". He tried the same thing again the year after. Told him both times that if he couldn't even ask me whether I wanted to actually marry him or not, I didn't want the rings."
See, this is why those big public spectacle proposals are not a great idea. Look up the Beyonce dancer who Beyonce stopped the show for so her dancer's BF could propose. It was beautiful and funny and anointed by the Queen. And it didn't work out. That yes was pressure. So think and be sure gentlemen before you involve Beyonce.
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Guy Spent Six Months Altering His Girlfriend's Favorite Disney Movie Into An Incredible Marriage Proposal
In theory, you only get to propose to your significant other once in a lifetime.
Some people prefer a more relaxed approach to popping the question, but some prefer to create a proposal that is unforgettable.
One guy spent six months preparing for his happily ever after, setting the bar higher for proposals everywhere.
When Lee Loechler decided to propose to his girlfriend, Sthuthi David, he did everything in the next six months to ensure the proposal would be perfect.
Loechler, an artist in animation, worked with a small team of fellow animators to recreate the most iconic scene from Disney's Sleeping Beauty, which also happens to be David's favorite Disney film.
Easily the most beloved scene of all time from the film is the moment when the prince discovers and kisses the princess, awaking the sleeping Aurora from her curse. During this scene, when the prince appears at the princess's side, Loechler got to work, replacing Aurora with an animated version of David, and replacing the prince with an animated version of himself.
Instead of the prince leaning down to kiss the cursed princess, Loechler the Prince proposes to an awakening Princess David.
In a video that's gone viral, Loechler recorded a split screen of the event, showing the personalized version of the film alongside his and David's reactions to the film.
When Aurora first appears on screen, depicted with David's dark hair and tan skin, David starts making a confused face up at the screen. Her confusion appears to worsen when the new prince appears on screen. Even at the point when the prince proposes, David still appears confused.
But Loechler made the moment even better by creating the illusion that his Prince Charming self threw the boxed ring to him, from screen to audience. At this point, he turns to his future bride to propose, much to the delight of the audience behind them, filled with their friends and family.
From redrawing the animation of the film, to selecting a ring, to renting out a theater space to show the film, and inviting all of their friends and family for their special moment, Loechler truly pulled out all the stops to make this the best moment on their way to the couple's happily ever after.
Loechler even created a "Plan B" film reaction at the very end of the movie, just in case his future bride declined his proposal. When the sad reaction to David's acceptance starts to play, it added a hilarious, and certainly charming, twist to the end of his proposal.
You can watch the proposal, with the adapted film, here:
Reddit users are loving the proposal, and the video has gone viral on Twitter.
This is beautiful and amazing https://t.co/YXJb1jKyNZ— Trumps Impeachment Day 12/18/19 (@Trumps Impeachment Day 12/18/19)1578851474.0
This is so cute! ❤️😍 https://t.co/165dsHRt7D— Kristine Socea (@Kristine Socea)1578848050.0
Well, that’s love... wow. ❤️ https://t.co/Ah2SjFj1ra— Jodie Fitzgibbon (@Jodie Fitzgibbon)1578846143.0
Wow! The bar has been set for creative marriage proposals. What else do y’all have because this guy will not be out… https://t.co/sbiPo6N7AK— Sharon Sims (@Sharon Sims)1578843572.0
The bar has just been raised 👏👏👏👏👏 How amazing is this proposal 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 https://t.co/49cr0lsLdh— LaniNicholson (@LaniNicholson)1578854386.0
As far as proposals go this is probably the gold standard ! #wedding #proposal #Disney #SleepingBeauty https://t.co/nr8NAypUdq— Rajeev Pawar (@Rajeev Pawar)1578847397.0
This is the greatest proposal video I have ever seen!! 😱😱😱 https://t.co/gWCGTLzsFD— Dr. Anna O'Sullivan (@Dr. Anna O'Sullivan)1578840709.0
How could she not say yes https://t.co/kNVGVwv44c— David Sabella (@David Sabella)1578840690.0
This guy crushed it and ruined proposals for everyone forever https://t.co/SEMy4WNWjf— Foster Mommy Barb (@Foster Mommy Barb)1578790897.0
WOW!! That really takes the cake! 🍰 I'm a mush for romance. ♥️ https://t.co/BbsLtNjvIN— Cash Back Mavens (@Cash Back Mavens)1578837548.0
Loechler certainly set the bar high for future proposals everywhere, but more importantly, he reminded everyone to make them personal to the couple, to make them fun and to roll with any mistakes that may come up along the way.
Marriage proposals are pretty high up on the list of life's most memorable moments, but this one may be more memorable than most.
Many "proposers" go all-out, planning the big moment for months for maximum impact. Usually, at moments like these, surprises are the last thing you want — unless you're a particular British couple who recently got engaged in Singapore.
Jordan Doyle and Mary Lister were enjoying their big moment in a park in Singapore that's well known for a family of otters that call it home. The otters are called the Bishan 10 (which sounds like they have mafia ties or something and is just a delight) and live in nearby Marina Bay. The Bishan 10 are world-famous: they've been the stars of a David Attenborough documentary, the subject of multiple Facebook groups, they've been studied by academics, and frequently appear on the news.
On their trip to Singapore, Jordan and Mary wanted to see the otters up close and personal, and contacted local photographer Bernard Seah to take them to see the furry little guys. Jordan wanted to pop the question during the excursion while the otters swam nearby. Cute! Memorable!
But they got far more than they bargained for!
As Jordan got down on one knee, some of the otters ran over to investigate the couple's big moment!. (Except for one otter who couldn't be bothered because romance is dead. He just walked away, over it. Relatable!)
Seah posted the image to his Facebook account where it quickly went viral as people found it "otterly" adorable.
We hope you enjoyed that pun, because people used it over and over on social media!
@BBCNews It’s an Otter blessing— Nyasha (@Nyasha)1542727962.0
@sphasiaone They wouldn’t have had it any otter way.— Gayle Fajardo (@Gayle Fajardo)1542804450.0
@wlovesavannah @sphasiaone It’s so great when we bring out the best in each otter. #WednesdayMotivation #HappyThanksgiving— Gayle Fajardo (@Gayle Fajardo)1542818347.0
@sphasiaone That’s just his crew. They provided emotional support and courage. Otterly devoted.— Princess Shuri of Wakanda (@Princess Shuri of Wakanda)1542812088.0
But there were more than just puns. People were truly delighted by this adorable spectacle.
@sphasiaone Otters: “...say yes gurl say yesssss...” 😁🙏🏾— DJ YΛGGΛ 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@DJ YΛGGΛ 🇯🇲🇺🇸)1542802421.0
@BBCNews I find it beautiful that wildlife honoured this moment.— Rachel Melrose (@Rachel Melrose)1542729635.0
Best. Photobomb. Ever 🐾 https://t.co/Z4VDjMSAOG— Alix Kroeger (@Alix Kroeger)1542711133.0
@912CroozeFM The otters approve. I predict a long and happy marriage. #shedidsayyesdidntshe— Tansy (@Tansy)1542795603.0
@912CroozeFM The otters just wanted to find out when they were going to be receiving their wedding invitations. 😄— Johnplatt1278/everlong (@Johnplatt1278/everlong)1542793474.0
Anyway, good luck topping this otterly unique proposal, soon-to-be-married types!