Being an exotic dancer is generally not necessarily people's vision for themselves as children, but the financial draw of the job is pretty great.
A person can basically pay tuition with the amount of money they walk away with from working in a club. It's a very lucrative thing. But it also draws a crowd that is rather unusual, as it is an unusual job.
Those unusual crowds can sometimes be hard to deal with.
Magic Consideration<img lazy-loadable="true" src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMDYxNzg0OS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0ODM0Mjk4NH0.xu7W10ZlXogI04CLg_Ze-H8CdcuJZOp-rbgnDBfYxeA/img.gif?width=980" id="1b195" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="d2c1ff37dc787bd21edfefe9f912c2a8" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" />Giphy<p>Was male stripper for a bit. My opinion: it's all types for all reasons. Passing judgement on folks generally just makes you less approachable. There are good folks who like gyrating naked people but are awkward socially and have lots of money. Creepy is still creepy. Considerate is still considerate. Only difference is I'm not wearing pants.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Crispyandwet/" target="_blank">Crispyandwet</a></p>
Parallels To Customer Service<p>Ex stripper. The guys that came in and knew the deal were great. Tip the girl on stage, get a lap dance, be polite. The worst were the guys that thought they were smarter than the strippers or that they could somehow game us. Like, one guy I remember went on a whole rant about how smart he was because he could tell it was all fake and the girls weren't really attracted to the men. Uh, yeah dude, you're a genius. Or when they think they're funny by degrading the women. It's not funny and you're the one that looks bad. Honestly, for the most part I didn't think about the guys much at all. I was on autopilot most of the time and didn't judge them any more than thinking who looks interested in a private dance or who was a jerk I wanted to avoid.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/kidloca/" target="_blank">kidloca</a></p>
Rowdy<p>You get your share of creeps but mostly where I worked (a long time ago) a lot of young groups of guys just looking for a good time. Every once in a while you have someone who has too good of a time and gets rowdy and acts like an idiot. Granted I only worked 2-3 nights a week, people who dance full time (especially during the day) have a whole different kind of crowd to deal with. But customers are generally all the same, just looking for something to distract them from life for a while. Feels like a lifetime ago that I danced, my husband and I go together now every once in a while to get a private dance for a while and it's way more fun being on the other side.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pickmeacoolname/" target="_blank">pickmeacoolname</a></p>
Cinnamon Told You Nothing<p>Generally depends on what kind of customer that person is really. The best kind is the dude who understands that it is all a game. They tip well, they are sociable and polite, may even be regulars with certain girls and are never a problem. The entire club staff loves guys like this.</p><p>The ones that the dancers hate? The "I don't pay for dances" guy who thinks that line will somehow make him desirable for dancers? His trademark line goes something like "You are too beautiful/smart/amazing to be doing this, if you get with me you can leave this behind". </p>
A New Way To Talk<p>Ex-stripper here: Of course I encountered all different types, but I am here to mention one type in particular (my favorite). There were a lot of customers who were lonely, or didn't have anyone to talk to who would really listen to them. They figured out that they could come in and pay for company. I would sit at the table with one of my regulars for a few hours and just talk. I made a point of showing that I valued them as a person and was genuinely interested in their conversation. He knew that he was taking up my time, and every so often would hand me another bill. I didn't pity them, I respected them for figuring out a way to engage with other humans and satisfy their need for connection.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/everyonesmomiguess/" target="_blank">everyonesmomiguess</a></p>
Chosen Family<p>Depends on the person.</p><p>I've had stalkers follow me home. Creeps who tried to get violent with me at work. People who pissed me off.</p><p>I've also met some really wonderful people I'm fine with calling my friends. I just had a baby and invited two ex customers to my baby shower in June.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/aequitasthewolf/" target="_blank">aequitasthewolf</a></p>
Bobs Everywhere<p>I used to have a girlfriend who was a stripper, and sometimes I'd visit her at work and hang out with her and her co-worker buddies when it was slow. One time when we were doing this, another stripper sat down with us and said, "Cool, I just got 10 straight lap dances with Bob." I asked, "Which one is Bob?" No one said anything, then one of the girls giggled. My girlfriend said, "Um, Jeremy, they're ALL 'Bob' "</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/jeremyharrison415/" target="_blank">jeremyharrison415</a></p>
Logique<p>I dated a stripper for a while (no we didn't meet at the club). We were 18. She liked some of her regulars, but she would often get married guys in there and she absolutely hated them (not that she wouldn't take their money) because she wanted to just have fun and not worry about ruining people's marriages. She also disliked the people that were old enough to be her dad because there were a lot of old creepy people who would proceed to show her pictures of their kids who were around her same age.</p>
A Fantasy<p>As a male, I asked a stripper this same question. She said "it's just a job. It's their fantasy and they pay for it. Some of these guys are lonely. Some have wives/girlfriends at home who don't give them the attention we give them in a 5 minute lap dance in 5 months. Then you have all the others in-between"</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Joe_Da_God/" target="_blank">Joe_Da_God</a></p>
Innocence<img lazy-loadable="true" src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMDYxOTczNS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2OTYyMDExNH0.9hTyXdiBn8Cmj591FI06-vH_yV3ErmKcbRijP1ch67E/img.gif?width=980" id="110cf" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="89e4ce43b763baa1bc129a0916c1ff8f" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" />Giphy<p>Most of the people there are just coming for a good time. You get your occasional creeps who you're giving a lap dance to and they flat-out try to shove their hands down your front but it's all fine and dandy, there's always a bodyguard just around the corner. The one thing I love about working at my local strip club is the younger ones who are always so shy and timid. I was giving a lap dance to one boy with the cutest little face and he didn't know he was allowed to touch us, so when I took his hands and set them on my behind he started freaking out a little bit by stuttering and saying stuff like "is this allowed?" and "I don't know about this".</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/APopeWithACiggar/" target="_blank">APopeWithACiggar</a></p>
Dancers and sex workers are honest, hard working people just like the rest of us. Their jobs are faaaar from easy. They need to have physical stamina and mental dexterity if they want to rake in all that coin. Yes I'm serious. And often the places they work at are less than... "5 star rated." The atmosphere at a strip club and the club itself is often a character in the stories for sure.
Redditor u/babybopp asked sexy dance artists... Strippers of reddit, what are some things that happen in strip clubs we are not aware of?