We pretend to enjoy so many things every day.
I think answer number one is... jobs.
So many people put up a facade to get through the harrowing hours ticking away.
That's just a guess though.
Redditor AndyBales wanted to discuss the things people have to be lying about loving, so they asked everyone:
"What are you convinced people are pretending to enjoy?"
I pretend to like politics. It's exhausting.
Shut Up
Season 4 Nbc GIF by The Good PlaceGiphy"Podcasts where the hosts just laugh at everything they/other hosts/guests say. Nothing is that funny for that long, dude."
TheeMost313
It's Addictive
"Having constant drama at work, in friend groups, and elsewhere really can't be all that exciting... can it? If I have one friend causing me too much drama I usually avoid it like it's the plague."
Syrup_Slurper
"Drama is addictive. I used to need constant drama, and it was because my childhood was so chaotic that it literally rewired my brain to be uncomfortable without it. It's an actual illness. I needed years of therapy to become stable, and I'm still not done."
gcitt
Time to Edit
"3 hour long church services. Jesus gave the sermon on the mound in like 5 minutes. Get over your ego pastor!"
Elegant_Development3
"I grew up going to Catholic mass. 30-45 minutes, then it's off to get donuts. The long masses are on holidays, and usually there's fire or baptisms involved, so we're filling that time with something. What do people even do at day long services? Is the pastor really talking the whole time??"
gcitt
"One of my favorite details in the Bible is that at least one of Peter's sermons (Acts 10:44) was cut short by the Holy Spirit showing up while he was still talking, effectively ending the sermon. God apparently had decided that that was enough."
KatanaDelNacht
Fill in the spaces...
"Bars and restaurants with loud music and terrible acoustics. What’s the point in being social in a place where they’re trying to make it hard for you to socialize?"
auximines_minotaur
"Someone explained this once and it made a lot of sense so I'm gonna try, but it'll most likely be shi**y: Loud music fills in awkward silences and covers up social faux paus in an environment where mixing and mingling is encouraged."
"It helps facilitate you hooking up with Jenny because she doesn't realize you're a terrible conversationalist since the music covers it up."
Dangerous--D
Personality Issues
Schitts Creek Comedy GIF by CBCGiphy"Maintaining their jobs as YouTube, TikTok, Instagram personalities."
"I briefly had mild success with a channel on YT 10 years ago and it was nowhere near the level things are now. And I see the production value and the regularity of some of the content. And I just think how much pressure these folks feel to feed the machine or perish."
ThingCalledLight
Oh the Internet celebrity types... no thanks.
Those Shows
Americas Got Talent No GIF by Got Talent GlobalGiphy"American talent shows like quite literally 'America’s got talent,' and 'American Idol.' Who the hell are these shows catered to? The dialogue is cheesy, idiotic, and fake as hell and the structure doesn’t make sense."
"Back then it had categories and the contestants would compete against their own groups which at least made it somewhat interesting. Now? Anything f**king goes, and you could have a wanna-be jabawacky dance group of about 20 people vs little Timmy playing a harmonica with his a**hole. It makes no damn sense."
Chaacho08
Stay Home
"LinkedIn."
mushroomyakuza
"Accurate. It's like an office party you don't want to attend but need to so you can 'network.'"
aldwinligaya
"So many times I've been in my office since coming back from lockdown and I've wanted to say 'look can we cut the office chat and if I ask you how your life is going, that you give me a honest answer?'"
"LinkedIn takes the vacuous nature of being in an office and multiplies it by 10. The virtue signalling people do on there just to feign the value they think they offer to the world is a issue that people have allowed to go on wayyyy too long on social media."
finger_milk
So Fake
"Trying to make everything Instagram ready. I've fallen in that trap before, deleted everything but Reddit."
"I'm much happier now living in the moment, watching my kids play instead of taking photos of them, eating my food instead of standing above it trying to take a picture in a crowded restaurant."
"Once you stop feeding your ego, a lot of worry stops with it."
iupvoteoddnumbers
Not So Live
"Live action remakes."
ttaborek
"The thing that I specifically don’t like is when the 'live action' remake is really a CGI remake, but they won’t just acknowledge that it’s still animation. You want to remake the hand-drawn animated Lion King movie with a computer animated Lion King movie? I don’t care to watch that, but fine, go ahead. But don’t call it 'live action.'"
LaughDull967
"What's not to love of about a movie that's longer, has less expression, changes the original ending and message, features actors that can't really sing, and only exists to remind you of a better film that came out 25 years earlier?"
The_Presitator
I'll Sit
Episode 1 Waiting In Line GIF by The SimpsonsGiphy"Anything that requires an insane amount of waiting in line. Amusement parks, brunches at fancy places, night clubs, etc."
"Like, you're engaging in an a barrier to make the 'thing' you want seem worthwhile."
"I dunno, I despise lines."
zomgitsduke
I don't do lines anymore. That is all.
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People Share The So-Called 'Old People' Activities They Thoroughly Enjoy
Most people don't associate "old people" with having a good time.
Most people are missing.
It turns out quite a few things people typically think of as "old people activities" are fun! More than that, they always have been.
"Old people activities" seems to just be a really ageist way of saying "stuff that has a chill vibe and let's you savor the moment."
Reddit user Tellurye asked:
"What's an 'old person' activity that you thoroughly enjoy?"
Except the sounds. That's mostly involuntary, as fun as it is to make a whole big production about getting out of every chair.
Sound Effects
"Getting up from a couch/chair/bed with a grunting sound."
- Nununugget
"I just told my husband this morning that the 'uuuuungh' is the fuel your joints need to work after 30."
- fantasyflyte
"I started doing it ironically a few years ago, and now it's not ironic anymore."
- Goseki1
"Also sitting down and making a contented sigh. That’s me all the time."
"I think I started doing it ironically, but it’s been 100% organic for years now."
- mr-nefarious
"I do that with every activity. It definitely adds more power."
- VirginVibes_TV
"Man I remember when I was a kid and would help out my uncle work on his cars (aka hold the flashlight) I would always hear him do this weird grunting/loud breathing type noise and I always wondered why he’d do it."
"Well a couple years ago I was working on my car and as I went to lay down on my creeper I made that damn same noise involuntarily and I couldn’t help but laugh at myself and think 'ahhhh motherf*cker comes with age.' lol"
- jakstoughpuppy
GiphyOld Man Walk
"occasionally putting my hands behind my back as I walk for no reason."
- [Reddit]
"Dude..."
"The old man walk is seriously the best. Plus a bit of a shuffle to reduce impact."
"10/10 walking style."
- TentacleHydra
"I did this in high school and one of my friends mothers called me The Rabbi. It came in handy going to museums and exhibitions to keep my grubby little hands off the priceless antiques"
- MissHibernia
"I've had a horrible lower back my whole life. I do the pregnant lady thing where you press your hand in the small of your back and waddle forward."
- ChadMcRad
GiphyRocking and Looking. Looking and Rocking.
"Have you ever sat in a rocking chair? They're amazing!"
- DarkMarketRebel
"Yes! I love sitting on a rocking chair on my porch…just looking and rocking and rocking and looking."
"My husband sits in a chair next to me and we rock and look together. It’s nice."
- HeartFullOfHappy
"My husband and I are in our rocking chairs right now."
"If we’re sitting, you’ll find us in them almost all the time. The only thing better is one of those hanging chairs that you can swing in."
"If I ever get to build my own house, I’m going to install a few that will overlook the water or forest or rolling hills."
- Tacoma__Crow
"I asked for a rocking chair for Christmas this year, just on the off chance that someone found one on Facebook marketplace or something for real cheap."
"It's been fantastic. Rocking chairs rock."
- BronzeAgeTea
GiphySelf Soothing
"Knitting and Crochet kept me sane those the last 5ish years of world chaos. I have something else to keep busy with while watching tv instead of doom scrolling on my phone."
- Hopefulkitty
"I'm a fidgety autistic mess and can confirm, crocheting is such a fantastic self-soothing tool."
"I finally decided to conquer amigurumi and made some octopii recently, they're so cute! I also made myself a really cozy scarf and so far my crowning jewel is a huge waffle stitch quilt."
"It's great having a little project to work on all the time."
- Concerned-Pineapple
"That crochet sh*t is amazing."
"Like you can do a hobby but also do other things at the same time AND you can make a physical thing like a blanket or scarf or whatever! It's relaxing."
"...although I admit when I started I drastically underestimated how much yarn you actually need."
- Zankwa
"I wish I still crocheted!"
"I taught myself how to do it and was really proud of myself. Unfortunately some of my friends made fun of it and called me an old lady a few times and it soured it."
"Now I can’t crochet due to hyper mobility and pain in my hands due to repetitive, small movements. Maybe I am an old lady after all."
- Miladypartzz
GiphyHard Candy?
"Eating hard candy. Werthers original anyone?"
- lag_rvp
"When I was a little kid, there was an old man and his wife who always sat behind us in church. He would always sneak me Werther's Originals when he thought no one was looking."
"I always keep a bag of them around and they're still just as good."
- Klaudiapotter
"Lol an old guy customer would always bring hard candy to the bank for us tellers."
- follyandmayhemer
"This for me. Anyone sleeping on hard candy is missing out."
- eightfoldabyss
GiphySenior Tours
"Going on tour groups that are marketed 'for seniors'."
"I know a lot of people my age like to just go wherever they want and do exciting physical activities and hike and paraglide and jump out of planes or whatever."
"To be honest, I prefer it when someone is there to drive me to and from places that they've picked for me, show me all the cool things and tell me all the history, take me on a slow, easy walk, and then put mounds of food in front of me."
"It could be that I'm a bit lazier than most (which is true), could be that I'm not the type that enjoys spontaneity (which is true), could also be because I was used to going on these trips to accompany my grandparents when I was growing up."
"Either way, I kind of prefer it over the impromptu no plans kind of vacation. It’s great fun!"
"I love chatting with everyone else on the trips. Having the majority of the rest of the group being sweet elderly people who’ve retired and just want to see the world and meet new people is always nice."
"I’ve never been judged by them. 9/10 they just want to talk and are super curious. Takes the pressure off of me and I always get treated like a precious grandchild. Good memories."
- historygoose
GiphyStaying Home
"Staying home"
- Akira282
"Amen!"
"Why spend $6 on 2 drinks, plus tip? I can make 10 drinks for $20 at home."
"Why dance around sweaty people in ear-damaging levels of music? I can listen to whatever I want, at whatever level I want at home."
"Why spend $25 on a hamburger from a restaurant? I can make a whole cookout at home for $10."
"I could actually go on and on with this list..."
- theredwillow
"Using your own bathroom with your preferred TP instead of sketchy public bathroom!"
- glenarbourgal
GiphySnail Mail
"Paying bills with a check in the mail."
"Now don’t get me wrong, 99% of my bills are automatically paid and drawn electronically from my bank."
"However one of my bills (don’t ask me why, I have no answer for you) requires a check to be snail-mailed in monthly."
"Every month I have this ritual of going to my office desk, pulling out my check book, filling out the check line by line, pulling out a fresh envelope, and writing in the sender and recipient addresses, then carefully placing my stamp on the envelope before sealing it and walking it to my mailbox."
"It’s weird but it’s one of those analog versions of something that I oddly enjoy more than the digital version."
"In fact as a result of that, I’ve gotten me more into snail-mailing things. I love sending handwritten thank you notes in the mail and people usually have great reactions."
"Turns out receiving anything in the mail that’s not a bill or junk mail can really make someone’s day."
- bradleykent
GiphyAs A Treat
"As a treat for myself to unwind, I usually break out a cigar and pour myself a drink and enjoy that while sitting on my rocking chair on the porch."
"I’m 22, but the combined peace of the outdoors, the pairing of the cigar and fine whiskey, and the feeling of being left the f*ck alone is just beyond amazing."
- 3pointstonibbadore
"Oh man. You gotta try a cigar and some gas station coffee!"
"Trust me. Gas station coffee sounds gnarly, but it's got a good kick to it and depending on the roast it can go real nice with a robust cigar"
- transzient
"Hell yeah."
"This is some real old man sh*t. Love it!"
- Tellurye
GiphyFor The Birds
"Bird watching. I always get excited when I see a new type of bird at the feeder."
- another-modern-leper
"I remember the first time I was happy a pretty bird landed on a tree outside my window."
"I was like 'This is it, I’m no longer a boy, this is how older people feel inside!' It was humbling, overwhelming and beautiful."
- Thx_but_no_
"I set up a few bird feeders in our backyard at the start of the pandemic and was enjoying all the different birds that flew into the yard."
"Then we had about 10 days of snow and two mallard duck couples stayed for a visit and it was truly so divine to witness. I looked forward to their visits each day."
- leesajane
GiphyIdeal Fridays
"My ideal Friday night: 4 Advil, a muscle relaxer, fresh baked cookies, a movie or show with walk and talk vibes (think Aaron Sorkin), a fuzzy blanket, and in bed by 9:30 at the lasted 😂👏🏻"
"I’m 28 but I feel 82 because chronic illness 😂"
- SomedayMightCome
Coin Collecting
"Coin collecting."
"I've been collecting coins since I was around 12 years old, I'm 29 now and my collection has grown tremendously over the years."
"My grandpa also collects coins so we have great conversations going through our collection together."
- swamptheyard
Super Mario Nintendo GIFGiphySeamster Bro
"I like hemming clothes, sewing patches, or and general seamster activity."
"It's funny because I'm a gym bro/gamer guy but every now and then I damage my wardrobe and get to reward myself with a natgeo special and some needle and thread."
- lilBanshee473
Classic Clean
"Shaving with old fashioned shaving soap, boars hair brush, and razor."
"My 83 yr old uncle & retired barber has soaps still in their boxes from over 70 yrs ago. I've been tempted to ask him if I can try one."
- Cycleofmadness
Daily Life
"Naps, wearing slippers, solitaire, squirrel watching, going to bed early, tea and biscuits, spending all day with my plants, looking at store flyers for deals."
- heckin-gecko
New York Nyc GIFGiphyNo Social Life?
"Reading a book."
"It's something a lot of people do these days but the people I know who hate reading or have no time for it say it's an old person activity for people who have no social life."
"I mean, I don't at the moment so I don't see why they'd have to state the obvious."
- Lovely_Lucario227
Old School Reaction GIF by LeVar Burton KidsGiphyPuzzle Time
"I’m 16 and a dedicated table to do jigsaw puzzles."
"Like not just one of those white fold out tables or anything. A table especially designed to do them, with a lip around the edge to keep the pieces in and little drawers that also hold the pieces."
"I love it."
- Perfectlynext
Art With A Needle
"Embroidery, it's very fascinating to be able to create beautiful art with a needle, thread and a piece of cloth"
- Hisokas_Babygorl
Independent Breakfast
"I enjoy turning my phone off, buying a newspaper and taking myself out to breakfast. So I'll sit there by myself, reading the newspaper and/or making a sad attempt to do the NYT crossword puzzle and enjoying my breakfast."
"I love doing it and 10/10 would recommend."
"Honestly, just learning how to be okay spending time doing things by myself. Not just to be okay with it, but actually enjoy it. And I do, I thoroughly enjoy my independent outings."
- stephanielil
Turns out old people have been totally onto something this whole time.
Protect your peace, pick up a craft you can do while sitting in a rocking chair, and go watch some birds.
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We all have different perhaps strange activities that are satisfying.
There isn't really any cut-and-dry format to what we should enjoy.
There are however many things that most of the populace are adverse to.
Working outside in the heat or very cold weather, going to the dentist, or having to tackle a big disorganized mess are not typically on top of anyone's to-do list. Although some things for this writer bring a smile of satisfaction when done.
Strangely enough, I love cleaning cast iron cookware. Getting it really clean and then seasoning it with oil, bringing it out of the oven from heating to see the shiny deep black surface of a job well done makes me happy, even though it's a pain.
Redditor WowADeadMidget wanted to hear what the other weirdos of the world enjoyed.
They asked:
"What do you enjoy doing that most people generally dislike?"
The responses were all too relatable.
Being a total night owl...
“Being up all night and sleeping all day. People may enjoy it but as a societal whole it's frowned upon. I feel horrible when I'm awake during the day and when night hits I feel naturally more awake.”
“Problem is nothing is open at night where I am so I can't shop and get things done at night, and again, it's really looked down on to be up at night and sleep during the day. You're considered lazy or unwilling to work, selfish, all sorts of things. I'd rather have a night job and sleep during the day.”
“Edit for additional information apparently. I am not a child or a teen who ‘just doesn't like people’ I am in my thirties. I appreciate the dm's and comments from those who relate, glad it seems there are a lot of us who not only enjoy being awake at night and sleeping during the day, but genuinely can only properly function this way.”
“Hello fellow Night guard haha.” toxicoverride
Flying...
“I love being on planes. Just the experience of taking off and landing. I actually enjoy the pressure you get on your ear. But the best thing about is looking down at the place I came from or are going to.”
“ I really enjoy looking at maps and google earth so it feels great to see it with my own eyes. I can see my whole life from the window, where I live and where I go to school. It is just a lovely experience and totally worth the small leg room." Malthegudum
“The loud lawn mower lets me sing..."
“Yard work - as long as it's not too hot. If it's slightly chilled or just a nice day, I enjoy buckling down and just doing a lot of yard work. I get a sense of accomplishment when done, it helps ease my mind seeing the lines of grass being cut, especially that last piece to finish a section.”
“And once I get going I knock out several things. It's therapeutic to me. The loud lawn mower lets me sing, or collect thought about things going on in my life, or think those afterthought insults you wish you threw at someone in an argument earlier that day that would have hit home in the perfect way you wanted. Stuff like that lol” Poocheese55
“walking alone with or without destination..."
“Walking. Just, walking alone with or without destination, often to places I've never been before and past 2 am when there's noone in the streets, just observing the surrounding as they slowly pass by me, with my thoughts to myself.”
“I just find it relaxing and oddly sublime. Even in daily life, sometimes I find myself looking at some places and thinking ‘it would be nice to walk around in there’.”
“Edit: judging by the amount of upvotes and comments I'm getting, this might have been not so disliked activity as I previously thought after all...”Leuk_Jin
Working in the cold...
“Working outside when it's cold. Most of my coworkers absolutely hate it. I'm the opposite and hate the summer.”
“I'm in a t-shirt at 30°F. I'm comfortable down to and a little below 0°F. Anything colder than -10°F and it's hard on the tools and equipment. When we got down almost -40°F a couple years ago, I was giddy like a school girl and stood outside as long as I could just to feel it.”
“ If I could find a company in my field and area that would let me work January and February and take July and August off, I'd do it in a heart beat.” Bimlouhay83
“a lover of organizing."
“Organizing things, its just satisfying and a stress reliever for me.” EducationalPark4936
“My dad is a game developer (like pen & paper/card games, not apps) and he's working on a card game right now where the whole point is to sort. Each card has a different saying, color, shape, font, etc. and the only point is to sort the cards however you wish.”
“I, too, am a lover of organizing, and it's by far my favorite game he's made. It's meditative just organizing a stack of cards over and over again.” yourerightaboutthat
Ah life Tetris...
“Packing my luggage."
“I usually procrastinate until the last evening but once I'm on it it feels like a real-life Tetris game, nicely filling the gaps, neatly folding the shirts. Mom thinks it feels meditative to watch me pack." deadBee_25
An enjoyment not everyone has...
“I love paying my bills. It feels so satisfying to see the owed balance drop to $0.” Tiger5913
“When you don't have anxiety about your bank account having the funds to pay them, it feels great. When you are afraid to check your bank account because you're scared of what you're going to see, it's much less fun to pay bills. Been in the latter, but thankfully I'm now in the former.” Full_Moon_Fever
Troubleshooting...
“Troubleshooting things. I really enjoy finding small problems and fixing them. It's why I spent my HS years learning about signal wiring, my college years working with EE stuff, I brought my first job's company back from the edge of collapse, I nearly started a computer consulting firm, and now I play with 3D printing with highly customized features.”
It's why I still enjoy a good sudoku or murder mystery. It's that hunt for the Andre to a question. It's the want to learn the insides of a system well enough to pick it apart, fix it, and reassemble with only A FEW extra screws. It's just enjoyable.” NEXT_VICTIM
Well that's terrifying...
“Going to the dentist. I love the feeling of having my teeth cleaned and even the feeling of my teeth being filed down or drilled into. I used to have a teeth grinding problem so that probably explains why I enjoy it lol.” raginghangnail
Some of these may not seem too off while others really take the cake.
Whatever you enjoy as long as it harms none have fun!
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Boys play with boy things, girls play with girl things. That is an old, outdated line of thought that needs to squashed. We can all have fun in all things.
When I was coming of age my friends and I were constantly bombarded with boundaries, especially on the things that brought us joy.
Isn't that odd? Why would you try to co-op something specifically designed to create fun?
Because that's how the generations before were also taught.
Well... the times they are a changing.
Redditor schright_dwute wanted to start compiling a list of what adventures we ALL can partake in gender fluidly post-Covid by asking:
"Males of Reddit, what is something you like that is generally considered feminine or 'for girls' only?"During our adolescent years my friend Jackie would always want to play with my GI Joes; mainly because she thought soldiers were handsome and one day planned to marry one. As do we all. She would give me her barbies and then we would have a lovely tea. Consistently her parents would come across us and scold us for swapping and have us swap back. Our friends also thought it was odd during playtime.
This would make Jackie incensed. She wanted to play with the soldiers. (So did I but for different reasons) So when she wouldn't get her way, she would behead all of the dolls and toss their bodies out her third-story bedroom window. I myself was never a doll person either way. But I appreciated her drama. In this day and age, men have much calmer reactions to wanting to participate in things that are designated "feminine." And they are discovering a whole new world.
Bring it in bro
"Hugging your friends could be nice."
checksbio
"I feel this. I spent years being really insecure and would not initiate a hug, and when I did hug it would be really awkward. I'm over that now, but now we're in a pandemic so... sucks to be me?"
Obsidian_Veil
GiphyDance Away
"Dancing ballet. I was a dancer for years, mostly hip hop and acrobatic before I tried ballet. Wish I would have gotten into it sooner. I didn't start until I was 23. Both yoga and ballet really help with body control. Which to me, means reducing the risk of injury from other physical activities. I did it for about 8 years. I noticed an improvement in my other forms of dance pretty quickly. I'll probably go back to dancing next year."
Ghostmerc86
You Don't Bring Me Flowers...
"I've never understood why the only pretty, feminine delicate things men were supposed to like were women. Makes no sense. I'm not supposed to like flowers, but I'm supposed to like a woman that's pretty like a flower? What kind of sense does that make?"
TheKlic
"It is really silly when you think about it. The people who came up with that logic are the same people who think a little boy playing with a Barbie will make him gay. Surely the best way to instill straightness in little Johnny is to only let him play with muscular G.I. Joes and nearly naked pro-wrestling action figures. That will somehow teach him to like girls."
Good hygiene is an imperative aspect of life. Who doesn't like a luxurious shower and a clean body? And aren't we all attracted and drawn to people who smell good? For years society has complimented women on their fruity or fresh hair scent, or the soothing smell of a body oil or shower gel. And all the while men just had industrial soaps. Well look out world the boys have discovered the eucalyptus. And they are never going back.
No Shame
"Currently using my housemates 'glitter unicorn' shower foam and I unashamedly love the way it makes me smell every day."
Patt_Morrat90
GiphyScent of a...
"I love lavender, vanilla, and baby powder scented things. I accidentally bought a baby powder version of my normal deodorant and loved it. I can't seem to find it anywhere these days though. It's funny to me how some scents are considered feminine."
BeingMrSmite
"mandarin orange and mango"
"I accidentally bought women's shower gel once and now use nothing else. It just smells so much better."
TurdsforNipples
"I also like that the name on the bottle usually implies what the scent is. The "mandarin orange and mango" scent actually smells like that, while I'm still unsure what XTREME WOLF RUSH smells like, unless it's the toilet at a furry con after a wave of e. Coli."
Bounty1Berry
Coochie-Coo
"I shave my face with this stuff called 'Coochie Cream.' It's a brand of shave butter that, according to my ex-girlfriend, is very popular amongst strippers. I have to shave every other day and I swear by the stuff."
caveat_emptor817
"I used that back when I was shaving my head, it works amazingly."
ZombeeJezus
And sometimes it's the simple pleasures in life. Why is it not masculine to sit and enjoy a nice chamomile tea? Who decided what makes a man less a man by the way he derives rapture. Everyone needs a safe space and maybe when they're there they want to read a book or bedazzle a towel. Don't judge.
Everyone needs blankets...
"Crocheting. It's very relaxing and you create useful things. But almost every pattern I find is some kind of female clothing or accessory. There are pet toys but those are the only exceptions. Have you heard of The Crochet Dude?"
000003eyes
"Also afghans/blankets are a good way to go. They take quite a bit of time to make but are easy to make more masculine or unisex. Also amigurumi is pretty cool. I suppose stuffed critters can be considered "girly," but there is such a wide variety that it would be worth checking out if you haven't already!"
bookwyrmrose
Fan the Flames...
"I knew a (really wonderful) dude who told me he wanted to start buying candles because he'd recently talked himself into buying plants and liked how much they spruced up his apartment. It struck me as so wild that buying plants and candles was like... not a thing he considered doing because it was very aesthetic/ambience-focused and he'd broadly heard that was 'feminine.' As a woman, there's definitely some stuff you don't think of as feminine until you talk to a man who's been told otherwise."
mediocretrooper
My Locks
"I'm a guy with hair down to the bottom of my shoulder blades. One evening, I was hanging out with a bunch of friends when one of them decided she wanted to braid my hair. Oh my God did it feel amazing! I love the feeling of someone else playing with my hair."
MasteringTheFlames
GiphyThanks Babe
"My wife bought me flowers today. I love it."
Etlas
"My wife has done this for me, and our son, multiple times. I like to hang and dry them after a few days, and keep them on display around the house."
exandnotex
Smells
"Women's deodorant. My pits smell like cucumber and lime. Strong enough for a man but made for a woman."
FilledwithTegridy
Oh man, women's shampoo, conditioner, and shower gel is the S**T. My hair has never felt sooo good since I started using ladies' shampoo and conditioner. And as for the shower gels. I smell like a goddamn unicorn and I freaking love it. Never going back to male shower products."
Selphia2000
down the hatch
"Fruity cocktails."
Tummy_banana69
"I went to the Tower of Americas in San Antonio for dinner with my gf and the waitress asked if we were old enough to drink. We told her that we wish and she said she could make the drinks without the alcohol. I immediately asked for a daiquiri and I noticed a guy at a nearby table looked at us with a confused look on his face. Yes I know it's just a strawberry smoothie at that point but f**k off it tasted great!"
ghostboy2015
Soft & Warm
"We just bought a house with a jacuzzi tub, and my husband uses it more than me. Bubbles too. He absolutely loves it."
commoncheesecake
bubble bath GIF by MuchGiphyBagged
"I love to grocery shop (but not clothes shop), I love to search the circulars for the best deals, get my coupons and grocery lists ready, and I especially love to collect store branded shopping bags. I have quite the collection, and I love having my groceries bagged in them, it's almost a sense of pride that I shopped in this store for food. With grocery shopping I too love to cook and menu plan (although that's getting to become more of a gender neutral thing anymore)."
llcucf80
Less Callous
"Hand cream. Whenever there’s some in a bathroom I’m definitely going for that. Makes for soft awesome-smelling hands and finger joints that don’t look like tree bark."
baldbychoice
"soft"
"Don't know if this counts but I heard from somewhere that professional male fighters will often take up a soft hobby to compliment/counterweight all the hardcore rigor/mantra that is with fighting and war. My friend from middle school would take up Ballroom Dancing on his off days when he didn't have MMA practice."
JackTheJackerJacket
“can I get your number?”
"Getting asked out."
blithetorrent
"I relate to this. I’ve been asked for my number from women more times that I’ve asked for their numbers. I can count on one hand how many times I’ve said 'Can I get your number?' Usually they offer it to me or ask me for mines first. Even in high school I had one girl directly ask me to prom while we were in class, and another girl ask her friends to ask me to prom for her lol. I didn’t end up going to prom at all though because I didn’t want to."
itsSomethingCool
Dads
"Raising my kids. I have the bulk of the home duties while my wife works full time. There’s still some stigma against stay at home dads. I don’t understand why I shouldn’t be active in raising them. I was active in making them!"
Conchobar8
"Right there with ya. My business went under and I asked my wife if it’s cool if for a while if I just do this, and she’s down. I only have one to deal with but we go exploring different places every day! Otherwise she’d be at MIL’s watching TV all day long and not getting her naps."
halfarian
Bedtime Pals
"I sleep with stuffed animals. I’m a grown man. I do not care."
TheHunterZolomon
Salesforce Happy Dance GIF by AppExchangeGiphyIt's a new world in the realm of gender boundaries... finally. I myself have never cared about a gender boundary. As I child, I loved a good, sassy high heel. And I didn't care who new it. And I never understood why anyone would. I've just grown out of them, Lord they are rough on concrete. But if a buff, Texas born construction worker wants to blow off some steam in a heightened Jimmy Choo while sipping prosecco with his boys at a rodeo bar. Then so be it. If he's smiling while doing it, he earned it.
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