How People Would React To Catching Their Best Friend Sleeping With Their Significant Other
Affairs and infidelity are sadly a more common part of life than we care to admit.
People cheat. it seems to be part of the human condition.
Are we meant to be monogamous?
That's a story for a different article.
I say though, if you're going to cheat... have some basic human decency.
Don't cheat with people you all know.
And how are BFFs not automatically off limits?
Redditor Gifwii wanted to hear all the ways we'd all react when betrayed by the ones we love.
So they asked:
"If you caught your best friend having sex with your wife, what would you do?"
How can people betray one another like that?
Gross
Say Word Lol GIF by Desus & MeroGiphy"Be weirded out because they are brother and sister."
roadkilled_skunk
"Haha... I'm also dating my best friend’s sister."
Alcoholic__Engineer
Ok Dateline...
"I'm more concerned on how he found her body."
Smiddy3663
"If he's really your best friend, he helped bury it."
Inside-Effective-353
Hey Bestie
"I don't think he would. I had him neutered as a puppy."
a5redwing
"This reply was made extremely funny (or concerning) by the fact that I took it as someone neutering an actual person when they became friends."
DuCKDisguise
Never Cry Wolf...
"Take his car keys and drive to his place. It's all yours now buddy."
gerbageman
"Hol' up, remember to make it official. You have to p*ss a border around your new acquisition like in Never Cry Wolf, and if any relatives of the former owner are present you need to mark the ones you can't mate with, and you know, mate with the others."
SuboptimalButHopeful
"With that logic, I guess his house and and family are mine now? That's okay with me, his wife is pleasant to be around."
Savageturtles
Betrayal...
Julio Cesar Rome GIF by Luis RicardoGiphy"That happened to me 30 years ago and I haven’t been able to fall in love since."
TalboGold
"I'd be more unwilling to make best friends than rather than unable to develop a crush."
Equivalent_End5
The rudeness of it all.
An Assist?
Season 4 Flirting GIF by FriendsGiphy"Ask if she wants help..."
"Since they're the same person."
null640
Revenge
"Have sex with his wife. It’s only fair."
ami2weird4u
"My ex fiancée had an affair with a married man. Talked to his wife, she and I made a sex video and sent it to them."
Solid-Acanthisitta86
"I'm not a vengeful nor petty person but this kind of turned me on."
dipstyx
Evidence
"Record it for evidence then talk to a divorce lawyer on how to get a divorce without losing anything."
"Thank them both and move on with my life."
Wraisted
"In most states, the fault isn't a thing that matters beyond the reason. It just may waive the cooling off period... at fault divorces mattering in regards to separation of property ended in the 70's for the vast majority of the country."
"Apparently they discovered that people lie, and it is rarely a clear cut 'this person is the only one guilty.'"
Dredly
GO!
"I'd have to leave, or else I'd commit murder. I would then leave forever, I think I would just leave everything behind and become a nomad at that point and never look back."
AlavarTheBlue
"Also my first thought. Never a more compelling moment to finally hit the road and live every day like it's my last."
yes_yup_uh_huh
"Maybe tomorrow I'll wanna settle down..."
Lost to Me
"Well, it is an extreme level of cheating. One thing is to find your wife in bed with a lover but whole other to find her with your best friend. It is multi-level betrayal and that would leave a huge impact on my future life. Not that I would be sorry for losing that person but because it would make me hard to trust anyone after that. Hope that never happens to me or anyone I know."
Didytz
LOL
bill murray nw GIFGiphy"Exclaim, 'Bob! What the hell? I HAVE to sleep with her, but you??!!'"
Slartytempest
This is more common than you think. Watch Dateline.
How would you react in this situation? Let us know in the comments.
Friendships aren't always meant to last forever. To quote someone incredibly smart, sometimes people come into our lives, stay a little while, and then they have to go. While it's sad, the happy parts make it all worthwhile. I think a cartoon blue heeler said it.
And then there's these, friendship splits a long time coming, or out of the blue, which make you think,
"Wow, why were we friends again?"
Reddit user, Dense-Thing3339, wanted to know when things all went wrong when they asked:
"Former best friends, what happened?"
You don't know what life is going to be like. Who does? But maybe a move is all it takes for a friendship to fall apart.
Too Much Drama
"I realized that I couldn't deal with their... Everything anymore. The constant drama, the misplaced outrage, the moodiness... Life was simpler when I realized that my being around all of that was optional."
plasticdisplaysushi
Too Far To Connect
"Moved away and lost touch slowly over time. Both of us are doing good though which I’m grateful for."
User Deleted
"Similar here. Except mine went for culinary school and started working a minimum of 13 hours per shift. He loves the sh*t out of it but his social life is non-existent now."
Edythir
As Long As You're Keeping Up The 'Likes'
"They moved to London, I moved to LA."
"Now it's just the occasional "I need to visit soon!" followed by another year of no interaction other than Instagram likes."
soonerguy11
"Same here (minus me moving to LA). Whenever she does visit it’s exhausting. She did not grow up to be a very likable adult. If she happens to travel here for work or something I’ll go have dinner with her, but I limit it to that."
CaimansGalore
Sometimes it's not an external factor that causes the friendship to fall apart, but something on the inside. A change in personality or religious guidance that forces them to reveal their true selves.
Ain't No Friend Of Mine
"She was constantly making jabs about my appearance, where I lived, my interests, etc. and I called her out on it, so she blocked me."
shelbeelzebub
"That sounds like it was hard but for the better. She’s not a good friend."
Nannarbuns
"Yeah, my self-esteem has gone up quite a bit since we stopped talking. Definitely for the better."
shelbeelzebub
Acting Better Than You
"He started working out and lost a lot of weight. He looked great and was so fun to be around. He had gotten his confidence back but was still the same loving guy he was when he wasn't as attractive. Then he lost all of it and got really arrogant and angry. Was really rude and egotistical :("
BezosAltAcct
Choose A Time To Practice Your Religion. Not Now.
"She became super religious and told me I couldn't truly be a moral person without accepting Jesus."
"That was while I was at her house for 9 days to clean and care for her four children while her husband went through cancer surgery."
PanickedPoodle
Whatever the reason, you know what you have to do next: Leave the friendship.
Looking For Revenge
"We were both 15 at the time."
"I had agreed to meet him in the city centre one Saturday afternoon. Genuinely forgot. He rang me to ask where I was and I apologised, got on the next bus and was with him 30 minutes later."
"A week later we went to the city again (together this time). We went to visit a record store and after a few minutes I realised he wasn't there anymore. Sent him a message asking where he was and got a reply "On the bus home. Now you know how it feels to be left alone in the city"."
"Didn't speak again. Couldn't believe he was so petty."
Kezly
Ruining Your Entire Career
"We were in a band together. He ended up stealing a decent amount of money from a promoter in our city. The promoter called my drummer & I and said “I’m blacklisting anything that your band member is part of from shows in this city- just letting you two know” and I never talked to the guy again."
gnarleypunk
A Bleakness In Their Heart
"He commit a seriously heinous crime that nobody thought he was capable of. People loved him, he was the "golden boy" of the town. Now he's in prison for the rest of his life. He reached out to me but I wanted nothing to do with him afterwards."
"No, it is not a case of false accusations, he texted me admitting to it, and there was a MOUNTAIN of evidence against him."
heybrother45
...Sounds Like A Good Reason, Yeah
"Dude abandoned his wife and kids, screwed my wife, then my gf, then un-invited me to his wedding. F-ck you, Paul."
sandfleazzz
"Yeah, f-ck you, Paul!"
urbexcemetery
Sometimes you just have to know when to cut the cord.
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Do you ever feel that way? Like every second is just a hurdle to get to the next.
We have enemies afoot constantly. Sometimes the enemy is another human and other times it's animals and pestilence.
Thankfully there is a human's best friend in dogs. Without them we'd be sunk.
Redditor Professor-SEO_DEwanted to discuss what and who human's should be weary of, by asking:
"If a dog is man's best friend, what's man's worst enemy?"
Mother Nature.
She can be a real B!
If it's not hurricanes, it's fires.
It's like, lighten up lady.
Evil
"Bedbugs." ~ PM_MeYourEars
"This is the actual answer. They’re a pest that evolves with us specifically. We’re the only host animal that they feed off of." ~ BrickLuvsLamp
GiphyKillers
"Mosquito." ~ Degenerate_Saint
"There is a claim that half of all humans who have ever lived have been killed by mosquito born malaria. That claim is disputed, but the fact that people argue about it being closer to a third or a tenth or even a twentieth of all humans who have ever lived, says a lot about just how bad these things are."
"There is also the Guinea worm, which today is almost extinct, but used t0o much much more of a deal and according to some inspired the symbol we today use for medicine." ~ Loki-L
Airborne...
"Flying cockroach." ~ Vehenion
"I used to live in an apartment complex where going to the laundry room meant walking through an outdoor hallway that had flying cockroaches. That was on the second floor."
"When I lived on the first floor it was just millipedes. When I moved to the second floor I started wearing a laundry basket on my head for protection. Still beats the third floor. Third floor was bats." ~ moak0
The Great War
"Geese." ~ Im_bored_123
"Ok, so before I sat down on the toilet right now, I roman candled the geese that destroy my lawn. They're great because they absolutely scare them all immediately without actually causing them any harm."
"I haven't had to do that in about a year and a half. I guess this is a new generation that doesn't remember The Great Goose war of 2018-2019. I remember. I remember everything." ~ Jame_Gumball
It's Me
"Himself." ~ SgtGo
"It's no surprise to me, I am my own worst enemy. 'Cause every now and then, I kick the living crap out of me.'" ~ _duncan_idaho_
GiphyWhatever deity created bedbugs should be punished.
They are the minions of the devil.
I hate them!
"The “x” button in ads when you try to click them." ~ cjj966
"Not to mention those fake playable ads that immediately send you to the app store." ~ DRYFT3R_9
GiphyBrutal
"Fleas." ~ Wavage
"Lived on a farm growing up with 5 dogs, at one point we got a flea infestation and it was intense. We had carpet on the floor, and I used to make it a game to put in calf high white tube socks, and walk slowly across the carpet."
"My feed would be black by the end with hundreds of fleas and I would run to the bathtub and drown them. Was a brutal week." ~ teh_pwnererrr
It doesn't beat us...
"Depression really is the enemy. We've got some weapons against it, but for some reason talking to others seems to be the only one that gets frequently mentioned. Exercise is a good weapon."
"Any form at all, even light exercise. Light boxes have helped me immensely; I normally get SAD but haven't since using them."
"It might be coincidental, as other aspects of my life have changed, but they are definitely worth considering. You need to use it close up and for a good amount of time."
"Diet is important, and human interaction, even silly small stuff. Just saying hello to people helps. Meditation: very helpful, at least in my experience."
"Obviously going and speaking to the doctor about it. For some reason people seem to be against taking anti-depressants, but that's allowing depression to win. F**k depression. I freaking hate it. We do whatever we can to beat that piece of crap into the ground."
"And if depression does come, and it wraps it's cold, constrictive arms around us and hollows us out, then we say 'Not for long.' It goes, it always does."
"It doesn't beat us; we beat it. Sometimes over and over, but we always win in the end, if we just stay in the fight. F**k depression." ~ octopoddle
Foot Killers
"Legos on the floor." ~ RandomChopSuey
"I knew a guy who had a lot of lego, used to keep it all over the house on display in glass boxes and on shelves and whatever, and it was always really fun to go over and see his latest stuff."
"Funny thing is, despite having all that lego there was never any on the floor lying around. You could walk barefoot with impunity and it was fine, whereas in a person's house where they don't have loads of lego on display it still always sometimes gets you. Funny thing is the guy was later killed by a Go**amn octopus." ~ spiderbabyinapram
Be Ready
"That idiot driver in the other car." ~ Sofarbeyondmessed
"Assume they are all trying to kill you. That is why I have a harpoon gun on my car. Pre-emptive defense." ~ Pyroclastic_Hammer
GiphyWe better watch out.
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Unfortunately, a friendship could really end at any point in life.
Friends grow apart, but also, sometimes, it's just necessary to say goodbye to your relationship with a friend.
Maybe they aren't the right type of friend for you anymore, or maybe something has happened in their lives to make them self-destructive and toxic.
The reasons are many, and they are all sad.
Redditor monarchmondays asked:
"People who have unfriended their childhood friend/best friend, what happened?"
Here were some of those answers.
Bad Looking Out
"I was more-so the one who was unfriended. Was going to be the best man in his wedding. Saw his fiance out with another dude. Like on this dude."
"Told him, he told me I was wrong, Yada Yada. Things got heated. I told him I couldn't be his best man. Some years down the road, he caught her cheating."
"Called me up, asked if I wanted to grab a beer. I went. He apologized. I accepted, but we're still not friends."-TheMotorcycleMan
Friends Don't Control Friends
"He was a pathological liar, manipulative and told all of my most trusted secrets to everyone because he wanted to feel powerful and like he controlled me."
"Haven't spoken a word in 5 years and I have never looked back."-TheDandy9
Sometimes Life Is The Only Thing In The Way
"As soon as I left my hometown and my best friend growing up stayed, we both changed in opposite directions. He assimilated to the local lifestyle, quickly became friends with people he never got along with in school."
"I left, made new friends, found new things I liked. He started a family, I started a career."
"The final straw though was he RSVP'd to our wedding and then just didn't show. No text, no call, no anything. I think he was pissed that I didn't make him my best man after I was his best man, even though it was exactly because he wasn't reliable and made everything about himself that I couldn't do it."
"He caused sh*t at other people's weddings and I just didn't want to deal with what I knew would be inevitable. It did highlight though that growing up I was his best friend as a matter of convenience where I genuinely liked hanging out with him."-porscheblack
It's never fun or happy to lose a friend, but sometimes it's necessary for your healing process.
We've Reached The Point Of No Return
"I haven't unfriended her YET but I'm basically at the point where I'm sick of her drama, pettiness and 'main character syndrome.'"
"Anything that doesn't go her way is taken personally and if you disagree with her (or even have a preference that differs from hers) she will berate you into submission and 'agreement.'"
"And heaven forbid you have a life that doesn't consider her wants and desires. We're both 30, almost 31. I'm too old for that sh*t."-Deezus1229
When The Punches Come, I Go
"I met my ex-best mate in school, he had a little narcissistic personality, but I understood that and ignored his faults."
"In late Teens, we started drinking and partying as most do; this is when it became apparent that he had alcohol problems, forever being violent looking for fights, killing my good vibes, and getting me pulled into unwanted situations where I saved him or stopped him from beating on someone for no good reason."
"Throughout our life, he never attempted to fight me. He remained a pretty good friend to me until our first trip overseas to Asia; during our trip, he tried to coward punch me in the back of the head because I asked him to put out his cigarette that he had just lit."
"I asked him because we were seated in a restaurant surrounded by families, for some reason that angered him, I got up to leave and luckily heard him coming and avoided his punch, but he then tried to attack me further, which ended with us both on the ground and me on top of him while he shouted and went crazy."
"Eventually, police arrived and pointed a gun at both of us; luckily, they didn't shoot. Having foreign police aiming at me because my friend wouldn't calm down was one of the most scary moments in my life and that's saying something because I don't come from a easy upbringing."
"He was drunk, of course, and claims he doesn't remember, but there's no excuse to try and coward punch anyone, especially your best mate."
"I packed my bags that night and left our joint holiday plans in the dirt, traveling solo and having a blast. When I got back from my trip, I quit drinking myself and have remained sober for the last five years."
"Throughout that five years, I've had brief encounters with him, but our friendship was never the same. Unfortunately, my old friend never changed as he aged; he eventually went to jail."
"I work in hospitals and have seen him show up to the emergency triage, bashed with broken bones, and just a few months ago, he randomly knocked at my door where my wife answered, he was covered in blood."
"My wife went and woke me up; he had a stab wound and refused to go to the hospital; I drove him home and haven't seen or spoken to him since.. His brother updated me and said he was fine, whatever that means."-King-Callous
When He's A Predator
"I, a 5th grader at the time, knew this chick who was in the 7th grade dating a junior in hs. The dude thought she was 16 because she was lying about her age."
"They had been f**king and sexting and all that jazz...he didn't know she was a minor. I went and told him, and they broke up, and he was pissed... yada, yada yada..."
"They became friends again after a few years. When I was in the 8th grade, she called just so he could flirt with me 🤮. I was 13 then, and he was probably around 20. I blocked her real quick."-Cancerous0713
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They always say, "don't meet your heroes." But here's the thing, sometimes your celebrities are actually just chill, normal people who are overjoyed to meet ...The End Of An Era
"Inseparable all through jr and HS. We graduated in 85 so no social media but I still feel ghosted. He stopped returning my calls, I always had to initiate and when we did get together he wasn't that interested."
"I gave it a few tries but I got the message and just stopped contacting him and he never reach out to me after that. I never new why and it took almost 10 years for me to get over it and stop thinking about it every day."
"I kind of wish he would have just told me he doesn't like me anymore. I have a current best friend I met in college and we've been friends for 30+ years so it's all good."-DreamArcher
There is never a right time to say goodbye to someone you once considered a trusted friend.
Tragedy
"My best friends young son was killed in a four wheeler accident. I was the first responding paramedic. I had to take him from my friends arms to work on him. Knowing he was dead the all along."
"We flex the child on Lifeflight then I drove my best friend and his wife to the hospital. I knew all along he was dead but they didn't. It wasn't his fault or mine that he died in any way but I could never look my best friend in the eye again."
"All I could see was his pain. So we drifted apart. I finally got to tell him and his wife before my friend died with heart trouble."-hotandhornyinbama
Secret Mental Health Leeches
"She started being nasty to my husband when we got engaged. It was so gross. She was snarky and rude to him every time he spoke and made him feel unwelcome in our own home."
"I kind of fell out of friend love with her after watching her behave like that. My mom thinks it was jealousy or something, idk. My husband is the most fun and caring person I've ever known, I expected her to be happy for me."
"In retrospect, I realized there were a lot of other red flag issues I had been ignorant of. It's been 3 years now and I am so much mentally healthier without the drama she was churning up."-ThunderHeavyRains
When Mom Damaged Her
"Had a friend I met pre-kindergarten but had a falling out in middle school. Families knew each other and we were like sisters. But sadly, her mom was a true definition of a Tiger mom. Her mom always pushed my friend to be in all of these extracurricular activities, music lessons, tutoring, etc. Her mom was always dissatisfied; nothing was good enough."
"She wasn't the most nurturing parent. But my parents were the opposite. Especially my mom, she just wanted me to be a good person and do my best. But naturally I was a very good student."
"So my friend's mom would always compare my friend to me saying I was better than her because I was naturally gifted and didn't NEED all of that help. My friend began to resent me."
"Throughout puberty, she would call me a slut because I was physically developing, tried to imply I was ugly just to see my reaction, threatened to punch me, things I understood where they were coming from but did not think were justified as I had not done anything directly to her."
"Final straw was when she posted on Facebook that she thought I was ugly so I just cut her off completely. I pitied her for her family life but her bitterness toward me was wrong. Because through my eyes, she was my best friend and all she wanted to do was hurt me. Don't regret cutting it off"-dookieconductor
The sad truth is that people are not always meant to be close, and that some people are too mentally unhealthy to have any kind of closeness in their lives.
Until they grow up, there is not much we can do but sadly step aside and take care of ourselves.
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People Divulge The Moment They Realized Their Best Friend Wasn't Really Their Friend At All
Normally we go into these articles with an intro that segues into talking about the relevant article - but this is a no intro needed situation.
We all know what it's like to realize a friend isn't who or what you thought they were.
One Reddit user asked:
When did you realize your best friend, wasn't really your friend?
and honestly the amount of violence, betrayal, and scandal here is enough for even the juiciest novelas.
Read ahead with caution
Thieves
When I opened a drawer in her house and recognized my jewelry, trinkets. I looked at it all, took back my mother's ring, and left. 3 years this person stole from me. I was her only friend. I'll never understand it.
- katkre8s
I brought an expensive uncommon piece of electronics over to a friend's house. Put it in my bag, got home and it was gone. Called my "friend" literally 30m later and he swore he didn't have it.
Narrator: He did.
I get it back 6 months later broken. His story: his mom came into his room picked it up off the ground and put it in a closet that's in his room but he can't open. This would be one of his many weed related thefts.
Maid Of Honor?
jean vigo bride GIF by MauditGiphyWhen I asked her to be my Maid of Honor.
As her response, she left the care package I made for her when she was in the hospital back on my doorstep in a box. I put together some books and coloring books for her while she was sick. All of it was there.
She also stopped returning my texts and calls.
She reached out a couple years later, and I asked why she ended the friendship the way she did, and her response was that she was just being a dick.
I guess she resented me and the relationship I had with my now husband; but instead of talking to me about how she felt, she just dumped me.
It really screwed me up and ruined how I interact with my friends now. Everyone is arms length and I don't open up at all to them. I'm constantly worried I'm a bad friend.
We're still not friends.
Oldest, Not Best
Been friends for over 20 years with someone. He always makes it a point to introduce me as his best friend.
I'm like "well... oldest friend" and I do care about him, but I would not call him my best friend. We have so little in common but that's not why we have drifted apart....he just has no understanding of me.
I'm an introvert. He's an extrovert (with low self esteem) and he thinks that people like me are sad, lonely losers who don't know how to have fun.
He bases his worth on if he is in a relationship. When we hang out all He talks about is who he is dating/sleeping with/engaged to at the moment. I'm happily single who can do without all the drama.
He lives off his dad and is stupid with money. I'm extremely independent and self reliant. He has a taste for expensive, name brand items, I like Target 🤪.
One big thing that really irritated me was when I finally bought a place of my own, instead of being happy for me, he criticizes it for being in a "ghetto"....when I bought furniture, instead of buying the expensive stuff from the high end store he worked at, I bought at a ordinary furniture place.
He once made the mistake of making fun of my taste in and I replied (with his dad sitting next to him who Has Long subsidized his life) "at least I paid for it myself"...he turned red and his dad started to giggle.
Screenshots Are Forever
When I received screenshots of a post in a social media group bashing me and saying truly horrible things.
The person who sent them was a random stranger who said they looked on my then best friend's social media account and figured the post and comments had to be about me since she called me her best friend on a lot of posts. She said that she thought I should know what she was saying about me because they were so bad and if they weren't actually about me then she was sorry for sending them.
She was posting telling the group that she always thought I was a spoiled brat, that my boyfriend (now fiance) and I were never going anywhere in life, that I was just jealous of her, and she also threw in some insults about my family as well. It was a lot more detailed and rude, but I deleted the screenshots (after I sent them to my "best friend") so I wouldn't go back and obsess over them.
I thanked the person who sent them to me and promised to keep her anonymity so the girl wouldn't get kicked out of the group. Then I sent screenshots to my "friend" and said "this friendship is over."
Her apology was basically an, "I'm sorry I got caught" apology.
She basically said "I'm sorry you saw it, I thought it was on a private group page." Nothing is private on the internet.
Then a few months ago she reached out wanting to reconnect. I considered it for a few minutes and after a small handful of texts I realized she would never understand what she did and that she truly thought I was in the wrong. Her attitude was still basically "I'm sorry I got caught," and she also said she was just stressed, upset, and ranting.
I said that the things she said were not things you should think about a friend if they're really your friend and that I didn't want to reconnect and that was that. I found it odd that she wanted to reconnect when part of the stuff she said included that her family never liked me, she always thought certain negative things about me, etc.
I considered her family like my second family; we were best friends for about 17 years.
I actually am happier without her around, though. I never noticed some of the negative aspects that she brought to the friendship until we weren't friends. So its been really good.
- gundy92
Going To The Races
My birthday was coming up and I had nobody else. It was a really low point in my life, like it was bad. She knew how bad I was doing, I asked her to hang out on my birthday.
She promised that on my birthday she'd be there for me. Gonna come over with some beers and watch movies all day so won't be alone. Good times.
I message her a couple days before, yup we're on!
I message her the day before to ask what time she's coming past and she says whenever I want.
On my birthday I message her and ask if she can come over now.
"No. I'm going to the races today."
Like, Jesus Christ... Not only are you blowing me off so coldly, but you're putting it in a way like "I could invite you to come too, but I won't."
I doubt there even were races, or she ever intended to be there for me. It hurt so bad, like a physical gut punch even though I half expected it. She would constantly do things like this specifically intended to hurt me. It's why I kept asking her leading up to the day if she really was gonna come through.
After the birthday thing though, I was lonely but not lonely enough to continue to be fucked with like that constantly.
In retrospect, I honestly think she maybe actually wanted me to hurt myself; so she could play the victim, or whatever reason she had to hate me so much. Actually I doubt she hated me. I don't think she felt anything at all for me either way, just emotionless, f**king with people for entertainment.
- user1444
Can't Stand Deadbeat Dads
When his wife caught him about to cheat. He said he'd work to fix his marriage, but instead he ended up walking out on his wife, 3yr old, and newborn.
He came to me expecting me to back him up and tell him he was right to be rid of them, but I chewed him out instead. He then came up with some bull about her being too controlling from the start of their relationship. I asked him "then why get married and have kids?"
He left their home and started seeing some other women. He still texts me sometimes about sports or something, but I can't stand deadbeat dads. He's refused to get a divorce saying he doesn't know what to do.
You left the family home 18mths ago, G. You know you're not fixing this, so man the f*ck up and get a divorce so you can all move on.
The Cabin Weekend
My 27th birthday was the one where I truly realized that none of the people that I considered my close friends actually gave a sh*t about me, and the one that I thought I was closest to was narcissistic.
I got drunk and watch sh*tty movies by myself while my Facebook feed blew up with these friends having a fun time at a weekend trip to a cabin in the mountains (that I wasn't allowed to go to because there was 'no room').
The following week, I was hanging out with the narcissistic one and that's where I found out that the organizer of the cabin trip let someone join last minute. Like, he asked if he could come on Thursday afternoon and he was in the cabin Friday evening.
I didn't say a word and I just left in tears. Everyone knew that it was my birthday that weekend and that I was really upset that I wasn't allowed to go, but no one did anything to make it up to me.
Fool Me Once...
When he blacked out and tried to murder me in my sleep. Then 5 years later when I forgave him, he attacked and robbed me in front of my house after giving me a ride home. Fool me once...
He was the best friend I've ever had in my life. We were extremely close for the vast majority of our lives.
He was very drunk and smoked an absurd amount and blacked out. 40 shots and 40 dab hits that night. This was well beyond the normal scope of smoking.
He has a history of violence. The night of the first incident, he put me in a chokehold while I was asleep. He was a psycho with a violent streak. He had no reason to be mad at me at any point that night or the surrounding period.
He just held it, talking about how easily he could kill me and that he was going to for fun. It wasn't an easy spot to get out of.
There's nothing wrong with trying to be a forgiving person towards someone you love. It took years of him begging for forgiveness for me to give him another chance and things went really well for about a year until there was another incident.
But I'm never speaking to him again now. I still wish for the best for him as he's the best friend I've ever had but I won't ever give him another chance. I got fooled twice.
Unholy And Sinful
I shared with him that I was beginning to explore some interest in guys as well as girls, and his response was completely unsupportive. He told me it was unholy and sinful to explore my sexuality, and that I had to pray about it to find guidance out of my evil temptations.
It completely destroyed the trust between us that he would push me away from discovering what I want in life. I was unable to have an open and honest relationship with him from that day onward.
The nail in the coffin came a few months later when my parents were beginning to seriously discuss a potential divorce. I went to him for advice on how to navigate the situation, as he was personally familiar with my position due to his own parents' divorce.
He pushed me away, telling me that he wouldn't help me and that I was on my own. We haven't spoken since then.
Since 2012
I realized with one of my former friends that he was nice to me, but not to other people. He treated me with lots of respect (I think its because he thought I was useful to him), yet I heard stories of him beating up other people for suspected wrongdoings against him.
Unsurprisingly, once I told him that his behaviour was out of line, he told me that our friendship was over because I was not loyal enough to him, and he also threatened me with physical violence.
As he seemed very serious about carrying out this threat, I had to be escorted to and from school by my parents or my other friends for a week or two. My head of year had to get involved and instituted disciplinary action against him.
My former friend eventually got expelled in my third year of secondary school for kicking in a glass door. He went off social media and so I didn't hear about him for years. None of my classmates kept in contact with him - I think some were only 'friends' with him out of fear.
Looking back, he treated all his 'friends' like minions, not equals - my parents told me that he ordered me around like a dog. I did see him in my local pub back in July this year, the first time I had seen him since 2012, and lets just say he had not changed one bit.
Thankfully he did not recognize me, but he nearly got kicked out for trying to hit on one of the bar staff who was clearly not interested. I quickly finished my pint and got the hell out of there.
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