Most people of sound mind scoff at the mere mention of conspiracy theories.
Many of these beliefs alleging an organization with influential power is responsible for certain circumstances or events have persuaded gullible individuals to take action resulting in unfavorable outcomes.
But there are a handful of conspiracy theories that sound legit enough to make someone really question their belief systems.
Curious to hear what those might be, Redditor BayAreaBored510 asked:
"What conspiracy theory do you fully believe is true?"
The internet and social media have become a crutch for many of us seeking answers or getting things done remotely or efficiently.
But at what cost?
"Netflix marketing team releases memes about shows to give off the appearance that everyone is watching said show. Since people have FOMO they watch the shows to understand the memes until everyone eventually does watch it."
Exposed Online Activity
"For many years people were considered crazy for saying the government is spying on everything you do online; then the leaks started..."
"I think the trend where you show a picture of yourself now versus 10 years ago was promoted if not invented by Facebook owned social media companies in order to train artificial intelligence to be able to recognize and analyze how faces age."
Was For Encryption
"the truecrypyt organization was bullied/bought off into suddenly ceasing operations to encourage other closed source encryption alternatives with back doors."
"When I was in high school my friends and I came up with this conspiracy theory between us, that the theater kids are covering up for something because they act like a cult and talk about the theater teacher like he's their personal Jim Jones. Two years after graduating I find out he's been arrested for assaulting his female students, and was only found out because he thought he could trust this freshman new theater kid, and started showing him all the naked pics he's taken with those girls. Kid turned around and reported him the next day. The other theater kids went on social media to defend their god anyway 🤦🏻♀️."
Some storefronts act as a foil for dirty business behind the scenes.
So the next time you wander a street lined with ma and pop stores, you may wonder if it's all for show.
The Art Of The Con
"That the art market is actually a huge money laundering scheme. I don't remember where I read this, but it said that King Pins and criminals will often buy paintings and sculptures for millions of dollars in order to make dirty money transactions legal."
"That all of those souvenir shops on prominent shopping streets in London, England are money laundering fronts. You know the ones with a massive floor space selling key rings and knock off hoodies that say Tik Tok or something yet have no customers except young male staff sat about on their phones? How on Earth would a not very busy shop survive in Europe's most expensive retail space other than that? Also factoring in a global pandemic and a massive reduction in international tourists (who they're presumably aimed at) yet they show no signs of shutting down. They also all appear to be owned by the same person and stock the same merchandise."
"A few years ago a huge amount of 'soap shops' started appearing in my city; fancy boutiques which sold luxury bars of soap. The staff were mainly people who didn't speak the language, and they hardly sold any products. A few months later some crime syndicate got busted and poof, all soap shops were gone."
Exclusive Paprika Chips
"Someone paid off someone so there are no paprika flavor potato chips in Lithuania in all major supermarkets but one. 3 months ago you could find it anywhere and it was like the 3rd or 4th most popular, I think."
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"There is a local pharmacy in my town and I have not seen anyone in it my whole life. I've lived here since I was six and I'm 22 now. I think money laundering. But not sure. My own local conspiracy theory. Edit: I tried to call and it's been closed for two months. F'k me. I gotta do more research will report back."
Government and crime appears to go hand-in-hand.
"I'm torn between the government being completely aware of extraterrestrial contact and that the government is purposely leading people to believe that there's an extraterrestrial coverup in order to cover up advance technology testing."
"Health Insurance companies make 'mistakes' on purpose to avoid paying claims. This is honestly one I made up myself but I swear this is the truth. I've had bizarre 'glitches' keep huge medical bills from being paid. I also think the rules are impossible to understand on purpose so that it is harder to get them to pay."
The Endless Supply
"There was never a shortage of Krispy Kreme donuts."
"Area 51 was a conspiracy theory started by the US government to lead The Soviet Union into falsely believing that the US had alien technology during the Cold War."
"Ken Lay from Enron faked his own death so he can escape the US and not serve his time for the fraud he was convicted of.."
"I believe he is alive and well, living off the $300mm he stole from Enron."
The Fleeing Enron Exec
"Speaking of Enron, the fact that Lou Pai got off completely Scot free baffles me."
"He left the company with $250 million just before everything imploded, and there is reason to believe he was part of the reason why it did."
"No idea why he was able to just walk away with no issues, tbh."
Being in the entertainment industry, I have many talented friends who are professionals.
I may know one or two performers who appeared on a specific reality show competition where they were introduced to TV audiences as amateurs with no formal training – when in fact, they were trained in some of the best arts conservatory schools in the country and had professional careers.
Maybe they were "hired" to boost credibility or ratings on the show.
But, it's not my place to blow the proverbial dog whistle if I knew that to be true.
Just because you understand the concept of something, you can't assume it's common knowledge.
Sometimes, people can ask bizarre questions that can either make you doubt your own intelligence or make you want to grab them by the shoulders and shake them back to reality.
Look, they say there are no such things as stupid questions. But these strangers online would beg to differ.
"What is the most ridiculous thing that you have ever had to explain to somebody?"
If only these people actually stopped to think about what they were about to ask, it would save them a huge embarrassment.
Spoiler alert: they did not stop to think about what they were about to ask.
"That black people in Africa are not 'African-American.'"
Years ago, France was having some riots, it was primarily African immigrants upset with how they were being treated, I think. In any case there were a lot of angry black dudes in the crowd, who were referred to as "African Americans" by some of our, United States, news media.
A Direct Messenger
"I'm a mailman. Sometimes have to tell people 'YOU are Current Resident.'"
"That pizzas aren't cooked in pizza boxes."
"Had a regular customer at an Italian place I worked once exclaim that we were magicians, because he couldn't even reheat his pizza without nearly burning his house down."
"Mind you, this was at a counter that faced the end of the pizza oven - customers could literally watch you take it from the oven, off the oven tray & into the takeaway box."
"Somehow, he just never put the pieces together. Would try to reheat leftovers, crank his oven at home up, put the whole box in & have it catch on fire every time."
"The look on his face when I explained has stayed with me for a decade."
"That helium is a gas you have to pump into balloons that make them float. There are no 'helium/non-helium balloons.' I was blowing up balloons with a coworker using our mouths and she was confused why they weren't floating. She thought we had bought the 'non-helium' kind by mistake."
"My ex-boss thought that King Kong was a true story. I had to patiently explain the truth."
The Big Boo
"That Halloween never has and never will fall on Friday the 13th."
This Statement Was The Catastrophe
"Someone tried to convince me that boats were not invented in the days of the Titanic."
"Their literal words were 'boats did not exist when the Titanic sank...'"
Sometimes, people just have to put two and two together. But there's no guarantee they'll arrive at a realization.
Does Not Calculate
"I had to spend far too long trying to convince the HR person at my work that a sum of time adding up to 136 minutes was more than an hour and 36 minutes."
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"When I was 10, I had to explain to my 18 year old half-brother that he had to have money in a bank account to back up what he wrote on checks. He thought a checkbook was a magical book of free money everyone got when they turned 18."
"At university, some intro to business class."
"This girl didn't understand profit. That you could buy a good for a certain price and sell it for a higher price. She thought that was illegal."
Earth's Expiration Date
"Back when I was teaching, I had to tell a classroom of 9 year olds that the Earth wasn't going to end in December 2012 and then having to tell THEIR PARENTS that the world wasn't ending in December 2012. When they asked how I was so sure, I said, 'Come see me in January 2013 and I'll explain it to you then.' Four kids' parents showed up in January 2013 and demanded to know how I knew the world wasn't going to end.... THAT was the most ridiculous thing I've ever had to explain. Fact: Stupid parents are the primary reason teachers quit teaching with bad administrators being a distant second."
Powering The Sun
"I was sitting outside looking at the stars with the person I was dating. The sky was exceptionally clear and dark and I mentioned how bright the stars were."
"They replied with 'Yeah, it was super sunny today so they got a good recharge!' Straight face, not an ounce of sarcasm or hint of a joke."
"I had to explain, to a 40 year old parent, that stars are similar to our sun and produce their own light. They are not the same as the glow-in-dark star stickers that their child had in their bedroom."
Having patience with clueless customers can really test your limits.
"At the beginning of the pandemic I worked at a grocery store and we had Pedialyte on an end cap. I had to explain to two men that it was not alcohol and you shouldn't wash your hands with it. It took me like 5 minutes to convince them."
Now, Picture This
"Working in Michaels frame department a lady said she was looking for a 10x8" frame, but all she could find on the floor were 8x10' frames. Grabbed a frame, flipped it horizontally and sent her on her way."
"I deal with the general public on a daily basis. Needless to say I die a little each day. 5pm today until 5pm tomorrow = 24 hours. Loads of basic math. Here is one example though: Customer buying a 12 pack of beer. Beer had a $3 coupon that required the purchase of two bags of chips. Lady proceeds to buy the two bags of chips (about $7) so she could use said coupon. Then gives the chips away because she didn't want them she just wanted to save $3 off her beer. I tried explaining that she just paid four extra dollars instead of saving three. She didn't believe me."
The Bagging Method
"I worked at a grocery store and we packed the customers items for them."
"Customer had an insulated bag he brought with him, so I put the cold food in there."
"He got mad at me because I did not also include the hot rotisserie chicken."
"He believed that the bag would keep hot things hot and cold things cold even if you put them in together."
"I could have explained this to him. But I didn't care. So I just said my bad, put the chicken in and sent him on his way."
Many of these comments involved mathematics, revealing most people had problems with numbers – a common insecurity.
One would hope in time, they actually grasp basic computational skills.
But when it comes to claims of mythical creatures existing in real life, or our sun requiring a good charge to power through another day of brilliance for the denizens of earth, some of these out of touch individuals are just way off their orbit.
May they get back on track to a better understanding of basic common knowledge.
Have you ever experienced something that never made sense no matter how much you wracked your brain?
The unexplainable phenomenon is something many people apparently experienced when Redditor elibwell asked:
Life is strange. Or our minds are the ultimate hoodwinkers.
What logic-defying events still haunt you today?
Ken Waved At Me
"As a child visiting my Grandma's house (My Mum's - mum), whenever I left the house I'd wave next door to Ken who was always sat in the bay window looking out at the sea. They lived right on the coast off the North Sea in Hartlepool (UK) We'd never really talk, but just a little wave before I went to get into the car."
"One time I'm leaving my Grans house, I'm in front of my Mum who's stopped at the door to talk to my Gran. So I head down the steps and towards the gate. I turn back and see Ken in the window. Big smile as usual, waving at me. I give him a wave back. He stands up, gives me the thumbs up, and wanders towards the back of the room. My Mum comes walking down the steps and asks 'Who are you waving at?' I replied 'Ken.'"
"To this day, I can remember my mam's face. She just went white, but didn't say anything to me."
"It was only a few weeks later when she plucked up the courage to tell me, that Ken had died a few days prior to our visit to my Grans."
"I don't believe in ghosts, but I know I saw him. I can still picture his striped grey sweater with light stripes across it. Him waving and getting up out of his chair. There was no-one else in the house, he lived by himself."
"Brains are weird."
"I once was changing pants in my room before work and took off my belt. After putting on my other pair of pants, I went to put my belt back on but it belt was gone. No one else was in the room and I spent a good 10 minutes looking for it as I had simply set it on the floor. It's been 10 years and I've never seen that belt again."
"I'm a firefighter and we got a call for an overdose around 3 am to a rough part of our district in the middle of winter. Unfortunately the patient was long gone and her dealer or whatever found her like that when he dropped some stuff. As we were packing up our stuff mind you this is a absolutely trashed mobile home, I hear something down the hall that said 'lights?' I ask my partner if he said anything as it was just him and I cleaning up he said no. I walk to the far end of the trailer where I heard it and shine my flashlight I get a reflection out of the window. They have a small tool shed and it had a flickering light, it peeked my interest so my partner and I go out there. We hear crying and notice the door is padlocked. We cut it, and this little six year old girl was in there. She said her mom puts her in there when she gets mad at her. She said she got scared when she heard the sirens and didn't know what to do. To this day I have no idea what happened or where the voice came from, but I'll take the win on it."
"I once shut my ear in a car door. No idea how, have tried to recreate it and can't, but my god that hurt!"
A Soft Landing
"This one is strange to me because it was so long ago and I'm convinced I have to be remembering things wrong. I was a young kid at the grocery store and I saw this toy helicopter (like hot wheel sized) that I really wanted for some reason. I, of course, didn't buy it, but it the memory of it stuck in my head. A few nights later, I had a dream where I was playing with the helicopter, but I realized it was a dream and stupid young me thought that if I put it under my pillow, it would still be there when I woke up. After that, I woke up and eagerly checked under the pillow to get it. For some reason, it was right where I left it in the dream. As a kid, I wasn't surprised to find it there as it all made perfect since to me then, but years later I have no clue how the toy helicopter actually got underneath the pillow."
How Did We Get Here?
"When I was about 12 years old I went up to Lake Tahoe with my friend and his parents who had a condo in Incline Village. One day, the two of us are walking to the bowling alley and cross a street in a crosswalk. Right before we get to the curb, a car comes really close to hitting us. All of a sudden, we're both up on the curb, like we were lifted a few feet. We both looked at each other strangely."
"Did you jump?"
"No, did you?"
"We spent the next hour kind of dumbfounded. It didn't feel like a shove or any use of force. We were still in the street, then we weren't."
"I hit a patch of black ice in the dark going 60mph down the highway. At the time, I drove a 1 ton cargo van. It hit the guard rail and flipped. Not only did I walk away without a scratch, the car was drivable and I was only 30 min late to work."
Doesn't Add Up
"When I was younger, in elementary school, I used to have the same dream every weekend starting on Saturday (when I would go to sleep) and then waking up in the middle of the night (on Sunday) and throwing up. The dream was always a bunch of numbers. Not even anything happening just a bunch of random jumbled up numbers all over the place. I never understood why that happened where the same dream would happen on the same night every week and I would throw up every single time. I always think about it and wonder what it was or if it was just some weird coincidence. Also I would not have any signs of being sick before or after. Maybe someone else has experienced this???"
"I have a vivid memory of being at the Statue of Liberty as a child, on my dad's shoulders, seeing the skyline of NYC. I remember what we ate for lunch that day, etc. I remember the ferry we took. I've always thought about this memory and talked about it, but my family denies I ever went to NYC. I didn't go for the first time until I was 23, but strangely enough, when I went, I remembered everything just how it had been when I was there with my dad."
The Unexpected Reunion
"Long story short, I lost a jacket at a roller rink when I was in 3rd grade. I had a lucky rabbit foot in the pocket that I bought at the skate shop inside."
"Months later, my mother, who is adopted, found her birth mother and her half sister. The first time I went to my newly found Aunt's house, she said she had a jacket that might fit me. It was my jacket, rabbit foot still in the pocket."
"I have very vivid and intense dreams. One night when I was around thirteen or fourteen I was dreaming of a safari hunt for t-rexes and we had to save a golden idol from pirates in the jungle. Strange dream but during it, while running, everything suddenly stopped. I saw myself face me (not sure how to phrase that) and I said, 'Amythystia wake up! Everything is about to shake and you're in danger. Wake up!'"
"I woke up instantly and sat up confused. Roughly fifteen seconds later my boxer puppy woke up and started whimpering and whining and the rabbit I had started hopping in his cage. Seconds later an earthquake occured. It wasn't very big, but strong enough to knock several photos down and my shelf. Now this specific shelf was mounted above my head. It was made of a very thick type of wood and on it was a collection of random 'prized' items, including a quart jar filled with sand and shells, several large books, a heavy statuette, etc. Sufficient to say it was quite heavy. When it fell, it fell directly onto my pillow where my head had been a moment before. I hadn't ever felt an earthquake and live in a northern midwest state that rarely gets earthquakes strong enough to be felt."
"I have had other dreams since that foreshadowed events but that was the only one that happened immediately after. It still gives me chills."
"I swear my 4 year old can read my mind or we think on the same wavelength sometimes. I've randomly thought of a specific food (ie ice cream which we rarely have) and he ask me 'can we get ice cream?.' Or I'll be thinking about my mom and he'll ask 'can we go to grandmas?.'"
"When I was 10 I had a radio and bean bag chair in my room. As I was starting to fall asleep the radio suddenly changed the channel multiple times before I heard the bean bag chair in my room slowly fold in on its self making the noise a bean bag chair would make if someone where to sit in it. Not sure what caused this but certainly freaked me out."
"We used to live on a semi main road right off of Main Street in my hometown. The house was over 100 years old. We had a stairwell from the first floor to the second floor that was completely walled in with only an archway/doorway with no door.If you sat in our living room on either of the couches at any time of day, you might just see a dark head pop around the corner of the archway/doorway and stare at you. If you look straight at him he'll duck back into the stairwell, but you watch him go. He doesn't just disappear or fade away, you can actually see his head duck back into the stairwell. We all saw it, and various friends of ours would report it to us randomly too without us ever mentioning it to them. My mom tried talking to him but he never responded. Just stared at us from afar. The most anybody ever actually saw of him was part of his chest/shoulder."
For people that do or behave in any way that departs from the "norm"--whatever that is--conversations with strangers can be exhausting. Whenever that atypical attribute rears its head, someone demands a complete description.
For the person asking, that might be an interesting couple of minutes.
But for the person answering, that is the thousandth time they've had to offer up an explanation for something so commonplace in their own experience.
A recent Reddit thread allowed users to set the record straight, once and for all.
Sarazar asked, "What are you sick of explaining?"
"The difference between type 1 and type 2 diabetes and that I was born with it and didn't get it from eating sugar." -- joe_bogan
"And for me, that there are more than two types of diabetes." -- bopeepsheep
"I'm a programmer, I write programs. I do not know how to fix your laptop that won't turn on." -- -PM_me_your_recipes-
"I am an analyst. I'm not a programmer. I don't code. I don't program. I don't know how to make space in your android phone." -- Lasdary
"You are lying, I saw the Mario bros movie I know that gamers, hackers, programmers, and computer engineers are basically the same thing." -- that_guy_you_remembe
"Hobby Farmer here."
"A chicken is not the female. That's the name of the animal. The hen is the female."
"No you don't need roosters for hens to lay eggs. They've been bred over hundreds to thousands of years to lay a lot of eggs."
"Yes an animal needs to become pregnant in order to produce milk, just like a person. They don't just one day become mature enough and become a perpetual milk factory."
"Hay and Straw are two different things. Hay is dried grass or other leafy plants. It's what a lot of ruminants and horses eat. Straw is the dead stems of a crop like barley or wheat. It is inedible and usually used for bedding."
"Goats don't eat trash but they are the cats of the livestock world and will get into and destroy everything you know and love. There is a reason they are associated with the Devil."
What's It to Ya
"Why I use a wheelchair/sticks."
"No, I didn't have an accident, I didn't break anything, my body just doesn't work very well. Go away."
A Classic Annoyance
"My colour blindness. Basically as soon as anyone finds out, they point at something and ask "what colour is this?" Before anyone asks, I have Deuteranopia which is red/green." -- dimensional-scream
"I have deuteranopia also -it's annoying. People expect me to be able to tell them HOW what I see is different to what THEY see. How the f*** am I to explain it to you, I can't see how you see?" -- tandem_biscuit
It's Invisible, Just Trust Me
"Allergies, e.g. against pollen or food."
"Pollen is flying around not only in summer and the symptoms are not always red eyes or sneezing. So just because you cannot see, that someone is not feeling well it still can be the case."
"Or food allergies and you are judged as being picky. Please just accept, that some people cannot eat everything."
"Probably there are other allergies and explaining at some point is just sooo tiresome."
"That Bluetooth does not use your mobile data. This has been explained countless times to my dad." -- Pigrs
"And that the 5GHz channel on my router isn't the same as 5G mobile data. I've given up on explaining this one..." -- Fl4shbang
"Look, they both have 5 and g in the name. They also make 5 Guys Burgers in there right?" -- BasroilII
Quiet Does Not Mean Upset
"Why I don't really talk, I am so sick of being asked 'why are you so quiet' because I just am. I can talk to people and understand social cues but I don't speak unless I think I'm adding something." -- BrainDead14
"Oh boy does that hit home. I think most people don't feel comfortable with silence, but I f***ing love it. I don't see what's wrong with just being quiet unless you actually have something to say."
"It's even worse with my parents. For some reason I barely talk with them, just the thought of talking to them makes me feel tired, and I sometimes feel bad about it, but it's just the way it is for me." -- joergio6
Just Don't Like the Stuff
"Why I don't drink alcohol. I mean, I don't feel like I need to explain that one, but other people want me to. Is it really such a crime?" -- BlueBlanketsareBest
"Hate this. Especially because I don't really have a reason for it, I simply don't want to" -- i-just-carry-on
"I have Schizophrenia, and usually when I get to know someone I tell them I have it just as a little warning and what to do if it gets out of hand, but before I can even explain that they always say 'omg u have schizophrenia! So you have two personalities and kill people like that person from that one tv show?!'"
"no, no I do not kill people, the media has a sh** representation of the condition. So I always then have to spend the next 20 mins explaining what it is."
Sometimes adopting a child can bring a lot of joy to the family and the child. But unfortunately sometimes it can be even more of a burden.
Adopted children generally come with a great deal of emotional trauma--either from their orphanage or their parental situation, or for whatever reason. Kids are so easily formed by their environments that adoption can really be a whole second set of challenges for both parent and child.
Here were some of those answers.
Trigger warnings: abuse, violence.
A neighbor lost her only child in a car accident when child was 17. Adopted a 6 year old girl, Greta, from a foreign country a few years later when neighbor was 50.
Greta had some emotional & behavioral problems which later turned into psychological problems, neighbor tried various therapists, doctors, drugs etc. Greta ended up running away the first time at 14. And again a few months later. Her main excuse was that she was trying to get back to the family that neighbor "stole" her from. Greta really loved using that as a reason to torture neighbor.
Greta disappeared at 16 for over a year and then neighbor is getting a phone call from a hospital 5 states away. . . .Greta had given birth and seven hours later walked out without the baby but did leave neighbor's name & contact info.
So neighbor is 67 and raising an infant. Greta comes back a year later and basically blackmails neighbor (give her money or she'll steal the baby like neighbor stole Greta). Greta then disappears for a couple of years only to leave another baby in another hospital. Both babies were born addicted to drugs as a special added touch. So neighbor is now in her 80s and is raising two kids who have behavioral & emotional issues.
Why Would You Say That?
I'm the adoptee. My adoptive mom had some kidney problems that prevented her from carrying a child. Or so she thought. She was told later that she could have. She told me that had she known then what she knows now that she wouldn't have adopted me and would have had "her own" children instead. I was about 12 at the time and it was devastating.
Back Back Back
A woman I worked with had been fostering a ~13 year old girl for over 2 years and had started the adoption process. Girl had a history of trouble with her previous fosters, but had been doing very well with them for the whole time they were fostering her. She was seeing a therapist regularly and everything was shaping up to be a clean adoption process. Then she started acting out suddenly. Hiding things, blaming my coworker and her husband for separating her from her brother, saying she deserved to live with her real mom. She started getting in trouble at school, being disrespectful to her teachers and that sort of thing. They had several emergency sessions with her therapist but the girl shut everyone out.
The final straw was when she accused my coworker's husband of assaulting her. There was an investigation and she admitted to lying, but obviously they didn't want to risk having someone who would lie like that in the house. It could have ruined her husband's life. The adoption fell through and she went back into the foster care system.
Her therapist said that it's fairly common for children who come from unstable homes to freak out at the prospect of stability once they have it, and begin acting out. Sad situation all around really.
For The Right Parents
Before adopting me, my parents adopted a baby who they quickly learned was deaf. They didn't feel like they could raise the baby properly so they worked with the adoption agency to find deaf parents who were thrilled to have her instead. At first I thought it was kind of messed up that my parents would "return" a baby, but it really worked out better for everyone in the end.
Involvement In More Than You Bargained For
We adopted twins and the experience destroyed our family. Psych admissions, drug use, school expulsions, threats on our lives, starting fires, involvement with gangs, wrecked cars, etc. I could go on. It's the one thing in my life I wish I could undo. We're not alone. I knew one mother in town who deadbolt locked her bedroom door and slept with a knife under her pillow out of fear of her adoptive daughter. Another family had to send their adopted daughter off for a year of residential treatment.
The Final Straw
My parents best friends adopted a son from Russia as a 2 year old. He is the poster child of fetal alcohol syndrome effects. Violent, learning issues, the shortest temper, the works. His poor (adoptive) parents tried everything. They are great parents and had already raised 3, (two of their own and 1 foster kid). This boy gave them every issue. He was violent and disrespectful towards them, towards teachers, toward fellow students, he couldn't be controlled. They cried over him a lot. Legally disowned him at 17 after he stabbed their other kid with a kitchen knife.
It wasn't me, but my neighbors when I was about 10 years old adopted a girl that was my age. They already had 3 other adopted children and 1 that was actually their own. This poor girl was 10 years old and they changed her name from something that she went by her whole life. She had a whole slew of issues, but what topped it off was when she started developing a crush on one of her adopted brothers. The mother and the son caught the adopted daughter watching him sleep multiple times. And there was a few times where she would hold him down and tickle him inappropriately. He was only 8 years old. I think the cherry on the cake was when the mom found a journal the girl had been keeping saying how much she was in love with that little boy. They sent her back to her foster home after only a few months of her living with them.
Behind The Maturity Curve
My ex was adopted and I got the feeling his parents regretted it.
They struggled financially and moved around a lot. He was very entitled and immature. Not a cute scene.
Not, me but my ex- co-worker. They spent 8 years of paperwork and classes to be able to adopt, when they finally got the money sorted, all the baby clothes, a stroller etc ready, and flew down to the country she was in - the mom had been there the day before and picked up the baby because she had regretted putting it there.
My coworker is now considered too old to start a new process, and is sadly without any children. Something that is very sad for her.
It All Turned Out Okay
I grew up with a girl who was adopted from Africa, from what turned out to be a super shady agency. They were told they were getting a newborn, she arrived almost a year old and extremely malnourished and neglected. She was terrified of adults, and because of the malnourishment dealt with a lot of pain getting healthy again. The first year was hell, and too much for her adopted dad and he split. By the time I met her she was in kindergarten and a pretty normal, well adjusted kid with a loving and devoted single mom, but I know from my mom that her mom wouldn't have done it if she knew she would be alone with that unhealthy, unhappy baby. She got remarried when we were in second grade and they adopted another kid a year later, a little girl from China through an agency several parents at our school had used.