People Break Down Which Things They're Absolutely Tired Of Explaining To Other People
Some people just don't listen.
While others have trouble opening their minds even the tiniest bit.
Those kinds of people tend not to understand how certain people live their lives or even the decisions they make.
As a result, many people have to explain, or even defend, certain things about themselves repeatedly.
And while nearly everyone should be proud of who they are, and have no need to explain or apologize for themselves, it can get exhausting having to explain this to people over and over again.
Particularly to the same people.
Redditor Rare_Gas_ was curious to hear the things people were exhausted of having to explain over and over again, leading them to ask:
"What fact are you Just TIRED of explaining to people?"
Beauty Is On The Inside
"Nothing’s wrong."
"It’s just my face."- citizenbunny
Do Not Disturb!
"If I'm working at night, I need to sleep during some portion of the day."- spunkyweazle
Doctors Would Be Nothing Without Them
"I'm a male and a nurse."
"No I don't want to be a doctor."
"No I'm not going to school to be a doctor."
"No I don't feel like less of a man because I'm a nurse and not a doctor."
"And stop calling me doc and doctor."
"I've told you 5 times I'm your nurse and my badge says NURSE in big letters."- ChaplnGrillSgt
Nurse GIFGiphyIts Just Science
"Everything is made of chemicals.'
"Not everything 'natural' is good and not everything 'man made' is bad."- AttilaTheFun818
There's Good And There's Bad
"Viruses are not bacteria."
"Bacteria are not viruses."- georgeathens1
Computers Are Very Complex Indeed
"Software developers are not computer technicians."- Ramon80589
"I'm a programmer."
"I write programs."
"I don't know why your computer won't turn on."- ThunderStruck115
virtual reality computer GIFGiphyIt's Sadly Genetic
"That type-1 diabetes isn't caused by your diet, and it cannot be cured."- Jagged_Rhythm
If You Want This To Change, We're Hiring!
'That we are short staffed and you’re just going to have to WAIT."- c_estrella
Names Are Common
"That many Chinese people have my surname, but we're not all related to Jackie Chan, just like how not every person with Johnson as their surname is related to Boris Johnson."- benjaminchang1
Just Because I'm Good At It, Doesn't Mean I Enjoy It
"That because I can usually figure out how to fix most things does NOT mean I want to fix everything that breaks for anyone else."- Plus_Inevitable_771
wreck it ralph disney GIFGiphyDisabilities Are Not So Simple
"Just because someone doesn't always need their disability aids, that doesn't mean they're not disabled and faking it."
"Someone who needs a wheelchair to get around doesn't always mean they can't use their legs."
"They can still walk short distances."- pumpkinthighs
Counting Sheep Doesn't Work Either
"I have insomnia."
"No I can't just 'think about nothing'."- Lylat_System
Not Everyone Believes What They See
"Gets job at NASA."
"All extended family asks is if moon landing was real."
"Pain."- O118999881999II97253
moon walk space GIF by US National ArchivesGiphyNone Of Their Business!!
"I'm ginger and a lot of people ask me if ALL my hair is also ginger."-Reddit
Some people are just so obstinate and set in their ways that they simply can't accept what they hear.
If we think really about it, maybe THEY should be the ones explaining themselves...
Romantic relationships come and go as people navigate the dating world to find that special someone.
And while love can be fleeting, good friendships are everlasting–with "good" being the operative word here.
People rely on good friendships–which involve a person who is loyal, trustworthy, and someone who is always there for you to commiserate with over a slice of cheesecake well into your golden years.
However, not all friendships are created equal, and like how lovers become exes, friendships can dissolve just as easily.
Curious to hear examples of this, Redditor Proof_Mark_5232 asked:
"What made you cut off a friendship?"
There can't be selfishness involved in healthy friendships.
All About Them
"I don't like quantifying friendships, but for one I noticed that the other person would almost always exclusively talk about themselves, always with a tone of doing a favor, or being a privilege, or wanting something."
"I added up how many times they asked me how I was doing, and I had counted 2 times this year. On one occurrence, I mentioned this and they said 'Yeah, I don't.' and continued talking about themselves."
"I slowly stopped putting in the effort, and things have naturally drifted apart. Super sucks, but I would rather friendships/relationships to be a 2 way street."
– SgtTamama
Strapped For Cash
"They got mad when I didn’t give them $5000."
– chief_sitass
Effects Of Negativity
"She was just toxic. Did nothing but complain every time we talked or hung out. The final straw is when I had my mental breakdown and she tried to make it about her. Negativity is so mentally draining."
– Elleseebee928
It takes two to make friendships work, just like relationships.
The Initiator
"Being the only one to reach out. Once I stopped, the friendship was basically cut off."
– Magister_Hego_Damask
Blame The Virus
"Yeah I think a lot of relationships fizzled through the pandemic. There were just too many people to actively reach out to that I never heard from."
"I will say in the past two years I've reconnected with a couple of them, but not many."
– 1CEninja
Maturity Rate
"Essentially this."
"Been carrying these friendships since high-school and I can count on my fingers the amount of times they've reached out to me to make plans."
"Generally I was the one who asked to do things, and once I stopped doing that I realized it could go weeks without hearing from them."
"Secondly, I also matured."
"Some people are hell bent on living like they're in college, and also could not take any criticism."
"Always someone else fault, and 'I'm not lazy' though actions have spoken way louder than words could ever."
– Nova_Mafia
Some people are just plain mean.
Name-Calling
"super spoiled, but the final straw was him telling me (and others present) that his grandmother was a stupid f'king b*tch for booking his flight back from coachella so early. 'obviously i’m going to be f'king hungover' after she paid for his flight to l.a, and lodging in a fancy l.a hotel for a few days before the festival."
"literally made me ill."
– sweetperdition
"Posh Guy"
"I used to play guitar with my old friend from my town, just 2 guys playing crap and having the time of their lives. I meet another guy who was into bands and stuff so we started hanging out more often the three of us. Me, my good old pal and this new guy (boyfriend of a girl friend of mine from highschool). The new guy was from rich parents, expensive 'everything', good with the guitar and a bit over the top I-know-most-of-the-things kinda guy."
"Not the best, not the worst, not evil but definetly not a simple cool, nice guy... just a posh smart a**. One day the posh guy asked me to go to play guitar with his friends and i say, yeah, lets go. I let my old buddy know what time i was being picked up by car and all good. The posh guy came first with his car, i step in and when i saw he didnt wait for my old buddy i let him know he was coming."
"His face changed dramatically, like if i had dropped some really bad news. So he drive me around and gave me this speech about my good old friend not being invited today for the music jam and 'i didnt said his name, so he is not invited' and bla, bla, bla."
"We actually passed in front of where we were meeting and i saw him, my good old friend there, waiting for us with his guitar and his smile not knowing we were right there in the car, talking about him like he wasnt important, and then i felt like crying, sitting in the car with the posh guy giving me sh*t because i was doing the same than we were doing those days, get people together and play music while getting baked and have a great time."
"It felt like he was making me have to make a decision about them in that moment. After we picked him up you can imagine how fake was the whole evening. Posh guy pissed off, my old pal smiling and playing guitar and having a good time and me there trying to smile and just checking the clock waiting to go home. Funny thing, I already made my mind in the car. I was born in 1979, i would play 'kill'em all' album before any nu metal ever made, thats a principle."
"So after that, i never called the posh guy again, never returned his calls, i lost any interest for him or spending time with him. Nothing, zero. Not even a call to say oh sorry man, ive been busy, yeah we should meet again. I just keep spending the evenings with my good old friend, doing the same we always do."
"A few months after i told him the story. He just laughed and said oh, what a d*ckhead. Since then, i feel so proud of having him as a friend and, and even if im not the best person, son, boyfriend and friend of the people around me, and im not feeling the best with myself neither, i actually feel i did the right thing in that moment and that puts a smile on my face every time."
– Donjuanisit
I've personally never cut off friendships, but the reason why there are people I don't speak to anymore is very common.
People grow apart. It's just a part of life.
Many of us have relocated for a new job, for college, or other life circumstances that prevent us from maintaining our relationships with those we've left behind.
But what I've found pleasantly surprising are the ones I've managed to somehow get back in touch with and pick up right where we left off–with time and distance not having affected our friendship.
Those are the ones I treasure. Skipping town doesn't necessarily mean the end. Not in this day and age of social media.
If you're not familiar with the phrase "you are what you eat," it is not a literal statement.
Instead, the line suggests that it is important to eat better quality foods in order to stay healthy and fit.
But the notion that we can go through a transformation of some sort based on our behavior or surroundings can still be a thing depending on certain discussions within context.
Curious to hear examples of what this might be, Redditor standardgenre45 asked:
"What’s something that people turn into their whole personality?"
We can lose sight of ourselves when heavily influenced by another individual or a group of people.
Influenced By Devotion
"Politicians they follow."
– mrivkees
Era-Specific Like-Minded Individuals
"The generation they're born in."
– TheodoreBurgessL
We Like, We Follow
"‘Girl bosses’/MLM cult engagers"
"And social media."
– wanesandwaves
People can take on the characteristics that apply to their environments.
Location-Based Personality
"Here in the Netherlands people who live in Amsterdam base their personality on Amsterdam."
– kood_gid
When In Colorado
"People move to Colorado and Colorado becomes their personality. They buy a jeep or Subaru and start wearing Chaco’s, and plaster Mountain Life all over everything they own."
– peachesinyogurt
Claiming Ownership Of The State
"Not only that, but 'Colorado native' is a whole thing too. I've met many people who have nothing to talk about except how bitter they are that people keep moving in and how much better it was when they were kids."
– arardvark
What The Canadian Said
"It’s that way for a lot of major cities around the world. Here in Canada each province’s capital city has a bunch of people basing their personality off of it."
– SegaNaLeqa
The Thing About Major American Cities
"Lots of New Yorkers (City not state) guilty of this too. But it’s not just them. Los Angelinos, San Francisans, Chicago and DC are guilty too. Texans are probably the worst about it, especially the further they get away from Texas, then you’ve got people from Austin who are like the elitist Texans, they’re like the oddest mix of hippie and redneck. They often pride themselves on the hippie and denounce the redneck while still obviously being one."
– serene_brutality
Things having to do with money can be an obsession and really take over the essence of a person.
Living Work Or Work For A Living?
"Their job."
– CassiopeiaDwarf
Value Of Conversation
"Or just money in general. I worked with a guy who only ever talked about what things were worth, mostly vehicles. What he was thinking about buying. How much he could sell something for. The trades he wanted to make. How much our customers made. What motorbike he bought before from a guy on the street we happened to be on and what it's worth. That's all. It was annoying as f'k. Any conversation at all, you could be talking about your grandma, and he immediately tries to change the subject to value. It was literally the only small talk he knew. The fact he was poor just made it sad."
– Kossimer
Just Cut The Price Tag
"Omg my husband is kind of like this and as much as I love him, it's so frustrating. I'm just not all about money. We don't need to tell the kids how much their gifts cost. Idk. It makes me a little nuts."
– bohemianlikeu24
Power Of Money
"True, I lived it twice. First time I was a young, driven, ladder climber. Second I was a greedy, grab All the Cheeto’s before everything goes to pot… then when it did in 2008, financial collapse happened, I became lost. I’d let 95% of my identity become my job when it disappeared so did I. Took over a year to get my head right."
– DanMittaul
Status and association with certain people in their love are additional factors contributing to a loss of self.
Police Spouses
"You ever see a police officers wife? It's crazy but they turn their entire existence into being a police spouse, it's very odd. I have two neighbors that are police, they younger the wife the more intense the alternate reality they create for themselves. The husbands never mention their profession but the wifes cant shut up about it and try and prove how much they know about local law enforcement."
– Avalanche2
Married To The Army
"Same for military wives."
– imanon33
The Melodrama Back At Home
"My cousin's husband was in the Air Force. He was never deployed but whenever he would get sent out for field training, she was always talking about how hard being a military wife was and how much she missed her husband. Like girl, chill. He's gonna be gone for a week. Relax, don't shave your legs, sleep on the entire bed and do all the things you wouldn't normally do when he's home."
– littlehateball
Ever been told that you're turning into one of your parents?
That's another phrase often uttered, especially by a sibling who sees that you have slowly taken on the characteristics and idiosyncrasies of your mom or dad.
Learned behavior or genes?
Could be either or both. What do you think?
Nothing in life is free. If it seems free it still comes at a cost whether it costs in environmental impact, time, energy, or wear and tear, it is hard to imagine anything completely free. However, some things being free from monetary cost would be a tremendous benefit.
Although there have been many attempts by different organizations to make things like water, medical care, and education free there are equally as many who oppose it. One could argue that providing free education would reduce spending in others areas in a big way.
Education, especially higher education, is linked to a reduction in crime, substance use, and self sufficiency. As some states are currently providing free community college they are seeing these positive impacts. Even ensuring quality education for children has seen major returns. With every dollar spent on education seeing up to $7 in economic returns, $2 of which use prison costs. In areas with underfunded educational programs the rates of crime are higher. Knowing this, sometimes making things free—for something like education—makes sense both fiscally and socially.
To find out more Guilhermedidi asked Reddit:
“What should be free, but isn't?"
WiFi is a funny thing…
“Wifi at hotels. Keep your little conditioner bottles and give me free Wifi.” ColemanOtis
“Wifi is a funny one with hotels. Cheaper hotels tend to include it for free because they are chasing value orientated customers. Fancy hotels don't tend to because they reason that if you are happily dropping a few hundred a night for a room what's a few dollars for WiFi?” Minidooper
“Basically, free water ain't happening because people are wasteful garbage."
“Clean, drinkable water.” Slippedstream
“Funny story, in my country water used to be free. People started wasting so much water that the water grid was basically on the verge of collapse. After introducing water meters and a water bills, the usage dropped by a very significant amount.”
“My local sewage treatment plant still uses only half of it's allocated space after several decades of grid expansions, because they thought it's gonna need that much capacity when water was free. Basically, free water ain't happening because people are wasteful garbage.” kaszak696
Not only helps life quality but it makes solid economic sense.
“Period products and contraception.” atomic_blue
“This. Think how much money we could save as a society by making contraception freely and easily available to poor women and men who lack access but do not want to have children.”
“That's a lifetime of Medicaid, education, and social security fees prevented all for the cost of a birth control prescription and a cheap condom.” Wrong_Coast
Free trials that don’t stay free…
“Free trials on everything. It should be against the law to collect credit card info, contact info, data, etc if they're offering a free trial.” shaka_sulu
“My cousin would use a gift card to sign up for a trial, and then make sure to spend the card before the trial was up. Because some companies will automatically charge you at the end of your trial and make it near impossible to cancel.”
“I simply refuse to give iTunes my updated billing info because I accidentally took the 1 year trial of Apple TV, never used it, and can't figure out how to cancel now. So now I just keep getting emails that they need a new credit card to bill me for that, and I'm like nah, you keep that expired card number.” SmallTowneBoy
Accessibility is necessary and legally mandated.
“Education for the Deaf and disabled. My son lost his hearing at 18 months from bacterial meningitis of the brain blood and spine and then a secondary brain/mastoid infection. I live in New Hampshire where you are nothing short of f**ked if you're Deaf.”
“It took us 5 years in a lawsuit to finally get the school district to pay for full funding for a school for the deaf for my son (to the tune of 86.7m for k-12). I live in New Hampshire where they do NOT have a Bill of Rights for Deaf and Hard of Hearing Children. Deaf children are born with the same ability to acquire language as any other children, and deserve the same chance to acquire language.”
“Deaf children have the right and the capacity to be educated, to graduate high school, to obtain further education, and to pursue a career. To achieve this essential goal, all families of deaf children have the right to appropriate early intervention services as well as quality family educational services. These families have the right to accurate and comprehensive information, including access to state resources to help their deaf children reach their full potential.”
“Deaf children have the right to acquire both English and American Sign Language (a natural visual language). Deaf children can acquire both of these languages simultaneously, with the support of intervention services prior to entering school and reinforced within the school system.”
They continued with their experience…
“Deaf children can fully access education and society. This means every deaf child must have full access to all information, specialized personnel, school programs, social activities, and extra-curricular activities. Communication skills and/or modes by themselves do not equate language proficiency."
“Deaf children have the right to qualified professionals proficient in developing the child's acquisition of language throughout the early intervention and school years. To ensure this right is fully protected, deaf children must be assessed on a regular basis by qualified language acquisition professionals."
“Deaf children require settings that uitilize a critical mass of language peers to ensure age-appropriate development of learning, emotional and social skills.Deaf children require interaction with deaf adult role models to internalize their self worth and visualize their potential."
"Deaf children have the right to succeed. And yes I was right when I told you $86.7 million I live out of state, The school district had to pay after a lengthy lawsuit. His school is about 2.7 million a year. This includes all audiologist appointments, 1:1 ASL aid, transportation which is about a two hour ride there in 2 1/2 hour ride back and the summer school program."
"It is a medical facility. I know that does not add up to the 86.7 million but with taxes being out of the state, in-home respite care, medical doctors on staff it does add up. Also we had five years worth of lawyer fees that the school ended up having to foot once we won."
"My son is projected to go to the school until he is 25 however I do not see him staying at Beverly school for the deaf more than a year my son was completely Nuro typical before he lost his hearing. He has been deprived of language for five years now because New Hampshire does not believe that sign language is a language." crazydogbabymom
Healthcare instead of so much profiteering…
“Insulin, especially in America." WarCrimeFunder
“Yeah, I'm a type 1 diabetic and I see the issue with insulin being brought up frequently these days. I fully support it being free, but I'm confused as to why it's the go to every time this question is asked. Why not any of the other drugs that people take daily that keeps them alive?"
“Cancer treatments? Having to choose between dealing with an illness that could kill you or going to a hospital to be bankrupted? T1D is such a small population in the US that it's amazing it's being brought up so much." _breadpool_
"I think the reason that insulin is always brought up is that profiteering is basically the only reason it's as expensive as it as. Crazy new cancer drugs or whatever could still be trying to recoup their costs of development, whereas there hasn't really been much development when it comes to insulin."
"For example, Lantus should, by rights, have gone generic in 2015, but through various patent tomfoolery that's been extended to at least 2028." gritherness
Paying just to go into work…
“Parking at the hospital you work at.” LimpBrilliant9372
“Not just America. The UK charges hospital employees for parking in their carpark in some places too. Horrendous.” RelativeStranger
No expensive funerals here please…
“Death. There should be an option of going to the dump and uneventfully dumping the body. I just want to be thrown in the f**king bin, any money that's spent on my funeral should be going to support my daughter and wife. People can celebrate the life or morn the death of the person at a pub, a home or whatever.” rastika
We all need more education…
“Scientific publications. Yet, big publishing companies charge for them (without compensating the writers may I say).” Braincyclopedia
The things that people feel should be free aren’t the frivolous items that many would expect. It’s the things like healthcare, clean water, and other necessities of our daily lives. Perhaps someday we’ll find ways to come together and make the accessibility more realistic.
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Most people of sound mind scoff at the mere mention of conspiracy theories.
Many of these beliefs alleging an organization with influential power is responsible for certain circumstances or events have persuaded gullible individuals to take action resulting in unfavorable outcomes.
But there are a handful of conspiracy theories that sound legit enough to make someone really question their belief systems.
Curious to hear what those might be, Redditor BayAreaBored510 asked:
"What conspiracy theory do you fully believe is true?"
The internet and social media have become a crutch for many of us seeking answers or getting things done remotely or efficiently.
But at what cost?
Marketing Strategy
"Netflix marketing team releases memes about shows to give off the appearance that everyone is watching said show. Since people have FOMO they watch the shows to understand the memes until everyone eventually does watch it."
Exposed Online Activity
"For many years people were considered crazy for saying the government is spying on everything you do online; then the leaks started..."
Facial Recognition
"I think the trend where you show a picture of yourself now versus 10 years ago was promoted if not invented by Facebook owned social media companies in order to train artificial intelligence to be able to recognize and analyze how faces age."
Was For Encryption
"the truecrypyt organization was bullied/bought off into suddenly ceasing operations to encourage other closed source encryption alternatives with back doors."
Theater Kid
"When I was in high school my friends and I came up with this conspiracy theory between us, that the theater kids are covering up for something because they act like a cult and talk about the theater teacher like he's their personal Jim Jones. Two years after graduating I find out he's been arrested for assaulting his female students, and was only found out because he thought he could trust this freshman new theater kid, and started showing him all the naked pics he's taken with those girls. Kid turned around and reported him the next day. The other theater kids went on social media to defend their god anyway 🤦🏻♀️."
Some storefronts act as a foil for dirty business behind the scenes.
So the next time you wander a street lined with ma and pop stores, you may wonder if it's all for show.
The Art Of The Con
"That the art market is actually a huge money laundering scheme. I don't remember where I read this, but it said that King Pins and criminals will often buy paintings and sculptures for millions of dollars in order to make dirty money transactions legal."
– Ajmk72
Retail Front
"That all of those souvenir shops on prominent shopping streets in London, England are money laundering fronts. You know the ones with a massive floor space selling key rings and knock off hoodies that say Tik Tok or something yet have no customers except young male staff sat about on their phones? How on Earth would a not very busy shop survive in Europe's most expensive retail space other than that? Also factoring in a global pandemic and a massive reduction in international tourists (who they're presumably aimed at) yet they show no signs of shutting down. They also all appear to be owned by the same person and stock the same merchandise."
– Ryohiko
Clean Operation
"A few years ago a huge amount of 'soap shops' started appearing in my city; fancy boutiques which sold luxury bars of soap. The staff were mainly people who didn't speak the language, and they hardly sold any products. A few months later some crime syndicate got busted and poof, all soap shops were gone."
– GuPu99
Exclusive Paprika Chips
"Someone paid off someone so there are no paprika flavor potato chips in Lithuania in all major supermarkets but one. 3 months ago you could find it anywhere and it was like the 3rd or 4th most popular, I think."
People Who Made A Lot Of Money From Something Totally Random | George Takei’s Oh Myyy
Suspicious Pharmacy
"There is a local pharmacy in my town and I have not seen anyone in it my whole life. I've lived here since I was six and I'm 22 now. I think money laundering. But not sure. My own local conspiracy theory. Edit: I tried to call and it's been closed for two months. F'k me. I gotta do more research will report back."
Government and crime appears to go hand-in-hand.
Extraterrestrial Coverups
"I'm torn between the government being completely aware of extraterrestrial contact and that the government is purposely leading people to believe that there's an extraterrestrial coverup in order to cover up advance technology testing."
Healthcare Glitches
"Health Insurance companies make 'mistakes' on purpose to avoid paying claims. This is honestly one I made up myself but I swear this is the truth. I've had bizarre 'glitches' keep huge medical bills from being paid. I also think the rules are impossible to understand on purpose so that it is harder to get them to pay."
Alien Tech
"Area 51 was a conspiracy theory started by the US government to lead The Soviet Union into falsely believing that the US had alien technology during the Cold War."
– Samm092
Faking Death
"Ken Lay from Enron faked his own death so he can escape the US and not serve his time for the fraud he was convicted of.."
"I believe he is alive and well, living off the $300mm he stole from Enron."
The Fleeing Enron Exec
"Speaking of Enron, the fact that Lou Pai got off completely Scot free baffles me."
"He left the company with $250 million just before everything imploded, and there is reason to believe he was part of the reason why it did."
"No idea why he was able to just walk away with no issues, tbh."
Being in the entertainment industry, I have many talented friends who are professionals.
I may know one or two performers who appeared on a specific reality show competition where they were introduced to TV audiences as amateurs with no formal training – when in fact, they were trained in some of the best arts conservatory schools in the country and had professional careers.
Maybe they were "hired" to boost credibility or ratings on the show.
But, it's not my place to blow the proverbial dog whistle if I knew that to be true.