I fear death.
I wake up in cold sweats dreaming about it.
I think about it in my waking hours.
It's an obsession and clearly, I'm not alone.
But there are more preferred ways to exit.
All we can do is hope to be lucky enough to skip the mercilessly awful.
Please just let me go quick and in my sleep.
RedditorCallMehRiverwanted to hear about all the ways none of us what to leave this life.
"What Do You Think Would Be The Worst Death Imaginable?"
My list of the worst deaths is long. My imagination runs amok.
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"For me? Being trapped in a small tube or cave (like the ones you have to wiggle through) and getting stuck to where you can’t move your arms. And all you can do is wait to die. I’m getting chills just thinking about it."
"The more I hear about cavers that get stuck, the more I think that's a crap way to go."
"There’s a great YouTube channel called Ask a Mortician and this was her #1 worse way to die. I can’t remember the exact details or their names, but two well-known divers went into an underwater cave."
"One of them became entangled and died. Years later, his friend dives back down there to try and retrieve his body, the body itself is rotten and his head comes off and the other guy also becomes tangled and dies. Really sad."
A Long Process
"Believed to be in a coma but coherent through the whole 20 year process until they pull the plug."
"Oh man this just reminded me of a story I read on here about a guy who lost the ability to move and speak but was completely conscious. Had to just lay there and be awake but trapped in a useless body. His family thought he was brain dead or something and he couldn’t communicate to them that he was 'all there.' Crazy"
Slow & Steady
"Being slowly impaled by a growing bamboo. It was a form of torture probably used by the japanese during WW2 against Allied prisoners."
"The scariest part is that once you have symptoms, you 100% will die. A 100% mortality rate has to be a psychological torture in itself."
"Not only that, you feel irrational fear. Your brain is literally being eaten apart by the virus and it fu*ks up everything on it. You can't drink water because it hurts you. You feel dizzy, present a fever, excessively salivate, everything hurts and it only gets worse. I'd rather take a bullet and die when the symptoms are still tolerable."
Why can't we all just go engulfed in calm and quiet?
"Some pulpy sci-fi book I read a while back had one of the best deaths of this real piece of crap bad guy. Left to die in a drowning sea lab under the Antarctic ice, he freezes himself in a state of the art suspended animation pod with some kind cold fusion power source that would keep it running for millions of years."
"But he forgot to inject himself with the drug that would put him to sleep. So basically he is in suspended animation at the bottom of the Antarctic ocean while his mind is perfectly awake and conscious in a near unbreakable machine that won't run out of power for millions of years and nobody knows about it."
"As an RN I have always thought that the worst way to die (natural process) is ALS. Lou Gehrig's Disease."
"My mom and grandmother have Huntington's disease, which is essentially ALS, Alzheimer's, and Dementia combined into one really messed up genetic disease. I have a 50% chance of inheriting it and if I hit 40 and there's still no cure I can't promise I'll feel like continuing on with my life because that disease is absolutely freaking miserable."
"The fact your chromosomes can be so destroyed your body basically lost it's genetic code and with it the ability to make any new cells. It's literally a 'dead man walking' and you slowly rot away in agony. Stuff is so unimaginably f**ked up."
"What's also bad about radiation is that it affects your nerves and brain cells last, so you have everything in place to feel all the pain of the rest of your cells being destroyed."
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"I want to believe anything that slowly kills you painfully to be the worst. Such as slowly being crushed or something where the pain is beyond compare and yet not enough to throw you into shock or unconsciousness."
"Alternatively, being rapidly crushed into goo would probably be the least painful. I'm talking one of those massive industrial hammers they use for large steel work. Basically smooshed before the nerve signals make it to the brain."
Now I'll never sleep again without nightmares of death.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
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We can pass by hundreds of people in a day out of the house, and most of them go completely unnoticed or we forget about them almost immediately.
Every once in a while, though, there's someone who just sticks out from the crowd and stays in our memories for years.
Redditor Djimaro asked:
"Who is a stranger you still remember?"
"Old car of mine broke down in the rain. Got it off the side of the road, had no idea what to do."
"Was a poor 18 year old kid and couldn’t fix a car or pay anyone to do it. Seconds later a guy pulls over and says 'what’s the problem?' and tells me to pop the hood. Stood there for ten minutes giving me a basic lesson on my car."
"Got it running a few minutes later (dirty rotor on the distributor). Hands me his card and says 'ever need any more help come see me, advice is free'."
"Turns out he owned an auto repair place specifically for my type of car, and just happened to be driving by."
"My story goes a little differently."
"My old car breaks down in the middle of the road. I get out to push it off to the side of the road. Guy pulls over and asks me for directions while I'm pushing car. Like WTF. At least offer to help get it off the road man."
"And no, I did not know how to get to where he was going, so he drove off and left me to continue pushing my car to the side of the road."
"When I was about 4 years old my parents were driving cross country from California in our little RV to visit relatives in South Dakota and Maine. As we were heading down an off-ramp, my older sister and I saw a tire roll past. It was our RV's back tire."
"It was Sunday morning in the 1970s—decades before cellphones—in the middle of the midwest with nothing near the interstate. As my parents were getting ready to walk to find an emergency call box, a tow truck came down the off-ramp."
"He stopped and said he was headed home, but could tow us. He towed our camper to his house where my sister and I spent the day playing with his 5 kids, my parents drank coffee and talked with his wife while he called around looking for the parts to fix the RV."
"By late afternoon he got us back on the road."
"My memories of their faces are hazy because of the years, but I clearly remember the whole family being really nice people."
"I remember when I was little, and I stepped into a big fire ant hill. It hurt all over and my dad didn't know what to do. Our Mexican neighbor saw from a distance and told us to use lemon/lime juice and pour it all over my body."
"It was hard to understand because he only spoke Spanish and a little bit of English. Once that lemon juice was on me, I felt great. I never saw him again after that though. He was a really kind man."
Back From The Brink
"A man who sat next to me on the plane and was survivor of stage 4 lung cancer. I was 14 and he must’ve been in his 50s. I just remember how thankful and incredibly happy he was that he was going to see his family for the first time in remission"
"Ok damn I’m tearing up. 🥲"
"He was a really friendly guy. I wonder where he is now. This was 11 years ago"
Flowers For A Bad Day
"Years ago I worked in a restaurant with a small restaurant with an open kitchen."
"One night, things were really slow, just one customer eating, and only two of us working. I was hanging out, chatting with the cook. He was having a rough day and was just venting to me about how he was feeling. Our customer (who had been within earshot) pays, leaves, and then comes back about 20 minutes later with flowers. He hands them off to the cook, with a note that says how good the food was and how he hopes things get better for him."
"I just witnessed it go down, but still think about how kind it was."
"I crashed my car with my 4yo in the back seat; nothing big, but my car didn’t run and my son and I were in a bit if a shock. I got out of the car and pulled my baby out, he was scared but unharmed. We stood there by the side of the road and my mind was a complete blank, I was clueless and all I could do was hold my baby and comfort him. Someone came along, a young man, he brought a chair from somewhere, asked me to sit down and told my boy he was being very brave: he got some people to help him push my car out of the street, called a tow truck, brought us water, found a bathroom for us to use, waited with us for the tow truck to arrive, helped them load my car and made sure we were all set to return home. I didn’t get his name, but he was an angel if I ever needed one and I’m an atheist 😉"
Love By The Garbage
"Once a bin man didn't see me and nearly rammed a bin into me but another bin man noticed and swung it around at the last second and asked if I was ok. He was mad tall and had nice eyes and I fell in love with him for a brief second surrounded by the smell of hot garbage"
Just Playing Along
"This wasn’t too long ago but i‘ll never forget this:"
"A friend and I were at a city festival. Being sort of drunk and in a funny mood, we started to pretend that our empty cups were a string phone. Just dudes being dudes and finding it the funniest thing ever."
"Then this approx. 50 year old grim looking guy slowly walks towards us, lifts his bottle to his ear and goes 'DUDES, I WAS LISTENING THE WHOLE TIME'. Still has me chuckling :)"
Rescue On The Tube
"Many years ago I got my arm stuck in the electric door of the tube in a very rare work trip to London. There was an alarm going and the carriage wouldn't move so it obviously detected my arm and I thought that the doors would open again like a lift would, but they didn't. It got tighter and tighter in my arm, I couldn't pull it free and the colleagues I was travelling with where absolutely no help, just dying with laughter at my utter panic. It was peak travel time and the carriage was packed and the only person who helped me part the doors to free my arm was a stranger on crutches as he had one of his legs in plaster. He was my hero that day."
We can't possibly remember every single stranger we meet, but there will always be a few who stick in our minds forever.
As unfortunate as it is, we all know relationships end. This can be for a variety of reasons.
When it comes to romantic relationships, sometimes the reason is as simple as falling out of love with the person you used to be in love with.
This may be because you both changed, and don’t love the people you’ve become.
Or maybe one of you changed, and the compatibility was lost.
It may even be because you realized the person you were with wasn’t who you thought they were.
Whatever the reason, it’s never easy to come to terms with, and it almost always hurts.
Curious about what caused people to fall out love, Redditor Pringlespliitzyy asked:
"What killed your feelings for someone you were madly in love with?"
"that no matter what i did, how much i helped, how much i tried to be there for them, i was a second option and never a priority, never reciprocated"
"the feelings are still there, just slowly withering away as i face reality day by day"
"EDIT: for all who support and are in the same boat, hopefully time will help and i wish you all the best in your endeavours ^^"
That'll Do It
"When i found she was madly in love with my best friend"
"Better off alone. F*ck that noise."
– Deleted User
A Special Kind Of Laziness
"Lack of effort. In all areas, not just the relationship directly. Like refusing to clean the bathrooms even though that was one of "his" chores. It was always "I'll get to it when I get to it.""
"One final "big" moment I was late from work one day and called asking him to start dinner (literally pre-heat the oven and toss the chicken wings in). He argued on the phone and instead of doing that went out to the restaurant nearby for their wing night and ate there. Didn't bring me anything back either."
"At the time I was teaching high school full time, directing a school show, and finishing my Master's thesis. I had no time for his sh*t. Driving to school one morning I was thinking about the dedication page of my thesis and I realized I didn't want to put his name on my thank yous because I realized this relationship wasn't going to last."
Crimes and MegaDemeanors
"She stole my car."
"I once had an ex steal my identity"
When Someone Tells You Who They Are...
"Didn't kill my feelings, but did make me nuts and do/say things out of character because of reactive abuse. I don't lose feelings easily."
"Word of advice - if someone tells you they're a narcissist, believe them. You'll save yourself a lot of wasted time and heartache."
– 8 days ago
"Oh boy. Seconded on the word of advice. They won’t always say it outright. They will talk about how broken they are, have every sob story practiced to a T, and call their parent/parents narcissists. That’s who they learned it from."
"Additional word of advice: If someone’s actions don’t match words, they are the problem, not you, no matter how they try to spin it."
"He tells me a story about his ex and a dog, and how he “took care of that” by driving the dog out to nowhere and leaving him."
"I guess that means it’s time to “take care of ‘him.'"
High, High Horse
"This is gonna sound really weird. He became a classist."
"When we met, he had a decent job, he was making twice my salary. He was very generous, kind, and loving. Never looked down on me for making less than him."
"Over the course of 10 years, he job hopped a couple times. I stayed at the same job and slowly worked my way up the ladder. Still not making close to what he was."
"Then he got a fabulous job that throws money at him constantly. He started making quarterly bonuses equal to my yearly salary! I was happy for him. He worked his @ss off. Basically 13 to 15 hour days for months with no time off."
"The new job cut deeply into our time together. He was always working, taking business trips out of state at a moment's notice. Still, I was happy for him because he really loved the job."
"I moved to a new apartment without roommates. It was small but I was so excited to finally have a place completely to myself. Then he comes to visit and proceeds to sh*t all over my new place."
"Sure, the decor was stuck in the 90s but who cares? It was a safe area with controlled access close to my job and very quiet."
"Immediately he starts talking sh*t about my new neighborhood. "Are you sure it's safe?" "Do people do drugs here? It looks like a place where people do drugs."
"(A friend had lived at this complex and told me how great it was. Affordable, quiet, safe neighborhood, etc)"
"I thought maybe he was just being protective."
"Nope. He proceeded to joke about how small it was. Then he mentioned he was afraid his car would get stolen from the parking lot!!! Dude was driving a 2010 Jeep in 2018, not a freaking Rolls Royce."
"That was the one and only time he ever visited my apartment. We went to his place all the time, a fairly new rental home in an upscale neighborhood."
"Long story short, he's only gotten worse the more his salary increases. I can't handle it anymore! I came from abject poverty. I shouldn't take it personally when he dismisses things that are "not up to his standards". But maybe I'm not up to his standards anymore. I'm seeing him on Tuesday and I intend to break it off. It sucks! We've been together almost 15 years. I just can't be with someone who thinks they are better than everyone else."
Completely Messed Up
"Insulting my body while I was pregnant with his child... specifically called me deformed and how repulsive my belly was"
"I may get some flak for saying this, but I hope you haven't let your child meet that man... Wish you and your child all the best for the future...."
Makes Me Cringe
"After 6.5 years together, house, pet; getting cheated on. Then forgiving him. Then us working on it. Then him saying, “no you’re feeling better, do you think I could talk to her again?” He picked himself and put himself in the bin just like that. Was kind of amazing."
Nothing Worse Than This Kind Of Dad
"Found out he was a dead beat dad. He had 2 kids and never told me about them. He completely refused to pay any child support or be part of their lives. When we first got together, I told him kids were a deal breaker, so he never told me. Fast forward 1 year later, I come over and his baby momma is around, yelling at him."
"My dad went without paying his bills to pick us up every other weekend and drive 360 miles to spend time with us. It was the end for me."
"I was a pizza delivery guy at the time. We had been seeing each other for a few months at that point. It was her birthday and I planned a surprise party. All her friends showed up. We all went out to eat (15 of us) and I paid for everything plus the tip. Night was winding down and I asked her to be my gf. She says “no offense but you deliver pizzas for a living”. Immediately turned off and we never spoke again."
It never hurts any less to fall out of love with someone, but the important thing to remember is, it’s completely okay, and it will get better.
When it comes to selling, some people will use gimmicks to get people interested. Sometimes, these are fairly entertaining, like playing an intense commercial on TV only to be selling something not as intense, such as a camera.
Other times, these gimmicks are actually tricks, using enticing pricing, misleading wording, or even unclear graphics to convince people to buy something they may not even need.
People have, for the most part, wised up when it comes to these gimmicks, but everyone has that one trick they still fall for, and it never gets any less annoying when we do fall victim to them.
Wondering what gimmicks people still fall for, Redditor cCringleberried asked:
"What is a marketing gimmick/misleading fact that people still fall for?"
It Looks So Real!
"Reddit ads that look like posts. Every few months I accidentally click on one."
"I read this and thought “haha, what fool falls for those, lol?!” Only to go and click one on the “post” that was directly below this one in my feed…"
Pay To Save
"Megachurch "pastors". For just a $20 donation your soul can be saved."
"Just 10% of your salary and gates of heaven shall open wide for you and your loved ones"
"Ironic considering that kind of "pay to win" spirituality is why their denominations even exist."
""Essential" here is simply an archaic term for scented, or having essence. It doesn't mean necessary, required, or important. It's all marketing BS."
"I remember the first time I saw someone point this out and I was very confused. Do people actually think essential oils are essential instead of having the essence of?"
"“Low sugar” / “low salt” / “low fat”. It’s misleading as sh*t and people fall for it daily. Perfect example: Tic Tacs, they can be labeled as sugar-free because anything with less than 5 grams of sugar is considered “sugar-free” by the food-feds. Your standard Tic Tac weighs about 1/2 grams and is essentially a nugget of flavored sugar."
"Edited for tic tac weight accuracy also this is in America."
"The funniest version of this is “fat-free” cooking oil. It’s literally ALL fat, they can just say it’s fat-free because the serving size is so small."
Spending Less...Kind Of
"It's kind of amazing how easily you can entice people to buy something by just subtracting a tiny amount of money from the sale price. Like charging $1.95 or even $1.99 for a product instead of a full $2.00, for example."
"The number of customers I've heard say "It's only $9.""
"No, it's marked $9.98. That means it's $10."
"Fun fact: Unless it's changed since I escaped, whether the price ends in .90, .95, .98, etc. at Walmart tells youwhether it's clearance, new, rollback, old stock we'd like to get rid of but isn't being clearenced, etc."
"Less fun fact: I don't remember which is what, and that knowledge doesn't do you any good other than trivia."
"This is a common misconception, it's not about making the price appear smaller, it's about humans subconsciously finding the number 9 more enticing."
"Studies have shown that even if items are priced higher than an identical item, including the number 9 in the price makes them more likely to be purchased than the cheaper label."
"Marketing research is one hell of a rabbit hole to go down and realise just how engineered everything is to appeal subconsciously."
Gotta Grab The Phone!
"Call in the next five minutes and we'll double everything!"
"It does not matter when you call."
Natural Is Not Always Good
"Things made with "all natural" ingredients is pretty much meaningless. It's not a regulated term"
"Arsenic is fairly natural, so are lead and asbestos..."
Bigger Is Better, Right?
"Introducing a medium size option that's only a few cents less than the large to persuade you to get the large."
Does It Really Go Away?
"“Hurry while supplies last!”"
“"Offer ends soon!”"
Vote For Me And I Will...
"Any political campaign ad. They are all lies. Why must all ads be attack ads? How about you tell me why I should vote for you and not why I should vote against the other person?"
"Can you imagine what it would be like if they were thirty second clips of actual policy? A dream."
"I love how you phrased it. Don’t tell me why to vote against the other guy. Tell me why to vote for you."
– Deleted User
Eventually, we’ll wise up to these tricks as well. But then…there will be others.
Do everything once.
That is a mantra for many.
How can you be sure what you like and dislike if you've never tried it?
Just one time can't kill you.
Well... I take that back.
RedditorSnakePlisken54 wanted to chat about the things we must try one time before death.
I waffle on the things I believe I should experience. I'm thinking skydiving, but then I can't breathe.
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"Taking a look through a decent telescope at some of the big impressive targets. Jupiter, Saturn, the Moon, the Seven Sisters, the Orion Nebula, etc. It’s one of those things you don’t realize is so cool until you see it with your own eyes."
You Deserve It
"Being cared for."
"It’s hard to find someone that’s willing to care at all with hook up culture in 2022. Everyone’s down for a casual hook up but no one wants to feel something for each other cause it’s easier to just open up Tinder & find 10 replacements. It’s really sad tbh. I hate being young and having a heart. It’s a depressing combination lol."
"Waking up while it’s still dark and watching the sunrise. Staying up for the peak of a major meteor shower. Going out to dinner alone. Going on a trip alone. The most important one is finding out what makes you the most uncomfortable, and LEANING INTO IT. Challenge it at every given opportunity. You’d be surprised what you learn about yourself."
"Having a lucid dream."
"Lucid dreams don't live up to the hype for me. I learned how to do it, but as soon as I realized I was dreaming, the dream started to fall apart and would lose that magical 'dreamlike' quality."
"I’ve only had one once. I was in my room, and whole room was filled with water, I swam to the window to open it and let the water out to get some air, and it was all water outside. I woke up panting from holding my breath in my sleep I suppose. It was trippy AF but epic lol."
Feeling Smallcalifornia redwoods GIF by Caitlin BurnsGiphy
"Seeing the Redwoods in California, nothing made me feel quite so small as those massive trees."
"Put yourself on a small boat in a very large/deep ocean then go far enough away that you can’t see land anymore. It’s on the only other instance I’ve felt as small."
No thanks, nature is just not for me. To each their own.
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"Being completely alone."
"I can't agree more. I long to have a week of isolation in the woods. In a cabin with no electricity just cold running water."
"When I saw them, it was so breathtaking, I can still remember it vividly today. It was like an artist had taken his water painting brush and dipped it in the sky. It was a giant dome of colors, green and blue and yellow, and the colors ran from the center but also burst from the sides. It just made me feel so small."
"I experienced them twice in my life, both in the same time frame, when I was around 10 so like in the early 2000s. It was in the Ottawa Ontario area. But this first one was just insane. I still have the biggest feeling of awe when I think about them. I hope one day to see them again like this."
feel the cold...
"Snow. I still have never felt it."
"I love living in the American Midwest specifically for our cold winters. On a night with snow freshly falling, the world isn't dead quiet-it's gloriously quiet."
"Wrapped in a feather quilt, the planet sleeps but is very much alive. The cold seeps into your arms but in a good coat and boots your are ensconced in your own warmth, radiating heat against the swirling frost. The world is icy velvet but sparkling with light and the peaceful hush of anticipation and rest."
I See You
"After loosing a loved one, having the most amazing dream of seeing them happy and healthily. Knowing that that memory is the greatest one of all."
"OMG a co-worker died suddenly last year. That night I went to sleep and was so sad. And all the sudden a younger version of him was before me! I told him I was so glad to see him. He smiled and said to tell the rest of our co-workers that he was fine. So comforting! RIP Gary. We all still miss you."
The Search EndsTrue Love Relationships GIF by Nat Geo WildGiphy
"Finding someone that makes saying soulmate not cheesy. Like real true love that is borderline overwhelming. It is a feeling like you found someone you already loved in another lifetime. I wish it for everyone so badly, and I never talk about it with people because I almost feel guilty for what I have."
I want to try several of these experiences. We'll see...