Lord bless our educators. They put up with more than they ever should and they are in no way financially compensated properly. What students will make teachers endure can sometimes almost be sadistic; especially if you're a substitute. Sure kids just think they maybe having innocent fun or they maybe acting out without malicious intent but none of that means our teachers should just roll over and take it.
Redditor u/schnitzel-shyster wanted some to own to what they've witnessed when it comes to behavior towards our educators, asking... Reddit, what's the worst thing a class or student has done to a teacher? Teachers need to be making more money for sure.
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We had a substitute teacher at my elementary school. Very congenial guy, pretty intelligent, could substitute for a homeroom teacher or the art teacher and make the class BETTER than our normal teachers. Details can be blurry after almost 30 years, but I can still remember how well he could draw.
Unfortunately, he also had some sort of motor disorder... I wouldn't be qualified to tell you what it was, but it worked quick. Goes without saying, kids being as cruel as they are, he quickly earned the nickname of Mr. Retardo from my trashy-a** classmates. Maybe I did it once or twice... I don't think I did, I liked him a lot, but I did some mean things from time to time too. Didn't seem to phase him- he still came to work and gave everything he had to us. They would make fun of the way he said "Goood morning.... claaaaaass..." because of the way he slurred his words.
I think I remember hearing that the last time he substituted, he had to leave because he lost control of his bladder and pissed himself. I don't want to think about how mean the kids were that day.
When I was in 4th grade, my last year at this particular school, I remember being at an intramural basketball game and seeing an older woman sit down on the bleachers leading a grown man who was clearly disabled and shuffling like a toddler. It was him. He was unshaved, disheveled, and just staring at the floor ahead of him. My friend Matt (maybe the nicest kid I ever knew, he's a minister now and I trust that he is a very good one,) suggested that we go say hi to him. We went over at halftime (with our coach's permission) and tried to start a conversation with him. The woman (I assume she was his mother) told us that he probably wouldn't talk, but that he was glad to see us. Whatever disorder he was suffering from had taken over. Matt said something about missing his drawing, and the woman started crying.
I don't know how eternity works, like if there's a heaven or reincarnation or anything like that, but I hope that man is free of his suffering. He dedicated his last able years to helping children, and I think he's earned that.
I remember that a colleague of mine had a class, in it was one kid who had already gotten himself in trouble: stealing, police at his house, you name it.
This kid got a hold of her number, called it (not anonymously, stupid for him) and her 5-year old daughter answered. He started saying how he would kill her and het mother, throw her off the stairs, etc. Kid got arrested, expelled and is, as I hear it, doing time for this and a robbery that happened shortly after.
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We had this teacher for Latin & Greek. She's nice, but she can be a bit boring sometimes. She always wears her hair in a really long braid, like, it goes to the bottom of her back. Some girl cut off the braid some years ago and was of course expelled.
Kids are just mean..
A few of us planned a Secret Santa for our class. We invited our teacher to be a part of it too. Being the "mom" of the department, she was very excited.
On the day of the exchange, a friend of mine noticed a gift deliberately kept at the bottom of the stairs. It was anonymously addressed to the teacher. She picked it up and passed it on the teacher.
Later the teacher called her, asking who the gift was from. According to her it wasn't very "Christmassy." It was a book called "How to be a Good Teacher."
She might not have been the best teacher, but that was just mean. The person who did it showed no remorse. Her friends just laughed with her. In fact when she'd first drawn the teacher's name, she'd immediately thought of this book. When the teacher found out later, she was in denial, because this one had always been a "good girl." She blamed another student who'd always given her trouble.
Basically it was a crap show all around and we learned never to do anything nice for our class again.
Not my story but happened to my dad's teacher.
When my dad was in middle school he had a teacher who survived a nazi concentration camp, who I guess due to malnourishment lost his balance-ability (terminology?) and had to either walk super close to a wall so as not to fall.
The kids in the school used to mock him a lot since it looked silly, that is until the teacher broke down and told the class about why he walked like he did.
Maybe not the worst of stories compared, but crappy behaviors nonetheless.
Had this teacher who we all hated but loved in hindsight bc she put up with our crap and we had her for like 2 years in a row. Any who, one week she had some surgery on her ears and she told us she couldn't hear very well at all. So we test the waters and she seriously couldn't hear us if we were loudly whispering.
We start playing the penis game and one kid starts yelling it and other curse words. We tell him to stop and he goes "What?? Dumb boob can't hear any way." Then the teacher goes "I've heard everything you guys have said for the past 20 minutes" but in that really choked up tone like she was fighting back a fountain of tears.
Video killed the radio star...
Idk if a video is floating around of this still. It was a huge deal in my local town. There was this high school that was known for how bad its students were. Drugs, gang fights,etc. Anyways in the videos, theres this substitute teacher trying to calm down this unruly class. The class is ignoring him and mocking him. Suddenly, these teenage girls get on top of their desk and start dancing nasty and super sexual. One goes to the teacher and starts trying to twerk on him. The teacher backs away but the girl keeps going after him. It all ended up on the news, idk what happen to the sub, but I believe the girls got suspended.
Damn the fish!
A teacher our high school was known for crying and his son was in his class 4th period. Every period that day he told a story about how he caught a fish over the weekend. As he's telling the story to the 4th period class his son stands up an yells "NOBODY CARES ABOUT YOUR STUPID FISH STORY" and stomps out of the room. His dad just puts his head down and cries for 5 min.
Female teacher had a number of miscarriage(s).
Student body nicknamed her Ms. Carriage.
I was present when a kid called her this name in a f**k you sort of way. You could see her heart break right then and there. She ran out of the room crying uncontrollably.
Even sadder, she fell a few years later while on school property, hit the back of her head and died.
God bless you Ms. Wendel.
Some kids should be homeschooled!
In Year 7 (age 11), my music teacher, think his name was Mr Rayner or something.
There was a girl in my class who didn't like being told what to do at all, she really was a tearaway, always had been since she was younger, she got pissed off because he sent her out of the room for being rude, so she climbed up on the piano and stamped on it, spat all over the keyboards, took the teachers glasses from his face and stamped on them and pulled his tie really tight around his neck before spitting in his face.
She was moved to another school and the teacher just disappeared, we never saw him again. Maybe not that bad in comparison to others, but I still feel sorry for that guy 14 years later.
Dreams? More like Nightmares!
It was my mom's dream to always be a teacher. But raising three kids she never had the time to go back to school. Fast forward 25 years, my brothers and I are all grown up and moved out so decides she is going to get her teaching degree. She earns her degree in 3 years. I remember the day she called me letting me know she landed a teaching job for a 10th grade english class! She was so excited. School year starts, and the kids see she's an easy target. I don't want to go into what exactly they did. To put it bluntly... they were little animals. About a month into the school year my mom calls me crying. She had to resign. Still breaks my heart today thinking about it. She worked so hard to get that teaching degree. High-school kids can be awful.
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There was a year of high school where I flunked and was pushed into the one of the last classes where all the delinquents were and they made it their mission to see how fast they could chase a teacher out of the class. There was this lady teaching us maths that would always approach every situation with a smile and was patient af with our class. One day she comes in a bit down and silent but carries on with our lesson. One student made it his mission to be a complete butt to her throughout, basically ridiculing her for teaching a subject that was as useless as the person teaching it.
She packed up her things and left with tears in her eyes. These idiots took it as a victory. Later on we found out she lost her daughter over the weekend to leukemia but refused to take some time off since our exams were around the corner and she wanted to prepare us for it. She transferred out of our school shortly after. This incident still messes me up years later and I'm embarrassed at myself for not doing anything to stop it back then.
Say a little prayer...
I had a religion class teacher in my elementary school who was one of the best people i have ever knew. He was so patient and kind and helpful, but kids used that against him, constantly talking and yelling during his class and disrespecting him. I and a few others always tried to give him attention and listen so he doesn't feel like he is doing all that for nothing. After elementary school I've run into him a bunch of times and we always had a nice conversation. Unfortunately he died after slipping and falling on ice and hitting his head on the pavement 2 years ago, leaving a wife and 3 children behind. I was so sad to hear that, and i often get that uneasy feeling that we could and should have appreciated him more...
I've got a pretty tame one in comparison. My class pulled a lot of pranks and such on my grade 5 teacher. In addition to teaching, he was also the vice principal so he was out of the class a lot. He was pretty chill so we could get away with a lot, only got mad at us when we were wandering the library too much and disturbing other classes.
One of the more memorable things we did was put salt instead of sugar in his tea. Around Halloween he let us decorate the classroom, so me and my friends decided to make a gravestone with his name on it. We would constantly steal his nice sharpie markers so we could decorate our pencil kits.
He also once had to confiscate a toy that someone brought in that sang an annoying song. Someone broke into his desk and stole it back one day and played the song multiple times throughout the day until he figured out who it was. And not really a prank, but somehow we once got him to sing Sk8er Boi by Avril Lavigne.
I had these 2 girls in my class in middle school that would interrupt my math teacher with questions like if he "had a wife" or how many "kids he had" during lectures. They were basic questions but it happened every damn day. The poor guy would stop his lectures and answer the questions and continue to lecture until another stupid question.
Chalksticks down please!!
We had a substitute teacher that bounced around from class to class. A nice old guy who would talk a little too much telling stories. Kind of annoying, but hey we weren't learning so it wasn't so bad. He told us a story about how is brother was killed in WWII by the Nazi's. Well, a week or so later in another class he was subbing in, some dumb kid when and drew swastikas all over all the chalkboards. I didn't see the sub much after that.
Tell me that kid was expelled!
I had a wood shop teacher in high school. He was an incredibly nice guy. Laid-back, soft-spoken, really into teaching and I really looked forward to shop. Unfortunately, he was also a veteran who had seen ... things in Vietnam that he couldn't discuss. He wasn't absent often but when he was, it was for two week stretches or more. Supposedly he got special dispensation because of therapy/flashbacks/etc.
One day, a kid I knew through my part-time job, put an acid tab in the teacher's coffee. Sometime later, emergency services were called because the teacher flipped his desk and was screaming. He took the rest of the year off.
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A teacher at my school became increasingly depressed by the amount of work required of her in regards to marking students work and needing to plan lessons not in school time.
She eventually took her own life. Sadly, she was one of the youngest teachers in the school at the time and was actually my favorite because of how she engaged me and my class in regards to lessons.
I'm not saying school drove her to suicide, I guess it was just a contributing factor. She had a lot of other things going on in her life that contributed to it.
This isn't the worst but it sticks out in my mind. I had a math teacher who was just an all around angry dude and like aggressively angry. We had a substitute one day and he told us we better not give the substitute any crap or we would be in trouble, so of course the class idiot gave the sub a hard time. Teacher comes back the next day and looks at the kid and says and i kid you not "you're f**king dead" ... i don't even remember what happened but the teacher and kid left the room.
Had a student murder a teacher. Teacher was his Mom.
Love is crazy. I've finally come to that conclusion. And marriage, you take your life in your hands and just throw caution to the wind in hopes of survival with that step.
When love falls apart, things can get real messy, real fast. And I've always been stunned by people's behavior when love subsides.
More often than not, it's like they become different people. Sometimes people are beset by tragedy and grief and sometimes people smile wide and move on. It's a coin toss.
But my favorite post divorce personality has to be the sudden super villain. Oh honey watch out for them!
Redditor u/hyperyog wanted to hear all the tea from the divorcees out there by asking:
Divorced Redditors, what is the craziest thing you or your former spouse did after divorce?
I once had a friend who burned her ex's house down when he wasn't home. He had started seeing someone almost immediately, so she thought, lemme set their sparks. Yeah, she wasn't well. Whatever happened to just a quick goodbye?
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"She removed the retaining clips for my windshield wipers, but put the wipers back on the arms. First storm after I got my car back from her, driver side wiper flew off the car on Interstate 40. Good times."
"He wrote suicide notes and put them in my kids backpacks for them/me to find. Then he turned off his phone and went to a coworkers house to play crib and have drinks.. all the while knowing I would be freaking out searching for him thinking he was in danger or worse. Thankfully my kids didn't see the notes and didn't know what was going on. This was just one of the many, many crazy things he did. Two years out and he just recently stopped showing up at my work and driving by my house at night."
A Sad End
"Died of a drug overdose. To be fair, her drug addiction was the reason for the divorce, so maybe that isn't too crazy."
"That's so incredibly difficult to have gone through. I unfortunately know the depths of this kind of pain, and while I'm sure the circumstances surrounding it are different, the loss that still happened is a tragedy. My condolences."
"Stalked me for 5 years. Would make fake social media profiles to try to follow me (which I would block endlessly) and would try to find where I worked so she could talk to me. This lady cheated on me with 7 different men 2 months after we were married. I kicked her a** to the curb and made her sign the court papers."
"When we had our day in court she cried in the judges office while I just wanted to get this crap done. After, my dad was with me and he threw 50 dollars at her and told her to "change your freaking last name." Good guy Pops. I haven't seen or heard from her in about 5 years, thank goodness."
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"I had an ex-boyfriend go through my apartment and take back every gift he had given me that he could find. Then he went in my bedside table and took the condoms. And the vibrator he had given me."
See now, when I'm out... I'm out! I don't want to see you, hear from you or know you. I wish you well in life, but please live it far from me. Anyone agree? Clearly not the people here. Let's continue...
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"All I wanted was custody of my son, I gave her everything else except one of our cars. She fought me through 5 hearings, I won. She never came to see him again."
"My ex cheated on me the week my mom died in the hospital. She spent a year and a half trying to get in touch with me. She would call my old work and make fake accounts trying to message me on FB. It was insane. She later sends a certified letter explaining she was sorry that she did what she did and that she aborted our child."
"Wanted me to meet her somewhere so she could apologize face to face. She already married some other guy that she had children with and was still trying to get in touch with me. I never understood her."
"After years of telling me she wanted a child, that she wanted to be a mom, that her life's dream was to be a stay at home mom, she got pregnant with the first guy she slept with while we were getting divorced and put the kid up for adoption even before it was born. This was a long-standing thing with her, she always wanted something (car, house, dog, cat, marriage, etc) and the second she got it she immediately hated it."
"Called me and pretended he had been hit by a car while we were talking. He even tried to voice the crowd that had gathered around his "body." God-awful acting, but pretty funny listening to him try to mimic a woman's voice. Points for trying to be inclusive, I guess."
"I think he was trying to get me to re-live my trauma of being on the phone with a friend who actually HAD been hit by a car while we were talking. Too bad he didn't realize that hearing the real thing is worlds different than hearing a dumba** try to act it out."
"I was sending 600 dollars a month to support my daughter because she's the only thing I give a sh!t about. My ex texts me and tells me I need to be sending 1200 a month because she's broke and can't pay her bills and I should feel guilty about it. She left me for another guy while I was on deployment I told her to go screw herself--call my lawyer."
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"Took the sodas from the fridge as he walked out the door. Dumfounded."
See, I blame Alanis Morissette and her "Jagged Little Pill" album. All I'm going to say is... the secret song. I think she gave people ideas. (I love that song) Y'all, seek therapy if you can't shake people. When it's done, let it be done.
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Celebrity chef Gordon Ramsay is highly regarded for his delicious plates, his ability to run a solid restaurant, and, let's face it, his stage presence.
He's also a foul-mouthed Brit who is all too willing to dismantle people's self-esteems and compare them to livestock animals.
Alas, as watching all reality television goes, we love to see the crashing and burning.
But what if the shoe was on the other foot? What if you were the one being torn into by the sailor of all chefs, Mr. Gordon Ramsay.
Wondering what horrible dishes were lurking in unknown kitchens all over the place, Redditor FalloutSl*t413 asked:
"What's something you made that was 100% delicious but Gordon Ramsay would slap you for anyway?"
Some people talked about those purely functional meals that are just perfect for piling on enough protein and calories to get through the day.
"My mom used to make us 'Volcanoes.' Mashed potatoes topped with ground beef with some ketchup. I still tear it up to this day."
Quick and Easy
"I make weeknight 'enchiladas.' "
"You stick frozen taquitos in a casserole dish and cover them with canned or frozen chili and cheese. Bake them until everything's hot, serve with a dollop of sour cream. They sound disgusting but they taste amazing, and they take like, five minutes to prep."
"I know it looks like, smells like, and probably tastes like cat food but potted meat sandwiches. Look, when you're poor as hell and you can make 3 sandwiches with one little can that cost like 20 cents, it's pretty good."
"While I'm at it, Treet and bologna are pretty great. I have the taste palette of a raccoon and I like it that way."
"When I was younger I would make this thing where it was a patty melded of:"
- "a can of tuna"
- "two eggs
"And I would eat that almost daily, pan-fried, for lunch. Just slap me now and lets get it over with."
Others shared the recipes they make to feel fancy despite being totally trashy.
A Nuanced Process
"I call them 'chicken puffs.' Some par-cooked chicken (white or dark meat, either works) with sauteed serrano peppers and onions and garlic."
"All wrapped in crescent roll dough in little balls (a bit smaller than a baseball), put in a casserole tray filled juuuuust above the top of the little dough balls with cream of roasted chicken soup. Baked to completion/safety."
"Overly indulgent and delicious."
A Famous Side
"I consistently make a box of pastaroni angel hair and herbs as a side with meals I prepare for people. EVERYONE always asks for the recipe LOL please don't tell my secret"
Just a Couple Additions
" 'Fancy Ramen' Ramen made normal. Don't mix seasoning. Drain water. Add Mayo. Then mix in seasoning. And Volia. A lot of people question it. Until they try it."
Others outlined the things they eat that combine some ingredients it may seem disgusting to mix together.
Throw An Egg On There
"Fu** it lasagna, alternating layers of bread and shredded cheese (your choice which, I use cheddar) then crack an egg on top and put it in the microwave. Old depression meal, but it still holds up."
Hard to Wrap Your Head Around
"As a kid I would eat a banana with a cheese slice. Haven't tried it in years but it might hold up" -- Send_it_to_me
"Let's not" -- Sea-Entertainer-4974
"When I was younger I would make toast with peanut butter on it, then add pepperoni. Delicious then but I cringe thinking about trying it today"
The truly horrifying thing? There are so many more recipes out there that would leave Ramsay trembling.
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People love to talk about food. There are blogs, books, television shows, conversations in bars and farmers markets. In all likelihood, there is a recipe swap happening right this second in some deep corner of a suburb somewhere.
But sometimes talk is a lot of hot air. And the topic of food sure isn't immune to that criticism.
You can't get through a day without some telling you what "you gotta try."
The problem is, talking about food is often far more exciting than the food itself.
Redditor anicaodha asked:
"What food is overhyped?"
Many people were angry about garnishes. They hated the way restaurants try to entice people to eat certain menu items by slapping some kitschy ingredient on there.
A Very Expensive Burger
"Anything with gold flakes, absolutely pointless." -- Spend_Total
"ugh, i just remembered throwing up gold flakes from goldschlager, yuck!" -- spaceygracie12
"Aka how to add a crunch to your dish like a douche." -- CakeBot_TheReckoning
Catches the Eye Though
"Any rainbow food, rainbow grilled cheese, rainbow smoothie..."
"Just a cheap money grab."
No Breath On My Meal Please
"Dragon's breath/ nitro puffs or any dessert that contains liquid nitrogen to make it look cool." -- throwjango
"This stuff exists? God, I'm out of the loop." -- -The-Magic-8-Ball
"Truffle oil, usually doesn't contain a single truffle." -- BlckontheMoon
"The 1 thing I love about Truffle oil is I've never seen someone use it on a cooking competition show and not lose." -- igotmadshirts
Some people talked about the big trends that they just never could quite figure out.
That Almighty Nectar
"Remember when people were treating Nutella like it was the second coming of Christ?" -- Grapezard
"I had an Italian friend once invite me to his birthday party in high school. His mom made a Nutella pie and it was one of the greatest desserts I've never had the pleasure of trying again. It was so simple, like a soft flaky dough covered with Nutella."
"I don't want to come out of the blue and ask this kid for his mom's recipe 15 years later so I'll just suffer I suppose." -- JupiterTarts
"Red velvet is literally a red chocolate cake that has nowhere near enough chocolate and to much red food coloring. It literally was invented when done dudes chocolate turned kinda red when he added vinegar to the chocolate cake mix."
"Friends loved the color, but it was finicky to get the red color without changing flavor of cake, so he decided to use red food coloring."
"Fu**ing Avocado Toast.
"Avocado is a buck. Toast is few cents. Avocado Toast is $10+"
And some discussed the things that people insist are fancy and delectable, but are really just run of the mill entirely.
Meat is Meat?
"steak is good, and I'd even say a high quality steak can be very very good. But people act like it's better than busting a nut and that's just not true. It's just meat"
"Lobster. It's good, but poor value given it's almost always the most expensive protein available."
"Plus most places just drown it in butter, which again, fine, but if all you taste is butter, why spend that much?"
Depends on the House
" 'Housemade' ketchup. Give me the damn Heinz and get your banana aoili mess away from me." -- peanutbutterallytime
"I live in Pittsburgh and I have seen multiple restaurants try and fail to make housemade ketchup work. Every single time they go back to Heinz." -- HooBoy401
So if you find yourself tired of hearing people go on and on about something you don't go wild over, know that there are others fuming too.
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It's not easy to always do the right thing.
Which is why most people don't usually do the right thing. Doing the right thing involves a lot of thought, empathy for others, and a self-awareness of your place in the world. You're not making a choice just for yourself, you're more often than not doing it for someone else. This, in itself, presents a difficult hill for most people to climb so, usually, they feel it's easier to make the selfish choice.
Doesn't mean people always do. They can surprise you sometimes.
*The following article contains discussion of suicide/self-harm.
What's the hardest moral decision you've ever had to make?
Even when the choice amounts to something small, it can still matter to someone else.
How Dare You Make Me Morally Astute?!
"This is small potatoes compared to most of the people on this thread but many years ago I was travelling and had very little money. I went to a stall at a market, handed them a 10 dollar bill. Item cost 5 dollars but instead of handing me a five dollar note, the handed me a 50."
"I was walking away from the stall when noticed. My first thought was BONUS. But I had lately been hanging out with a bunch of people who were really into karma. So I stormed back to the stall, slammed the 50 down on the counter and told them off for making me make moral decisions. Lady behind the counter was like "ahhhhhh, thanks"
Didn't Believe The First Time, But Can't Deny Visual Evidence
"I told a co-worker his wife was cheating on him. It ruined our friendship for a good amount of time, until he caught her himself."
"To bad he couldn't just believe you."
Owning Up To The Mistake
"Fessing up to an error I made at work that cost the company 5k. I was a manager and misinterpreted a sales promotion. I almost lost my job, this is the one time that telling the truth actually saved me. It's true what they say that the cover up is usually worse than the crime. Lesson learned.."
Doing something morally correct when it comes to family can be tricky. On one hand, you don't want to ruffle the feathers of the people you're going to be related to for the rest of your life...which is how family works.
On the other hand, do the right thing.
Making The Best Call For Your Children
"Removing the mother of my two sons out of their lives completely as she was unfit and abusive while I was on deployment. They were 3-4 years old then and now they are 17 and 15 with their mother never attempting to come back into their lives which I would prefer at this point."
Because They're Going To Be Sad Later...
"My grandmother died, and I lied to my parents about it."
"My grandparents were 95 and my parents hadn't had a vacation in 30 years. So when she passed away with only 5 days remaining on their vacation, my family decided not to ruin it for them; instead, we'd plan the entire funeral and if my mother wanted to make adjustments when she returned, we'd arrange it for her; there was nothing they could do to get her back."
"Having to decide on the DNR (do not resuscitate) order for my father who had been victim to a massive stroke..."
"I know millions have done it before and millions will again but to me it was devastating....."
"As a health worker, you did the right thing by your father. I've come across families of patients who keep them alive for their own peace of mind while the patient themselves is tired and in alot of pain mentally and physically from the constant treatments and would rather rest from it all. Don't feel bad for your decision."
Never doubt your actions when it comes to protecting children.
"Calling CPS on a student's family after she begged me not to. CPS did an investigation and she was pissed at me for months until the vice principal had a talk with her and explained that I only did it because I care and didn't want her to get hurt."
"That VP is awesome. I sat in his office while he coached me through the call, since it was my first time calling CPS."
Standing Up For Your Friend, Even When No One Else Will
"I was in high school and my best friend was being bullied on the bus. She brought a knife to school and had previously mentioned a list of people. I cried a lot when I went to the principal to turn her in. I knew I was ruining her life but I wanted her to get help. I didn't want anyone to get hurt because we were all just kids. She was expelled and forced into therapy. We had been friends since we were 11."
"My mom listened on the phone line when I was trying to comfort my friend (while absolutely not admitting it was me) and my mom jumped on and told her I'm not allowed to be her friend anymore. I had told my mom I had turned her in and she had no empathy for this girl. Because I had been bullied and stood up for myself and never "did anything like that". My friend was getting cornered on the bus by 4 people whereas I was normally taunted in public and was lucky enough to always have an upperclassmen or school employee around to help me out. I felt guilty about turning her life upside down for many years but would do it again because she did get help."
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/