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Facing rejection when asking somebody out is never pleasant. But there's no denying that some people let you down easier than others.


Middle school and high school kids, for example, seem to have no idea how to deliver bad news gently. Their fragile egos lead them to either clamor awkwardly, be absurdly mean, or make it all twice as bad by laughing openly.

Here's hoping these stories don't remind you of any experiences you had to go through.

Redditor StUPiD_CaKe asked:

"What is the worst possible way to be rejected?"

Many people talked about how painfully casual some people can be. There is something about minimizing how the other person must feel that just feels awful.

Setting the Record Straight

"Preemptive rejection. I've had it happen a couple times. Both times were with women/girls who were part of a circle of friends. I never showed any interest in either, but, somehow, they both felt the need to say, out of the blue, 'I'll never sleep with you.' "

"It's all good - things evened out."

-- Squigglepig52

Times Change

"Not a rejection but when we were in college a girl I had been friends with throughout high-school said 'Ben I used to fancy you a few years back but my standards have gone up since then.' "

"She said that in front of all our other friends, fortunately I found the whole thing hilarious."

-- Benjii_97

I Guess It Wasn't Going That Well

"I went on a first date with a girl. We had a nice dinner and really seemed to be hitting it off. We decided to visit a jazz club after dinner. Some guy started flirting with her when she was on her way to the ladies room. It continued when she was on her way back. Dude then posted up nearby and just kept looking at her and winking at her while she was sitting at the table with me."

"She excused herself and went over and started talking to the guy. I was hopeful that it was a 'What the fu** is your problem, dude?" conversation. But no. Soon they were laughing and joking and exchanging numbers. When I decided to call it a night, she thanked me for dinner and said she was going to hang out a bit longer."

-- DickySchmidt33

Crickets

"I was outright ignored. Just not a single thing said. So I awkwardly never talked to them again because they didn't seem to want to talk to me."

-- PerpetuallyVerdant

Other Redditors recalled times when they were greeted with laughter. Those excruciating few seconds have been nearly impossible to let go of.

At Least He Didn't Have to Be In the Room

"In middle school my friend wrote a letter to his crush asking her to a dance. Dropped it on her desk and then left because he was nervous."

"As we walked outside we watched her through the window reading it, laughing, and then getting a bunch of her friends to come over and they read it together laughing their a**es off."

-- wooztheweb

One Kind Soul

"Middle School, I had my friends, she had hers, I asked her, she said 'No...no...' "

"My friends laugh, her friends laughed. But one of her friend said to my buddies, 'Why you laughing that's messed up.' "

"Thank you kind friend of hers."

-- daehuac

One-Two Punch

"well... I never thought Id share this but.."

"I liked a girl in middleschool. confessed to her before going to a new school in a different state due to moving.
the day i told her she said ew thats gross, then started laughing."

"a few monthes pass and im enjoying my new school and went to visit my grandparents, and i get a call from the same girl who said i was gross. she called and said she was sorry and wanted to give it a shot."

"i said sure and lo and behold she starts laughing and said she cant believe that worked, and started teasing me for believing that would happen or that shed want that."

-- Silevence

Others remembered times that a person looked surprisingly put off by being asked in the first place. They couldn't believe how repulsed a person could be by a pretty innocent interaction.

There's a Better Way

"When the person acts like he/she just saw something disgusting."

"Come on, first you just say 'no.' If they insist, then you can do whatever you want, but let us have the chance to walk away with just a 'no.' "

-- sormatador

A Setup

"Being told to wait until recess for an answer to the 'do you like me' question, waiting, then being told "hell no" on the playground with a gaggle of sixth grade girls behind her."

"I still carry the scar, thirty years later."

-- JaeCryme

Middle School

"I was 12. All my classmates pushed me to confess to my crush, who was standing on the stairs. Everyone was staring at me as I, in my prepubescent anxiety, managed to blurt out 'I love you' while holding my arms up."

"She put on the deepest expression of disgust I've ever seen, and I run away. Fun times"

-- thrashingkaiju

I'd like to think this was the last horrible encounter before a long life of successful love for all of these people. Of course, if we know the real world--and real people--at all, that's almost definitely not true.

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