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The Worst 'Nice Guy' Tantrums Women Have Ever Witnessed From Someone They Dated

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We've all heard the saying by now that "If the guy has to tell you he's nice, he's probably not very nice at all." Unfortunately, many of us can personally attest to this.

And it's almost shocking how many of those stories are contained in the Reddit community.

Recently, Redditor targetgoldengoose opened a whole can of worms when they asked:

"Has anyone ever given a 'nice guy' a chance after they've thrown a tantrum because you didn't let them treat you like a queen? And if you did, how did it work out?"

Too Much Too Fast

"I met a guy online and he seemed really nice. He was a tad pushy about meeting up but I ignored that little feeling. We met up shortly after for a quick date (I think we got coffee) and chatted. It was instant chemistry, he had 2 sons and I have 2 kids, both open to blended families, goal-oriented, smart, and easy conversation."

"We decided to go out again the next night, really nice date and he was a complete gentleman. He mentioned on the date we'd have to get the kids together to see if they like each other. I laughed it off, like, 'Yeah, maybe down the road, we just met,' and continued the date."

"Two days later, during our texting, I casually mentioned I was going to take my kids on a nature walk and I'd text him when I was back."

"He showed up with his kids. Now, I don't have it in me to be mean to children so I played nice and introduced myself (they were around 5 and 7, and very sweet boys) but inside I was creeped the f**k out."

"After we parted ways, I called him and told him that was not cool AT ALL. Of course, he played the victim and hurt until I said I was uncomfortable with what he did... then it was 'I'm just trying to love you and your kids' and 'how can we be together if they don't meet' and 'you should appreciate a man trying with a woman with 2 kids'... as if he didn't have 2 his d**n self."

"He sent angry messages for about a week, but I never would respond, and he went away."

"To clarify, this all happened in a 2-week span. From start to finish."

- lasha890

The Beginning and End of Tinder

"It was my first (and last) tinder date."

"I went to the guy's house and figured it would be safe since he had 2 roommates."

"He'd lived with these roommates for 6 months and when I asked him their names, he couldn't tell me! First red flag."

"I was like Uhm... how? Any sane person would make some attempt to learn their roommates' names. It's not like he was in a basement suite. He shared many common areas with them."

"When I got there, his house was barely furnished. There was a large tv in the living room and no seating whatsoever. He quickly scrambled upstairs to get two child-sized egg chairs and planted them in front of the TV."

"The TV was playing a movie that was mostly porn and super inappropriate for a first date. I figured he was trying to get me horny? It just made me uncomfortable. As did the egg chair I didn't fit in."

"He promptly signaled for me to come to sit on his lap, I figured it might be more comfortable than the chair I was in."

"At one point, he went in for a kiss and I thought what the heck, might as well try to enjoy myself. It was AWFUL. All I could feel were his teeth and his lizard tongue punching my uvula. I actually had to hold back gags."

"After that, I waited about 15 minutes before signaling that I was going to leave, mostly to preserve his feelings."

"So after the date, I messaged him, saying I couldn't see a second date happening. I was as nice as humanly possible."

"He LOST it: 'You're just a w**re!' and 'Didn't want you anyways!' and 'Now you are showing your TRUE colors!'"

"But then he switched to: 'I love you, though!' and 'I was going to bring you to Greece!'"

"He flip-flopped between those two states and called me (no answer) every 3 minutes until I blocked him on everything."

"Then I deleted Tinder."

- kellogg888

Lucky to Have Him

"Oooh, finally my time to... shine? I guess? In high school, I briefly dated a 'nice guy' (complete with an actual fedora in 2000 before they were really a thing; thanks, art school!)."

"I had been in a really horrible, abusive relationship with a guy in his 20s just before, and in fairness, my 'nice guy' then-friend had been instrumental in helping me to realize how f**ked up our vibe was and helping me to leave an objectively horrible situation."

"He then promptly swooped in and started pushing for romantic intimacy between us. He never actually declared feelings (he was never that straightforward about his own thoughts and desires) but just talked about the way I deserved to be treated (like a queen, obvs) and made it clear he felt he was the only one who would give me that."

"Many of my friends were pushing for it, as well. He was nice, after all, and my previous boyfriends had been so objectively awful."

"I felt a lot of obligation and kind of went along on autopilot. There was a lot of negotiation around anything sexual, like, 'I treat you so well, don't you want to?' from him and 'I know you want to treat me like a lady so you'll be okay to take it slow,' from me."

"One of the hardest parts was that he clearly wasn't out to hurt me or to f**k me. The sexual acts between us (we never slept together, but did other things that seemed like a huge deal to teenage me) were only a demonstration, proof that I loved him and that was what he wanted."

"But I didn't, and I really thought that meant there was something wrong with me."

"In the end, I only lasted about a month. He decorated my locker, brought flowers, and left notes for me taped to my desk in each of my classes to 'celebrate' our f**king one-month anniversary. I was mortified."

"My math teacher caught a good look at my face (before I managed to plaster a smile back on) as I opened the note he had left in her class. She asked me to stay back after for what turned out to be one of the most important talks in my life (Mrs. Brown, just the best)."

"I felt panicked, telling her over and over how happy and lucky I was. She kept asking questions until I burst into tears, and it all just came out. I don't really remember what all she said, but I remember her saying, 'It's okay to be alone.' She said it over and over, like Robin Williams going, 'It's not your fault' in 'Good Will Hunting.'"

"And soon enough, I was. I broke up with him, kindly but firmly, and about five different times before he accepted it."

"He cried. He got angry. Absurdly, insanely, his mom called my mom, who dropped the hammer on her in a way I haven't seen before or since."

"I took a ton of s**t at school for 'breaking his heart' and 'ruining his life,' but I felt so free that I didn't really mind. I dated around but didn't have a 'boyfriend' again until I was 21. It was, truly, okay (and important, and necessary) to be alone."

- KiKiCanuck

"I didn't, but my friend did."

"See, This Guy and I had a Mutual Friend. This Guy saw himself as a white knight and would use that term to describe himself. He had a code of honor, and he was always somebody who'd walk the girl home, lend out his jacket, that sort of thing."

"Well, Mutual Friend was asked out by This Guy, and he threw a fit when she turned him down. So, she gave him a chance. At first, she was happy. He pulled out chairs, lent her his jacket, brought her gifts, that kind of thing. But... it became apparent that he was incredibly possessive and things were always on his terms. So, they broke up."

"About six months after This Guy was dumped, he decided he liked me. Telling him I wasn't interested didn't work the first or second time, so the third time I decided to just come out and tell him I was asexual."

"I hadn't done so before because I wasn't sure how he'd take it. He decided that I was lucky he was such a nice guy, because if he wasn't then he'd have taken that as a challenge."

"I haven't hung out with This Guy since then. Just, no."

- Akagigan

"I dated a guy in high school. The relationship was okay, but it was long distance, so we amicably ended it. He was the one that brought it up and I agreed."

"Fast forward 6 months and he randomly messages me. Everything is friendly until I mention that I have a new boyfriend. The conversation did a quick 180 from 'Hi, how are you' to 'You'll never find someone like me' and how could I start dating again so soon."

"I blocked his a** real fast. And he was right, I never did find another guy like him, because I married the new boyfriend and we're still together 18 years later."

- jadeursa

"I've had this situation too. I dated a guy for a few months. From the beginning though, he was just embarrassing."

"We had mutual friends, and he would spend full outings, parties, and weekend trips voicing his disbelief that I would date him. Telling people how lucky he was in a self-deprecating way that was gross, that he has 'won the lotto' and I was 'out of his league,' no matter how many times I asked him to quit it as he did it every single time we were in public."

"It got so bad that his best friend actually snapped and told him in the middle of a self-deprecating rant how embarrassing it was and to look at how uncomfortable he was making me. That started a huge argument about 'but she's a queen, I'm just treating her like one!' When I had the audacity to agree with his best friend, it became a full cry meltdown. In front of everyone. To the point where people left a paid weekend trip early because he made everyone so f**king uncomfortable."

"I broke up with him that weekend, the break up lasted for hours with me begging him to get the f**k out of my house while he cried and cried and cried about how he treats me so well, how could I do this to him. Then it turned to rage."

"I had to block him on everything when I started dating someone months later, a lot of friends blocked him as well when they found out he was stalking me (parking outside my home for hours, etc)."

"I was naive. And dumb. Looking back, I wish I had been aware enough to recognize emotional manipulation. If you're dating someone and they act like you're doing them a favor, don't date that person."

- BrownSugarBear

Gave A Nice Guy A Shot

"A girlfriend told me that when she was still new to dating, she gave a nice guy a shot. They were in different states and after weeks of 'owing him' a sexy picture or video, she agreed to FaceTime him with a wink-wink agreement that things might get steamy."

"The day comes, and this 300-pound, unwashed dude called her (190 pounds, 5'6) 'nice, but bigger than he liked' and suggested she start working out."

"He then pushed for an in-person visit near him so that he could show her the wonders of carnal things."

"She ghosted him shortly after that."

- milkeymikey

Approval Seeker

"He stopped any form of compliments or encouragement and I found myself desperately trying to seek his approval (my own issues, definitely, can't blame him for having them)."

"But he seemed to take pleasure in withholding affection from me and using insults, put-downs, and backhanded compliments to keep me in a cycle of walking on eggshells."

- GilbertTheCrunch

Anything But Nice

"I had a guy who would constantly ask me out or make really awkward advances for like a year-plus."

"I finally hit a pretty low point after coming out of a relationship and agreed to go out on a date. He seemed actually kind of nice and we ended up dating and lived together for a bit."

"It all turned sour though, when he realized that all his 'cute punk girl' bulls**t he had projected on to me wasn't who I am and I wasn't changing to what he wanted me to be, and then all of a sudden he was out with friends constantly and coming home drunk."

"The morning he came home, around 6 AM, telling me he kissed another woman, finally woke me up and I left him."

"He would still send me messages for months after we broke up, not acknowledging my replies saying I have a boyfriend and it's inappropriate to say these things, etc."

"Even now if I unblock him from social media, I'll get a message within a few days saying things like: 'Hey, still beautiful, I see,' or 'Hey cutie/sweetie,' etc., and he gets blocked again, ugh."

- ArcaneTrickstr

"My sister did... She is a hairstylist and one of her clients was very aggressive about asking her out. He repeatedly bought flowers, concert tickets, and other gifts which he brought to her at work, and she said no each time because he seemed a little off."

"He got in a car accident and was really badly injured, and she felt sorry for him, so she went out with him finally. They dated a few months before breaking up, I don't know the exact reason why. But after that, he started stalking her."

"It's been over five years since then and he is still keeping tabs on her. She's reported him to the police multiple times, has a restraining order, and has blocked him on FB/everywhere else, but every few months he finds a way to contact her."

"So if you get weird vibes from someone, don't give them a chance, or you might end up with a lifelong stalker like my sister."

- Isaac_The_Khajiit

"I had a guy message me on Facebook. We went to high school together but I don't recall ever speaking to him."

"Off the bat, he was weird, saying how much he enjoyed talking to me (3 convos in and I was pretty short with him), he was happy he found me, etc."

"I was short but cordial with him. One night I said I was going to clean the kitchen and head to bed. He said if he saw me on, he'd say hi."

"That bugged me. I told him messenger wasn't always accurate on whether you are on or not. He acted like he didn't know what I meant."

"I woke up the next morning to a work FB message (I manage the page). I opened it to respond and he literally immediately messaged me."

"I don't care what people say about ghosting, I ghosted him, no regrets. I have not blocked or unfriended him completely but he can't see my new posts or see when I'm online anymore."

- Crosswired2

Once Was Enough

"Yes, I did once, and I wish I didn't. He wasn't a nice guy after all. He treated me like I was the ugly one, I never felt more s**tty in my whole life than when I was with him. I should have known."

- ynextdoorneighbor

"The tantrums continued throughout the relationship. He was very controlling. If I was out with friends, he would be upset that I was having fun without him."

"He ended up cheating on me and dumping me only to beg me back. He semi-stalked me for a couple of years. He also had an online blog about what I did each day and tried to befriend my exes."

- Lrad5007

But Maybe There's Still Hope

"I was the ‘nice guy’ who got turned down for a second date. I said the same bulls**t that any ‘nice guy’ says when that happens, like all women are the same, say they want nice guys, only date a**holes, etc."

"She said ‘Well, fine, let’s have that second date but doesn’t it make you feel weird to have to convince someone to date you? Don’t you want someone who wants to be with you?’"

"Me: ..."

"Her comment changed absolutely everything about dating for me."

"I took about two years from dating to start working on myself after that. I started doing things that I enjoyed and took up a few hobbies. I cultivated friendships with women not as a sneaky way to try to date them but as real, meaningful relationships."

"Shortly after that, I met my future wife. We’ve been married for 17 years and have a 12-year-old daughter."

- WackyNephews

It's unsettling how many women have found themselves in situations that are rooted in entitlement.

Hopefully more "nice guys" will learn from the last Redditor and look for a relationship founded in genuine feelings instead of desperation.

People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley


"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt


"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."


"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."


Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."


"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip


"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User


– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"


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"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."



"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."


Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."



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"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."


This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.



"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."



"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”



"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"


"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"


The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."


Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."


Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
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Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.


"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.