Dating––or even just playing the field––can be rough. First off, meeting people is hard. And then what do you do when you meet someone, really like them, and they can't seem to take the hint? It happens more often than you think. Flirting can be fun, but it can also be an exhaustive game.
Women shared their tales of frustration after Redditor Residential_Raccoon asked the online community,
"Girls, what's a hint you dropped that was obvious but the guy just didn't get it?"
"It took two more months..."
"He was a regular at my work. I baked him cookies, left my phone number on the wrapping and told him to call me any time to hang out at my house.
It took two more months of sledgehammers before he got it. We've been together 18 years."
Sledgehammers is one good way of putting it! Ouch. But it sounds like it all worked out.
"I'm currently giving him free food, coffee, trying to make him laugh and complimenting him.
Am I doing this right? He looks over at me when he walks past every time. His coworkers also said "he speaks very highly of you" the other night at work."
You might just want to say something instead. Sigh.
"All of them."
"All of them. ALL OF THEM. I finally just came out and told him how I felt. We were married a year and a half later."
Sounds like that was for the best! Just being direct works wonders.
"I kissed a guy..."
"I kissed a guy back in high school. He responded by hugging me for a long time and then continuing to play. Texted me a year later saying he just realized that I was into him and asked if I'd be willing to try again."
"Worked with a guy..."
"Worked with a guy for two years, in a senior position to him. He basically ticks all the boxes of what I'm looking for in a man, and I thought we had developed a certain amount of chemistry. About a month ago, I was moving on to a different job, and I finally worked up the nerve to ask him if he wanted to go to a local brewery together. He accepted, and we had a great time—talked about family, travel, personal philosophy, spirituality, goals and ambitions, laughed a lot. Stayed there until it closed. And then when we were back at our cars, he mentioned maybe we could do it again before I left town.
At this point, I just explicitly told him that this…could have been a date. And he seemed completely bowled over by that idea. I thought inviting him and only him to a food/drink venue and then having a very pleasant and substantive conversation until they closed up shop was a fairly unsubtle hint. He seemed completely taken off guard, though, and said he'd have to think about it a lot. Shrug. I told him to take as much time as you need, and I haven't heard from him since."
"But it worked out."
"My roommate and my crush's roommate were hooking up so I told my crush to sleep in my room. Then offered to share the bed. Then in bed asked for a "goodnight hug" and then I didn't let go. All night.
Took my BFF telling my crush flat out to kiss me.
But it worked out. Married for ages now."
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"Took me moving..."
""I'm not interested in dating."
Took me moving away for him to get it, even then it took a while."
This is the 1980s John Hughes movie plot that I expected.
"My current partner..."
"My current partner of ten years. I invited him to my house to have some New Year's eve drinks while we counted down to midnight. I think I made it to a few minutes before midnight before I gave up waiting and kissed him for the first time."
"Went to the bathroom..."
"Went to the bathroom earlier that night, took off my panties, and later put them down my date's pocket. He just pretended like he didn't notice."
Maybe he wasn't into you? That burns, man.
Moral of the story: Perhaps being direct is the better option here. It will save both parties a lot of time, energy, headaches, and regret. But for those of you for whom it worked out: Congratulations. These stories are hilarious.
Have some stories of your own? Feel free to tell us in the comments below!
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