It's hard enough being pregnant as it is: the frequent appointments, the many expenses, the physical and emotional stress of the experience, and that's barely getting started.
It's unbelievable to think that so many people have been rude to women who are carrying children, but as these stories attest, some people have absolutely no shame!
[Sources listed at the end of the article.]
"In my first trimester, I brought ziplock bags with me wherever I went and was heaving up on buses and subways frequently. You can't imagine the looks people gave me. Or the snide comments. I've had people tell me that I'm obviously an alcoholic, that I need to get my life together, or that I'm a mess.
Once, I managed to get off the train in time and was vomiting into a snow bank, and these college kids walked by me and went, 'Ohhhhhh! WASTED!' And in between heaves I said, 'No, pregnant!' These jerks had the nerve to respond, 'Ohhhhh got herself accidentally knocked up!'
So I held up my hand to show my wedding rings, while still heaving, and said, 'No, married and trying for a baby after a miscarriage, so how about you mind your own [expletive] business?'"
letsgetdissonant
"'Do you know yet whether you're having a boy or a girl? If not, try to remember what position you were in when you conceived, because that determines the gender.'
Thanks random lady in the grocery store. No, its okay, you didn't have to say hi or introduce yourself, or maybe even just avoid asking me a personal question about my pregnancy. That's cool. And by the way, I think you should cite your sources on that so-called testing method!"
Monsterification
"I'm doing my residency for medical school, and I'm also very much pregnant. A few days ago one of my patients was asking me about training and my schedule, and it came up that I won't be able to travel for away rotations, because I'll have a newborn.
She asked if I had a newborn, and I reiterated that I would have a newborn in a week. She insisted she didn't think I was pregnant, just really heavy. She'd been wondering how I was going to be a good doctor if there were simple things I couldn't do, like bending down to the ground to put her shoes on her feet.
Then she grilled me on my lack of wedding band. I haven't been wearing my rings because they don't fit at this point. Because I am nearly 39 weeks pregnant. I am having a baby in a week, but according to her I don't look pregnant. I don't even know where to start with her."
viciouskicks
"Once, I saw a pregnant girl on the subway ask another girl for a seat. The seated girl answered, 'It is not my fault that you decided to get knocked up by a man without a car.'
Ouch."
Andrei_Vlasov
"The one rude comment I got that stuck with me was from my dad.
It was when I called him to tell him I was pregnant. We had known for a few days already and he was the last person I told. His first reaction was, 'Okay?'
Literally. That's all he said was, 'Okay?' Like he didn't understand why I was telling him.
There's a reason he was the last person I told."
spinachleaves
"My husband and I announced that we were pregnant to the family this Easter. At the time I was 12 weeks along. The previous year, we had lost our first pregnancy at 11 weeks, and it was one of the worst experiences of my life.
My husband's grandmother had the nerve to respond, 'Well, it's not as exciting as the first time you were pregnant, but at least you're farther along than the last.'
I cried in the guest room."
mizrodeo
"I lost a lot of weight after my first child was born. About 110 pounds in total. The store manager where I worked would always comment on my weight loss, saying little things like I was, 'wasting away,' etc.
Anyhow, I get pregnant with my second child, and as soon as I started showing: 'Wow, you just keep packing that weight back on, huh? Must be hard. All that work you did to lose weight was for nothing.'
That stung. I worked really hard to get in shape, and here this jerk was getting a lot of joy out of tearing me down. I'm happy to say that I gave him zero notice when I quit that job and declined several of his offers for me to return. He can run his own store for all I care."
RavencrowNeversmiles
"I didn't find out whether I was having a boy or girl ahead of time, and that was apparently shocking for some people.
So many people were flabbergasted that we weren't painting either a pink or blue nursery. I even had someone who was very concerned about what kind of clothes we would bring the baby home from the hospital in. Hopefully my son wasn't too 'emasculated' in his yellow onesie!"
another_sunnyday
"So I got extremely sick with my second kid. I was heaving up uncontrollably, upwards of 30 times per day.
By the eleventh week, I had been hospitalized 9 times for ketones in my urine, dehydration, an electrolyte imbalance, and malnutrition, at which point I got a permanent IV line and home healthcare so that I could mainline large doses of antiemetic medication. I gave up trying to drink liquids, and just stuck to IV hydration.
Everywhere I went, friends, family, and random strangers had the same solution when they heard of my struggles:
'Oh, have you tried crackers and ginger ale?'
Yeah, because I totally went for a permanent IV line without first trying the easiest and least-invasive treatment!
The runner-up for the best of these comments was, 'Oh yeah, my wife had horrible morning sickness, too. She threw up every day for a month. It was horrible.' Please, tell me again how horrible it was to only throw up in the morning. I never got that lucky and I wish I had it that good!"
[deleted]
"When I was on the operating table having a C-section with my oldest, I kept asking, 'Where's my baby? Where's my baby? Why aren't you talking to me?' Because I'd felt them pull him out but hadn't heard him crying yet, and no one would acknowledge me at all.
Then one of the nurses looked down and said, in this horribly snide voice, 'Hmmm. Guess you aren't the star of the show, anymore, huh?'"
[deleted]
"I had people ask me if I knew who the father was.
Yup, he's standing right here... holding my hand.
'Are you sure?'"
celest3alove
"I'm 37 weeks into my pregnancy and very pregnant-looking, and I actually just left a grocery store bawling because of the couple behind me in line. I used a WIC check (government support for pregnant women with a low income) for milk and juice. I also bought a box of cake mix... I wanted a cake, because today is my birthday.
Well they kept rolling their eyes and while I was digging around my purse for my store card, the guy jabbed me with his cart and said, 'Hurry up! Some of us actually work for our food.'
I was so embarrassed, and on top of that, when he hit me I dropped my wallet, so I squatted down to get it and he jabbed me again. I fell onto the hard floor, and just started crying.
The cashier yelled at the guy to get out of his line, and the bagger helped me up.
The store was nice enough to cover my cake mix. This was a horrible experience, but I don't want people to feel sorry for me. I really think that the guy who has sunk so low in life that he attacks a pregnant woman is the one who we should feel sorry for."
mydgen
"The 'was it planned?' question always gets me. I'm married--and a lot of people who have asked me this know I am married.
I've gotten the same question even more often while pregnant with child number two.
'So was this one planned? They are going to be so close together!' Um, yes I can do math too and what does it matter if my baby is planned or not? The baby is happening, either way! Large egg-shaped stomach provides evidence of this!"
TJ4President
"I'm white, and my husband is Vietnamese.
Once, when picking up my prescription prenatals, the clerk recognized that my last name was Vietnamese because she was also Vietnamese. She asked me, 'You know that's a Vietnamese name, right?'
I said, 'Yes... my husband is Vietnamese.'
She said, 'Oh,' with a long pause. Then, 'Aren't you worried the baby will look, you know, weird with your face and his combined?' I was dumbfounded. She not only just insulted my unborn child, she managed to insult my and my husband's appearance too in one blow!"
Justbecause4567
"My only sibling is a younger brother who is sixteen years my junior. When he was still an infant, my entire family went shopping at a grocery store. I was walking beside my stepdad, and my mum had wandered a few feet away to look at something.
All of a sudden, this elderly lady was in front of me, lecturing me on how appalling it was to have a child at my age, how I should be ashamed of myself, and that my stepdad was disgusting. I was stunned. She left before any of us had could pick our jaws up off the ground.
From then on, I refused to stray more than 2 feet from my mother's side anytime we were with my brother, and would avoid holding him in public."
Taisce
"I was married and pregnant at age 24. I was shopping at a local pharmacy when two elderly ladies started to use that 'shocked' sarcastic tone between each other, making sure I could hear them. The topic was 'Oh, what a shame it is for all these children to be having their own children. Teenagers should just learn how to keep out of trouble!' That kind of exchange.
I realized they were talking about me, assuming I was a pregnant teenager. At the time, I had gained enough wait that I was not able to wear my wedding ring.
I chimed in, 'Yes, it's a shame when teenagers don't plan their pregnancies or use birth control when they're not ready to have children. I'm glad I planned my pregnancy successfully, having waited until I was twenty-four and married, with the financial stability to raise a family.'
I then checked out in a very glorious, but awkward silence."
AwkwardBurritoChick
"'It's not really your baby because you're on Medicaid. It's mine because I paid for it with my taxes.' This was my lovely mother's first reaction when I told her I was pregnant.
By the way, I was working and also pay taxes."
catnamedbear
"While pregnant with my firstborn I was working, selling mobile phones. I was serving an older man one day, who looks at my very pregnant belly and tells me, 'your parents must be so disappointed.'
I had to point out that I was married, and owned my own home."
BowlingForWotsits
"It's amazing how many different people will tell you that, once you've reached full term, you should get it on with your partner constantly to induce labor. Parents, in-laws, siblings, store cashiers, bill collectors, church pastors... Ok, I may be over exaggerating a little, but you get the point!
It's funny at first, then it gets to the point where it's just not ok anymore."
simmeringwithrage
"As a lesbian, I got a lot of 'HOW?!' questions.
Some people could not fathom the process of getting pregnant without a dude in the picture. Many of them assumed that I went out and slept with a bunch of guys. Like, come on people, as if I'm married to a lovely woman and the best plan we could come up with was me sleeping with a bunch of random guys to get pregnant.
They're called sperm banks. Those things... where you get sperm... they've been around a long time."
pang0lin
"The way my doctor told me was kind of rude. She came in and said, 'Well, I'm sorry but we have to talk... you're pregnant.' She said it in a tone and manner that was very apologetic.
When I conveyed excitement, she was surprised and said, 'Wow! You want it? Most 27 year-olds come in here not wanting a baby.' It just really took away from the excitement and made me feel like I was too young to be having a baby. I live in Manhattan, so it's a different lifestyle out here. Still... my partner and I wanted a baby!"
MLE71988
It's highly believed that it is important to learn history as a means to improve our future.
What is often overlooked is that what is taught in history class is going to be very different depending on where you went to school.
And this isn't just internationally, even different regions of the United states will likely have very different lessons on American history.
This frequently results in our learning fascinating, heartbreaking and horrifying historical facts which our middle or high school history teachers neglected to teach us.
Redditor Acherontia_atropos91 was curious to learn things people either wished they had learned, or believe they should have learned, in their school history class, leading them to ask:
What isn’t taught in history class but should be?
The Irish Troubles
"The troubles."
"Too many people in America do not understand why a wall straight through Ireland would be a BAD idea."
"I’m referring to the Brexit referendum and possible outcomes."
"If people were wondering why we were talking about walls through Ireland in the first place."- CLCVS.
Forgotten elements of World War II
"What the Japanese did to the Chinese during WW2."
"Unit 731."- CaptainMcBoogerJew.
"Japan gets off easy for their war crimes in WW2."
"They killed an estimated 16mil Chinese civilians and another 8mil soldiers"
"Also, Pol Pot."
"Didn't know who he was until I was like 25."
"Worst dictator all time (in terms of percentage of population he decimated)".
The truth about the American Revolution
"That the American Revolution was part of a wider cold war type of conflict with France."
"The American Revolution was basically the UK's equivalent of the US version of Vietnam."- vinsant7.
The Dark side of Swedish history.
"As a Swede, I'd like to know more of all the horrible sh*t my country has done throughout history."
"It's a damn shame we're trying to hide our history."
"For example, Swedes killed a metric sh*t ton of all Polish people when we were at our strongest."
"That's the kinda sh*t we don't get to learn."- mogwandayy.
Colonization
"Basically what Belgium did to the Congo."
"A lot of people are telling me that they are taught about this actually."
"I'm glad to hear it because I wasn't taught about this in the USA during my public school days (1995-2008)."- EconArch.
The truth about "heroes".
"While teaching about historical Heroes they should also tell students about the unspeakable things some of them did."
"Many famous figures throughout history who are pillars of morality actually did many terrible things." - User Deleted
Intolerance for Mental Illness
"The dark history of mental illness treatments."
"I think it's worth learning about."- 7dayexcerpt.
Slavic Mythology
"Slavic mythology in Slavic countries."
"Don't get me wrong, I love both Greek & Roman mythology and as a person from the Balkans both of those cultures are part of my country's history and had great influence over not only my region but the entirety of the continent & the western world but I wouldn't mind knowing more about Slavic mythology as well."- ShorsShezzarine.
The truth about the CIA
"How the CIA was made and all the shady things they did over the years."- ALargeChip.
There is a lot about the history of our world, not to mention our own country which shouldn't be ignored.
And it's from learning from our mistakes that we really improve our future.
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So apparently we are in the endemic phase of this nonsense.
We have light at the end of the tunnel.
So what now?
Where do we go from here?
Normal seems like an outdated word.
How do we get back to normal though?
Is it even possible?
What are reaching back to?
Life pre-Covid.
Those were the days.
If only we could bring them back.
Redditor hetravelingsong wanted to discuss our new normal in this hopeful "endemic" phase. So they asked:
"What’s something random you miss about pre-COVID times?"
I miss people being sane. Though that maybe election cycle issues not COVID. We'll never know.
I thought I was Alone...
"Being able to grocery shop after 11 pm."
Reading_Rainboner
"Hell yes. I miss the days where the Walmart across the street was open 24 hours."
Small_Tax_9432
let's just go...
"I miss spontaneity... everything now seems to have a barrier of difficulty."
iidosee
"I live very close to Disneyland so I have an annual pass. My friends and I would just go there after work and hang out and grab a bite to eat."
"Now, we have to reserve a day to go. And most of the time, the days are at 'full' capacity so we couldn't even reserve. I don't want to schedule to hang out at Disneyland for a couple hours for July. So yeah, I definitely miss the 'lets go eat at Disneyland tonight?' texts."
mymymissmai
Not til 24-25
"Functioning global supply chains. Ah, the product you want has got microchips in it? 9 month wait."
richard-king
"Minimum, I'd been saying for a while now that I wouldn't expect a true return to normalcy in terms of electronics prices till 2024-2025. Although Crypto crashing through the floor really took some of the pressure off graphics cards which I really appreciate."
statiiic
WTF?!?!
"How affordable everything was!"
Disastrous_Hour_6776
"Yep. Today I was bagging up my things at the grocery store and I heard the cashier say to the lady behind me 'thats $78.12.' She had -- 2 boxes of Kellogg's corn flakes, a carton of 12 eggs, milk, strawberries, raspberries, blue berries, a small cheese cake, English muffins, coffee, and a small whole frozen chicken that could maybe feed 3 people if the meat portioning was small."
SnowyInuk
Sushi
"My favorite sushi place. It was good quality, close by, kid-friendly, and not too expensive."
InannasPocket
All of this... it was a simpler time.
NASTY
"As a retail worker, just how f**king NASTY some people have gotten."
DmitriPetrov*itch
"They applauded you for being an essential worker but won’t vote for policies that’ll raise minimum wage while insisting a wage cap for heavily paid employees."
sketchysketchist
CHANGES your DNA...
"Some of the people closest to me became very bitter and petty over the last 2 years. So many people have the 'crazy eyes' now."
__--__7
"So true and holidays with the family is like who has the biggest tinfoil hat building contest. How many jumps does your brain have to go through to think that the Covid vaccine CHANGES your DNA into the patented DNA so that the government now controls your body."
"So like vaccinated people now have a singular DNA set. I feel like I still have a chunk of my brain just broken off due to that comment alone. I was also told by same family member that I could never donate blood again due to the vaccine. I guess it is so my patented DNA doesn't affect people?? FYI my vaccinated butt just donated today fine and multiple other times after the vaccine."
tyreka13
Homeward Bound
"House prices."
adrianinked
"I'm resigned to never thinking I have a chance on owning property where I live. I'm 30 and just can't imagine it anymore. And I don't want to live anywhere else so, whatever."
Osdab2daf
"That didn’t happen because of the pandemic. That was already happening regardless."
CH11DW
Oh Mickey
"All Day Breakfast at McDonalds."
hutch2522
"It was honestly hell to do, and not very popular. ITs margins aren't anywhere dinner and lunch specials. ON top of that, the temperatures are such that They require its own grill, meaning that if you have 2 grills in shop, you are down 50% of lunch capacity."
Freyas_Follower
Way back when...
"Hanging out with friends. And I mean waaaaaay before Covid. Like 2006 back when I had some friends."
LoocsinatasYT
I miss the old days. Maybe we'll get back there.
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What do you believe?
Is there a GOD in the sky?
Is he guiding us and helping us?
Life is really hard. Why is that is a big entity is up there loving us?
Atheists have taken a lot of heat for what feels like shunning GOD.
What if they've been right all along?
Maybe let's take a listen and see what they really think.
Redditor __Jacob______ wanted to hear from the people who don't really believe all that "God" stuff. They asked:
"Atheists, what do you believe in?"
I'm waffling between G-O-D and nothing. So please give me some education.
911
"We need to look out for each other because help isn't coming."
cknipe
Peace Out
"More than 2 decades ago, a priest was giving a sermon in my church and he said 'our faith requires you to believe without question. Why call it faith if you have to ask questions?' I haven't returned to church. Not until my wedding day but you know what I mean."
asiangontear
Delusion
"When I was young I used to think that after death you would have access to a PC that you could see absolutely anything about your life. Stats, any question you had no matter how obscure, replays of moments, perspectives of others in relation to you. No matter what you wanted to know, if it was relatable to you, you could see it. I know it's silly, but as time goes on I just want it to be real, and I don't think I'd have any issue allowing myself to fall into that delusion."
eggwardpenisglands
I think nothing happens...
"Realistically, I think nothing happens. We literally experience nothing after death. Same thing that we experience before birth. We don't exist, so it's nothing. I think the tenant that we should follow while living is to try to be happy and healthy while minimizing the damage we do to each other."
"What I would LIKE to happen after death is whatever you believe in, exists. I think Christians should get to go to heaven if they truly believe in it, Hindus and Buddhists get reincarnated, and everyone else also gets to experience what they believe they will experience."
"'I would still experience Nothing. Maybe it's one of those things where at the moment of death their brain makes them experience what feels like an infinitely long moment in time where they experience their afterlife. I just think it would be neat for everybody."
Better_Meat_
Shrug
"Best advice I received from a dear senior on their way out. 'You win some, you lose some' shrug. Nothing divine, life is that simple and wonderful, accept it and move on."
Tune_Kindly
It all sounds pretty simple. Why are people so up in arms about Atheists?
Whatever
"I believe in a universe that doesn't care, and people that do."
imCIK
Cool with Empty
"Nothing. [Serious]."
rumblingtummy29
"I feel this way about death. When I was 5, my grandfather died and my cousin simple said, he is dead, that means you are gone forever. Everything ends up dying, even plants and animals. I'm now in my 40's and still have this simplistic view of life and death. People think I'm ambivalent to life and death but it's just what it is."
thepigfish82
puppet-masters...
"I think a lot of religious people struggle with the fact that we are all just swirling units of chaos. There is no grand plan or great orchestrator. I think that’s why people who are prone to religion are also susceptible to things like Q anon and the Cabal and all that. They REALLY want to believe that there is some almighty puppet-master who determines all of humanity’s fate."
Lngtmelrker
“we’re living in a society!”
"Just be a kind and empathetic person not because you’re worried about some cosmic justice, but because it’s the right thing to do. If there is some being that created us there’s no way they actually care about believing in it or adhering to some rules from over 2000 years ago."
"Also a big thing for me is that I find the idea that you need religion or the Bible in order to have morals and ethics pretty dumb. It’s pretty f**king clear that most evangelicals have neither. But my main thing is being a good person simply because, as George Costanza once said we’re living in a society!' If you’re only a good person in order to make it to heaven you probably aren’t actually a good and moral person."
conservative_genius
That's All
"You're born. You live. You die. That's it. After you die you cease to exist, the same as before you were born."
serefina
Believe what you want. We're all here together. So let's focus there.
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The list of what irritates me is endless.
I mean... breathing too loud or dust can set me off.
I'm a bit unstable, yes.
But I'm not alone.
So let's discuss.
Redditor Aburntbagel6 wanted to hear about all the times many of us just couldn't control our disdain. They asked:
"What never fails to piss you off?"
I feel like this article can go on forever. Let's get some highlights.
Wasted Time
"Meetings that could and should have been an email."
Sirena609
Lotto People
"Getting stuck behind people playing the lottery at a corner store."
thenuggetlover
"I also used to work in a gas station and you’re SO right. I f**king hated the lottery people. Especially since my store had a small staff and there was usually only one of us working at a time, which meant that I couldn’t get any of my other work done as long as they were there."
"And you’re right, it’s also pretty sad to watch. I had one lady who used to come in every day and spent hundreds and HUNDREDS of dollars on scratch tickets. One day, she won $200 after spending probably around $600 and she was so excited and saying she can 'finally pay her bills.'"
i-am-your-god-now
Aware...
"No situational awareness. Job, home, shopping, driving. Think for one minute and go about. OBSERVE!!"
Dizzy-Foundation8122
"My mom is one of those people who leave the shopping cart in the middle of the damn aisle and proceed to walk twenty feet away. After correcting her a million times to no effect I just walk away now so people don’t know I’m with her."
OutrageousEvent
Shut Up!
"Endless barking in the middle of the night, I love animals but that sh*t I can't stand."
Acceptable-Lemon2924
"Endless barking in general drives me up a wall. One of my friends dogs was barking almost an entire gaming session the other day. I wanted to reach through the computer and smack him for letting it go on."
bangersnmash13
Kindness
"People being mean to service workers, especially if the workers are very young."'
scaryboilednoodles
All of these things. I hate them all.
Admit It
"People who never accept fault when they mess something up. Like, why blame a million people when it was clearly you who did it???"
Quirky-Area-8978
From Above
"My upstairs neighbors."
lutzow89
"I had terrible neighbors at my previous apartment. It was a one person studio for students, but her boyfriend was clearly living with her illegally and he was loud."
"One night we knocked n the door at 3 AM because of the loud music and an unknown girl opened the door. I just thought they were having a little party. But the next door I saw the girl living there come home with a suitcase after having been away for the weekend... Her BF was cheating on her in her own apartment."
Th3_Accountant
Move Away
"People who sit directly next to me at the airport, movie theater, any other place where you can choose a seat when there is PLENTY of other seating."
BacardiPardy33
"I can’t YES this enough and the ones who can’t park for crap so they park so close you can’t open doors on one side of the car or the ones who park directly behind when you pulled through so the door won’t open to load groceries."
BacardiPardy33
It's Over
"People who try to restart old drama. Like I'm done with you, just leave me alone."
Tired_Potatos
"Yep, half the reason I've basically quit playing one of my favorite online video games. People keep bringing old crap up or sh*tting on on someone who used to be our friend. I got tired of it so I just ejected the game out of me."
CaucasianHumus
AHHHHH!!!
"People walking too slow in front of me with no way to get around them. It’s even worse if it’s a couple or group taking up the whole sidewalk. HAVE SOME SPATIAL AWARENESS FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!"
_-v0x-_
Life in general pisses me off. I'm easy.
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