Everyone has different tolerance levels when it comes to what they are looking for in a significant other. What becomes a deal breaker in one relationship transforms into the glue that binds together the next one.
It's all about looking for that person who looks at your quirks and uniqueness with the wonder you deserve.
On the other side of that discussion, there are some traits women display that other women are quick to point out as run-all-the-way-away-to-the-mountains worthy.
Reddit user wanderingntraveling wanted to know what to keep an eye out for when they asked:
"Women of Reddit, what uncommon red flags in women should men be on the lookout for?"
Someone's personality can be a little toxic, and that's all that it takes to make you want to reevaluate your entire bond with them.
It's All About Me
"If she gets jealous whenever she’s not the sole source of your joy/happiness."- zoeelynn
A Drain To Be Around
"If you walk away feeling depleted after spending time with her"- LikeReallyLike
How Dare You Not Invite Me?
"Laying on a guilt trip if you're going out with your friends and she's not invited."
"Everyone needs time apart to hang out with their people."- scarletantonia27
Schitts Creek Hello GIF by CBCGiphyMaybe it's what she does in the relationship to "keep it going" that rings the alarm bells in your mind. Why enjoy the calm, loving peace around one another when you can do something awful?
Trying To Keep It "Interesting"
"If she's trying to stir up drama just so the relationship can be 'fun'."
"I saw this with a former friend."
"Spicing things up as a couple is all good."
"But if she's stirring up the pot by letting other guys flirt with her just so you can play jealous boyfriend so you can 'rescue her' from a situation she started as if it's some movie or something, STAY AWAY FROM HER."-geligniteandlilies
Setting You Up For Failure
"When she constantly traps you in difficult situations, like asking if she or her friend are prettier, sh*t like that."
"Sometimes they're just looking to stir shit and there's no right answer."
"Just run man."- sweetonionchild
Isn't He The Biggest Dork?
"If she makes fun of your biggest insecurities in front of other people for a laugh"- cerebralpancakes
Ha Ha Lol GIFGiphyAnd sometimes, some people are just that crazy.
Run, dear friend. Run.
You Have To Hit All The Marks, Or Else
"Women who follow 'rules' for dating."
"I have a friend who follows rules from Sex and the City."
"If she’s dating someone, they have to move in together at the 6 month mark, engaged at 1 year, etc., It always ends in disaster and she’s so focused on meeting those goals without paying attention to how her partner feels about any of it."-fuxkyouforever
Not Who You Are, Who They Think You Should Be
"If she’s always trying to change you ."
"The way to talk, walk, eat, dress, etc."
"RUN! nothing will ever be good enough for her, promise you that!!"- nolaswim
Alicia Silverstone Makeover GIF by filmeditorGiphyHa-Ha-Ha-I'm A Little Crazy
"Romanticizing being a 'psycho'."
"It's not cute, it's a massive red flag"-sannachan
Yikes...
"If she says she's on the pill and you never see her take it or any proof of birth control.I used to have a friend that would always say she was on the pill but wasn't... she wanted a baby"- Mundane_Pea4296
gone girl GIFIndividually, fine, together though...
"Some early dating-red-flags experience I had only a few days ago:"
"She has only male-friends."
"She has a good and tough friendship with her ex-boyfriend but says that there are no feelings anymore."
"She talks way too often about her other dates."
"She talks about another guy she's dating and that they meet often but that they both won't have a relationship."
"Don't get me wrong, not all the points are red-flags if they would stand alone."
"But all these points together give me the feeling that the girl is really toxic."- Lumpy-Action1318
Tell me I'm wrong, without telling me I'm wrong.
"Tells you your in the wrong but won't let you admit it."
"'JUST ADMIT YOUR IN THE WRONG.'"
"'I did something wrong and it hurt you I'm sorry I was 100% in the wrong-"
"'NO NEED TO YELL, YOU A**HOLE'"
"May or may not be based on actual argument I had.'"
Just Kidding.
"Treats you like dog shit, calls it sarcasm."- armyryk18
sarcastic sarcasm GIFCommunication is key
"Lack of communication especially boundaries."
'I like being physical and I know I have a responsibility to talk about that but it shouldn't be all on me to figure out what you like and don't like."
"Tell me and guide me as well that way we both get what we want."- blueking13
What are you keeping from me?
"If you do not want to talk about her and your relationship with your friends, family, and coworkers."
"When she demands that you spend no more than 90 mins with your family without her there."- atomicmisfitt
"If she quits taking her medication and doesn’t tell you until 6 months later."- g0thcowboy69420
Lauren Lapkus Shut Up GIF by EarwolfGiphyEveryone needs help every now and then
'You asked for uncommon so I’m gonna say never asking for help."
"Can be a sign of trust and vulnerability issues."
"I’m kind of slow to call this a red flag because in some cases, it is definitely workable but in others it can lead to more complicated issues."
"It depends on her willingness to be collaborative."- ColorPallette
Too Much Too Soon
"If they share naughty pics with you fairly early."
"They’ve been sharing with others and most likely have a preset collection of pics."
Always be ready to protect yourself. Relationships can be worked on, sure, but never feel bad for leaving if you feel like your mental or emotional health are in danger.
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Redditor Inspire3110 wanted to share all the best reasons to not partner up.
"What’s a benefit of being single?"
I'm single. I think I want to mingle. Convince me otherwise.
Just Me
Dave Chappelle Freedom GIFGiphy"You only have to worry about yourself."
clayur
"I just started a casual relationship after about a year and a half of being single. Even though that previous one lasted 4.5 years, having to care about someone even a little bit is taking some adjustment. It was nice being free lol."
irishdude1212
Nobody Cares
"It's my day off. I have a bunch of projects to do around the house, but I'm laying on the couch reading Reddit. No one cares."
satanwon
"So true. I just wanna laze in bed all day on my day off sometimes. Bring in some snacks, watch a movie, read my books, take a nap or two. I don't need someone constantly asking 'are you getting up yet?'"
Zealousideal_End2330
Merry Peace
"Christmas is chill af. None of that 'Ok so we spend the eve at your parent's place, then Christmas day is split between my mom's and my dad's/his new girlfriend's place, and then we visit your brother's family to say hi to the newborn, plus uncle Jeremy invited us to his place since we are there anyway..."
foxmachine
Me Boss
"Not answering to anyone else. I've been single for a long time after my marriage ended. The temptation to just pick up with someone new was strong for the first few years, but once I got used to just being by myself, I came to really enjoy it. I'm free to do what I want, when I want. While I'm open to it, it will take someone very special to change my situation now."
ferox965
Places & Things
Heart Coffee GIF by 100% SoftGiphy"Everything is exactly where I left it."
Countryegg1
"Yeeessss. That little bit of milk you left for your morning coffee. It will be there in the morning."
sunflakie
These are all valid choices. I'm in.
Betrayal
i see you no GIF by Shalita GrantGiphy"Don't have to worry about having your trust betrayed. Don't have anyone to lie to you. You have complete control over how peaceful things are for you (barring things out of control like traffic or construction work in the neighborhood)."
HelixDraxzonyx
Career Moves
"You have the opportunity to focus on your own needs and/or make giant strides in your career progression without having to factor in and address the needs of your companion."
Lyrick_
Control
Janet Jackson Dancing GIF by VevoGiphy"Don't have to worry about having your trust betrayed. Don't have anyone to lie to you. You have complete control over how peaceful things are for you (barring things out of control like traffic or construction work in the neighbourhood)."
HelixDraxzonyx
"I know someone who turned down a top-tier professional sports contract because his girl would break up if he would've accepted it, since she didn't want to move from Europe to America. He killed his hockey-career with that decision, and his girl is almost threatening to leave him if he gets out of shape. Can't believe he's still with her."
mr4ffe
I'm Out
"Don't have to answer to anyone about where you're going."
detective_kiara
"This. When I became single after almost 10 years, for a good few months every time I would walk out the door I would instinctively feel the urge to say where I was going. Weirdest feeling ever, kind of like the Altoids thing Jim did with Dwight."
smorsmores
"Unless you have a pet. I tell my cat where I'm going every time I leave the house, even if it's just outside to smoke a bowl. If I don't, she screams like a banshee until I open the door... then I get a low solid meow, like she's saying 'Really?'"
AnAngryJawa
Keep you warm...
"Getting a good night's sleep. I got so tired of being awakened by someone groping me or poking me in the lower back. The whining about 'why don't you sleep naked' coupled with the 'you don't need blankets - I'll keep you warm.' I can't spend 8 hours every night f**king. I need sleep."
VapoursAndSpleen
EAT IT!!
Tina Fey Nbc GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy"You can take a complete cake home and eat all of it."
Both-Ad-3763
Who knew being single could be this fun?! Plenty of people apparently.
Curious to hear some of the more negative moviegoing experiences, Redditor Outrageous-Abies8391 asked:
"What is the most disturbing movie you've ever come across ?"
The atrocities of war are dramatically represented in some of the most powerful films.
WWI Soldier
"Johnny Got His Gun, saw it in early ‘70’s, still can’t forget it."
– vousoir
Depiction Of Nuclear Winter
"Threads (1984) is by far the scariest movie I've ever seen. It shows the events of a nuclear war breaking out, and the chilling aftermath. There's no hope and no happy ending, truly terrifying stuff."
– LuxGang
A Devastating Letter
"The answer to this and all questions like it is always 'dear zachery…' I cant unsee that rage from the grandfather. Its maybe 30secs and it's stayed with me longer than anything I've ever seen in a movie. Want real proof that a good, loving person WISHES he had murdered someone in calculating, cold blood? Got your movie for you."
– Goldbera1
Parents' Worst Nightmare
"Netflix documentary Abducted in Plain Sight. Movie synopsis: WTF, really!?"
– Upper-Job5130
Real-life horrors make for even greater disturbing cinematic experiences.
Trapped In Delusion
"Requiem for a Dream. It's one of those you can really only watch once."
– MichaelScottssmug
They're called horror movies for a reason.
Torture
"The first Hostel movie really got to me. Not sure if I was just unprepared or what, but that movie disturbed me more than I expected."
– TimeclockTurtle
It's Banned In Many Countries
A Serbian Film
"Came to say this. There were scenes that I wish I could scrub from my memory."
– evmt95
"I own this one and honestly it's just sort of shock value for the most part. Ironically because the cinematography is relatively professional it makes some of the scenes somewhat goofy for their disturbing content."
"The actual content itself is pretty f'ked but somehow because it's well made I didn't really feel as disturbed as I should have. Films like Cannibal Holocaust, Irreversible, Antichrist, and although I haven't seen them Audition and Martyrs, those films make you feel sickly and carry a heavy weight of knowledge with viewing them."
"A Serbian film is the transformers of the disturbing film genre, there's alot that goes on but it's mostly shock value and well put together production value. I've seen A Serbian film 4 different times."
– aFan0Film
Vomit Gore
Slaughtered Vomit Dolls
'If you need a movie to have some form of a linear story, don’t bother with this one. If you are tired of seeing women constantly berated and insulted and shown as weak and scared, don’t bother with this one. And if vomit isn’t your thing, yeah, definitely don’t bother with this one.' - Horrornews.net
"Yeah, might give it a pass."
– Painting_Agency
Mad scientists coming up with the most twisted experiments is the premise in these revolting flicks.
Enough Said
"The human centipede."
– nuttynutz00-D
"I have not seen that, so can't really answer. The worst part of Human Centipede for me was the bodily claustrophobia and psychological horror, not the visible gore. There are only two films I have ever seen that I wanted to walk out of: that and Lars von Trier's Antichrist."
– ipakookapi
Obsession With A Walrus
"Tusk."
– ChuyImposter
"Agreed ! f'king made me feel so uncomfortable soo weird!"
– snakeysauce
The movies that disturbed me most were, as mentioned above, Tusk and Human Centipede.
I could have stopped watching them as soon as I got sick to my stomach. But as a completionist, I voluntarily subjected to torturing myself.
If you are faint of heart, I strongly suggest you avoid these films. You've been warned.
Redditor SpaceHubYT was eager to hear the most terrifying things people woke up to in the middle of the night, leading them to ask:
"What’s the scariest thing you’ve woken up to in the middle of the night?"
Keeping an extra close eye...hopefully?
"My grandmother just standing there in the dark by my bed, quietly wringing her hands and staring at me."- fryinpaskettimobster
Terrifying no matter when
"My mom saying I needed to get up and go with the cop."- abletable342
An experience no one deserves
"My mom screaming up the stairs 'get out of the house now!!!' and my brother swinging my door open to get us out."
"The house was on fire."- stoneytopaz
One hundred little fingers...
"Centipede crawling on my face."
"I still shiver thinking about when that happened."- Slight_Librarian_399
Bug Insect GIF by AquariumMeGiphyA lesson well learned?
"A cop walking into my Airbnb at 4am in Tennessee."
"Somehow he had the code and just.. walked in."
"I was sleeping on the couch right near the front door."
"He yelled at me and asked my name and what I was doing there."
"I was dazed and said 'ugh, I’m sleeping here man' and he’s like 'we were called about a B n E at this address'." - Reddit
"And I said 'I dunno man' and he was like 'well, sorry to disturb you'."
"And he walked out."
"Found out later that the call came In from a different address and the cop still had the door code from a previous call that was put in at this building before."
"This is where I learned if someone breaks in to where I’m sleeping In the middle of the night, I ain’t gonna do sh*t."
"My reaction time is about 5 minutes."- ReferHvacGuy
Sharing a midnight snack?
"Cat dropping a giant a** spider on my chest, then giant spider disappearing in my panic."- lady_of_the_lac
attack spider GIFGiphyOne can only imagine...
"My wife sitting straight up out of bed and screaming while pointing down the hallway."
"She talks in her sleep, usually it’s hilarious."
"That time it was not."- BrotherOfTheOrder
Nature's alarm clock
"8.8 Richter scale earthquake at 3am."- sparkdaniel
There's a first time for literally everything.
"Lived in an old building in NYC."
"Had a neighbor across the hall that would seldom have night terrors."
"1st time it happened, it was about 4am and I was pretty sure she was getting murdered from the piercing screaming and loud thumps from her flailing around and the sound of glass breaking."
"I grabbed a meat cleaver and went into the hallway in my underwear to see that everyone else in the building was also awake and poking their heads out into the hallway wondering what to do."
"Me and 2 other neighbors eventually knocked on her door and when she answered she looked pale like a ghost and was dripping in sweat."
"She didn't remember any of it, apologized and explained to us her condition."
"That was some blood curdling sh*t."
"She was very apologetic about it and bought us all six packs of beer for freaking us out."
"Me and the two neighbors that decided to take action were all 100% sure that she was getting murdered at that moment."
"I lived there for 2 years and I think she only had 2 episodes during that time."- azninvasion2000
Be it over nothing, or something incredibly serious, being woken up at all hours of the morning is never a pleasant experience.
As the place everyone should always feel safest of all, is in the comfort of their own bed.
