You don't have to be a man to understand a man's problems. Odds are, his wife is ready to tell you exactly what's wrong with him. Hey-oh!
...Speaking truthfully, being a man does come with its own share of societal problems, but the public acceptance of being allowed to talk about them may not exist. In that regard, perhaps a woman speaking up for a man is the way to go?
Reddit user, u/-ThorMan-, wanted to know what's the worst of the worst when they asked:
Women of reddit, what do you think would be the worst part of being a man?
Taking The First Leap
Having to build up the courage to ask a girl out on a date. I got asked out by some guys I wasn't attracted to at first glance, but I still went because I know how much it takes to approach a stranger.
Stepping Up
GiphyI can increase my attractiveness if I need a confidence boost by applying some light makeup and wearing flattering clothes.
It doesn't seem that easy for dudes
Everyone Thinks The Worst Of You
you can't be near parks or schools without someone thinking you might be paedophile. if you walk anywhere alone after dark women are scared of you thinking you might be sexual predator. generally people being scared and thinking the worst while you might actually be the nicest guy who would help anyone and couldn't hurt a fly.
There's Only That One Sweet Spot
Height. If you're a short woman you get called 'cute' and if you're tall a 'model'. So win win. I've seen so many cases where there would be a smart/handsome looking guy that would be below 5'11 (180cm) get rejected for an average looking stupid guy that's 6ft+.
"Know what I call guys shorter than 5'11"? Friends." is a super common tinder bio.
Is It Okay To Assume Either? Or Should You Just Assume Neither?
Figuring out if a women is actually into you or is just being friendly.
It's easy. Assume no woman likes you, because that's usually the case.
Where Is It Okay To Cry?
Not being able to show emotion in the same way
My dad beat my a-- whenever I cried, so I think it subconsciously deterred me from crying. Then two decades later, I cried during an episode of Futurama and figured I was cured.
Are You Even Allowed To Have Problems?
The pressure of being perfect. You have to look good, smell good, be good, be great at your job, be the rock, be the glue that holds sh-t together. & you aren't even able to have a break down and cry when it gets too much.
EDIT - I truly understand that women too can feel this way. However this post is asking about MEN. Men do feel this way and they also have every right too.
I would also struggle as a man that it seems when a man has a issue people jump to 'this doesn't just apply to men, this applies to women too' .. that must be truly frustrating to have your problems downplayed and made out to not really be a problem because everyone can feel that way.
This Might Be The Stiffest Thing To Deal With As A Teenager
Unexpected boners
It would be the hardest part, yes.
No One's Ever There
GiphyNot receiving emotional support.
Edit: I'm sorry you guys are all dealing with this. It sucks. For the ladies also dealing with this, I'm sorry it sucks.
Everyone, don't be afraid to reach out for support. If someone slaps you down for it they are not the right person to be around.
If all else fails see a therapist. You go to doctors to take care of your body. Go take care of your mind too. You don't have to be depressed or have a mental health issue. Sometimes it's nice to just speak to someone without judgement and no one has to know about the visits but you.
Much love.
No Defense Given
Men cannot defend themselves from women without it exploding in their faces.
it's ridiculous, you have a right to defend yourself, gender nor age should be a factor on your wellbeing.
- People Break Down The Worst Part About Being Their Age - George Takei ›
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- Guys Break Down The Worst Parts About Being A Man - George Takei ›
- Things More Men Should Be Allowed To Do Without Any Judgement From Society - George Takei ›
Redditor Tight_Anywhere6794 wanted to hear about the things parents have said in the past that haunts everyone still, so they asked:
"What insult have your parents said, that is stuck in your head as an adult?"
I've been blessed with the mother I had.
So I can't speak from experience.
But I've heard parenting horror stories.
Bad Expressions
Sad Kid GIF by 1tvGiphy“'You’re so annoying.' Said to me as a young kid while I was expressing enthusiasm over some new interest. Later my father complains I never tell him anything."
foppishyyy
Mean Spirited
"What did I do to deserve a fat kid?"
Silosolo
"My parents also mocked me for being fat, and outright physically abused me as in forcefully grabbed my fat child manboobs or slapped me while calling me fat-related names."
"A lot of people at school did it too, so obviously I have a lot of self-image issues like I never let anyone see me without clothes these days. The worst part is that I legitimately internalized a lot of hate, I could never care for myself enough to actually get fit."
FoeWithBenefits
What's My Name?
"My parents divorced when I was young and they hate each other. My mom would call me my dad's name when she was really upset. What makes it worse is that I confided in her that I never wanted to be like my dad. She used that ammunition against me."
Discarded_Pariah
"That's awful. You are your own person. You aren't your father."
blksmnr
Unfunny
"'You can't even laugh right.'"
"My mom in a weird moment I thought we were bonding. There's something inherently extra evil when someone tells you your joy is wrong. Told her I'm engaged and hoped she could at least be happy I'm happy and she ghosted everyone to the point the family thought died. She's a mess."
BlindEditor
"I'll never understand parents that are so hard on their own children that they can't even be happy for them. So their sole function is to bring misery to their offspring?"
macabre_irony
Evil
Oh My God Wow GIF by The Roku ChannelGiphy"My little brother was drowning, I tried to save him but also almost drowned, we got rescued by a neighbor. My mom told me that they should've left me in the pond. I haven't spoken to her in many years."
Ilookbetterthanyou
Good Lord. How do people like this exist?
Tragic.
HIM
"She told me I was acting just like my father when I would get upset. I would just get kinda pissy and sulk. He would go on rampages and scream and hit and throw things. He pushed her down the stairs once. I would never lay a finger on my current partner. The worst part is I look just like him. I was wondering if my mother always expected me to turn into my dad. I prove her wrong every day."
rot_grl
10 Years Old
"When I was ~10 years old, my mum once said 'If I could go back in time and make sure I never gave birth to you, I would in a heartbeat.'"
"Never forgot it. Talked to her about it a couple of times years later and her responses ranged from 'That never happened' to 'Oh yeah and I suppose I’m just the worst mother ever' and finally 'Yeah but I didn’t mean it, you know that.'"
"Messed me up tho tbh. Another one was '[older sibling] was the only child we actually planned for, the rest of you were accidents.' I don’t think it was intended as an insult, but being told your entire existence was an accident as a child kinda stung."
SpiderP*bes
Failures
“'You’re the biggest mistake I ever made.' - my mother when I was 5. I’m 32 now and it’s been the undercurrent for our relationship ever since, constantly wondering if anything I’ve achieved or struggled for is something she’s genuinely proud of or just relieved to say I wasn’t a total failure on her part."
thefaehost
Generational Issues
"Not a parent but a grandparent, I was adopted when I was 12 years old (my parents were both drug addicts so I was in and out of foster care most of my life) my adopted mother's father turned to me on Christmas Eve when no one else was around and said 'My daughter should have never adopted you, she should have let you stay on the streets where you belong'… he got nicer as he got older and sicker but I couldn’t find it in myself to forget what he said even almost 10 years later. Went to the funeral for moral support but was indifferent about his passing."
samweather227
Just Me
Sad Kids GIF by Cian DucrotGiphy"I was an only child and lonely. When I asked for a sibling, the response was 'If you want to know why we don't have more kids, go look in the mirror.'"
Responsible_Fly_3565
Some people should never have children.
Awful.
"What is something you no longer have patience for?"
Off The Clock Means OFF THE CLOCK!
"Working outside of work hours."
"I used to go above and beyond, now I only put in what is required."
"Life is too short to live only to work."- Chesterfieldcat
"The working world."
"My life doesn’t revolve around working here and it never will."
"It will never be a part of my identity."
"I come in, do the job, make money, go home."
"Don’t expect me to come to all the work happy hours so I can pretend how much I love working here."- nuclearsalt
Some Things Just Don't Get A Free Pass
"Sh*tty people getting a pass 'because they're family'."- cgulash
angry homer simpson GIFGiphySay What You Mean, Not What You Feel
"Having to guess what people REALLY mean by something they said."
"I take everything people say at face value now and don't replay conversations in my head to find out the real meaning anymore."
"Be passive-aggressive if you want to but talk to me like an adult if you really have a problem."- WateredDownSalt
EYES ON THE ROAD!
"People who text and drive."
"You're driving a giant piece of metal propelled by explosive liquid."
"Pay attention."- MasterfulNothasie
The Only Life That Should Concern You Is Your Own
"People and groups of people that only talk about other people."- Turf98
"People who can’t mind their fucking business and are always worried about what other people are doing."
"If it doesn’t effect you, f*ck off."
"It’s literally free."- wackwackwackjpg
GIF by WWEGiphySome People Didn't Mind Social Distancing
"People invading my personal space."- Mighty-Foreskin
Influence Can Be Dangerous
"Anything that has “influencer” in it."- chemistcarpenter
Indoor Voices People...
"Streamers screaming, losing their sh*t, breaking things, and having tantrums."
"I used to think this was so funny now I just can't stand it; I can't even watch a streamer if I notice they're not using their normal talking voice." - Reddit
Fail Oh No GIF by G2 EsportsGiphyTaking Responsibility Is A Sign Of Maturity
"People who constantly blame others for the situation they are in."- SuvenPan
Time Is Precious And Shouldn't Be Wasted
"Waiting on people who are constantly late to plans."
"I will wait 15 minutes then excuse myself."- Dabbles-In-Irony
There's Multi-Tasking, And Then There's Just Being Rude...
"People being on their phone while in a conversation with you."
"Seriously."
"Put your phone away!"- rosieblinkstime
Phone GIF by Poehlmann FitnessGiphyIt Takes So Much More Effort To Be Nasty...
"Bad manners, unkindness and general rudeness."
"It costs nothing to be a nice person and from someone who works in a customer-facing industry, attitudes, sadly, appear to be getting worse."
"It really makes me cross."- Bellamiles85
At Least They're Being Transparent
"Medicine commercials with worse side-effects than the thing being cured."- mrbbrj
Wasting our time and thoughts about things that we know can only bring us down is simply no way to get through life.
It's essential to live our lives by taking the present moment for what it is: a present.