Men, come on.
It's not that hard. If you happen to meet a woman you like and want her to like you in return just be genuine, don't over-exaggerate your accomplishments, and be interested in what they say. You'll feel it if there's a connection and, if there's not, that's fine. Move on. You'll both be better for it with no awkward forced situations where you feel like you need to impress her because if you act like any of the guys being describe below, odds are you're not going to find anyone.
Reddit user, u/xBreadBoi, wanted to hear:
Not Endearing To Me
Saying nasty sh-t about other women to me.
I have a kind of "bro" mentality, which apparently makes men think I share their misogyny. I do not.
An Expert In All FieldsGiphy
Pretending they know everything.
No one knows everything.
It's Already Done...Tomorrow...
Sometimes I find that men tend to say they'll do something then not do that thing and continue pretending they have for example "hey are you going to plan that date?" "oh yeah it's already done" come the day of the date and nothing has been planned and they try to turn it on you saying we'll why didn't you plan it?
This obviously doesn't apply to all men but I've noticed that a lot do this if they are still very close to their mum and often still have everything done by their mum
It Can Mean A Lot Of Different Things
"You make me want to be a better man" - spoken as a subtle allusion to a shady past by a guy who later blamed me when he didn't improve himself.
What, You Want A Cookie With It Too?
Telling me how much they like to do housework and keep a clean home.
I found a message from my ex the other day that talked about how he couldn't live in a dirty home, and needed to make sure things like dishes were done. Housework was one of the major things (among some others) that broke apart our relationship because he would not meet me half way.
Since then, I've noticed how many men tell me they do housework and want some kind of medal (in the form of sex) for it. When in reality, they do housework because they live alone and once they are in a relationship it's all down to the woman.
Playing The Teams
They will speak about other men in a demeaning way, usually in agreement to whatever you're saying. Think "Oh, yes, men are terrible. Women are definitely smarter. I love women. Men suck."
Can get very specific. The goal is to show they're on YOUR team, and they're BETTER than the general population, and you can trust them.
They are, usually, not better.
I'm So Hot
Talking about how many other girls they've had things with, or slept with.
I find that the more a guy does this the more insecure he actually tends to be about his own attractiveness. And usually this is combined with a sleazy personality.
Intelligence Falling Into Annoyance
Having an opinion on everything you do. "Oh you study spider reproductive organs? Do you know they're called Arachnids?!" Um, yes, I know. That makes you sound smart for the first five seconds, then it becomes obnoxious.
Chivalry Is Dead
Walking you home or driving you home.... that's their moment to pounce and try to get in your panties. I just went to a wedding and my hotel and the grooms were 20 feet away from each other. One of the groomsman kept trying to walk me back and be "gentlemanly". When really he just wanted to get me to outside my hotel room so he could try to get in it. I had to keep correcting his hands during a dance at the reception...... but no bro. I'll walk my ass home on the well lit street.....with people everywhere...... 20 feet away. I got this.
Those Who Flaunt It, Lack It
Any time they try to claim any redeeming quality "I'm not like other guys" "I'm an intellectual" "I'm ambitious and etc etc"
Like, if you have to state it about yourself, chances are you ain't. Most of those kinds of qualities are quite obvious and people who actually have them know they don't need to flaunt it.
This is the worst. There is a guy I work with who constantly says "I'm an ally to women" but also calls his wife psycho and "the ball and chain" and fat.
But you know—- he's an ally tho.
One Doesn't Lead To Another
Make their bed and go on about how making their bed in the morning means they're on their way to become a CEO because they've reached enlightenment by making their bed every day.
Setting The Bar Way Too High
Telling you all the "amazing" things they're going to do for you in an effort to get you excited for how "amazing they're going to be" in the future, when they barely know you.
This can lead to if you do end up in a relationship where they always promise they'll have something spectacular for your birthday or promise to buy you that thing you always wanted, but never actually have to pull thru on delivering it.
Some Verbal Gymnastics
"I respect your boundaries."
But ends up playing with the edges of the boundaries and using loopholes in verbal requests.
Ugh, the f-cking "lawyers." How I hate this. You make a simple everyday agreement, and when it's time for them to do their part you get a bunch of "well you never specified X…" bullsh-t, when X was obvious/implied. Sometimes there's a hint of a smirk while they do it, like they're so pleased they outsmarted you with their superior loopholing skillz.
Like, no, you're just an a--hole. I see what you're doing and it's not clever, it's a--holery. But I'm going to walk away from this because life is just too f-cking short. Enjoy the "victory."
Like, Dude, Just Be Yourself
I don't know what this behavior is called, but some guys basically change their entire personalities when they're around a girl they fancy in order to appear as "perfect" as possible. This is a huge red flag for me, and so easy for me to spot since I've seen the same behavior so many times in male acquaintances I know. They're always the same types of guys who are super sexist/racist whenever their girlfriends ain't around.
No Context Given
Telling me how much they "respect women" right off the back with absolutely no context. It's just a giant red flag.
Or, telling me how much of a feminist they are after yelling at me because I'm somehow responsible for someone else not wanting to sleep with them.
Why Are You Trying To One-Up Me?
Oh I love this question where do I start...ok this is my favorite one that I get on dating apps.
I work in finance in a predominantly male field. I have one dating app I pay for that requires you to put a career in your bio. I have mine listed as what type of financial field I work in. I'll have guys message me some extremely difficult question about the stock market with abbreviations that I don't even know and ask me to define it or how I feel about something wildly out of my range of expertise. It's clearly a way to make it appear that they know more than me and make me feel like a less superior idiot for not knowing the answer.
I unmatch those guys immediately.
Making That Generosity Mileage Last
Talk the talk without walking the walk. For example, claiming he's actively participating in making lives better, but in actuality he signed an online petition or donated the price of his daily coffee once five years ago to support the whales and has been riding the claim ever since.
I find that some men genuinely believe they're doing that. I had one junior male colleague who insisted on showing me how to add the Chrome extension to block ads so I can watch YouTube in peace. I declined, saying, i already know that and I only listen to music on YouTube in the office now and then.
Months later, he looked me in the eye and talked about how he taught me technology. He genuinely believed he did so. Best case of self-gaslighting.
"I could crush you, little man."
Act like they're doing you a favour by being attracted to you. I'm very tall and a lot of men seem to think they're some kind of saint for finding me attractive and for being willing to "look past" my height. F-ck off. My best friend is overweight and she has had guys pull the same sh-t on her.
I once had someone tell me I should have thanked a friend that confessed his crush for me (feelings I do not share at all) for "liking my stupid @ss". Uhm what? People don't own anything to people that like them. Appreciating his honesty? Sure. Commending him for having the guts to do it, knowing I didn't feel the same way? Of course. Thanking him for liking me? I don't think so
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One of the hardest things to do in life is to stick to a budget. No matter how well you plan and how determined you are, you always seem to overspend a little.
Usually, this is a result of certain items being overpriced. Between run-of-the-mill inflation and shortage of goods, and the addition of pandemic-related inflation and shortage of goods, several items have been marked up.
In addition to goods, events and services are costing more as well.
The worst part is a lot of the stuff that is overpriced are actually items that people can't stop buying. People can't stop overspending if they aren't able to stop buying.
Curious about what overpriced items people keep buying, Redditor Sxzym asked:
"What's something that's way too overpriced, but people still keep buying?"
An Awful Business That's Always Needed
"Just throw me in the trash."
"I’m thinking about starting a business as a funeral planner. I know it sounds like a stand up bit, but I’m serious."
"It’s not like the average person understands the business, the rules and regulations, and the prices."
"So essentially, you’re making thousands of dollars worth of decisions while you’re an emotional wreck. Plus everyone is trying to squeeze extra money out of you by gaslighting you into thinking you’re a cheapskate that doesn’t care about your dead loved one."
"I go in not knowing the family nor the deceased and I certainly don’t give two sh*ts if a funeral director thinks I’m being cheap."
"The only thing that sucks is I would have to get paid too, so that would kind of ruin the whole point. So part of me just wants to volunteer my efforts."
"I just really hate when people get bent over and put in debt after losing someone. It’s so disgusting."
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"This one hits home. Everytime my mother buys a pack of ciggies and bitches about the rising costs but absolutely refuses to try the MUCH cheaper alternative which is vaping, the same device she seen me quit cigs on lol."
"I feel this lol"
"I’ve had issues with other addictions in the past and managed to kick the bad ones but haven’t been able to quit smoking."
"At 2 packs a day with the price being between 6-8$, that we will call 7 is about 5k a year and I’m about a decade into this so I’ve depend around 50k on cigarettes in my life."
"Fast food. Gone are the days of the dollar menu"
"F*ckin fast food man, McD’s is expensive as sh*t now a days."
"Fast food. I see lines of cars in just about every joint I drive past. Spending who knows how much money on one meal that has no nutrients. I spend the same amount on food that will provide me three meals, with nutrients that will help me through my week."
"Insulin. It's like they need it to live or something. Lol."
"Inhalers too. So ridiculous it's not like I'm choosing to not breathe"
"Not to start a phone war, but i myself think that Apple products in general are way too expensive."
"I might be wrong on this but it seems like every time they come out with a new iPhone all they add is a bit more battery life and a few better camera features when they’ve already had an excellent camera since iPhone X and 11 because that was the whole gimmick of those devices but they keep adding more camera stuff and then slap on a hundred more to the price."
The Essentials Of Eating
"Grubhub/Uber eats/door dash, etc"
"And when you have small children at home, thus making you unable or unwilling (depending on the circumstance) to just run out and pick up the food yourself, you wind up using then FAR more often than you should."
The Completely Necessary
"Insurance I mean, it's necessary, but still..."
"Women's hygiene products."
"It should be dirt cheap, if not free."
"Water. Should never have to pay for it."
"Bottled water - obviously only where safe, clean drinking water is available from the tap."
"Our tap water at our apartment tastes like dirt so we usually get a 24 pack and go through it in about 2 weeks. We always get the store brand, though. Never name brand."
Fulfilling The Food Groups
"pre-sliced fruits and veggies at the store. The markup is insane on those things lol"
"In Tennessee a whole watermelon is $4.99. Also, 1/4 of a watermelon is $4.99."
"I hate myself a little every time I buy pre chopped veggies but damn it if they aren't worth it when my arthritis flares."
Learn A Lot
"College education after associates."
"University or college education"
"The American Dream."
Ouch. That's a harsh reality!
There are so many life lessons we learn way too late.
One of the biggest is that life itself is not as difficult as we chose to make it.
Humans always seem to take the long road.
Maybe that's just life.
Maybe it's meant to be arduous until we learn to think smarter not harder.
Redditor rectangularbearwanted to have a chat about the aspects of life we all wish we could've experienced a little easier.
"What's a life lesson you learned the hard way?"
I have nothing to add. I only know how to make anything and everything hard.
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"Don't fall too fast for someone."
"That's why it's called falling."
"High expectations are prone to leading to disappointment. This applies to all things, but personally, I find that it applies to people the most."
"I messed up with this big time. Talked me ex fiancé up like she was an angel straight for heaven. Turned out to be the Devil wearing Prada. Had to walk into church by myself looking straight busted when everyone found out my 'angel' dumped me."
"Go to the dentist. Teeth don't heal, they only get worse."
"I know a guy who can’t understand why he can’t get a girlfriend. All of his teeth are rotted and discolored except one. Idk about anyone else, but to me that’s worse than just having no teeth at all. Idk if he realizes how much worse bad teeth can make you look."
"Just because someone is family doesn't mean they will not screw you over."
"I too am among some of the many who have learned this the hard way. Foolish me experienced this time and time again before I finally realized that I have friends who have made better family than any of the blood related members of my life."
"I really hate the 'Family is everything' mentality some people espouse, as if the accident of blood relation excuses or entitles someone to abusive, manipulative behavior."
Single is HappyJimmy Fallon Television GIFGiphy
"Don’t settle, and if you get the vibe someone is settling for you, end it. Loneliness isn’t half as bad when compared to heartbreak."
"Regretting that single Tinder swipe after dating a paranoid for 11 months now, scared as hell for what could go wrong if I dump her."
Love is one of the most difficult things ever. Why so?
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"That when my Uncle says 'I won't bail you out of jail' what he actually means is 'I won't bail you out of jail.' Who'd have thought."
You got You!
"Nobody is gonna watch out for you, like you."
"I saw something the other day written by another foster parent that said 'I became the kind of person I wish would've saved me when I was a kid.' Punched me right in the feels because it's absolutely true, for me anyway."
"Don't set yourself on fire to keep other people warm."
"Woah. This is all I've needed. I will never be the same. I will never think the same. I swear my life will only get better from here on. Such a simple sentence. Didn't think a reddit comment had the capacity to change my life so much. Obviously you haven't invented the phrase, but thank you for your comment."
"Don't give up on something without even trying. Even if you are convinced you will fail. In life, no one will do it for you, you have to do it yourself."
"Yes. And don’t gauge your potential on your self-confidence. Even if you feel there’s no way you can do something, and even if you fail miserably on your first try, keep trying. You’d be amazed at how many people who got good at something but started out as the worst at it."
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"Trust your gut when friends do bad things. It’s ok to leave relationships."
Life doesn't have to be so hard. Why do we make it so?
Some people are daredevils, and laugh in the face of danger.
As a result, they'll willingly partake in dangerous activities like bungee jumping and skydiving, or will go scuba diving with sharks without a second thought.
Others though, proceed through life with extreme caution, and wouldn't be caught dead partaking in any of the above.
However, these same people might not realize that they might have once put themselves in extreme danger without even realizing it.
As some things which appear to be completely harmless and risk free, might actually be far more dangerous than they might seem.
Redditorcltdawg08 was curious to learn what things are deceptively dangerous, leading them to ask:
"What is a lot more dangerous than most people think?"
No harm in hitting the snooze button, right?
"Playing the 'well, my alarm turned off, but I just wanna rest my eyes for a bit' game."- IIITysonIII
Don't be fooled by their "chinny, chin, chins"...
"They look slow and fat."
"Saw a guy nearly get killed by a pig."- theycallmelilsnowy
Always try to get those 40 winks...
"It slowly kills over time."- CyndaWott
Don't underestimate the importance of a helmet.
"Being knocked out."
"In movies, the hero hits someone on the head, or the hero is hit on the head, and they're out for hours."
"In reality, if you are knocked unconscious for more than a few seconds, you'll be inundated with traumatic brain injuries."
"Even a mild brain injuries can drastically change a person's personality, if it doesn't kill them, which is a real possibility."
"TL;DR: Don't get knocked out, and if you do, see a neurologist."
"I speak as someone who has had over 10 concussions."- canucksquatch
Bug spray is your friend.
"Mosquitoes."- Particular_Tadpole27bart simpson mosquitoes GIFGiphy
Consider calling a professional...
"Garage door springs."- Cvrk2·
Especially without proper supervision
"I started one like 2 weeks ago and quit after the first week."
"A mistake in a metal fabrication shop could easily cost you your life or serious injury."
"Not for the clumsy type like myself."- StoneySphynx
ALWAYS get a second opinion...
"Reddit advice."- Pro_Banana
Get your body moving!
"Sitting for long periods of time."- Accurate-Bread-7574Kitten Stretching GIFGiphy
Talk to a doctor first.
"Using OTC meds."
"There is a very good reason why these drugs emphasize to not use more than _____ days consecutively without a Doctors orders."
"Some of these drugs can very easily cause long-term damage under the right circumstances, even if you never exceed the daily dose limits."
"I'm a good example."
"I used Aspirin long-term near max dose on a regular basis."
"I'm now in stage 3 kidney failure."
"Don't self-medicate, seek guidance."
"At the least, talk to the pharmacist."
"They offer FREE advice and consultation about all medications, both OTC and Rx, whether your on it presently or looking to ask your Dr about it."- SpacemaniaXu
Don't let appearances deceive you, and always proceed with caution.
A wise and safe way to go through life, even if you prefer to live dangerously.
And particularly before you pet that pig...