Let's face it, people. Men don't know how to talk to women. Like... at all. They certainly don't seem to know how to compliment them properly either. Perhaps it's easier to just ask women directly (who'd have thought?) as Redditor Whatismylife9696 did when they asked: "Ladies of Reddit, what are acceptable compliments to receive from men?"
"The important thing..."
The important thing to note about compliments is to be careful of your tone, and obviously don't say anything overtly sexual if you're not trying to creep a woman out.
I love when someone compliments my smile, because I'm self conscious about it. But I also like someone saying I have pretty eyes, and one thing I've been told several times while on first dates is "You smell nice" which you think would be creepy but the way it was said it came across as sweet.
All compliments are acceptable to me, it's the person and context that make it inappropriate.
- At work, please don't comment on appearance as your first instinct. It's demeaning.
- On a first date/meeting, stick with soft compliments. ie you have beautiful eyes, a great sense of humor, I like your smile, even you have amazing legs or something would be ok.
- In bed- go wild
- After you know me- fair game as long as it's genuine.
"My first thought..."
My first thought to this question was beautiful eyes. It's the kind of thing you say that is definitely not platonic in most any context, but it's wholesome so not sexual and therefore threatening.
It's less about the compliment and more about the context.
If she's a complete stranger, you need to be polite because you're interrupting someone's everyday business to compliment them, and there's a very good chance that person has a history of being "complimented" by strangers who quickly become overly sexual or aggressive. So don't take it personal if they're on guard.
If you know them, all you gotta do is be genuine and respectful! Also it will probably go down very well if you compliment her personality, skills, or style rather than her looks. Those are memorable and meaningful compliments.
Clothing, accessories (glasses, hat); things I've chosen about myself. Similar for complimenting me about the work/art that I do.
Really not into compliments on my body, as it feels a bit too personal.
"If it's on the street..."
If it's on the street (and not nighttime), I love having my outfit complimented.
It also makes my day when someone compliments my ping pong playing or projects I'm working on.
In general, I prefer being complimented on my style/skills rather than my physical assets.
Depends on the guy and the relationship. If it's a boss, preferably no compliments on my body. If it's a partner, any compliments are fine.
Stop commenting on my looks I get weird. I've avoided second dates because they never stopped saying "gorgeous" or how soft my skin was...dude....
I like being complimented for my personality, personally. tell me i'm funny or clever, that you appreciate what i bring, not what I am if that makes sense.
My co-worker told me he respects me. Flat out. With eye contact. He then went on to say I work 'like a dog' and he's always happy to work with me. I sincerely almost cried. He sees me as an equal.
"It might be harsh..."
It might be harsh, but for me any compliments on my physical appearance is a big turn off. I don't care about your appreciation of my body, the way my clothes are fitting me, my makeup or anything superficial. If I wanted to know how good I look, I would have looked in a mirror. Those compliments feels hallow to me. Now, compliment me on my personality and/or on my actions and the panties drops!
Before saying any big compliments regarding a person's appearance, start with something small to see if it makes them uncomfortable. If so, try complement base on their personality. It's kind of a trial and error, just be sure to be respectful.