People Divulge Which Family Traditions They Want To End With Them
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When you're younger, you might think you come from a great family. But as a kid, you miss out on a lot of nuance. You do not see all the drama the adults around you are involved in. And when you do eventually notice it, you start to realize that maybe few—if any—of your family members actually like each other. So why put up with all those tense family holiday dinners?

This isn't to say that all families are like this. Absolutely not. There are some very happy and wonderful families out there. But seeing families hurt each other is enough to teach you that maybe that age old tradition of getting together for Christmas dinner might not be in everyone's best interest.


People shared their thoughts with us after Redditor captrober157 asked the online community:

"What family tradition ends with you?"

"Being an alcoholic."

"Being an alcoholic. My dad is an alcoholic. Both my grandfathers were alcoholics, which is what killed them. One of my grandmothers used to be an alcoholic and the other one still is. I could go on and on."

Iamyes_ok

Be strong and bold man, don't let the family pressure get to you!

"200 years..."

"200 years of living in London and my kids will never be able to afford to rent or buy here."

Shoreditchregular

200 years of living anywhere, it seems. It's insane.

"My dad interrupting dinner..."

"My dad interrupting dinner, so we can CALL LONG DISTANCE to relatives who couldn’t travel to the event. Then we’d have to pass the phone around the table for brief, superficial greetings as our food went cold. Yikes."

Comfortable-worry-84

Ummm... what? No, thank you. There's no way!

"Expecting the oldest child..."

"Expecting the oldest child to parent the younger one and getting pissed off when the oldest ends up acting like a parent. My younger brother is eight years younger than me. I stopped being a kid by the age of 8.5."

RustproofOrb

Very frustrating and sadly the case for many families out there, especially those of more limited means.

"Expecting my son..."

"Expecting my son to join the military. Almost every male family member on my father's side have fought in every conflict since WW1. I did two tours in Afghanistan and I never want him to experience anything like that."

Afapper

War is traumatic and ideally, no one should ever have to experience it.

"Being hush hush..."

"Being hush hush about mental health related topics and untrusting of medicine in general."

1kateviax1

It's great to see the younger generation be so open about mental health and fighting the stigma!

"Telling the boys..."

"Telling the boys to not cry. To push it down. Going to let my kid cry and talk about his feelings as much as he damn well pleases."

FullBoardDad

This is so important — young boys need to grow up knowing that their feelings are valid.

"Arranged marriage."

"Arranged marriage. Should have ended that tradition myself but was too much of a coward."

Dry-Communication901

The best time was for yourself. The second best will be for your kids.

"Not practical."

"Massive extended family gatherings. Not practical. Besides, grandma kicked the bucket 10 years ago."

MarketNeither9970

Often, families splinter once a matriarch or patriarch dies and people realize that they were the glue keeping everyone together.

"I'm the first..."

"Living below the poverty line. I'm the first member of my family to be middle class."

KnockMeYourLobes

Fantastic! Break the cycle!

It takes a lot of courage to break from your family, especially if they've always done things a certain way. A lot of respect to people who decide to and are able to create new lives for themselves!

What does breaking the cycle mean to you? Feel free to tell us more in the comments below!

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