It sure would be nice to see bullies–especially rich ones–face consequences for their actions. There is such a crisis of accountability right now that many people appear to have accepted that certain members of society will never face justice.
That's something that society should never be on board with and we should normalize rooting bad behavior out. It's easier said than done, but it's one of many things that the majority of people would need to be on the same page about if society ever hopes to move forward.
There are many things we can do to make society a much better place for everyone. People shared their thoughts with us after Redditor Cutelittlebunbun01 asked the online community,
"What is a thing that we should normalize?"
"Not having an opinion about everything."
Social media has ruined this for everyone, hasn't it?
"I never find it awkward."
"Being silent when you have nothing to say. I never find it awkward, but I feel like some people do and they force themselves to make small talk. It's not necessary."
Business tip, use this to your advantage. People get uncomfortable with dead air, and will often fill it with things they were either holding back or did not intend to say.
"Doing 'social' things..."
"Doing "social" things on your own if you feel like it, like going to the movies or go out dancing."
Welcome to most of my youth and young adulthood. I still love getting out by myself.
"People only have so much energy..."
"Being OK with someone not being enthusiastic about your cause. People only have so much energy to put toward all the troubles in the world. Just because someone does not channel their energy toward your issues does not make them a bad person."
And just because they don’t show that enthusiasm online or to you doesn’t mean they’re not doing it!
"Changing your opinion..."
"Changing your opinion on a topic when someone shows you new information. It doesn’t mean you “lost” the argument, it means you’re wise enough to see the error of your ways and move on."
A growth mindset? You don't say!
"Helping without expecting anything back."
I think we should add to this. How about helping without announcing it on social media?
"Men seeking mental health care and not being mocked for it."
Access to mental healthcare needs to improve too. A lot of systems talk about 'parity of esteem' but only give it lip service.
"Men seeking help for being abused in relationships. It's horrifying to see my brother go through this and nobody believed him but me."
Sorry about your brother. It's good you were there for him!
"Asking how people are feeling with the intention to really listen."
This is a big one. It's so important. You'll keep a lot more friends around if you demonstrate you're a good listener.
"Having hard conversations..."
"Handling hard conversations instead of letting the problems fester and turn into bigger problems."
Communication is key and people who push back against it are not worth your time.
There are many things that we could add to this, don't you agree? The list is endless. Society isn't perfect, but we could always do more to better it little by little, day by day.
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Living life without fear is an admirable belief within reason.
After all, fear can block us from opportunity, and abandoning the thing that terrifies us most can be liberating.
That being said, we shouldn't be reckless.
It's important to note there are a few things in life we should be cognizant of–for they can seriously contribute to our demise if we choose to be blissfully ignorant.
Curious to hear examples of the things we should be cautious of, Redditor Specktakles88 asked:
"What do most people not realize can seriously f*ck you up?"
Out in nature, we should never be too arrogant about our greatness as a species.
The Air Up There
"Hiking at altitude you're not used to."
"I tried to climb a 5000m peak totally alone, without telling anyone but this nomad dude what my plans were. Got to 4800m or so and started to feel like I was going blind, followed by HAPE symptoms. I've climbed mountains my whole life, so I knew to get the hell outta there, but wow was it a stupid idea. I'm lucky to have made it out unscathed to eat some totally bangin' nomad momos."
Don't Underestimate Cuteness
"Kangaroos. On my tour of the blue mountains in New South Wales, the guide got on the microphone and announced to the group 'if you see a roo, stay away. They are dumb and will f**K you up.'”
"Apparently they have a claw on their hind leg similar to a raptor that can slice your abdomen so deep that your guys fall right out."
When On Their Turf
"The wild animals in national parks. Those aren't tame, they will hurt or kill you. They don't exist as a photo prop."
You may want to avoid these in you know what's good for you. Like, your well-being.
"sugar free gummy bears."
Heed The Drowsiness Warning
"I was once a stupid kid who wanted to get high at any cost, so I took a dozen Benadryl pills at once. The only research I did was reading others experiences and checking the LD50 was higher than my dose."
"I have never had such vivid, believable audible hallucinations. I had a full conversation with a friend who walked in, only to realize I was talking to myself. I closed my eyes and multiple streams of different people talking flooded my mind. I don't remember what they were saying, but I remember being able to tune in and out of the different conversations and thinking they were so real. It almost sounded like my own radio station in my head."
"It was incredibly stupid and I'm lucky nothing bad immediately happened."
"Edit: LD50 was higher than my dose, not lower!"
"Cement dust. If you're ever around a construction site and notice cement dust in the air, mask up or move the f'k on."
"Silicosis. Bad news."
We typically take our physical health for granted.
Don't do that.
"Ignoring teeth problems. I had a filling that fell out and I ignored it, worst pain ever. Cost me a lot too."
Prevent A Fatal Progression
"An infection in your gums can easily migrate to your heart."
Can Be Mind-Blowing
"I think tooth abscesses (or something like that) can even extend into the brain and just f'king explode it."
Assault On Our Ears
"Listening to loud music or being exposed to loud sounds daily. Can cause permanent tinnitus or hearing loss issues down the road."
"Hear me out, but cancer treatment."
"You all know about the basics like vomiting and hair loss, but it's so much more than that. The whole point of chemo is that you're betting that your cells can last longer in a toxic environment than the cancer cells, so oyu poison your body. I have permanent nerve damage in my toes from where the chemo f'ked up my nerve endings. I had a fissure up my ass about 10 inches, so sh**ting was a 9/10 pain experience. Only pain that was worse was when the mucositis got so bad I couldn't tolerate drinking water. Imagine being in such pain that you can't drink water even after chugging 20mg of hydrocodone, with the glass right in front of you. I got hospitalized twice for dehydration that way."
"I'm cancer free now, and I hope I never have to go through that again. F'k cancer."
Many of the examples listed above are easily taken for granted.
We shouldn't cower in the shadows, however, and be fearful of life's many mysteries.
But if you continue to be inquisitive and keep learning–at any age–newly acquired knowledge can potentially save your life.
And for goodness sake, visit the dentist office from time to time, and ease off on those sugar-free gummy bears.
When Joe Biden was inaugurated on January 20, 2021, at the age of 78, he officially became the oldest President of the United States.
And even those who couldn't wait to get his predecessor out of office wondered if his age might be a problem.
While one currently must be at least 35 years old to run for president, there is currently no maximum age limit.
And though one certainly wants someone with both professional and life experience to be the leader of the free world, the truth is running a country is stressful, with physical and mental repercussions.
Indeed, Barack Obama and George W. Bush, two of the youngest elected Presidents, have often said, being President aged them, physically and mentally.
This begs the question, should there be a maximum age to run for President?
Redditor DrFetusRN was curious to hear what other members of the Reddit community thought about this, leading them to ask:
"Would limiting the age of the President to 65 be something you’d support? Why or why not?"
Age limits aren't the first thing that needs changing
"Anyway you cut it a sh*tty system will produce sh*tty politicians."
"Ranked choice voting in my opinion is the law that would best reform our political entire system."- aqw113
"I think the US should implement a ranked choice voting system."
"I think that will have a much bigger impact on our political system."
"There are some senior politicians who are substantially older than 65 who are incredibly sharp and seriously paying attention to the concerns of their constituents."
"There are politicians and justices under 65 who are completely out of touch and prioritizing their own interests."
"So I don’t think capping age will make any kind of meaningful change."
"The bigger issues are that the current two-party system, electoral college, gerrymandered districts, and constraints on voting rights in black and low-income communities have resulted in politicians who are not elected by the population majority. "
"On top of people in office who don’t represent the majority, the two party system lowers the quality of the available candidates which in turn lowers voter turn out because neither option are particularly appealing."
"I think something like France has where all politicians are in the same primary and then the top two are elected would result in better presidential options."
"You could then potentially have a libertarian candidate running against a democratic candidate with a viable chance of winning, or a no-party candidate running against a Republican or any number of combinations."
"The mayors in my city don’t affiliate with any party and honestly it’s refreshing."
"It’s like having someone competent in charge without any political drama." - User Deleted
The Presidency should only be the beginning.
"Why stop at the presidency?"
"How about for all elected officials."- nthroop1
A resounding yes!
"The President sets the precedent. 65 is when it’s time for people to retire."
"Sit down, make room, live out your days in peace."
"Set that tone for the American people."- captainastryd
"Both Joe Biden and Donald Trump are way too old to be president."
"So was Regan when he ran 40+ years ago."
"Hell, I'd even go further and cap the ages for all elected officials at 65."- DirtyBirdDawg
"Even arguments about mental fitness aside, I think we should limit to candidates who would at least be reasonably expected to spend a couple decades in whatever world they create."- grombleduke
"Yes I would."
"And if you need to know why just look at Joe Biden, Donald Trump, and Diane Feinstein to name a few."
"This country has way too many geriatrics running it."- scootertrash
Even for a second term, the answer is still yes.
"All politicians should f*ck off the second they hit retirement age."
"Those who would hit it during their term shouldn't be allowed to run for office."- AkechiJubeiMitsuhide
The President needs to be in step with the times.
"I would support it."
"Not only for the obvious issue of 'old people have mental health decline' and the debate of mental disorders like dementia but a generational thing too."
"People who are 65 and up lived totally different lives than me at 26 even if we lived generally in the same or similar location, finical status, and social groups."
"Some of these politicians say they worked at McDonalds when in college too and bought a house and paid for their education at just $2 a hour."
"In 1960 $2 had the same buying power as $18."
"That's more than my previous factory job which was just $16 an hour."
"How do you explain that to them?"
"Even Bernie wants a $15 min wage which is not even a living wage anymore."- dotdedo
It does seem like there are more important changes which need to be made to the United States electoral and political system which are more pressing than age limits.
Although, maybe the best way to implement change is to limit the number of "old guard" politicians in office?
Democrats and Republicans are as different as day and night (or donkeys and elephants).
They have different views on big issues, from education to foreign affairs. Have you ever seen a political debate in which one candidate declares that they agree with the other? You'd be hard-pressed to!
However, there are certain things that Democrats and Republicans do agree on, from their views on voters to their views on their careers.
Curious about what those things may be, Redditor Reddit807 asked:
"What's something Democrats and Republicans 100% agree on?"
Poor Opinion Of Voters
"Voters are something to be exploited and not individual human beings with rights and needs."
"That voters are stupid and have short memories"
Not Politics, But Still Agreement
"Warm brownies with cold ice cream is delicious"
"Pineapple does not belong on pizza"
"And Betty White RIP"
"They should be re-elected"
Two Parties Are Enough
"That they dont want a 3rd party to break up their monopoly."
"no 3rd party will be allowed the means to compete"
"Eliminating Daylight savings time. Passed the Senate unanimously and awaiting a House vote and Biden signature. It's not much, but we'll take a win where we can."
"Getting rid of daylight savings time"
"Technically they're eliminating standard time and making daylight savings time permanent"
"The other side is evil and wants to ruin the country"
"That the other side is wrong."
– Deleted User
"Lying and empty promises are the best policy."
Money, Money, Money
"Both sides love money and doing whatever they can to get more of it from their respective donors (only constituents that matter). Both sides will do anything to keep those spots and keep getting rich as hell off less than 200k/year."
What The Problems Are
"Everyone agrees on 95% of WHAT the problems are."
"The problem is that no one wants to compromise on their solution and/or their solution is so f**ked up that compromise is impossible."
Forever And Ever
"Neither side wants term limits for the House and Congress, but I think most Americans want them."
I guess anyone can find common ground, even if it's not exactly good common ground.
While it is important to know what each party believes and what they agree on, it's equally, if not more important, what you believe. After all, you're the one doing the voting!
Certain types of behavior of any individual can have an adverse impact on those around them without being cognizant of it.
More specifically, when it comes to men who lack self-awareness, the things they say or do in the presence of women can be highly inappropriate or intimidatig.
Unless they are called out for their toxic masculinity, guys will continue to get away with it.
Fortunately for this thread, women pointed out a few things everyone could benefit from when Reddit metallicmuffin asked:
"Women of Reddit, what things do men do that frighten you without them even realizing it?"
For the guys don't have a clue, things were spelled out for them.
Not Up For Debate
"Demanding justification for every no, and when it's given, arguing about how my reasons aren't valid."
Lack Of Spatial Awareness
"Invading my space. I used a massage chair a few weeks ago at the gym, and it’s one of the newer models that will lift you and bring you to a reclined position about three feet off the ground (I’m 5’1 so for some that may not seem too high, but for me it’s pretty elevated feeling. There was this man who walked into the room, kept looking at me, and tapped me to ask me my name and tell me I was 'pretty.'"
"I had headphones in, my eyes were shut, and I CLEARLY was not wanting to engage with anyone. Flashed him my engagement ring (my fiancé wasn’t at the gym at the time) and told him my fiancé was coming to join me. Never saw a man book it so hard."
"It’s so frustrating that no matter who CLEAR you are trying to make the fact you are a woman who is not interested in talking to people it’s not respected. Until you insinuate a more masculine partner is present."
"May have been intentional there, but I feel like a lot of times invasion of space can be unintentional."
"The only things they say to you (even if not inappropriate) are sexually charged or are inappropriate…"
"This dude used to come into The restaurant I was waitressing at and would wear this 'Cum & Go' shirt and would offer to buy a bunch of underage girls shots. He didn’t realize he was creepy, you could tell by the way he paraded his friends around with his boom box and play loud music on the patio of the restaurant. Apparently he was a rich pr*ck who donated money to the restaurant all the time."
"After I left, I heard a story that he fixated on one of the waitresses that was nice to him, and he would follow her around and to her car. He even bought her a sh*t Ton of expensive presents for Christmas which she refused."
There Are Boundaries
"It's not frightening, per se, but it definitely makes me wary because it could lead to situations that are frightening..."
"When talking to a guy, he's super pushy. Like, asking for pics of this and that (and that) and even saying no, they're still pushy... all that makes me do is not want to meet him. If he's THIS pushy via text/messaging, how pushy is he going to be in person? If he can't take no NOW, what are the odds he can take no in person?"
"I once had a guy DEMAND that I rank my sexual partners. I told him no. I told him 'I can't and I won't.' Dude flew off the digital handle. I blocked him right then."
Just because a woman is by herself doesn't mean it's an invitation to get to know them.
"Approaching while in a car and blocking our path with said car. Happened while I was on a walk so he could have parked, approached on foot, and maintained a respectable distance."
When Not To Approach A Woman
"Please don't talk to or approach a woman pumping gas, especially at night. I'm sure the moon does look amazing but I am not interested right now. Gas stations are creepy enough without having to make small talk with a stranger. This goes for parking lots at night as well."
He Just Wanted To Be Friends
"Oh god I had one of these guys, he 'opened' the train door for me to get off (it opens automatically) and so I said 'thanks.' Apparently he took that as an invitation, because he then followed me through the station trying to talk to me. I was polite but dismissive. He was creeping me out so I stopped to top up my metro card even though I didn’t need to. He stopped and waited for me. I pretended I didn’t see him."
"He then followed me out of the station asking me where I lived (I lied) and then asked me if I had a boyfriend (I said yes). He then asked if I had Facebook (I didn’t answer) and then asked me if my boyfriend had my Facebook password?? He then told me 'you don’t need to be scared of me, I just want to be friends.'”
"By this stage I was fully freaked and was texting my boyfriend about it. I didn’t want to go to my bus stop in case he followed me home, so I walked to the most populated street I could find, still ignoring him while he followed me. Eventually I went into a supermarket and thankfully lost him."
"I have never spoken to a man on a train or at a station ever again. I don’t even make eye contact."
Please, Don't Follow
"Too many people feel comfortable doing this. I had a stranger do that to me on Hollywood Boulevard once. Ended up going into the CVS and asking a friend to come and walk me home."
"People: A lot of us are not prepared for a stranger to follow us around. Whether or not your intentions are good, it makes us uncomfortable. Find a different way."
Things don't always turn out horrific.
"Horrible Date Plan"
"3 years ago I matched with a guy on tinder and agreed to meet up with him. He suggested going to a park and when I got there it was a heavily wooded area with a trail and I stupidly followed him into the trail. We walked around for a while, sat on some rocks, then it started getting dark and we decided to head out but we ended up getting lost and not being able to find the exit and we stumbled upon a grave sized hole in the dirt and at this point it was pitch black and I was thinking it was all a set it up and that I was going to be ambushed. I pointed out the grave sized hole and he seemed scared too so I gave him the benefit of the doubt and stayed quiet. We finally found an exit after about an hour of stumbling in pitch black darkness. We’re still dating to this day and I’ve brought up what a horrible date plan that was, and how it came off the wrong way lol and he said he didn’t realize it at the time. It was a total curb your enthusiasm moment (I was picked up that day so I didn’t have a car with me to back out and drive home, so that was pretty dumb of me too)"
"Guy who I sometimes see at work, has at least 20 years on me, f''king pulled my ponytail to 'say hi' one time. So shocked that I just smiled awkwardly and didn't say anything. Like what world are you living in that you think that's okay??"
"Edit: This got kinda big. Some more details -- I was able to talk to him later that day about how that wasn't acceptable and to not do anything like it in the future. He actually took it pretty well and has been fine to work with since. In this case, since there was no escalation, and I know my boss and other coworkers have my back, I didn't feel the need to do anything further. While some people have good intentions and don't know their behavior is out of line--those actions still cause hurt. Personally, as long as the person is able to acknowledge that hurt and do better moving forward, I'm good with them. Malicious predators are a different story. It can be hard to tell the difference in some situations. Y'all be careful out there."
Gentlemen, check yourselves–especially your behavior around women who don't know you.
Some of your actions could be interpreted differently than your intentions, and it's time women's voices are heard.