Mother's Day is right around the corner, are you ready to give mom the love she deserves? Moms work tirelessly for us, so this year, let's give her this day to feel special. She deserves it.
zxkool asked moms of Reddit: What do you actually want for Mother's Day?
Submissions have been edited for clarity, context, and profanity.
10. It shouldn't be a lot.
Just a day where I get home from work, they've done their chores and they aren't bickering over nothing.
It's not a lot, really...
9. Newborn problems.
I'd really just be excited to get uninterrupted sleep for a night.
As the mother to a 7 week old, I completely agree!!
Three weeks here. Agreed!
My kids to remember it.
Mother's Day in the UK was last month.
We went to my mother's with my kids and my mum got stuff from me and my brother and her grandkids and I got nothing. Oh wait that's not true, my baby had his tongue tie snipped and had to be held all night afterwards.... I want to go back to work.
7. All moms matter.
A clean house, a long nap, and to not have to see my mother-in-law this year. It always turns into her day but hi, I'm a mom too.
I remember visiting my mom for Mother's Day with my wife and kids one year. My brother and his wife and kids came by too. As we pull up, Mom is arranging potted flowers to plant in the garden. My wife, in the car as we pull up, sees this and says, "Oh hell no. If I'm going to do any gardening on Mother's Day, it's going to be in my own damn garden!"
The funny part was, my brother's wife said exactly the same thing.
Same. My MIL turns into a weepy mess that her kids aren't all over her, even though they call to wish her a happy mother's day every year, and we usually have dinner with them. Also, all her kids are married with a child and another on the way. Her sons are being awesome husbands on mother's day, I would hope that would make her really happy and proud.
6. It's the least kids can do.
Half this comment section; a clean house.
All these comments just make me feel not normal. I have four kids. I'm not a 'clean house freak'. My husband is more picky than me. I work full time, and mostly I just want to have fun with my little things in the few spare hours I have. I feel all the 'clean house mum guilt' - and then I'm feeling 'stuff you all!!'
5. So a boyfriend...
Someone to come deep clean my house.
Someone to cook me dinner while I sit on the couch with a drink.
4. No decisions.
I want to go to the park with my husband and son. Maybe go out for lunch somewhere together. And I don't want to be the one to have to initiate things we do together as a family.
I'm editing to add this because I have gotten comments that make a good point: It's a good idea to be appreciative of any attempts by your partner when s/he makes an attempt to plan things. The best way to encourage this behavior to reward any little attempt they make rather than complain when they do try.
After several years of telling my husband I didn't care what we did as long as I didn't have to clean the house in advance, plan it, or help clean up—and that never happening—last year I booked a spa appointment from breakfast to right before lunch. Texted my husband and said I was busy from 8am-11am and "where should I meet you and the kids for lunch?" It was perfect and I'm repeating this year.
3. Nothing. Literally.
A day off. But a proper day off, where they actually take care of everything I do, so it's not just do nothing on Mother's Day do twice as much to catch up the day after.
eta: my husband does his share as a father, but I'm a stay at home mom, so, yeah lol
Yes. I hate that a day off costs a day of organizing who goes where and eats what, plus a day of cleaning up after not doing the "nothing" I do every day.
2. It's not happy for everyone.
This year, I will want to be left alone.
May 12, 1980 ... birthdate of my oldest child who was placed for adoption at birth... Mother's Day always sucks when it falls on his birthday.
I'm sorry it's such a hard day. I wish you well.
Ty ... it sux for me but I had a choice in the matter ... its important to me to remember that he was born into the situation without a choice, and while my goal was to give him a better life than the crazy chaotic insane household I was living in, it is likely that he grew up with feelings of abandonment, undeserved shame, and fear that I hope he's had guidance through. He's 39 this year ... old enough to have kids and even possibly grandchildren ... as I've not found him in a search forum, I'm hoping it's because he's happy and doesn't feel a need to seek me out.
1. Enjoying sweets in peace.
To not have to hide in the bathroom to eat ice cream or sweets by myself. My 3-year-old can hear the wrapper on a Klondike bar from a mile away.
I feel you. I feel like some sort of criminal when I get us all a small treat from the store, they gobble theirs up while I'm putting up the weeks groceries and then watch me like little beggar children when I finally get to unwrap mine.