There's been books, there's been relationship classes, there's been a multitude of romantic comedies, all exploring the topic being discussed today. The vast differences between men and women span far and wide, typically in the way we're brought up. Our surroundings and upbringing decide a lot of what we become, however when society, on the whole, says men must behave one specific way, that's when you get a lot of stories like these.
Reddit user, u/Original_Diamond_235, wanted to hear about:
Women, what do you not understand about men?
This All Really Depends If You Live In America
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Why y'all refuse to go to the doctor.. I genuinely sat and begged for hours for him to go but hes like nah I'm fine...when he was so not fine
Unless I'm dead, don't call an ambulance. Yes I'd rather die than have to pay for it out of pocket. I have 6 dollars to my name.
There's Playing It Aloof, Then There's This
Why do you say you love a woman, yet act so uninterested?
Never Saying What They Want
What they want in a woman.
I was dumped so I'm trying to figure out what was wrong with me.
Nothing
While its hard, if someone doesn't appreciate you for you, then they arent worth your time
Wait...Huh?
Honestly sometimes I don't get how oblivious some guys can be. In my personal experience this includes things that I feel like my boyfriend knows will make me upset, especially after 4 years of dating and living together for most of that time. Like its so weird to feel like someone knows you but doesn't?
All That Work To Only Lose Interest
they do everything to win a girl's heart and when the girl starts to like them back, they suddenly don't care about her at all. bro, just why?
Listen, Guys, Everyone Thinks It's Gross.
Spitting on the street - I have seen men do this in every corner of the world. What, exactly, are you spitting out and more importantly, WHY?
A Million Thoughts An Hour
The answer to the question: "What are you thinking?" Every time I ask my husband that, his answer his "nothing". How can you be thinking of nothing? Is it just him that does not think? Or is it just me that has thoughts all the time? Or am I just like most other women who constantly have some thoughts going through their minds?
My mind won't shut up about thinking something... there is always some thought going on, even if it is in the back recesses of my mind. I cannot think of any time that I was not thinking. My mind cannot be blank.
Tried And Failed
Why do you never talk about your emotions with us?
Men talking about their emotions is something that's almost never taken seriously. It's not something that has to do with a targeted effort by [society], but exists more as an established cultural byproduct.
A lot of men have usually at least tried talking about how they feel at one point or another during their life, realized it's usually an [exercise] in futility and learned from what is often an unpleasant experience.
Playing The Field
Okay serious question. I'm 30 and been in one relationship that ended 6 years ago. Haven't been in a relationship since.
Why do guys in my inbox tell me "you're so beautiful" or "let's do this" or "let's do that" but they're all over every girl that I see on social media? Commenting hearts on selfies when you're telling me you wanna date me? I don't understand, so I just stay away from everyone.
Hedging [their] bets? The more they ask the higher the chance of someone being interested.
I like to think that (on dating sites at least) women get too much attention and shut down. And men get not enough and act out. And the ones that are left over are ones that thrive on attention
But I'm just a rando on the internet so who knows.
halkeyeDesperation Dictates Action
How they can happily have sex with someone they despise. As a woman, I immediately lose all sexual interest in someone if they are a bastard, even if they are gorgeous. Men don't seem to care how awful someone is, they still want to bang them.
It's like having to use the bathroom. If you need to piss, you'd prefer a nice hotel bathroom, but the gas station will do if you're desperate enough.
A Few Mysteries Wrapped In Easy-To-Take-Off Shirt
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How do they always have warm hands[?]
How do they always know what that guy is really up to[?]
How do they pull their shirts off one-handed without like choking themselves in the neck or something[?]
Where Do They Get Their False Ideas From?
Why do you put so much value in the words/opinions of random men? Especially when it comes to thoughts on 'masculinity.'
Men do not have the same inherent value placed upon them by society that women have, so men have to seek approval from society, and hence from other men. Placing importance in the approval of other men is giving them a sense of being valued, that they matter to others.
No, Seriously, I'm Thinking About Silver Surfer Fighting The Walking Dead
When you say you are thinking about random, weird and unlikely stuff like pirate raids, zombies, space wars and what not, are you actually thinking of that? Or are you just trying to be funny?
There Are No Answers. Just Pain.
Scrotums.
Did they just get a really bad deal or is there a reason it just hangs? Is it more fertile that way? I think about this whenever i get bored.
Also, if you could kick an ovary would it also cause cancer more easily or be as painful as being kicked in the nuts look like? Or are they just that unlucky? Or are they whiny? There are way too many questions like this in my head
Do They Do It To Feel Better About Themselves?
I don't understand why a lot of men (and mass media) slut shame woman. Men if you want more sex stop with the slut shaming. Pro-tip, woman want sex too, we just don't want to be shamed for it.
Society's Standards Are Falling Away
Why they rarely have a best friend, or friends, they can confide in and can be vulnerable with
It's because men can't open up a lot of times. Also in my experience I'm the guy who listens and is a problem solver. BUT when the shoe is on the other foot no one cares or listens to your problems or issues. When you do tell those people you hear "yeah yeah well here's what happened with me."
Truth be told I'd kill to have 2-3 guy best friends and have the same interests as me. Normally I only find them on video games lol. It's also a weird deal too when you meet a guy where you're like "hey that dude was cool" what are you going to do? Ask for their number? Rofl.
A Gelatin...Sword.
Why do men just passively play with their bits so much?
Maybe not all of them do this, but my current boyfriend does.
Dude it's like a gelatin sword but attached to your body
DownskirtfunWhat Did You Expect To Happen?
Unless you're dealing with an extremly shallow woman, we don't care about your penis. What's up with that ?
Also, while it never happened to me yet (thanks God), apparently it is somewhat common for men to send unsolicited pics to women... what are you expecting ? I genuinely don't understand, at all.
Sometimes, They're So Simple
One time, I saw a stand-up comedian say, "Women, if you haven't figured out men then you're thinking too hard."
Yup. most men are really simple. We say something? That's what we mean.
It Has A Name. And It's Brilliant.
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How they lose interest in anything sexual the moment they climax. It's like my husband is ready to go hunting minutes after sex is over. Like a brain switch happens 🤷♀️
Post-nut clarity.
True as can be, I start thinking about my to-do list immediately and try to fight it.
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But we should also be prepared and ready to ask the right questions to have a leg up on the competition.
"What is THE best question to ask on a job interview?"
A company's history or information about a past employee were suggested subjects appropriate for questioning.
Prior Knowledge
"When you were interviewing here, what would you have liked to know before you joined?"
"This worked for me. I asked my interviewer a question about how she had personally dealt with a company policy she had just explained. She bragged about her stellar adherence to the policy. I nodded my approval. I got the job."
A Previous Employee
"One that has always gone over well for me:"
"What were some qualities that the previous employee in this role brought to the job that you would like to see carried forward?"
"Another good thing to do is research the company you are interviewing with and you can ask things about what they may be involved in or you could drop that while reading about the company, you wondered this."
Hypothetical questions were suggested as helpful examples of inquiry.
Indicators Of How Companies Treat Employees
"A question that landed me a job once was: 'If I asked your direct reports about your management style, what do you think they'd tell me?' Stumped a hiring manager and he emailed me personally to tell me about it, no one ever asked him that question but got the job.
"In my current interviews I'm asking 'what did your company do for its employees during [the virus] to improve their day to day, work life balance, etc.' and I ask 'Is there anything your company adopted during [the virus] that they plan to keep post [the virus]?"
"These questions give a lot of insight into whether a company treated their employees well."
Past Performance & Adjustments
"If we were currently sitting in my 1 year review, what would I have done in this year for you to say I excelled in my role?"
"If I could snap my finger right now and change anything about your job or the company, what would it be and why?"
The following questions about a prospective company may not be answered from initial digging on their website.
Measure Of Success & Career Trajectories
"How is success measured in this role?"
"What are some possible career trajectories within the company that could stem from this position?"
Being A Solution
"Ask them what is the biggest problem you can solve for them in your first six months with the company. Similar to 'don't think of a purple hippo,' this forces them to imagine you succeeding in the position."
Simply The Best
"Who is your best employee and why is he/she the best?"
"You will then face 2 situations mostly:"
"panicking CEO who can't answer you 'Bob who works 17 hours a day for a slice of bread' so the fear in their faces must be a big nono for you"
"entusiast CEO who actually follow their business and can tell you who is an added value for the company and why."
– ThePiz91
My experiences with job interviews are different than others seeking work in office environments.
Having had a years-long career as a dancer, my "interview" was the dance audition, where hopefuls dance in small groups of people at a time after learning a routine and then awaiting their fate after the panel evaluates their performances.
The question I may or may not have asked in such a scenario earlier in my career was: "Did I make the cut?"
I did not make the cut. And I learned never to ask that again.
I remember the worst date I ever had. My biggest regret is that I stayed for the entire thing. I should've left as soon as I realized this was not going well, which was basically at hello. But he was paying so I drank, a lot. I'll keep names and dates to myself to protect the innocent.
0/10
Big Brother Reaction GIF by Big Brother After DarkGiphy"Went to brewery, date said I had hairy arms and that meant I was horny, said "you look really awful in this light" and then tried to dig out of that hole by saying in his native language that was a term of endearment long term couples said to each other. 0/10 did not date again."
Lucky 13?
"My wife wanted to plan our 13th wedding anniversary. I was excited because usually, I plan it. She bought us some new disc golf discs and after a quick supper, we went to play. We hadn't played in forever. We were laughing and I had a great time. She served me with divorce papers and told me that the date was a test to see if she still had feelings for me. I also learned that she was having an affair that started well before our anniversary."
- rmorlock
Two Hours from Home
"Not necessarily a date but a person I was dating invited me to his parent's house for the afternoon. He wanted to introduce me to them and show me the house he grew up in. I thought it was super sweet and had no problems going. He was also in the middle of moving and needed to pick up a few things, so it really didn't seem that unusual."
"Yeah, we got there and it was awful. His entire family was there. They traveled from hours away too. This was not just meeting the parents, it was meeting the ENTIRE family. Even worse? At some point, this idiot told his parents that he had proposed. We had been dating TWO months. I spent the entire afternoon dumbfounded and just playing along."
"We were two hours from home and I had no cell service, no way to leave at all. We ended up spending the afternoon brainstorming wedding ideas and planning an Alaskan honeymoon that his parents planned to gift us. His brother even called to say congratulations! We drove back to his apartment in silence. When we got there, I got in my car and left, didn't even bother grabbing my stuff. Weirdest experience ever. I have no idea how he broke it to his parents that we weren't getting married."
You're Cut Off!
"Got set up on a blind date once between mutual friends. She shows up to the restaurant already a little tipsy, orders multiple appetizers and only takes like one or two bites from each one. Then she proceeds to order 3 or 4 more drinks and is visibly drunk at this point. She gets up and says she's going to the bathroom and staggers off. About 15-20 minutes go by so I try to call her several times but no answer."
"Finally I decide to pay the check and just leave. About 2 hours later I'm sitting at home and I get a call from an unknown number. It's the police department. She was picked up on a DUI on her way home after she ditched me and gave the cops my number to see if I could go bail her out!"
- mox44ah
Sorry?
Bbc Three Idk GIF by BBCGiphy"Well, I gave this answer on a different topic, but it ties in with this. We were out on a date, we had been seeing each other for a while, close to a year maybe. She gets a phone call. Suddenly she looks destroyed. Her fiancé had just died in a motorcycle accident."
What in the world? I mean how can we ever expect to pair off with the dating pool being inundated with liars and nut jobs? I'm going to delete my apps.
Girl, Bye.
Sassy Beyonce GIFGiphy"Had a girl openly flirt with the bartender in front of me. She says she wasn't. But handing him her own phone and asking for his contact info in front of her date seems like it to me."
Crazy!
"Came out from a movie, late at night, and date's Camaro was stolen. Apparently, he called his WIFE (that I did not know he had) and let her know where he was and what happened. She showed up and realized he was on a date! She started chasing ME around the parking lot telling me she was going to kill me. Saved by the cops who showed up just in time to take the auto theft report."
Hey Mom
"Met a girl at a country bar one night in my 20s. We were both pretty drunk but hit it off pretty good. Ended up getting her number and we agreed we'd go on a real date. Fast forward to the date, she gets in my vehicle and... she looks almost identical to my mom. I was mortified. I was polite and we went for lunch where I found out she also had a boyfriend she "wasn't sure if she was into". Never talked to her again."
- SgtGo
Liars...
"When I was in college many years ago, before the advancement of cell phones and social media, I was chatting with a girl I met on a BBS who lived on Long Island, NY. I was 18 at the time, but lied and said I was 22 because she said she was 25. We spent a few weeks emailing each other, as well as calling each other."
"We even exchanged pics. When we finally met up, things blew up. Turns out we both lied about our ages: She was really 33, and lied because she thought she looked younger. She admitted she sent a college photo to me. We still had dinner together, but it was awkward as hell. We never spoke again."
Doubles
Kill Me Now Season 1 GIF by FriendsGiphy"It was a double date. She was more interested talking to the other girl throughout the whole thing. Found out later from the other guy that his girl cheated on him with my date."
Ummm... I think I'm just going to stay single. That is a handful of crazy. Why can't people just be honest? I swear the search for love warps people's brains. Be careful out there people.
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