Ahh, Walmart, a beautiful world full of wonder and magic and... is that lady really taking a poo in the middle of the aisle? Yep. That's a grade A dump. Okay, I'm going to pretend I didn't just witness that.
Thanks to all the awesome Redditors who shared their most bizarre Walmart experiences.
1. I don't work there, but I have a friend who hasn't been in a Wal-Mart in 15 years. He flat out refuses to go in for any reason. He's a pretty down to earth guy (not the type who thinks he's better than anyone else), but he avoids Wal-Mart specifically because of the people who shop there (his reasons usually center around crying babies, aisle cloggers, and the few weird men who sit by the entrance/exit gawking at the college girls).
One day my friend and I were looking for a certain product before leaving town on a trip. We had been to a few stores around town, and I kept telling him, "I know product x is at Wal-Mart, we should just go there". Finally he agrees to visiting big box land, but he will go in the Home Depot next door to look for the product while I go in Wal-Mart.
As soon as I step inside the door, I see a woman on a motorized shopping cart with her 12 year old son standing on the back of it. She is screaming at him saying, "Now you get offa there boy!" or something like that. His retort: "[Shut up] mama, you ain't even handicapped!"
I got the product we needed that day, but now I do my best to avoid Wal-Mart.
2. This was back in the late '90s. I was working at Wal-Mart as my first job as a teenager. I was floated to the garden department one day and there was a guy looking at lawn fertilizer. I walked over and asked if he needs help, he said "Not now, just looking at the different kinds you have." Pretty standard reply from the guy, so I said "Okay, let me know." I walk away, and then swing back about 5 minutes later. Same guy has proceeded to rip open about 10 different kinds of the fertilizer all over the ground and is rolling around in the stuff. He is also taste sampling the stuff. I called my manger because I did not want to deal with it. Security escorted the guy out the store and called an ambulance in case the ingestion of the fertilizer hurt him.
3. I worked at a Wal-Mart for about 2 months. The weirdest thing I saw was a large lady on a scooter run over a child in the candy aisle and then threaten him because he "almost tipped her". Security was called and she demanded to receive her items for free. Eventually we just let her take the stuff because it was only like 5 dollars worth of skittles.
4. Unrelated Wal Mart story here. I own a business in front of a Supercenter. This morning I came in and noticed my dumpster was stuffed full with Wal Mart's garbage. I reviewed my HD cameras and saw their contracted parking lot sweepers throwing over 20 bags of garbage away at 5:15 this morning. I got in the dumpster, pulled all those bags out, and filled 6 Wal Mart carts up. I rolled them right in front of the store. I went back to my office, called the manager and told him that the next time I would call the cops for illegal dumping. Being in front of a Wal Mart sucks sometimes- there's a huge dumped cat colony and the place is a bum magnet. Thanks for reading, just had to get that off my chest.
5. So, a couple years ago I was in between jobs. I needed loot to pay the bills, so I figured that I'd take a job at Walmart until something better came along. I ended up working in the Lawn and Garden section, which is actually fun when you get to play with plants all day long. However, I wasn't aware that Lawn and Garden also does all of the "holiday" set up and placing said product on the floor.
Fast forward to a week before the public school systems were in session. I had a cart full of notebook paper, pencils, trapper keepers, etc., that I was trying to put on the shelves when a sound ripped through my ear drums that was similar to ones that are typically only heard on the Discovery Channel. Several decibals too loud, the best I can describe it is cats being lit on fire by their tails and being chased by rabid wolves. I looked around to figure out just who in the hell was being murdered in the store when I saw him. (Continued)
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There was a kid about 8 years old. This kid was not cute, due mainly to the alligator tears that were rolling down his cheeks, the beet red color of his face, and the sounds coming from his throat hole. It took me a minute to figure out what the hell was going on in my aisle, until I realized that this kid was throwing a fit because his parents wouldn't buy him three different trapper-keepers. Normally, I'd just shrug and say, "typical Saturday in Wal-Mart" but oh no! This little [jerk] realized that his dad wasn't paying attention to him, and was instead focused on the others kids that I'm only assuming share some form of genetic makeup with this whiny beast of burden. This pisses the kid off even more, since he howls with rage, and (here's where it gets wild) KICKS HIS WHAT LOOKED LIKE 8 MONTHS PREGNANT MOTHER IN THE STOMACH!!!
To her credit, this lady didn't whomp this spoiled little monsters [butt] right in the aisle. No, she instead collapsed on the damn floor, and had to be taken away by paramedics. And that little [jerk] took that as a sign that he could have ALL the trapper keepers he originally wanted. I watched this whole thing go down, and as the dad watched his wife get loaded into an ambulance, not one iota of "you're gonna get it later" came from him. Instead, the idiot kid that kicked his mom started crying about being hungry and wanting chicken nuggets, which the dad then took him to get.
This is why I hate people.
6. Saw an old man take a dump on the floor of the bread aisle once.
8. My friend posted about his experiences working at walmart on his facebook:
The following is a compilation of stupid questions I received during my employment at Walmart. Be warned, this list may destroy your faith in humanity.
1. "How Can I Steal My Neighbor's Internet?"
2. "Why are these Tv's So Small?" "....Sir, Those are Computer Monitors."
3. "I want Wireless Internet, And I bought a router, and the damn thing didn't work, what can I do?" "Well, do you have an Internet connection?" "....No, why would I need one? That's what I'm buying the damn router for."
4. "I'm trying to use my neighbors internet, but they have a password block on their connection, what can I do to get around it?"
5. "Do y'all carry batteries for this phone?" "No sir" "Why not?" "That's a camera."
6. "How do you get the security devices off?" "If I told you, That would defeat the purpose of having Security Devices".
7. While I'm putting Games In The Case, "Sir, do you work here?" "No Ma'am, I just stole a nametag, the keys, and decided to loot the case, don't tell"
8. "Where are your STD memory cards?" I busted out laughing right in front of her.
9. Phone Call "Hi, I just bought an Xbox 360, and it's not even coming on, I've pressed all the buttons, and changed the batteries in the controller, I don't know what's wrong" "Just to make sure, did you (Continued)
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did you plug it in?" Silence And then she hung up the phone.
10. "Where are your Wireless adapters?" "They're over here, do you have your own internet, or are you leeching off of someone elses?" "I want to use my neighbor's, How do these work?" "You run the cd, and plug the adapter into your computer" "....I don't have a computer". I was literally speechless.
11. "What Verizon Prepaid cards do ya'll have?" "We have a 20, 30, and a 50 Dollar Card" "How much does the 50 dollar one cost?" "....50 Dollars" "What about the 30?" ".....Really?"
12. "How much is this Tv?" "899 Dollars" "I'll give you 500 for it" "Sir, I can't Haggle with you" "600?" "Sir, I'm not allowed to Haggle" "650?" "I can only sell it for 899" "..700, final offer". I'm sad to say this happened recently.
13. "Do you carry Ipod Touches?" "Yes, We do, We have an 8gb for $195, and a 32gb for $295" "Which one is cheaper?"
14. "The computers have built in internet, right?" "..No".
15. "Do ya'll have Twilight Eclipse yet?" "Ma'm, That's not even in theaters" "Yeah it is, I already saw the trailer on Entertainment Tonight".
16. "Where do I buy minutes for my GPS?".
17. "I bought a memory card for my phone, and it has my music on it, but I can't listen to it on my phone" "I'm not sure sir, maybe it's the wrong format?" "Wait...do you have to turn the phone on to listen to the music?" "Yes sir..." "Oh, My bad".
18. "Where are the Avatar brand Tv's yall had in the paper?" "I'm sorry, what?" "Here, it's right in the ad, I want that Avatar TV, it looks like it's popping out at me" "Ma'm, that's an advertisement for the Movie Avatar, the TV is a Phillips" "No, I want the Avatar Tv".
19. "Yo, my girl was sending me some pics, and my screen went out, and I got so mad that I cracked the screen. Can i exchange it?" "No sir, the crack voided the warranty" "Well i want a new picture phone, I haven't seen my girl naked in days" "Sorry?"
20. "Ey yo, My girlfriend came in, and you sold her the wrong memory card for her phone." "Oh? Let me see the phone....Sir, could you show me where you've been putting the card?" "Yeah, Right here, it won't fit, I've tried all day" "Sir, you've been trying to put the card in the Charger Slot...." "Oh forreal? I'ma give my girl a stinky for that one".
21. "Hey bro, I wanna buy these weighted clothes here" "Ok" "Yeah, I figure if I wear these weighted training clothes, and get as fast with them on as I am usually, I'll be as fast as the flash when I take them off" "Haha...I don't think it works like that" Then to top it off, His Dad: "Yea...h, He's the Brains of the family" we laughed, and he was like "No, I'm Serious".
22. "I bought this damn phone card, and scratched it off with my knife, and there were no numbers to activate it" "Sir, your knife dug so deep, that it took the numbers off the card." "Eff that, I want a manager." The manager came, agreed with me, and (Continued)
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was cussed out by the man, who was... subsequently banned from the store.
23. A guy bought a 42 inch Television. The man: "So, What does the extended warranty cover?" Me: "It covers any defects the TV might have, pretty much anything is covered, as long as you don't Drop it or Punch it". The Man: "Ha, That's just common sense". Later in the day, we received a returned TV, Same Size, Same Brand, from the same guy. A picture of that tv:
24. "hey, where are yall's records at?" "Um, we don't carry records, only cd's" "You're kidding! Since when?" "About 20 years ago."
25. "Hey man, can I buy this verizon phone, no strings attached?" "Yeah, you can, but you'll have to pay the full price" "How much is that?" "It's 264 dollars, before tax" "Ok, can I pay it in Food Stamps?"
26 . little kid: "hey, i want red dead redemption" Me: "sorry, you have to be 17 to buy this" kid: "ok, heres my mom" Me:"mam, this game contains intense violence, intense language, sex, gore and drug use, do you still want to get it for him?" Mother: "i dont see why not"
27. A man comes to the register with a Pile of 5 dollar movies "Ok, your total is 36.50" "Umm...I only have 4 dollars..soo" "..."
28. "I don't want this TV, the box is all taped up" "Uhh, Ma'm, Every TV box is taped up like that" "Why would they tape the box?" "To keep the TV box closed..." "Oh, well I've never seen that done" "Uh huh.."
29. "ey yo, i need you to activate my phone" "im sorry sir, we dont activate prepaid phones. There are step by step instructions how to activate it in the box" "wtf? You sell it but dont activate it? Thats like giving a baby a gun!" "sir, that was the worst comparison ive ever heard. Are you sa...ying we should teach babys to use firearms?"
30. "hey, can you fix my phone? The background has a black line on it, and i didnt notice it until just now." "Sir, i don't see a line. Wait...sir, theres a scratch on your sunglasses..." "...."
31. "i was looking at your tv with the built in dvd players. Where do yall keep the dvd players? In the back?" "sir, they're built in..."
32. "If I choose the 1 hour photo option, how long will it be before I get my pictures back?" "...1 hour"
33. "my camera wont turn on, and I've tried everything." "have you tried different batteries?" "its not the damn batteries" "well I'm going to try new batteries in for good measure." put batteries in, and the camera starts working. After being proved wrong, the man continued to argue that it wasn't the batteries.
34. "Can you help me? I'm trying to find a James Otto CD, and I can't find anything the way ya'll have your cd's organized" "Sir, it's called alphabetical order".
35. "I want to price match this game with target, they have it for 49 dollars" "Ma'm, we can't price match that if it's not in the sales ad" "Well that's bull! yall is walmart, its your policy." Since I was tired of dealing with her, I price matched it. The game at our store was 39 dollars. I changed the price to 49 dollars as she wanted.
8. It's amazing how many people bring their non-service animals into the store. I don't have a problem with dogs and such, but when I see the small dog you are carrying scratch and dander falls onto the vegetables you are looking over, we got a problem.
9. I worked at Wal-Mart in the toy department 10 years ago right out of high school for extra money. The amount of parents who would "drop their children off" in the toy department like I was a baby sitter was out of this world. By the time they had left it would be a disaster area, on more than one occasion I would see them running down an aisle with their arms outstretched just knocking stuff on the floor. When the parents would come back there was no "Hey let's pick all this up", they'd just leave.
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telling us what to expect on Black Friday from customers. Examples include being spat on, pulled by the arms, knocked over, shoved, tripped, screamed at, hair pulled, threatened, etc. I went on break and didn't come back. Not worth minimum wage.
10. Not so much "people" but rather another worker. Meet Gary.
Gary is 81 years old, he also fought in the Vietnam. Gary is a little short cute old man however... Gary is absolutely ridiculous.
Let's go through everything Gary told me before I left for school:
The Kennedy's committed the atrocities of 9/11. Yep. The entire gang was in on it, JFK, RFK, Ted, Ed, John.. "Why else do you think JFK and RFK were assassinated?!"
"Agent Orange is for idiots".
Obama gave two statements after Charleston. One to the country and another to his cabinet that said they were going to take all the guns.
Sandy Hook was fake because Joe Biden actually adopted all of the fake victims so we would never seen them again.
He owned a bunch of real estate in California and owned adult video stores... He actively went to porn conventions and said that he was the committee to determine if someone could be a pornstar so that meant he got to have sex with a bunch of girls.
Black people by law can't be police officers. Like, what??
"If you want to WOOO (yeah he said it like Ric Flair) a female, you just gotta ask me for some times" "alright thanks Gary, I have a girlfriend though" "My girlfriend's got a nice butt" "Okay Gary"
Gary wasn't just delusional, Gary also didn't have a filter:
Woman with large breasts walks past him "DID YOU SEE THOSE BOOBIES ON HER?!" She heard him.
"I had sex with my girlfriend last night" "Gary aren't you like 80?" "Viagra"
Gary wasn't just both delusional and obnoxious.. He was defiant. From day 1 to my last day, he had a theory that the boss was out to get him and that the boss always got upset over petty things... He used to say "Eff that Dave!" But our boss didn't get upset over petty things and his name was Bill. I miss weirdo Gary.
11. I worked at Walmart last year as a cashier, and a woman came up to my register with nothing but a pineapple, and a damaged one at that. It was 10pm on a Tuesday, so it was a slow night, and she demanded I give her this pineapple for 25 cents because it was damaged. I didn't see any damage, so I asked he to show me the damage. She promptly ripped the top greens off the pineapple, and said (Continued)
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"See it now?" I called my manager over and he said he can't sell it to her for a discount, and he's sorry, but she can get another one. She cursed, threw the pineapple at me, and walked out mumbling about needing a cigarette. She was a prime example of trailer trash, but damn she threw that pineapple hard.
12. Mother's Day 2013, I was CSMing and handling the day as best as could be expected on a Sunday holiday where the employee's were mostly female mothers. We had 13 call outs and 5 no-call no-shows.
I had 5 poor women to handle the whole Sunday. Lines were long, I knew it, I didn't have anyone in the store coming to help, management couldn't spare anyone. They understaffed on purpose.
So I hear a call over the radio that someone has busted an aerosol can and they needed the one maintenance associate on shift to deal with it. Apparently some jerk teenagers thought it would be funny to "pop" about 5 air freshener spray cans and let them spin and spit eye stinging chemicals.
I'm getting yelled at by a blue-haired old woman about the lines when I get the call that made me regret waking up that day and coming to work. "See that kid in the orange shoes to your left? Stop him" okay, why? "He pooped himself and is tracking feces all over. I'm trying to find his mother on the cameras right now"
Oh great... Now I have a feces covered 5 year old to look after on top of everything...
"Find mom yet?" Yep, she was in the parking lot shooting heroin.
Cops came... I had to mop up feces. Mom went to jail for possession with intent, neglect, and other felonious activities. Kid got cleaned up. I bought him new underwear and pants and socks and I hosed off his shoes. He went with a social worker.
I wanted to quit after that day.
13. I don't work at Walmart; but when I was half way across the country visiting some friends the Walmart in their town had a meth lab bust in the men's restroom.
14. Not a worker, but standing in line one night, a lady seemed to be having a hard time being a parent to her 3-year-old daughter. At one point, the kid asks if she can have a candy bar that was next to the register. The exchange went like this:
"Mommy, can I have a Snickers?"
"I don't give a damn."
(Kid tries to reach up for candy)
"I can't reach it, can you help me?"
"YOU WANT ME TO HELP YOU GET THE CANDY!? YOU NEED TO GET A [FRICKIN] JOB!
15. So last year I worked at a Walmart super center as a cart pusher. You tend to see a lot strange stuff in the parking lot so all of the weird stuff doesn't even get your attention after a while. Part of the cart pusher's job is to bring back the store scooters after people leave them in the parking lot. One day I see an old woman outside the store just sitting on a scooter. This lady must have sat there for a good 2 hours before finally getting up to reveal a gigantic poo stain all over the lower back of her hoodie, running down her pants. This other lady who saw the whole thing comes sprinting up the scooter and sits down on it before I could even clean it. She looked at me and said "I don't care, hun. It was the last one left and my legs are killin' me."
Some years ago, I had to advise a college friend to stop chasing the girl he was interested in at the time. She'd already turned him down. Explicitly. At least two or three times.
He wouldn't take no for an answer and didn't see anything wrong with his behavior.
Perhaps he'd seen too many movies where the guy eventually breaks through the girl's defenses and essentially coerces her into going out with him?
Sadly, this is behavior that is tolerated and yes, normalized in our society.
People were keen to share other observations after Redditor EnoughSandwich_7057 asked the online community,
"What's toxic behavior that's considered socially acceptable?"
"Trying to make people..."
"Trying to make people drink/smoke or drink/smoke more when they have firmly declined the offer."
This is a big one that can have disastrous consequences. I am thankful I got a bunch of terrible nights out drinking out of my system by my early twenties.
Being drunk to the point that you're incoherent is horrible.
"I hate the whole prank thing..."
"I hate the whole prank thing, especially when it's done for likes. Scaring or humiliating people for attention just means you are a bad person."
I don't watch any of those videos and I don't understand what people see in them.
"Overworking yourself and then collectively judging others who don't do the same."
I had a coworker like that once, and she was a (minor) reason why I ended up leaving one job, but still a reason nonetheless.
"Taking your work with you..."
"Taking your work with you on vacation. I mean if you enjoy working then that's your thing, but I get sick of people like going through paperwork and having meetings while on vacation. Like dude, stop."
"Looking down on someone..."
"Looking down on someone because of their job."
When people say things like, "If fast food workers deserve $15 an hour..." that says a lot.
"Deliberately misunderstanding what someone is saying so as to make it easier to argue with them."
"People tend to give drunk people..."
"People tend to give drunk people misbehaving a pass if they regularly do it, 'Oh don't mind Tom, he's just drunk.' That just reinforces that toxic behavior."
You can say that again. How many times have you run into bad behavior like this while out and about, perhaps in a bar? It's not fun.
"The fact that we reward..."
"The fact that we reward customers for being wrong. The number of times my old manager would be so exhausted from arguing over the cost of a carton of milk with a customer that she would just give it to them is appalling."
"It reinforces this mentality because even if the customer KNOWS they're wrong they don't care because they will still win."
Annnnd this is why I don't miss retail. I'm fine where I am.
"Verbally abusing minimum wage employees who don't make the rules. If I could change the laws tomorrow I'd encourage businesses to ban pieces of garbage like these who can't operate in public."
"I'm here to do a job..."
"Toxic workplace behavior needs to be top of the list. I'm here to do a job and go home, not be harassed because you don't like some aspect of my personality. Managers who let this slide should be held personally liable."
When you stop and think about it, you realize we live in an imperfect society. It's astounding that some people just tolerate bad behavior and, in many cases, don't even see anything wrong with it.
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Parents make mistakes. We want to believe that parents are doing there very best to raise their kids, but sometimes they do more harm than good.
Research into childhood trauma didn't actually begin until the 1970s, so we don't have as much knowledge about our mental health as adults as we might like.
However, a study that followed 1,420 from 1992 to 2015 found conclusive results about childhood trauma:
"'It is a myth to believe that childhood trauma is a rare experience that only affects few,' the researchers say."
"Rather, their population sample suggests, 'it is a normative experience—it affects the majority of children at some point.'"
"A surprising 60 percent of those in the study were exposed to at least one trauma by age 16. Over 30 percent were exposed to multiple traumatic events."
Not all of the things our parents do that were not so helpful technically classify as trauma, but it definitely has an effect on us as we get older.
Redditor Gooncookies asked:
"What could your parents have done better when raising you?"
Here's some of the ways that these Redditor's parents could have done better.
Rules to maintain purity.
"Would've been nice if my dad hadn't convinced me I had to behave in certain ways to maintain my innocence and purity."
"Catholic? I can relate."
"Nope. He's an atheist. He's actually extremely upset that I practice my (non Christian) religion. He just has some really weird ideas about having female children. Like, if I wore spaghetti straps when I was a child he'd say it was like he was living in a brothel."
Becoming afraid of failure.
"Encourage me to do more. I was never pushed to do anything. I mean, I get why some athletes are like 'my parents pushed me too hard where I hated it.' But I was never encouraged to go out for it try anything new. I played little league baseball and decided I thought it was a good idea to try and be a pitcher. I told my mom, but got the response along the lines of 'That's a hard position, and the whole game kind of rides on you, and if you mess up, everyone is going to blame you.' As a 37 year old I now see how that kind of stuff screwed my self esteem up and why I'm so afraid of failure as an adult."
"Same here. Also when I wanted to try anything new my mom was like 'But that's too hard for you, are you really sure you wanna do this? I don't think that you want nor can.' What's even worse than just forbidding, in this way the kid won't 'protest doing it' and get too low self esteem to do it."
"I'm really happy now that I overcame this after I moved out. I started doing all those things I wanted to do as a kid and I freaking love it (but kinda hate the fact that I haven't started earlier)."
"But even if I have a good relationship to my mom I hide a lot of things I do from her, since she still does the same and tries to convince me that I actually don't wanna do what ever I planned."
"But dear mom, sometimes you just need to try new things. if it wont work out who cares!? Even got a tattoo with 'What if I fall? Honey what if you fly?' to remind me if I should ever forget. (And no, my mum doesn't know about it)."
We're allowed to feel our emotions.
"Allow me to express my emotions, treat me like an actually person, actually interact with me instead of just ignoring me and them just telling me to kill myself."
"Wow. I'm so sorry. I think a lot of parents forget that their children are actually human beings."
"Its okay. I'm trying to work through some of that trauma, its easier said than done."
Interest is nice.
"They could have shown more of an interest in my mental health and education."
"I didn't get help for my anxiety until after college and it's so frustrating to hear my parents acknowledge I was an anxious child yet nothing was done. I can look back and see how many things could have gone better for me."
"I had diagnosed ADHD and my mom thought that the meds made my brother and I zombies and decided she wanted us to just be kids. My parents never looked into any kind of non-medication help for my ADHD."
"I'll always wonder what school would've been like if I had the tools to properly manage it."
"I got an MFA, but I feel my entire life has been a whole lot of masking."
I also have comorbid sleep/circadian rhythm disorder which they also never did anything about. Going to the doctor for anything, physical or mental, was not prioritized. But, my parents definitely weren't well off financially, so I imagine that that was the biggest contributor."
Kids deserve autonomy.
"Taught me to question adults and trust myself."
"They thought they were doing the best thing by teaching my sister and I 'All adults are always right and you obey them no matter what,' but it made me a dysfunctional employee and vulnerable to abusive relationships."
"The good news is it can be unlearned. But I hope this new generation will teach our kids to assert themselves respectfully instead of blind obedience."
Why keep up the charade?
"My parents are great people who did a good job raising me, but there was one weird thing they did that still kind of annoys to this day (and I'm 44.)"
"Once I got old enough to figure out that things like Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny weren't real they still wouldn't admit it for some reason; I think it was more my mom and my dad just went along with her. But even when I became a teenager and all my siblings were teenagers it's like they still thought it was funny and cute to keep pretending that Santa Claus was real. I don't know why."
"They missed the point of that sort of thing. It's a rite of passage for children to eventually get old enough to figure out that this sort of thing isn't real and for the parents to let them in on it. I was denied that and it still bugs me for some reason."
"I could imagine that being infuriating at 14-15 years old. At that age you're wanting to be seen as more of an adult and I can imagine them not acknowledging Santa as a way of not welcoming me into adulthood/making me feel like a little kid."
Yea that's weird. When I got older and looked back I realized that my folks never flat out said Santa was real. My mom would say something like, 'He's only real if you believe in him,' so she never technically lied to me. Maybe it stems from that, they don't want to admit they lied to you?"
"That could be, but I think it was more a matter of my parents (again, my mom especially) thinking that doing the whole Santa Claus thing on Christmas morning, and Easter Bunny thing on Easter was fun and something that she just didn't want to let go of when my sisters and I got older."
Healthy criticism is necessary sometimes.
"They lacked discipline and parental authority which led us to treat them like our friends, disrespect them. We also couldn't be academically successful because they didn't help us develop a healthy studying habit."
"Kids like it when a parent tells them what to do (I mean, parenting is about teaching a kid what to do, if you just leave it like that, it won't learn anything), help them when they can't get through it, never give negative criticism, but constructive criticism when they fail and appreciate them when they succeed."
"Negative criticism: this type only tells them what is wrong. e.g. 'you can't do this,' 'you are doing this badly.'"
"Constructive criticism: this type gives them an insight into what should they do, you can add what is lacking if necessary. e.g. '[...] is not good behaviour, please do [...] next time, then you would succeed,' 'it looks ok (if it is badly done, then don't say this), but if you do [...] it'd be better / [...] is the correct way.'"
Whatever the situation was with your parents or caretakers, there are ways to heal from this trauma.
Psychology Today says we need to process our emotions, especially if we were taught not to when we were children.
It's important that we break these generational curses.
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Breaking up is something that never gets easier.
That kind of thinking, however, does little to keep us from feeling dejected for days on end.
Curious to hear from heartbroken strangers on the internet, Redditor whitecheeks-24 asked:
What's your sad love story?
Death never comes at the right time.
A Difficult Decision
"The love of my life and soulmate who I was married to for 20 years and together for 24 passed away about 8 months ago. I feel alone and empty inside. I have nobody to love or to love me. My life is an empty waste of space now."
"I took her off of life support because I know that's what she wanted and I had to respect her wishes but I sometimes wish I was a little more greedy. I just want my doll face back."
"I am so sorry. I had to do the same thing with my love, married 40 years. It's been 28 months and I'm sinking deeper into despair. We had so many plans, did everything together, and I am honestly lost without him. I send you warmest regards."
The Shy Admirer
"I was a shy teenager, in love with a cute neighbor. His sister and my mom were friends. He died in a car accident. Nobody knew how I felt about him. I overheard his sister tell my mom that he was in love with me. We never got to share our feelings with each other."
"I think a guy I found on match.com died but I have no way of knowing. We had only been dating for 2 or 3 months and we were taking things slow. Then he got sick..tumors in his back and he needed surgery. We still hung out but he was in a lot of pain."
"At the time I was frustrated because I felt he was pushing me away. I just adored him and he was sending mixed messages. Now looking back.. I'm thinking he was just trying to survive. He went in for surgery and I never heard from him again. I didn't know his family and he didn't have social media."
"My mom would check the obituaries in the paper for me and I just always wondered. I hope he didn't know how to end things and just felt this was easier. It's been 5 years and I have a family of my own now but Michael..I hope you're okay."
It's hard for these Redditors to accept the fact their love was never meant to be.
Long Distance Fizzle
"I had to leave my first boyfriend behind because I moved out of state and didn't even get to say goodbye because I didn't know we were moving when I left. We left to see my aunt who had been traveling and was diagnosis with brain cancer in another state, she was too sick to travel home so they rented a house and stayed there essentially until she passed away."
"My mom liked the area better than my hometown tho so we ended up staying, our stuff was shipped to us so I never got to say goodbye to my boyfriend in person."
"We kept in contact for a couple years but being 16 and 18, it wasn't easy for me to just pack up and head back to move in somewhere with him. We both knew we weren't ready for that so we tried our best to keep the long distance romance going."
"Eventually he messaged me one day and told me that he can't do it anymore and he didn't want to hear from me again because he couldn't handle it."
"When I was in my early 20s, I've had a love at first sight experience. It completely broke me. He actually was into me too, but not in love like I was."
"I had never had a boyfriend before and I got so excited, I came in like a wrecking ball to cite a great poet. Long story short, I scared him off, he broke up, I couldn't get him out of my head and couldn't imagine a world without him, so I tried to kill myself."
"Though let me reassure you all, it's been years and I'm over him (as long as I don't see him IRL, I just know that I'd fall back in the spiral), I even had a long-term relationship after him."
Tough Reality Check
"I got left out of a 5 year relationship. I got injured, lost my job, and had to go take care of my dying mom. I was not in a good way. I come back from the ER and she calls our entire relationship off because I was not 'passionate' any longer. Right."
"My entire life fell apart. Lost the house we had gone in on. Lost the dog we had gotten together. And I lost my girl. She was my bestfriend, my first love."
"Huge reality check but at least I'm only 22. I'm glad I saw her true colors when things went bad. Easy to stand by someone when times are good. Saddest part is I would take her back in an instant. I lost a piece of my soul with her."
Some of the biggest heartbreaks come when someone shows their true colors.
"FOUND OUT MY BOYFRIEND WAS MARRIED WITH KIDS ON THE INTERNET. I was happy and in love for two years. One day while doing my research for a client work, I come across a research paper. The research paper matched what I was looking for, scrolling through it, I realized the owner had some names as my boyfriend."
"But this time he acknowledges his wife and two children for being patient with him as he was busy doing the thesis. I got curious, I took a screenshot and sent him a picture and asked if it's his paper."
"Also, I asked if it's true that he has two kids and a wife and he why didn't tell me. He answered 'DOES IT MATTER '. That was the end of my relationship. Never talked about it, never told any soul what happened."
"I finally got with my best friend and soul mate. He knows more about me then anyone and knows what I've been put thru my whole life. When we first got together he promised he would never do anything to me that others have."
"One year later he cheated, lied and and broke my spirit. Something i never thought was possible with me, yet he accomplished it. It's been a year since i left him and he still tries to get back into my life. The sad part is I know he doesn't love me and I can't stop loving him."
"After four years of supporting my lover through his depression and alcoholism, he announced tonight that he is leaving me. I'm pretty depressed."
A Devious Scheme
"Wife moves our small family across the country for a promotion at her company. When we arrive and settle into our house, she leaves me for her boss."
"The move was a scheme for her boss to leave his wife and kids, and for her to leave me, while being able to be close to all their children. So I unknowingly left my career, family and friends behind to move to a state where I don't know anyone so she could be with her new guy."
Unexpected tragedy will always be, to me, the saddest break up story.
A co-worker of mine used to date a young man who was a patron at the store where we both worked.
Their budding romance was new and exciting and absolutely adorable to watch.
He told me he planned to propose to her before he went away on a family vacation, but sadly, my friend never got the proposal. The guy drowned in a horrible boating accident during his trip.
Although my friend is now happily married with two kids, I wonder if she still thinks about him.
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On the outside, so many professions and careers look glamorous, financially enticing, and fun.
Often we sit back in our own lives and wallow in our dead-end jobs with that "wish I could do that for a living mentality!"
But if you look a little closer or, much like Dorothy Gale in OZ, just wait for a Toto to push the curtain back, you'll see that a lot more is going on behind the scenes.
And the shenanigans we don't see, make all that fun... evaporate.
So many careers and high power industries are built on a foundation of lies, backstabbing, and stress. And not in that fun "Dynasty" way.
That quiet, dead-end gig may not be so bad after all.
Redditor MethodicallyDeep wanted hear all the tea about certain careers, by asking:
What is a secret in your industry that should be talked about?
I swear if every single person was forced to work in the hospitality industry for at least one month in their life, y'all would be beside yourselves. The amount of craziness and laziness could keep you eating at home for every meal until death.
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"Casino dealers really do want the players to win. We don't work for the house. We get paid crap hourly rates and rely on tips. Unless the player is super nice they only to tip if they win so we really do want you to win." ~ thedevilsgame
Not the Good Stuff...
"That you can take a gallon of paint and give it a different label, price point, and warranty depending on the store it is sold in." ~ big_d_usernametaken
"My professor told me the same thing. He was a job coach and erased the due dates on food products with I believe acetone or some product in nail polish remover."
"Would slap a new date on it, and the food would get shipped to poorer neighborhoods. That crap blew my mind." ~ Additional_Bar_2013
"Oh crap, I may actually go to jail."
"That if everyone being charged with a crime insisted on it going to trial, no plea bargaining, the system would crash." ~ mikenyle
"When I was a juror, the judge also commented before everything started that trial by jury is the only thing causing people to plea bargain and "getting the system moving."
"Many trials sit in limbo for years, and it's only the threat of "Oh crap, I may actually go to jail."
"That really negotiations start. That's exactly what happened in my case - jurors got selected, and that afternoon (after being 2 years in the system), the defendant pleads out." ~ zealeus
"Safety. It's not really about your health and well being. It's about saving the company money from medical expenses, lost time, lawyer costs, etc. Very rarely does your company actually give 2 craps about you, no matter how much they preach safety, they just don't want to pay if you get hurt/killed." ~ WhenThePiecesFit
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"TV/screenwriter here. If you're established and well connected, it's very easy to coast and be a TV writer for YEARS and do very little actual writing. Most of TV writing is just talking in a room with other writers spitballing."
"This is why there's so many old, unfunny dudes still "writing" on TV shows. They're hired by their friends and in TV, a lot writers don't actually do much "pen to paper" writing. Plus everything gets rewritten to death." ~ GardenChic
So much mess. Someone hire me to write for TV. Why are you just giving away jobs to unqualified people? Life is so unfair. This list makes me mad. Let's continue...
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"I work in the print industry, we print cheques for companies and there is so little security involved in hiring, or keeping the materials secure, or running the actual work, or shipping the work to customers. I'm shocked we haven't had a problem with stolen cheques." ~ Jeff_Cunningham
"Advertising. I keep reading that advertising is leading people to be more woke, or multicultural. Companies don't lead, they follow. They do lots of research and know where the future markets are."
"I worked for a very conservative global brand. 5 years before gay marriage became legal, they told us it would happen and we needed to start targeting the LBGTQ community." ~ leftside72
"Visa agent and I've seen people be refused because the manager didn't like their face." ~ Ok_Albatross9395
"Omg this happened to my sister. She couldn't start her semester in time because she kept being refused a visa even though she fulfilled all conditions."
"Finally my parents found a "connection" in embassy to see what's going on; turns out someone just didn't like her when she came to give her papers the first time. I never knew if I can fully believe that story." ~ animal7239
So much typing...
"I'm a writer, among other things. I used to ghostwrite. You'd be amazed how many popular books are partly or fully ghostwritten. I specialised in taking people's crappy first drafts and rewriting them so they were actually good. Not "good" according to people's taste, which is subjective."
"But objectively better in the sense of being properly spelled, not having gaping plot holes, making sure characters were consistent. By the time I was done there was often very little left of the draft the "writer" had created, but there was a marketable product."
"Pisses me off no end when I see all the bull the publishing industry comes out with about how writers submitting a manuscript must make sure it's perfect because only excellence will get you anywhere."
"I don't know how they can say that and still sleep at night, knowing full well that they're hiring people like me to do large-scale rewrites (or to take a half-baked plot and create a draft from scratch)." ~ iwillckingbiteyou
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"I work in payroll. The number of payroll reports I see where people are conned out of their overtime is saddening."
"Also, taxes paid by a business shouldn't actively dissuade them from paying employees less. The system shouldn't be based on paying a percentage of employee salary in taxes (FICA, Workers Comp), in other words." ~ ThongofSekhmet
I think some investigations need to be launched. I always knew payroll departments were running a scam. Too many people are being ripped off. Time to expose some people.
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