We all need a little wholesome content every now and then. Much of the world, especially right now, can seem very dark and depressing.
It's important to recognize that not all of the world is as scary as it may seem. So we wanted to see what wholesome facts people had to share with us.
In fact, the world "wholesome" literally means "promoting health or well-being of mind or spirit."
Take a minute to enjoy this list of wholesome facts that will just make your heart melt.
Redditor 2ndRockBottom asked:
"What is the most wholesome fact you know?"
You might want to grab some tissues.
A lottery winner and a lucky waitress.
"In 1984, a regular customer at a pizzeria asked his waitress for help choosing his lottery numbers. He won, came back, and tipped her $3 million."
"For eight years, Robert Cunningham was a regular at Sal's Pizzeria in Yonkers, NY. One night, he asked waitress Phyllis Penzo to split the numbers on his card. On April Fool's Day, she was woken up by a phone call from Cunningham telling her he'd won $6 million and she was entitled to half of it and made good on his promise."
"There's a movie about that, right? Early 90's?"
Yep! It's called It Could Happen To You from 1994.
"There was a man from a small rural settlement in Australia (I think) who won $20,000 from a scratch card."
"A news crew reported on it and the chap demonstrated how it works by buying another ticket. When he scratched the ticket, he had won another $50,000."
"Not $50,000. He won $250,000."
"Not just that, I think he had just survived being declared legally dead, right?"
That's right. The man was declared dead and was then in a 15-day coma.
Cows are actually so cute.
"Cows have best friends."
"My parents had cows for many years. They always knew which cows were friends to each other. It was so cute."
"Cows love music."
"They'll drop what they're doing and run over to listen, and studies have shown lower stress levels and higher milk production."
"(Not doubting you) but I'm my experience, cows are just curious creatures. I remember throwing a football with my dad outside and the cows would always gather around to watch. Same would happen if I were playing in the yard. Any activity that wasn't 'normal' brought all the milkshakes to the yard"
"Cows ARE curious creatures. We had them come investigate our campfire one night."
"THAT'S a startling sight. You're drinking and smoking around a campfire with your friends, and suddenly you're in the middle of a circle of 30 cows."
"It was wild."
Happy little trees.
"Bob Ross's voice was intentionally soothing and quiet."
"He was a Airforce Master Sergeant, 'I was the guy who makes you scrub the latrine, the guy who makes you make your bed, the guy who screams at you for being late to work. The job requires you to be a mean, tough person. And I was fed up with it. I promised myself that if I ever got away from it, it wasn't going to be that way anymore.'"
"My wife and I have been watching Bob Ross' The Joy of Painting on YouTube. If you haven't checked it out, it is really relaxing and sometimes we fall asleep to it on the tv while lying in bed."
"We sometimes like to pick paintings and do a Bob Ross Night. We get out our supplies, some alcohol and some snacks, and we just watch Bob teach us. Some of the paintings do come out well."
More libraries than McDonald's.
"That there are more public libraries in the US than there are McDonald's. I grew up poor and the library was a refuge for me, my library card was the only thing I carried in my first wallet."
"I started taking my kids to libraries like my dad did with me and my brothers when we were kids."
"I f*cking love libraries man."
"Libraries are great! I spent the last 14 years living in a city with an underfunded library system, where I could never find what I was looking for. I moved to a different city that believes in funding public services, and I've been taking full advantage of my local library now."
Animals in mourning.
"Horses mourn the death of other creatures, not just horses. When my daughter was younger we took her to riding lessons. One of the horses stepped on one of the barn cats and killed it. It was buried inside the horse pen and ALL of them, including the younger one that was usually a pita and super playful, were standing around the burial area with their heads down. They were like this for 2 days I was told and this was common for how they deal with the dead."
"Elephants also mourn the dead hence the term 'Elephant graveyard' where relatives pay homage to those that have fallen. It seems the concept of life and death isn't an exclusive human thing."
"Crows mourn the deaths of other crows in a similar manner. They stand in a circle around the deceased and sometimes raise their wings up. Very surreal thing to see. They also remember faces and hold grudges, so be kind to your local crows."
Pets really are healing.
"Interacting with pets causes brain to make oxytocin."
"Where there was a lethal bus accident outside my workplace that had killed 8 passengers including coworkers, our workplace brought in some puppies for people to enjoy to make them feel better."
Mr. Rogers fun fact.
"Every one of the sweaters Mr. Rogers wore on his show were hand knitted by his mom."
"Bonus Neighborhood fact, Mr. Rogers began to include a segment of the show where he fed his fish because a child wrote him, concerned about whether or not they were still alive and well."
"Mr. Rogers kept to a fairly rigid diet and exercise program, in order to consistently weigh 143 pounds. 143 was important to him, because the word 'I' contains 1 letter, the word 'love' contains 4 letters, and the word 'you' contains 3 letters."
"So, 143 = 'I love you.'"
"After he passed away, the Governor of Pennsylvania declared May 23 - the 143rd day of the year - to be '143 Day,' in honor of Mr. Rogers. Citizens are encouraged to show kindness to neighbors on May 23. (And every other day)."
"He responded to every single letter he received, and kept every letter and drawing in a special filing cabinet. He considered every letter and drawing to be sacred."
"He named his puppet King Friday the 13th because he didn't like the negative stigma associated with Friday the 13th, and wanted children to associate Friday the 13th with a friendly puppet rather than a day of bad luck or evil."
"One night, Mr. Rogers was invited to a fancy dinner for PBS employees and executives. He was given a limousine ride to the restaurant. When they arrived, Mr. Rogers asked the chauffer when they would see each other again. The chauffeur explained that he would wait 2-3 hours outside, in the car, then drive him home."
"This didn't sit right with Mr. Rogers. So, he insisted on having the chauffeur join him for dinner."
"On the way home, Mr. Rogers sat in the front seat with the chauffeur, getting to know him better. As the chauffeur told Mr. Rogers what a fan his children were of the show, Mr. Rogers asked the chauffeur if he could meet them. The chauffeur took Mr. Rogers to his own home, where Mr. Rogers met everyone, hung out for a couple hours, and even played piano for them."
"The chauffeur said it was one of the best days of his life."
Some of these really hit hard. If you needed a few happy tears today, we hope this did it for you. There's a lot of difficult news in the world right now and it's important to remember that there are good, wholesome things happening all at the same time.
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Bittersweet moments are usually wonderfully pleasant but yet wrapped in a blanket of sadness, longing or even regret. These experiences are uniquely human and often intertwined in nostalgic memories.
Human emotion is complex. The duality of bittersweet is what makes life interesting.
The comments from BlaasianCowboyPanda's post on Ask Reddit are filled with tearful moments from people's memories. Often, they involve loss, love, or regret.
Redditor BlaasianCowboyPanda asked:
"People of Reddit, what is the most bittersweet situation you've experienced?"
Better grab your tissues before reading any further!
Last moments in a hospital.
"About ten years ago just before she died of lung cancer, my mom called me by my childhood nickname, told me she loved me and then fell asleep. That was the last thing she ever said to me. I was 35 when she died and she hadn't called me that nickname in maybe 30 years. I still tear up thinking about it."
"Sitting in the hospital room, mom was about ready to pass away from cancer, everything was shutting down internally. The date was my parents' 40th wedding anniversary. The last thing dad said to her was 'Thank you for 40 wonderful years.'"
"Oh man. I'm always a sucker for the long love."
"Amidst a loooong illness in hospice and dementia, that meant he recognized no one, my Grampie still lit up every day when my Grammie showed up. He would turn to whoever else was in the room and say 'ah, I'm just the luckiest fella in the world to have the most beautiful woman in the world to love. I love you, Dolly.'"
"She got to be there when he passed away and she died a few months later. I think she was just waiting for him to go first."
Watching someone in pain pass.
"Holding my grandfather's hand as he passed away. It was incredibly sad to see him go, but also relieving to see that it was peaceful and that he had been released."
"The only thing I can say is that being there with him at the end is a blessing. When my grandpa was dying in hospice care, nearly all of the immediate family (his wife obviously, his kids, and us, his grandkids) flew out to Tucson immediately. We spent days there, being with him (even though he was completely out of it), talking, reliving memories of him, and sharing stories that not all of us knew."
"Then when we were getting ready to head back to the hospice the next morning from one of the family members who went back earlier that morning, we got a call that he was doing worse, and that we should get back there ASAP. We all missed his passing, and his wife, my grandma, just completely broke down, saying that she gave him so many years, and he couldn't give her 20 minutes to get there to be with him at the end...god, that was so hard to hear."
"The only good thing about that day was that he was no longer in pain. But holy sh*t, it crushed all of us. We adored that man."
Moving on, permanently.
"Breaking up with my then girlfriend because her dream of moving abroad permanently was coming true. I was happy for her but sad to see her leave."
"You are not alone my friend."
This is a longer story, but we promise it's worth it.
"I always looked back so longingly on my first love. It was the summer we both turned 18 and it was my first time falling in love and everything seemed magic. She was a lifeguard and I still remember her long legs splayed over the lifeguard chair, her long blonde hair, her tan skin, her movie star sunglasses. On that lifeguard stand up high she was a shrine to everything summer. And I loved summer. I had a manual labor job putting in swimming pools, damn that was so hot down there laying plaster with that Kansas City humidity."
"We fell in love that summer and did everything together, every waking hour we could we spent together. In the day we would go down to the creek together and wade in the water and swim and lay on the shore, she always wanted to ride on my back across the creek to get to the other side, our side, where no one ever went but us. Sometimes we would climb on those oversized hay bales by my house and stare up into that cloudless summer sky and talk about what the future would be and going off to college and running track and the Olympics and how we would always love each other."
"My favorite days though, God damnit I loved these days so much was when it rained. We both got off work when it rained so I would get an early call from my boss canceling my work and I would just lay there and smile and look at the ceiling and wait for my phone to ring, it was always her telling me to come over and we could spend the day together. Movies or the mall sometimes but usually we would climb over the gate to the swimming beach and go swim in the lake and feel the warm rain and dive under the water and come up over the dock. Best times of my life."
"I've always looked back on them so longingly. I've been in love since and been married and divorced and dating but it seems my thoughts always came back to her. Even though we live in the same city it was 15 years since I had seen her. Back when I got married to someone else I had an outdoor wedding and even from the front I could hear her sobbing when I said the vows that I wanted to grow old with my wife, that was from a movie my first love and I used to watch together sometimes when it rained. She left right after the wedding and I hadn't seen her again for 15 years. I longed to see her, I even contacted her one time and suggested meeting up but she said she was happily married and would never meet up with me, even to just talk and reminisce. I longed to see her again just one more time."
"Well it happened, I saw her again for the first time in 15 years. We were both at a U2 concert and we hugged and laughed and even danced when they played With or Without You. That night we all had a great time and we walked the women all the way to their car before going to ours. I realized when I saw her Honda minivan and sippy cups from her kids and saw her face that had gotten older that I didn't long for her. Don't get me wrong, she was still beautiful, incredibly beautiful. But she wasn't the girl on top of the lifeguard stand anymore. She had gone on with her life and had kids and drove a sensible minivan and wore sensible mom shoes."
"And then I realized I didn't long for her at all. What I had a longing for was me. When I was 18 and athletic and handsome, with my whole life ahead of me, that was what I longed for more than anything. A life before mortgages and bills and small backyards in the suburbs with fences, I longed for that part of me that was still back there with her at the creek. What it was like to fall in love and swim under the dock in the rain and laugh and hear the words I love you for the first time. I didn't miss her at all. I missed me. It was the most bittersweet realization of my life."
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Watching them grow up.
"Watching my babies grow. Obviously I want them to grow well but if I could just pause time for a bit."
"I thought this same thing this weekend. In Kansas City we have an amusement park and a water park that have combined into one now so its Oceans of Fun and Worlds of Fun. Its such an awesome day! You can ride a roller coaster and then go jump in the wave pool and go back and forth. My kids are getting older now and they don't need me as much, in fact there was an hour or so where I was sitting there all by myself."
"Don't get me wrong, I don't mind it, I read a book and even had a nap. But its bittersweet because they don't need you as much anymore. I tell them how I feel though. I tell them I love being with them. I get just as excited as they do to go to the waterpark. At the end of the day we went to the old time diner place in the park and had French fries and milkshakes and in the booth when we were all drinking milkshakes I told them, ah, this is one of the good parts of life!"
A tender moment with a mother-in-law.
"My fiancé's funeral. It was literally the first time I got to meet his mom. And she was such a sweet lady. When I tried to give her back my ring because it had belonged to her mother. She refused to take it, she told me 'My son chose you to give it to. And it would be rude of me to take back his choice.' She probably still has no idea how much it meant to me."
"I literally have no pictures or anything of him. But I still have my memories and my ring I keep in my jewelry box."
One final childhood moment.
"Recently had one last sleepover with my childhood friend before he passed from leukemia. It was just like being kids again."
"He couldn't do much at the point he'd reached, but we listened to music, watched Luca (which he hadn't yet seen), and just talked about life. And of course we stayed up way past bedtime haha."
It can be difficult to parse out feelings of loss, love, and nostalgia. There's longing wrapping up a lot of these sentiments. Longing for more time, whether it be with a loved one who's passing, a child growing up too quickly, or a lover that needed to move on.
What really ties it all together is love. Hold onto those moments tightly but know that you must let go.
In this day and age, there's a lot to be upset about. Humanity seems to be fast tracked into doomsday given the pandemic, climate crisis, social and economic injustices, and wars waged across the globe.
Sometimes, even with all that is around us, we are given first hand reasons to lose faith in humanity. Without hesitation, people will show their true colors.
The Scientific American journal says we are in an empathy deficit in the U.S. They recommend that we remind ourselves how everyone is at the end of their ropes these days, which can bring out the worst in us.
Redditor TastyTwix asked:
"What has made you lose all of your hope in humanity?"
Hopefully this doesn't completely destroy your faith in humanity.
Being a server.
"Guys, I worked as a waitress, and bartender for years..."
"And still, nothing prepared me for the level of a**holery I've encountered over the pandemic period."
"I sincerely hope someone like Gordon Ramsey teams up with Louis Theroux to make a f*cking docuseries about this."
"Fellow waitress, it was bad before the pandemic but damn after, it's like people forgot how to manners. It's terrible, my biggest problem personally is, I'm female, and I guess people take that as an invitation to do/say whatever they damn please."
"Yep, I did deliveries for a restaurant till mid 2020, when I wasn't out doing deliveries i basically did security for the waitresses since I got the qualifications. The sheer level of entitled a**holery is off the charts. I'm glad I got out of hospitality and now I work security."
"Honestly, the restaurant industry as a whole needs to institute a zero tolerance policy for abuse towards staff."
"We had that at my last workplace for a whole f*cking week, before one of the people mouthing off actually got kicked out by a manager for being a d*ck and complained. Suddenly the owners were claiming we had to be 'more hospitable.'"
"To paraphrase Dave Chapelle: 'Don't be a hero, because heroes don't die comfortable deaths.'"
"-Unnamed unit commander, Persian Gulf War"
"Grocery worker, here. I feel this in my soul. The worst thing I've heard this past year is, 'The job is essential, not the person doing it.' It's clear they'd rather let us all die or lose our minds and just hire replacements to keep repeating the cycle. Humanity sucks."
"Teacher Hero reporting in."
"You actually got called a hero? In the UK, teachers got sh*t on constantly, being told we were lazy and just didn't want to work. It got really bad over Christmas, when teachers went to their unions and began refusing to go back after the holidays because the UK was in the middle of the deadlier second wave. I can't tell you the amount of people in my life I had to explain to that schools weren't closed, we were always open for keyworker and vulnerable children throughout, while also juggling full time online learning. It was a f*cking sh*t show and a lot of long serving staff members have left."
Adoption and foster care.
"The fact that you have to pay tens of thousands of dollars to adopt a child. Like what the f*ck, they are basically just set up to never be adopted."
"AMEN. Most people have NO idea what a broken, convoluted, expensive and set up for failure system it is. When faced with infertility, my husband and I looked into adopting and were quickly turned off. Domestic and international adoption is ultimately babies for sale. Foster to adopt is also tough - there are few babies or young children available, most have already been the victims of severe abuse and neglect (children are in foster care for a reason, and it's never a good one) and reunification is usually the goal. You could foster a child for years only to have some parent or relative show up and the child is then removed from your care. Termination of parental rights takes forever and is never guaranteed. Plus, for fostering or adoption you need to open up your entire life to various third parties - your finances, your marriage, your extended family, your career -- to determine if you're 'worthy' of being a parent."
"My husband and I ended up going the IVF route - we had 2 babies over the course of four years for about $5K out of pocket, which would not even have covered a home study and a lawyer's retainer fee if we wanted to adopt. Everything was just between us and our doctor. We knew our babies' genetic backgrounds, I was able to take care of myself during my pregnancies and had proper prenatal care. When those babies were born, they were 100% ours - no 'open' adoptions (which is the setup for most domestic adoptions these days), no birth parents changing their minds at the 11th hour, etc."
"The system is so, so broken and it's the babies and children who lose out the most, by far."
"This actually just happened to someone I know. She had three children in her foster care and she was set to adopt all three of them. She did all the necessary steps and petitions to have them adopted. Then out of no where, a family member wanted them to come live with them. So these poor children who never knew anyone in this family suddenly want them back in their lives."
"The children she was going to adopt already called her Mom. When I heard that these children were being ripped from a very safe and loving family with great schools to go live somewhere not safe broke my heart. The social worker failed the children."
The TikTok commenters defended a killer.
A 24-year-old killed a mother and child while he was street racing and TikTok teens defended him.
"People on TikTok saying a person who killed two innocent lives should not go to jail bc 'he's too young and handsome.'"
"He deserves the full sentence. It makes me sick to hear people trying to justify his crimes. It was not the first time he was punished for Street Racing."
Sandy Hook deniers.
"Sandy Hook deniers were harassing the parents. I didn't know I could hate so much. Humanity is doomed with a**holes like them in this world. They live among us."
"This one of the worst things I ever did read on Reddit."
"When people deny the Marjory Stoneman Douglas shooting, claiming it's about gun control I just wanna say, 'People didn't give enough of a f*ck to take your guns when 20 five year old's were killed, you really think they would try it again using teenagers?' It makes me sick."
Can we eat the rich yet?
"Seeing NFTs sell for millions of dollars."
"Don't worry, they are just tax scams."
It's just exhausting to witness.
"Sheer exhaustion of witnessing some peoples' behaviors towards others and the lack of kindness in general."
If you feel like you need to restore some faith in humanity after reading this, take a look at this list that came out this year. Now all hope is lost!
We've all done it. The camera pans, we hear the music, that one line that just feels like a sucker punch to the gut, and suddently we're a puddle on the floor.
Movies have this incredible hold on us, because the actors are brilliant and the directors and writers have figured out how to tell the story in just the right way that pulls at our heart strings. In fact, our brains can't even tell the difference between flashing pictures on a screen from real humans, so it's natural to cry.
In fact, if you cry at movies, you actually might be more empathetic, better with people, and an emotionally stronger person.
Redditor lituponfire asked:
"What film scene absolutely destroys you every time? No matter how many times you've seen it?"
Grab your tissues, you're gonna need them.
The Green Mile
"'I am tired, boss,' scene before the execution in The Green Mile."
"Got to say the execution scene is the clincher for me. Hanks was immense."Giphy
"Homeward Bound at the end where you think Shadow might not be coming home."
"When I graduated from college I had a set of friends after I moved and one came over one Saturday morning. He looked terrible. I asked him if he was hungover, and he said he had spent the last thirty minutes bawling over that movie. Hahahaha"Giphy
"The scene in Love Actually where Emma Thompson realises that Alan Rickman is cheating on her but it's Christmas Day and the kids are happy, she gives herself twenty seconds listening to Both Sides Now by Joni Mitchell and then gets back out there to be 'happy'. Two utterly brilliant actors at the top of their game."
"Oh f*ck, took me a minute to remember the context of this."
"She'd found the necklace previously and was expecting that to be the gift she received. Instead she got a CD. Rough stuff."
"If you look in the comments to the video link above showing the scene, a commenter also gives an interesting insight:"
"phoenixfriend: What makes this even sadder is that the CD was actually a thoughtful gift. It shows that he knows something about her and what's important to her. The necklace was expensive and glamorous but also meaningless and lazy. She asked for something pretty so he just went straight to the jewellery section and picked the first thing he saw that he thought would do. It speaks to how he feels about each woman and just makes his affair all the more foolish because he's risking a genuine connection for something shallow."
"The end of WALL-E when he loses his personality."
"Before that. When he's keeping the door open. He didn't owe those people anything. Eve thought he was annoying. Nobody cared about him. Yet there he was getting crushed. Giving it his all. F*ck."
"Also the scene when his memories are being played back and she finally understands how much he cared for her and what he went through."
"When I was 15, I saw it in theaters while my parents were going through a nasty divorce. I remember him looking at the stars and wishing he had someone to hold his hand. I felt the exact same. I felt so alone just like he did. I cried and was happy no one noticed."
"I'm tearing up thinking about it now but I'm no longer saddened by it. It's bittersweet and I still love the short before it. I was alone then but I did get people who cared for me like Wall-E :) Happy endings can happen and you are never alone."Giphy
"'Bubba was going to be a shrimping boat captain, but instead, he died right there by that river in Vietnam.'"
"I just get really sad thinking about all of the 'Bubbas' who have senselessly died in war and never got to live their lives and follow their dreams."
"'I wanna go home Forrest' UGH I DIE EVERYTIME."
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"My answer to this post was going to be:"
"'You died on a Saturday morning, and I had you placed here, under our tree...'"
"I can't type anymore because I'll actually start crying. Every damn time, that scene."
"I remember showing my wife Forest Gump. I hadn't seen it since I was a kid, and remember it being a comedy."
"After it was over my spouse gets up without a word, goes to the bedroom, and starts crying uncontrollably."
"As a kid I thought it was about Forrest, but it was as much about Jenny and just how awful her life was. Just I was too young to understand it."
One Flew Over the Coocoos Nest
"When Jack Nicholson gets lobotomized in One Flew Over the Cucoo's Nest. I'm not a cryer and I dont feel most of the emotionally charged drama scenes in Hollywood movies but that made me cry so hard in so much anger because of the injustice. I may be more calm in my reaction now but it always gets me."
"It's one of those scenes that hits hard when you realize that has actually happened to people."
The Fox and The Hound
"The Fox and The Hound, when the sweet old lady has to leave Todd behind in the woods. Everything about it: the music, the kindness of that lady, Todd not understanding that he has to stay in the woods. Especially the moment when you see a tear rolling down her cheek as she drives off."
"Oh man. I always cry when I hear them say, 'We'll always be friends forever.'"Giphy
Life is Beautiful
"The scene in Life is Beautiful when he puts his son in the locker and then walks away with the guards and makes it funny for his son while he knows he's going to be shot. Oh my god. That movie kills me every single time. I saw it when I was ten and cried for months even at hearing the name of the movie."
"The whole second half is excellent with the way he attempts to desperately and selflessly preserve his sons innocence in a concentration camp is heartbreaking. Then that scene happens and the movie ends with the son getting his tank."
"Whenever someone asks me what my favorite movie is, I always say this one. Refuse to tell them what it's about, because I went in blind and was completely shell shocked when the happy romantic story suddenly goes BOOM HOLOCAUST. The wife getting on the train, the silly walk moments before death, the tank, ugh I can't."
"Right? This film is a TEXTBOOK example of why, when recommending films to people, I tell them nothing about it other than the title."
"I've never understood people who give away what happens in a film, be it maliciously or not. I would never want to rob somebody of the chance to feel the intense emotional impact a film had on me, and that's something you just can't truly get when you know what's coming."
"Big Fish. The end when the son starts making up the story and then the funeral when you see the 'real' versions of those characters."
"The end of the movie has always killed me, but after my dad passed away 11 years ago it hit me on a completely different level. Then I became a father myself a couple years ago and then it got me on ANOTHER completely different level!"
"Calm down, Big Fish."
"I watched this with an ex-boyfriend and he was joking for almost the whole movie. Until the last story, then he was crying. At first I thought he was making fun of me, but no, tons of real tears."
"Brooks was here."
"'I don't like it here. I'm tired of being afraid all the time. I've decided not to stay. I doubt they'll kick up any fuss. Not for an old crook like me.'"
"I found the scene where he's struggling to keep up in the supermarket due to his arthritis hard to watch too (knowing the outcome)."
- Zal_17the shawshank redemption life GIFGiphy
Land Before Time
"This scene from The Land Before Time where Little Foot thinks he sees his mom, but it's just his shadow and the narrator says, 'Then Little Foot knew for certain he was alone.' still gets to me every single time."
"That whole movie f*cked me up. I still can't watch it. I watched that movie at a very young age when I was still getting a grip on the concept of death. We had just given my goldfish a burial at sea, so his Mom dying in the rain really got me."
"To be fair, the original is a f*cking dark movie for preschool and young elementary kids. Like even the color scheme is dreary. I think it's probably the first movie a lot of kids in my generation remember watching and it was a doozy. Add on The Brave Little Toaster, The Secret of Nimh, and it makes me think that the animation studios hated kids or something lol."
"Fun fact: Secret of NIMH and Land Before Time were both Don Bluth movies. He left Disney because he felt the movies were becoming too 'soft.'"
"An explanation from the man himself:"
"'What we in the animation world are doing is presenting symbols that are reflective of real life,' Bluth says. 'If you show the dark moments, then the triumphant moments have more power. And if animators don't understand that, I don't think they're animating. What they're doing is drawing.'"
"'I could have got more...' - Schindler's List."
"That scene has made me sob since I was 10."
"'This pin. It's gold. That's two more people. They would have given me two more. At least one!'"
"My daughter came home from school and said her teacher had assigned her to watch Schindler's List and Saving Private Ryan. I warned her she should wait a bit in between watching them but she knew better and wanted to knock them out. So, after Schindler's List I asked if she was ready to watch Saving Private Ryan. In a very small voice she said, "No, mom" and went off to her room."
"Everyone should watch both movies but not back to back. Then give yourself a week before you watch Band of Brothers."
"Jesus Christ. I wouldn't assign those two films in the same semester, let alone the same day."
The Iron Giant
"When Iron Giant sacrifices himself to stop a nuke."
"I loved the movie as a kid and handled it fine."
"I re-watched it in college and when that scene came up I felt myself welling up, man."
"Am I the only one who wishes he didn't get rebuilt?"
"I get it, and honestly I'm not sure. On the one hand, it is a family movie, and animated so you have to account for children, but the finality of death and wrestling with people dying is a central theme."
"The Iron Giant definitely makes a sacrifice when he decides to fly into the nuke and risk his life to stop it. I think the scene hits harder and is more powerful if The Iron Giant makes the ultimate sacrifice though. 'It's bad to kill, but it's not bad to die.' Brad shaped the script around that message as an attempt to deal with his own personal tragedy."
"I don't know who made the decision to show that The Giant didn't die, the studio or Brad, but I can see how that cheapens the sacrifice and undercuts a core message. The older I get, the harder this movie hits, but the more I love it (I saw it in theaters back in 99, as a small child, and it is still my favorite movie as an adult over 20 years later)."Giphy
We couldn't have a list of sad movies without mentioning Titanic.
"The scene at the sinking of the Titanic showing the 2 older couple laying on the bed, the husband holding his crying wife and kissing her on the cheek as she holds her eyes tightly shut and the water rushing in under their bed."
"Always. F*cks. Me. Up."
"The Strausses. The reality is so sad. He begged her to get on a boat and she said she'd lived her life thus far with him and she wouldn't live it without him. They were last seen together on one of the decks."
If this didn't make your eyes aren't wet, we don't know what will.
Actually, maybe it's better if you do cry. It has some serious benefits like releasing toxins and emotional stress from the body.
Here's to a good cry!
If you've lived through the recession of 2008, you probably have seen the U.S. struggling to catch their bearings again financially. The U.S. has been struggling to regain it's economic balance but truly the wage gap and percentage of our poor population has only increased.
Michael Farr writes that the economy should have been booming since we saw unemployment reach a low of 4% in 2019, but there hasn't been any meaningful inflation, or output of money, in the last decade. The culmination of economic suffering and irresponsible government response has lead us to a top 1% of our population hording all the countries wealth.
You may reading this and yet still not know what it's like to truly be living below the arbitrary poverty line in the U.S.
Reddit user 192335 went to Ask Reddit to find out:
"What do most people not understand about being poor?"
Some of these comments may not be entirely from the U.S., but they definitely speak to the experience of economic hardship that many are facing.
"Being poor is f*cking exhausting. It's draining. Mentally. Physically. It's just exhausting."
"Everyone needs a win sometimes. Sometimes that win is finding a way to just afford a f*cking meal out or a movie. Yeah, you do have bills to pay and sh*t to do. But everyone needs a breath of fresh air sometimes."
"A struggle needs a f*cking break every so often."
"I agree. I can't stand when people are like yeah blowing money on a coffee at Starbucks is a rip off when you can make it at home way cheaper. No sh*t. For some people though, it's the one treat they get for themselves."
"So true. Growing up my parents would take me and my siblings 'out to eat' for dinner when they could and only as an adult did I realize it was at a breakfast diner most times."
"Kids get pancakes, they'd get bagels and butter/jelly. And that was our 'big family dinner date.'"
"Sure, it's cheaper to buy bagels at home, but sometimes you just need to get out of the house and have some away time to act normal."
"BreakfastForDinnerCrew reporting in."
Living in constant fear and question.
"The fear. Of something unexpected you haven't budgeted for. Of a knock at the door from a debt collector. Having to choose which of your children can eat more than once today. Having to choose which days you go hungry so your children can eat at all."
Getting dental care can be difficult.
"I am going to the dentist today. I haven't been in about a year. I've got stuff that should have been done ages ago, but I just didn't have the money. Now I've got a decent income and have saved a bit, I can go without too much worry, but the damage is much worse than if I just went regularly."
"With that, the cost of the procedure will be higher. Six months ago, I couldn't have afforded the x-ray they do at the start of the exam, let alone a procedure. I'm just lucky nothing went too wrong in that time. I looked at insurance. Basically nothing but minor stuff is covered by anyone. One bad tooth infection/abscess and I would have been totally wiped out."
"I didn't get to go for years. Dentists wouldn't clean my teeth without x-rays too. I didn't have money for both. So I went without. Then when my situation improved, they had the audacity to shame me for waiting so long."
In the U.S. in 2017, one in five people without medical insurance skipped out on medical care because of cost.
"I just want to jump in to anyone who might come across this because I found the solution I needed. After I fought through 15 years of depression my teeth where a sad reminder of how I didn't take care of myself. I would have never thought I would be able to smile with confidence as dental work in the US is criminally expensive even with decent insurance."
"But today I can and do have a big smile on my face, dental tourism is a legitimate solution. I took a flight down to Tijuana MX to have 4 root canals + zirconium crowns, 4 zirconium veneers (so all my front teeth match), and 8 composite fillings for $5.5k (excluding travel cost)."
"I joked to my dentist once that I might go to Mexico to have work done. I had heard about dental tourism as an affordable option but wasn't exactly sure about it. Their tone immediately shifted from my friendly, neighborhood dentist to a more judgmental 'they don't have adequate dentistry standards like we have here.' It threw me off a bit but it felt like it came from a place of genuine concern. It's as if they think any dentist out of country is your crazy uncle with a pair of pliers running his office out of his garage."
Being poor is expensive.
"How expensive it is."
"Cycle of poverty is no joke. I got really sick from anxiety. My stomach hurt, I developed an ulcer, I had to go to the hospital. Ok so root problem is anxiety and depression. How do I fix it? Therapy and maybe medication. But I'm already in debt from going to the hospital. So I try to do without. Manage on my own. Pay down bills. Anxiety grows from seeing the debt and life under covid. Anxiety. Stomach hurts. We're back to the beginning."
"How do you fix it? Money. They say money can't buy happiness, I call BS. 75% of the things that bring me stress could be fixed by money."
"Having money's not everything; not having it is."
What is the sweet spot?
"They say money matters up to around 75k a year."
"That was one study done in 2010; adjusting for inflation the figure is about $92k now. Other studies have found that wealthy people are indeed happier than working class people."
If you're interested in learning about it, Forbes wrote about the study from Princeton University.
Time is money.
"It takes up all of your time."
"Yep. I remember not being able to stock up on necessities. So I would have to run to the store a lot more frequently. I couldn't afford a car so I would either have to bus or walk. All of these little things eat up so much time."
If you're struggling to pay off debt, wondering how to get back on track financially, or struggling to find ways to get food on your table, you're not alone.
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