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People Confess Which Event In Their Life Still F**ks Them Up To This Day

*The following article contains discussion of suicide/self-harm.

There are those who say that going through a hard or unpleasant experience is what makes you stronger, and able to live your life more happily.

But there are very few people who don't have one memory of an experience that they wish they could forget... or even wish never happened in the first place.

Redditor Lord_Lazignac was curious to learn of experiences people had which continue to traumatize them to this day, leading them to ask:

"What event in your life still f*cks with you to this day?"


Parents who still from their children.

"There was a girl next door to my grandparent’s house that I had the biggest crush on."

"Her name was Becca."

"We had known each other from the time I was really little."

"We were both coming into the ages of liking the opposite sex at the same time and we had similar troubled childhoods (Becca lived with her grandparents, too)."

"Somewhere after holding hands, but before a first kiss, Becca gave me a ring."

She ‘borrowed’ it from her grandpa and needed it back the next day."

"I was on cloud 9."

"With excitement I showed my mom the ring."

"She asked my grandparents to borrow their truck and told me to get in and make sure I brought the ring."

"I had no idea what was going on."

"We pulled up to the 'jewelry store' at Eureka and Telegraph and she asked to see the ring."

"She went inside,'no kids were allowed', and came out about 20 minutes later."

"Then, we went to Mcdonald’s."

"The first time I’d eaten anything but food pantry food in at least a year."

"She said the 'jewelry store' needed to borrow that specific ring for a few weeks to clean it up."

"I asked what I was supposed to tell Becca had happened to it, and she said to tell her that I had lost it."

"I never saw the ring again, and Becca never talked to me again."- Davidsilak

A heartbreaking moment of false hope.

"My father was in hospice dying from cancer."

"He had stopped eating and was barely communicative."

"We knew it was just a matter of days."

"Mom and I went to visit him every day for a few hours so he wouldn’t be alone."

"One morning we get a call."

"Fearing the worst I answered it- expecting them to let us know he had passed."

"My father was on the phone and he sounded well."

"He even said he was hungry and asked for breakfast!"

"He told me he was looking forward to our visit!"

"I was stunned."

"Had all these emotions and thoughts- maybe it was a miracle and he was going to beat this!"

"Hopped in the car and started driving over."

"Got another phone call, this time it was the hospice folks."

"He had just passed."

"The rollercoaster of emotions from that morning haunt me."

"I was numb for a long time."

"There was a period where I thought maybe I hallucinated and never spoke with my dad that morning."

"To put my mind at ease I met with the hospice nurse who was with my dad that morning."

"She explained this concept called terminal lucidity."

"She says it’s not uncommon at all and is usually a sign that someone will pass soon."

"That helped, but it still haunts me."- bondsman333

Losing a loved one to suicide.

"I lost a friend to suicide in autumn 2017."

"He was the first person I loved and he was also the first, and only, person to properly break my heart, which happened some years before he died."

"His mental health was always chaotic and in the months before his death l’d distanced myself because I was finding it overwhelming."

"Something I regret now but also understand I needed to do."

"I never wanted to not be his friend, I always saw a future with us in a place were we’d be old friends who could joke about him breaking my heart when I was 20."

"Our friendship never recovered to what it was without the messy love thing, but it was getting there."

"Since his death I have realized how much he influenced me to be the person I am today."

"I really miss him."

"I understand and accept his death."

"However even now this life without him feels off balance, like something went wrong with the universe."

"I had so much faith in him getting better."- CryptographerWeak873

"My brother committed suicide when I was about 12 years old."

"A few weeks after his passing, I was half asleep on the couch and heard my family talk about how he actually had cancer but took his own life as to not be a burden on the family."

"The problem is, I was only 12 and half awake when I overheard all of this, so I'm not sure whether it's even true or something my brain made up in it's semi-conscious state."

"To this day, I don't have the balls to confront my family on the topic."- dirtycommie123

Not getting there in time.

"Was a normal Friday."

"I had taken an early day to help my father with haylage."

"Earlier that morning my father brought my mother to the hospital because she was dry heaving a lot."

"When I got home the home phone rang and I picked up."

"They said it was the hospital and that they were going to transfer her to a bigger hospital because she had just had a heart attack."

"So I tell my father and he goes to the bigger hospital to fill out forms and stuff."

"3hrs later I get a call saying that they are going to airlift her to the city with the best cardiac doctors."

"So I start to pack bags for everyone."

"Then my father calls me one more time to tell me to go get my brother from his pre-prom party because moms not going to make it."

"So I'm driving like a bat outta hell trying to find my brother's party."

"Then speed all the way to the hospital praying that the cops have a huge drug bust or something."

"I get to the hospital with my brother and we see our father outside the room crying."

"My father is an emotional man when it comes to death."

"I have never seen him cry so much."

"I look to my right and there's 7 people in my mother's room."

"Doctors nurses the helicopter crew that was going to transfer her."

"It was about 45 minutes it felt like and they said there was nothing else they could do."

"My mother died that day without a warning."- Puzzleheaded_Cap174

Never getting to repay generosity

"A friend in HS loaned me 200 dollars right before we graduated."

"We lost contact and I still often wake up in the middle of the night wishing I could have the opportunity to pay him back."

"I'm 50 this year."- Genbu7

Lack of consequences

"My mom was hit and killed by a driver on her morning walk."

"My dad stood right next to her and was almost hit himself."

"It happened in a public park in an unmarked crosswalk."

"The guy never got out of his truck to help as my mom bled out."

"My dad watched the whole thing."

"They were married for 45 yrs."

"I can’t ever get the call from my dad out of my head."

"He called me while on the scene to tell me mom was dead."

"The guy that hit her never received even a ticket."

"He got off Scott free because the DA ruled it an accident."

"Even witnesses at the scene said he failed to yield."

"My mom was killed within two steps of the curb."

"Literally one second later she’d have been ok."

"The dude hit her in the shoulder."

"Even the police stated this."

"He broke laws and faced no consequences."

"My dad is a shell of himself."- thecazbah

Car accidents

"When I was 16 I was on my way to take my SAT on a Saturday morning."

"I pulled up to a 4-way stop on a quiet street and looked both directions."

"Glanced to my right and saw a car way down the road, didn’t look for more than a second and thought I was good, since he had to stop at his stop sign."

"I enter the intersection and look to my right again and the car is already at the intersection."

"He was going 55mph on a 25mph road."

"He was not stopping."

"Time slowed down as I realized 'oh he’s about to t-bone the side of my tiny pickup truck."

"So I look away from the window to keep my face safe from any potential flying shards of glass, I white-knuckle grip the wheel and just hope for the best."

"He flipped my truck, I rolled onto my side and nail a telephone pole with the top of my truck."

​"As I’m laying there on my side I’m feeling all over my body just expecting to be badly hurt and just in shock but amazingly, my worst injury is a scraped elbow."

"This was nearly 10 years ago and even today I drive like a grandma when it comes to intersections."

"I’ll wait an extra few seconds every time if I feel like a car is approaching too quickly."

"There have been times where a car is coming up quick and my heart rate will skyrocket because I think I’m about to get hit again."

"I have never trusted another driver ever since that day and being that defensive has never steered me wrong."

"On the bright side, the guy who hit me immediately called the police, then shoved his shirt through a crack in my door so I could cover myself while the cop broke the window and pulled me out."

"He broke several bones, admitted fault to the police the second they got there and personally apologized to my hysterical mother any myself multiple times."

"As sh*tty as I was that he hit me, at least he wasn’t a sh*tty person."

"I still took my SAT too, my hand was shaking from adrenaline the entire time."- HallucinatesOtters

Choosing to pull the plug

"Having to make the decision to take my mother off of a ventilator."

"Making the decision to end her life."

"I tell myself that it was the right thing to do."

"I have no doubt her quality of life would have been nonexistent."

"However, no amount of rationalizing can make me feel okay as a daughter."- dontonefingerme

Some horrible experiences are just a right of passage.

While others are experiences no one should ever have to go through.

Both are extremely difficult to recover from.

If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

Men Who've Gotten A Vasectomy Share Their Experiences

Reddit user GaleNotTheWind asked: 'Men of Reddit who have gotten a vasectomy, what was your experience?'

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According to the Cleveland Clinic, over 50 million men have had a vasectomy.

Although avoiding sexual intercourse is the only effective way to avoid pregnancy, the male birth control procedure still has a low failure rate.

Those who are apprehensive about having a vasectomy fear the following: pain, impact on sex life, effectiveness, and side effects like cancer. (The National Cancer Institute and the American Urological Association have found that the procedure does not increase the risk of prostate cancer).

To seek some reassurance, Redditor GaleNotTheWind asked:

"Men of Reddit who have gotten a vasectomy, what was your experience?"

Guys discuss what happened after the snipping.

Making Sure

"For the love of God, do the follow-up appointment. The last thing you want is to be accidentally playing with a loaded gun."

– sleepypanda59

Wise To Wait

"The paper work I got for mine which was done less than 2 weeks ago said that you could have sex 2-3 days after but... definitely said to wait another few days."

– SisterPhister666

Follow Post-Surgical Procedures Or Else

"Had it done twice while living in Japan no less. Why twice? The first one failed."

"... apparently, so did the second (says my now 6 year old daughter)."

– shoelessmarcelshell

These men found that the procedure itself wasn't a big deal.

Assurance

"I was super anxious, but I had a great procedure. I was more freaked out about the shot of numbing agent to the balls, but it was legit nothing to worry about."

– Reddit

Normal In No Time

"Little operation, blue balls and no wanking for a week, then back to normal but without getting anyone pregnant."

– Bright_Composer_3901

"Made the mistake of having a pop after a couple of days. Jesus, the regret."

– Alante

Best Money Ever Spent

"When I woke up after the anesthesia - yes I asked to be put under, best $55 (after insurance) I ever spent - the caffeine headache I had upon waking was the most painful part. The preoperative instructions were nothing but water the evening before, no water for 4 hours before going under. The Safeway brand cola that the angel aftercare nurse brought me was pure refreshment."

– HarrumphingDuck

Cherry On Top

"Local anesthesia stings for a second or two then all you can feel is tugging after all is done the pain I would describe is like blue balls for like 2 days tops. I took a week off work recommend by doctor since I’m a construction worker and the heavy lifting but I felt like after day 3 I was good to go. Cons: minor pain discomfort, no hanky panky until last semen sample came out clear. Pros: , no unplanned pregnancies(it’s still possible very rarely)."

– Secure_Requirement84

Some final thoughts.

Only Pros

"To me, the only bad part was the smell of the cauterization of my vas deferens.. the procedure was fine. Local anesthesia before and during just felt slight tugging no pain. Recovery was easy. No pain. No cons. Only pros. And if absolutely need be it’s reversible. Much easier and less invasive than a woman getting her tubes tied and significantly less harmful than birth control. I’m an advocate. Get it done!"

– PunchARacist

One Unsettling Thing

"For me, it wasn’t the smell but watching the little puffs of smoke during the cauterization. That was truly and deeply unsettling."

"Otherwise, yeah, nothing major to report. Stayed in bed for a day watching old horror movies and assembling a Lego plant. Pretty much business as usual after that."

– GuestCartographer

The One Constant

"Got a vasectomy, it worked. Got it reversed, that worked.... twice Got another vasectomy...17 years later, all good. Just go to a legit great Dr. I mean top of the field Dr. For ANY messsin around down there. Vasectomy is WAY easier now than 25-30 years ago. In/out in an hour... The only thing that hasn't changed? ... The bag of frozen peas ..😂"

– richwat00

Vasectomies are performed via two methods, the incision vasectomy or a no-scalpel vasectomy, and both use local anesthesia to numb the scrotum.

Always consult a healthcare provider before undergoing the procedure and–most importantly–make sure you don't want to have children or that you and your spouse don't want to add additional family members.

Based on the anecdotes above, there's nothing to fear, so feel free to man up and get to snipping.

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I've always enjoyed a good scare on film and my Mother indulged my preferences as she also loved a good horror film.

While we thoroughly enjoyed a good Disney movie together, I was also allowed to watch Jaws, The Exorcist and The Omen before I was 10 years old.

Slashers and sci-fi frights were good, but to me the most effective scares involved nightmarish scenarios that might easily happen in the not so distant future.

For me, growing up Roman Catholic meant demonic possession and the AntiChrist were on the list of plausible fears.

But what films offered possible Hellscapes for others?

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Still, 16% of married couples in the United States admitted to being unfaithful at some point in their marriage.

And 57% of divorces were due to cheating.

In marriages where infidelity occurs, but doesn't result in divorce, the loss of trust is still a problem. It can make emotional and physical intimacy challenging.

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When it comes to flirting, everyone has their preferences of how they like to be flirted with. Some people like cleverly crafted pickup lines.

I always thought pickup lines were a cheap way to get someone's attention. That being said, there are some good ones out there. I've been on the receiving end of both. "On a scale from one to America, how free are you tonight?" and, "You must be the square root of two because I feel irrational around you."

Both got me to engage in conversation, and I even dated the guy who used the first one for a while.

I'm not the only one that knows some good pickup lines. Redditors have both heard and used some pickup lines and are eager to share their favorites.

It all started when Redditor Sauce_Dealer420 asked:

"What's the best pickup line of all time?"

Read It And See

"You put the sexy in dyslexic."

– koookyko

"This made me laugh so hard."

"Because I can read properly."

– TappedIn2111

I'm Hooked

"This girl I used to work with and I went to a bar after work and we’re having fun, and she leans over to tell me a joke. And she says:"

"Three boy mice and a girl mouse were all stuck in a room with no doors and no windows. One of the boy mice asked the girl mouse how to get out and she said, “Sleep with me tonight, and I’ll tell you in the morning.""

"The next day, he is gone. The second boy mouse asks the girl mouse how he got out and she says, “Sleep with me tonight, and I’ll tell you in the morning.""

"Next day, he’s gone too."

"So now the girl telling me this joke says to me, “Do you want to know how the last mouse gets out of the box?”

"And I say “yes.""

"And she says, “Sleep with ME tonight, and I’ll tell you in the morning”. All this while staring me in the eyes and smiling."

"I said, “Check please bartender!!""

"I forgot to ask her in the morning, but that was the best pickup line I’ve ever heard."

– reb678

Statistics

"The odds we sleep together are 50% because half of us agree so far."

– AlfheimKitteh

"Math is always super sexy."

– Acceptable-News-6811

Money, Money, Money

"Hey girl, are you the English financial system? Because I'm about to give you a weak pound."

– onemanwolfpack21

"Yo girl, do you know exchange rates? Because Euro 10."

– kkirchhoff

Winner, Winner

""Are you a magician? Cuz every time I look at you, everyone else disappears.""

"This line got me a wife and three kids. 😊"

– PRSHZ

One Liners

"Are you a beaver? Cuz damn."

– Starry_Night-

"If you were a fruit you'd be a fineapple."

– Slainna

"Hi, do you want to go for a ride on a Harley?"

"(My name is Harley) 😁"

– OMNIxvTRIX

No Losers

"If I asked you for a date would the answer to that question be the same as the answer to this question?"

– SchemePale6222

"I got blue screen in my head."

"Explain please."

– TastyToothpasta

"You can't lose. Say no, the answer is yes. Say yes, the answer is also yes."

"Dang sounds kinda creepy writing it out like that. Still clever wordplay though."

– Steeze_Schralper6968

Clever

"My go-to was always:"

"I used to be a history teacher, so I know lots of important dates. Want to help me make another one?"

"A little corny, but it usually worked."

– StuffToday

Refreshing

"That one actually worked with my ex on the first try."

"-Hey, do you like water?"

"-Yes."

"-Then you like me in 70% already."

– azurskyy

Sneaky

"Would you date a complete stranger?"

"If she says “yes” you’re in."

If she says “no.”

“Then allow me to introduce myself.”"

– Blastspark01

Playing Coy

"Once a girl came to me and told there was somebody who thought I was cute."

"I asked her who and she said “Me.""

– evil_boy4life

Prop Lines

"You have to have a handful of limes available to do this:"

"Hold the limes, drop the limes in front of the lucky person. Then say 'Sorry, I'm not very good at pick up limes.'"

– cannibalcats

Egg-cellent

"Best one that worked for me was:"

"Me: How do you like your eggs?"

"Her: Over easy, why?"

"Me: Just making sure I have things right for when I make you breakfast in the morning."

– Radiant_Boss4342

The Best Line

"How you doin?"

– 2x4x93

"There was a time when this was the ONLY line you could use!"

– JohnsLong_Silver

That line would definitely work on me!