Life is FULL of contradictions. More times than not and just when you thought up was down it turns out right is left. It's all so confounding. One of the main points of life that leaves everyone confused is health. We're told so many different perspectives about "health" as a whole. But health is a larger story than we realized. And what we've been told may not be good for us, actually could be...
Redditor u/OverPerformance3146 wanted all of us to discuss what certain things, in hindsight, are best for your quality of life, by asking... What is something people think is very bad for you but is actually good for you?The sun is good for you. Did you know that? Yes if you sit in it too long it can cause cancer. That's what they told my grandma. And maybe she sat too long, but nobody ever discussed moderation. They just said, its the skin, so... cancer. But that was of the time in a way. The 90's.
Say Less You Got It GIF by LaLa MilanRest Easy
Not being busy. Not constantly "hustling" or trying to do it all. Not "living for the weekend." Down time can be a good thing.
Whenever I see people on social media posting weekly about how they "can't wait for the weekend", it always feels like they're just struggling to get through the week, but they're not addressing the cause, simply the symptom.
I'm not saying it should all be flowers and butterflies during the week, but when you start longing for the weekend on Tuesday, it probably means you need a big change in your professional life.
I understand that not everyone has the choice to just "switch jobs." That's not what I'm saying. It really is a case by case matter. I'm saying there are some people who could change their circumstances by formulating a plan and working at it, but decide not to. I'm not including people who absolutely don't have a choice, and have to keep that crappy job to feed their family and pay the bills. Two completely different worlds.
We all do it...
Failure.
This! I used to get punished for failure as a kid. Bad grades? Punished. Made any kind of mistake? Punished. This is a horrible way to raise a kid because instead of learning to try until you succeed, or ask for help when you can't succeed without it, they lie and cover up failure to avoid punishment.
The Pain
Feeling painful emotions instead of distracting yourself from them. Yeah, it's not good to face them all of the time, but ignoring them all of the time isn't really good either.
I've ignored them a lot cause the main reason I used to cry is cause my mom slapped me and after that she'd say if you cry then I'll slap you again so I kept suppressing my feelings and now I don't feel anything for more than a few seconds, not even happiness.
When I'm alone I'm just empty sometimes a get a few thought and I just keep running along with the few I have. i can't even feel motivated to do my homework i have to force myself to do it or use the few seconds of random motivation to pick up my books and force myself from there.
Tears
Monsters Inc Reaction GIF by filmeditorGiphyCrying, its very healthy and a natural reaction to emotions but people think it makes them weak and vulnerable.
See! Cry. Scream. We allow so much toxicity into our lives. And if you think it doesn't effect you, think again.
Think
Think Winnie The Pooh GIFGiphyGoing to the Psychologist. Fortunately, many people are starting to open their minds.
Back Up
Failure and rejection.
It's about getting back up and reassembling yourself by factoring in how to build up your strengths and identify areas of improvement.
I just pretend I'm an Autobot putting my arms and legs back on more securely.
I always got by...
Alone time. I've had countless times when i found myself alone and wanted to do so, it is perfect when you need to reflect on yourself and your life and find some answers.
I socially isolate myself without realizing it simply because I'm so contented being alone.
I'll often go a week or so without really talking to anyone outside of work, and I spend most weekends engrossed in my solitary hobbies. Have to remind myself constantly to keep in contact with friends and family, and since my family is entirely made up of introverts and I tend towards quiet friends, it's easy to go a while without interaction.
Sex!
Sex, and masturbation, you can avoid a lot of health issues (generally related to the genitals of course) by doing those. It also helps a lot with depression and anxiety as it releases a lot of endorphins and dopamine.
Edit :As u/Mollusc_Memes said :
As long as the sex is valid under the applicable consent laws, and the act of sex/masturbation doesn't corrupt you. If you become dependent on sex, and get very upset if it doesn't happen for a few days, then it's a problem. Alarming-Bread-3271
That's All...
Meryl Streep GIFGiphyOwning your mistakes. We don't create an environment conducive for it. At all.
Life is a gamble and a game. And we do our best to win. So play for stakes. And the healthiest way to win is to be HEALTHY! In ways we never paid attention to. Trust me. Just try, fail, cry and repeat. Then call me. Well... message me here.
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"What’s the wildest thing you’ve ever heard teacher say in class?"
And Anyone With Such Closed Minded Views Shouldn't Be Teaching...
"Had the Head of the Department in college claim in class that anyone who actually needs accommodations for mental health issues should not be in college to begin with."
"This was while we were discussing 'Death of a Salesman' and the discussion had veered over to unhealthy pressure and social standards for success."- RavensQueen502
Wait what?!
"My very well-respected Biology teacher in college spent almost an entire lecture telling us that Jamie Lee Curtis was a hermaphrodite."
"It seemed oddly personal to him."- Urbane_Cowboy
Sad On So Many Levels
"Not heard but my freshmen year high school teacher once pulled a bottle of Jack out of his desk and took a shot during class."
"He was dying so towards the end I think he just stopped caring."- Mangothefello
Can't Take The Heat, Then Stay Out Of The Classroom...
"High school science teacher told my class that a kilometre was longer than a mile."
"Refused to budge when refuted and kicked out several students for doing so."- SupersonicDebris13
"5th grade teacher: 'Mount Whitney in California is the tallest mountain in the world'."
"5th grade me blurts out: 'No it isn't, Mount Everest is."
"Whitney is not even the tallest mountain in the USA, which is Mount McKinley in Alaska'."
"I got in trouble for 'contradicting the teacher'."- gtmattz
get out GIFGiphyIt's Not Just Students Who Are Bullies...
"I had a teacher ridicule a fat kid about his lunch choices in front of the whole class."
"He ran out crying as she was making fat guy blimp gestures and telling him he was going to be huge as an adult."- SnooOwls5859
Some Dramatic License It Seems...
"I had a literature teacher who told the class that he didn't believe in dinosaurs, because the universe is only a couple thousand years old."
"The bones were put there by Satan."
"Thank f*ck he wasn't a science or history teacher."- AllBadAnswers
of montreal dancing GIF by Polyvinyl RecordsGiphyEveryone Deserves Nice Acomodations...
"My English teacher told us that he genuinely believes that the Rothchilds own a hotel for aliens in the Bermuda triangle."- TroyLear77
Well, Then...
"We had this kid in our 6th-grade class."
"Very dark skinned kid from Africa."
"His name was Tajak."
"Every now and then when we'd line up to go to another class or lunch and the lights would go out some of his friends would go 'where Tajak at?'"
"Anyway one day we had a sub and we we're lining up for lunch, the lights went out and there went the 'where Tajak at?' and the SUBSTITUTE TEACHER who was also black went 'Boy you darker than night'."
"6th grade was f*cking wild."- 11221mikew
Sad Premonitions
"Psych teacher in high school told us that 1 in 10 of the people were friends with in high school would be dead within 5 years of graduating."
"At the time I thought it was hyperbole, but it turns out he was being conservative."
"3 of the people in my high school friend group were dead by the time I was 22."- Reddit
Do They Really Need A Reason?
"'Now girls, don't you let them boys touch your breasts'."
"'It'll give you cancer'."- jondru
Maybe Should Have Checked With The Geography Teacher?
"A teacher in Elementary school claimed during history class that the Colosseum was in Greece, as an Italian kid I was very confused, this was in Mexico."- Spascucci
So Much For Instilling Hope...
"Didn't hear this personally, but read in a book about a guy who recalled his teacher skipping chapters in a textbook and saying 'You will not need to know this when you are down in the mines'."- futanari_kaisa
The mark of a good teacher is that students will take everything they hear from them with them for the rest of their lives.
Though, the less-than-wonderful teachers may also say things their students will never forget.
Redditor RedditPenguin02 wanted to make a list of the best inquiries to make when starting a relationship, so they asked:
"What is a good question to ask before you start dating someone?"
From what I've learned in my past, always ask... "Are you into Buffy the Vampire Slayer? The TV show."
If it's a no, then it's a dealbreaker.
I Do
Shocked Schitts Creek GIF by CBCGiphy"Are you married?"
wrenchmonkey135
"I would ask that. If they said no, the next question was 'Would your wife agree?'"
"If they laughed, they were telling the truth. If they got indignant and pissed off that I thought they were lying…they were married."
"Worked every time."
Squibit314
We Lived!
"Do you clap when the plane lands?"
dont_u_know
"I swear people used to do this all the time when I was a kid (early 2000’s), and I don’t think I’ve heard anyone do it in 5+ years. I guess 9/11 really made people afraid of flying for about 10 years and then most folks decided they didn’t need to applaud when the plane landed safely?"
jmims98
Family Planning
"Do you want kids in the future? If one person wants kids and the other wants to stay child-free, then they are not compatible. And it is better to try dating someone else."
GoodAlicia
"It confuses me whenever some couples who disagree on this end up in a conundrum because one expected the other to change their mind. This is something I bring up early cause I see no future with someone who wants kids when I do not."
GoodAlicia
"You should always put childfree on your dating profile. It's not a small thing. Either you agree on it or not. If I had to date, I would put childfree on my profile too."
GoodAlicia
Carb it on...
"Do you like bread? That is the extent of my flirting skills."
HumpieDouglas
"Being German, bread is like a frickin' cultural phenomenon here, we have around 300 kinds of bread, there's a bread museum, every time I go on vacation I'm like yeah it's nice here but the bread ain't it yall, never as good as home lol. So yeah, valid question and the only answer to this is an enthusiastic yes."
Nayeliq1
Room Temperature
Frosty The Snowman Winter GIF by filmeditorGiphy"What temperature do you set the thermostat to throughout the year?"
OneFingerIn
"Haha this one always gets me as someone who needs low temps - you can always put on more clothes, I can't peel my skin off to get cooler."
djdante
The thermostat is a dealbreaker for me.
It's gonna be 60. Love it or move on.
Discovery
Blown Away Wow GIF by AminéGiphy"When was the last time you changed your mind about something?
"Opens a window to how they think."
youcantkillanidea
"If that was really early on in the dating I’d think it was a bit of a head-f**k question. I’d probably find that question a red flag, tone dependent, although I agree with the sentiment."
LivestockMarc
Personal Time
"Aside from major differences about finances, kids, politics, or religion, a big one is; What are your hobbies? If they don’t really have any, you may be the next hobby, which isn’t going to work unless you’ve got that kind of time. If the hobbies are time-consuming ones generally done with a SO."
"But you have no interest in them, that could be an issue as well. If only one of you likes camping, wanted to spend vacation lounging instead of exploring, didn’t like sports, etc either that partner is annoyed or the other feels like they don’t get to enjoy what they love."
Githard
Past Issues
"Ask them about their exes. If they think every single one of them is an a**hole... they are likely the real a**hole."
CantTakeMeSeriously
"I have mixed feelings about that - I've been in three previous relationships and all three were emotionally abusive towards me (one wasn't nearly as bad as the other two, though) in various ways. I know this is a common sentiment and it always makes me afraid that people won't believe me or something.
"I mean, I realize in your comment you said 'likely' and not '100% sure' and there's plenty of room for nuance."
phiore
Values
"I would try to take care of any dealbreakers. If I find out that she has different political values than I do, it's not going to work out in the long run, so I wouldn't bother. Same thing with other factors (religion, financial values, etc.). I would also ask how much cuddling she likes to engage in, as I prefer a lot."
SkullKrusher9000
Essentials
Tell Me More To Do List GIF by Disney ChannelGiphy"When I was dating my three essential questions were always kids, sex, and money. If you're not on the same wavelength for any of those three things, just don't even try."
KhaosElement
TRUTH PLEASE!!
"So, how much personal debt do you have?"
"Source: the guy who dated a woman with huge debts and was asked to pay for everything and then some".
"After that, I'd go with, 'Have you ever been diagnosed with borderline, narcissistic, or histrionic personality disorders?"
extracensorypower
The questions are basic.
Just ask for the truth.
Do you have any good Qs to add to the queue? Let us know in the comments below.
