Some very odd, and sometimes quite harmful, things are romanticized and glorified by media and society. It can sometimes take a bit of thinking to realize how bad some of them are, since everyone grows up with them being shown in a good light.
Reddit user u/chickenflavoredsoda asked:
Hospitals. It’s not like in the movies where everyone comes to visit and bring you gifts. Especially for chronically ill people for who hospital stays are frequent, it can be absolutely traumatic.
For me, personally, it's codependency. I always had romanticized the idea that me and my partner would fully depend on each other for every emotional and physical need, and that we would and should be able to fulfill the other persons needs. Now that I'm married I realized that if my husband and I did that with each other we would have a gross and dangerous codependent marriage.
Toxic relationships and the bad boy ideology - "bad boys" may seem all cute on paper but no, you cannot fix them. It is up to the person to change and toxic relationships are a battle to make healthy. Only if the two parties are willing to sort it out then it can work out but there's nothing romantic about toxicity, it hurts and screws with your head
Workaholism, the grind, hustle culture. It's not for everybody, and it doesn't mean someone is a failure to not devote their life to making as much money as possible. What's the point of making money if you have no time of your own to enjoy it? I work about 55 hours a week, and I feel like I have no time at all to actually enjoy my life. I don't know how people who are constantly hustling do it.
If it's for you, cool. I'm not casting aspersions. Maybe that is how you get enjoyment out of life. That's awesome and in some ways I'm a bit envious. But it should not be some ideal or standard.
Controlling/abusive relationships. Twilight and 50 shades I'm looking at you.
Stalking o.o Nothing's sexy about a guy following you around or appearing randomly everywhere you go.
I totally agree. So many romantic comedies romanticize stalking and very abusive behavior.
Unnecessarily aggressive and certain spontaneous behavior, if someone throws a cup of coffee in someone else's face simply because they don't like the person, they aren't cool or badass, they're an *sshole
Pregnancy. It's scary, life threatening, hard, exhausting, and so many more things. I was so sick. I was sick even after delivering at 32 weeks because if I didn't she and I would have died from HELLP syndrome. Feeling her kick and wiggle was the only thing I liked about being pregnant. She's the greatest thing to ever happen to me but it was so hard and the NICU was terrifying in itself. So many people romanticize pregnancy when there isn't nothing pretty about it. The Maternal Mortality rate in this country is absolutely shameful but that seems to get over looked with most things when it comes to pregnancy.
Romeo & Juliet
What do you mean a story about a 16 year old falling in love with a 13 year old girl that ends with 6 people dead in 4 days isn't romantic?
Acts of charity that shouldn't be necessary.
Like a kid who saves up their lunch money to pay their best friends medical bills or something. Sure, it's admirable, but our response shouldn't be 'awww' it should be, 'why the frick is this necessary, why are we letting our governments fail us?'