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They say ignorance is bliss.

For example, finding out about a what a person enjoys in their spare time that isn't necessarily something you would find relatable could be enough to alter your perception of them.

Or discovering something about your current significant other's past that you strongly object to–even though it didn't happen while you were dating–can be enough for you to call it quits.

Sometimes, you wish you never knew about these things, but once the information is out there, you can't get the toothpaste back in the tube, you know?


Curious to hear examples of this, Redditor SoozlesNoodles asked:

"What do you regret finding out?"

There's a reason why some family history is better left in the past.

How I Left Your Mom

"I didn't meet my dad until i was 15. It was in secret since my mother wanted nothing to do with him. Within the first 3 sentences exchanged, he felt the need to tell me that i was conceived on a beach in July during the last time they had sex. I was the product a going-away f'k in a relationship doomed before my conception. He followed it up with 'We were good at two things, me and your mom. Fightin and f'kin. Unfortunately we were fighting more than we were f'king so it stopped being worth it.'"

"10 years later and this is still how i get my family history."

– Gilgamesh9311

Reason For Divorce

"My dad informed me when i got back from Iraq that I was the reason he and my mother got a divorce. I never really wanted to join the military anyways, and it f'ked me up big time. They had financial troubles and my mom sent me care packages quite a lot. Apparently, that put them into bankruptcy, and if I hadn't joined it wouldnt have happened. I just wanted to get out of that house because it was like I didnt exist."

– Pandaclops

Redditors share some dark truths about their families.

Cause Of Death

"My mother died in a car accident when I was three. I found out from a newspaper article years later that it was her fault. She wasn’t paying attention and crossed the yellow line and ended both her life and that of the person in the other car."

– anon

The Big Secret

"That my mother knew she had cancer a year before she told anyone or rather, a year before she was 'diagnosed' after I literally forced her to see a doctor for her then extremely distended stomach."

"I was under the impression that we told each other absolutely everything because up until that point, we did. I found out the truth a month after she died when I’d requested all of her cancer-related paperwork from her oncologist."

– RxQuine

Unhappy Mother

"Mom telling me on regular basis when depressed that she wishes she would fall asleep and never wake up. Don't tell a six year old this, damn."

– Cal-cu-later

These Redditors prefer not knowing about the kinky sides in the family.

50 Shades

"That my younger sister has a high rank in a local BDSM club..."

– _dmsyr_

The Pain Threshhold

"When I was about 14 my mom took me to a tattoo shop to get her nipples pierced. While the procedure was happening, she turned to me and said 'your Dad bites harder then that'.....I could have lived without that info"

– Aliciana2

Debaucherous Daddy

"That my father cheated on my mother on a regular basis... not a cool thing to learn when you're 15 and don't know if you're mother knows or not."

– anon

Gotta Love Reddit

"My brother's girlfriend's NSFW reddit account. It's supposed to be a couples account. So you might guess the horrors I saw in there."

– doorknob_knob

Splish Splash

"What my sister and her boyfriend were doing in the bubblebath."

– EliteHoney

I appreciate transparency in people but within context.

If someone has a disturbing history, I'd rather not know about it.

Do you feel the same way?