Things That Are An Instant Turn-Off For Some People

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We all have our preferences when it comes to the type of people we want to keep the company of.

When the people we're with do something undesirable or rude, they are an instant turn-off, and we lose all interest in continuing to hang out with that person.

I know for me that people who try to be funny by making rude jokes about others won't be in my life for long.

Redditors were all too eager to share their own opinions on what they think are instant turns-offs.


It all started when Redditor SnooRegrets8194 asked:

"What is an instant turn off for you?"

Clean Yourself Up!

"Poor hygiene."

– QuakerMoatsTFT

"Bad teeth as well"

"Edit: mouth hygiene."

– Dexios

Get Me A Mirror...Or A Filter!

"Being completely obsessed with physical image. Especially via social media."

– TheFastestHighwayman

"Idiot duck lips has entered the convo"

– Evening_Dress5743

Do Unto Others...

"Rudeness. Especially when the person is rude to people they think are beneath them."

– Honest_Art_3266

"Bruh. If I’m with someone and they harass a service worker. I get heated."

– MuppetsMadeMeMurder

Only Looking For One Thing

"Worst is you thought that person was nice and then after a few exchange of messages, here comes a subtle conversation about sex. Very disappointing."

– jentlemonster

"I hate when that happens. LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX NOW."

– MuppetsMadeMeMurder

Just Be Nice

"Making fun of your interests or hobbies"

– Illustrious-Swan-257

"Yes. If I can’t talk to you about the sh*t I’m passionate about, we ain’t working."

– MuppetsMadeMeMurder

Screen Time

"When she gets on her phone while we have a good time"

– Alexeleven_

"Dude my ex did this constantly. Every date we went in she'd be on her phone talking to her friends. I normally wouldn't have cared because friends are dope, but the texting got a fair bit. Well.. suspicious after I saw the way they spoke with her."

– ShortAndSad4381

The Past Is In The Past

"When they complain about their ex on the first date"

– poisonbuzz

Why Do Today...

"When men in relationships don’t do housework."

– tatonka645

"Lazyness in general is a turn off for me."

– Winterfukk

Table Manners Matter

"Anyone who chews with their mouth open."

– justfnbroken

"Hearing or seeing this makes me so angry I have to walk into the other room otherwise I literally get violent thoughts about the person and I’m not a violent individual lol I HAAAATE ppl who do this!"

– Cubaris_murina

Oh The Horror!

"Dated a girl once who was upset I read Harry Potter because it involves witchcraft. That’s a turn off. Actually still makes me mad thinking of it considering it wasn’t just a small argument. Glad that’s over."

– 3gnome

"Freaking muggles."

– PrivateVenue

You're Good, But I'm Better!

"One-uppers/people who don’t have a disconnect from talking about their wealth, job, or how much they make constantly."

– Redmondroses

"You There?"

"Someone that's overly into themselves. Their selfie as their screen saver. Constantly sending you selfies and talking about how attractive they are. Confidence is nice, but sometimes it comes off as self-obsessed.

Also someone that demands so much of my time when I barely know them. "Why aren't you answering??" Or sending message after message when I'm busy. Like damn, you don't got nothing to do but text me huh? I don't have time for that shit."

– apimpnamedlofty"

"11:01: We can go to the mall tonight yes?"

"11:03: OK FINE I GUESS YOU DONT WANT TO GO WITH ME!! I AM NOT YOUR REBOUND!!!!"

"11:30 I get out of my meeting and read the messages like whaaaaaaaat?"

– Both_Lifeguard_556

I See That


"Power outage"

– Swimming_Skin_5705

"I know an electrician that always turns me on… i’ll dm you his number"

– SnooRegrets8194

Time To Convert

"I hit it off with a girl I met online, super sweet, but hardcore catholic, wanted me to swap from pagan to catholic just to be with her. I never really cared about someone’s religion tbh."

– Roostersnuggets

It's All About Me

"people asking questions that they use to turn attention/ the conversation back to themselves"

– Eli_is_okay-ish

Yeah, that would be a turn-off for me too!

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