Happiness is one of those abstract and amorphous things that nobody can quite pinpoint, but everyone knows when they feel it.
It can be triggered by lots of things - a great meal, an old friend, your favorite episode of your favorite show...
Happy looks different for us all, but maybe that's whyReddit user MyForever_NameNow asked:
"What’s the happiest you’ve ever felt?"
The same situation might make one person miserable while making another elated ... so let's see where Reddit finds their joy.
"Once I was driving from Philly to Las Vegas. On one leg of the trip, I got a bit of a late start and I really wanted McDonalds breakfast (this was before they served it all day)."
"My clock said 10:22, and I was about 15 miles from the next exit, so I knew I would never make it. Then I crossed over a time zone and my clock changed."
"Not gonna lie, best story I've read in awhile. I'm now happy for you."
"It’s like the world willed you into having breakfast that morning , like the earth moved in order to give you what you needed … kind of epic"
- Avatorn01season 2 GIFGiphy
A Poetic Mishap
"This might be weird but I keep thinking back to this and how I will never have this experience again: I was 13, nerdy, loved to draw, grew up rural. My Grandma lived close to a big city."
"Went to visit her in the Summer and then went to an Japanese culture fest in said city. I was overwhelmed by the experience. Bought two super sweet Neon Genisis Evangelion artbooks."
"When I went back to Grandma's place by train, I missed the stop and got off one stop later. It was quite late already, but a warm summer night. Next train back would come in 2hrs. These two hours, alone during a summer night with two artbooks at a tiny, rural train stop surrounded by trees and absolutely nobody else around were pure bliss. A weird feeling of peaceful, 'liminal' joy that I can't properly explain. Different happiness than love, etc."
"I haven't really told this story to many people because I know nobody would truly understand the feeling, and that would kinda ruin my memory."
"That’s dope. Sometimes we forget to just stop and really enjoy the moment"
Endless Young Love
"I remember being in 8th grade watching a movie at my girlfriends house and we were giggling and commentating on the movie the whole time and just remember thinking I would marry her someday."
"I’m now 29 and we still giggle and commentate on every movie just like we did when we were kids, but that “young love” feeling is a very happy feeling for the first time, I’m just so lucky to still have those feelings 15+ years later"
"Ok, but seriously, my spouse and I are also several years into our honeymoon and it's quite nice."
- bjcm5891Happy Season 5 GIF by This Is UsGiphy
It Was A Good Day
"Trying to keep up with my dog and boyfriend as they ran along the beach chasing the dolphins that were in the water. I was laughing so hard I couldn’t breathe. It was a sunny March day so nobody up and down for miles, just us. The bright blue sky and glimmer coming off the ocean - the salty mist while the waves crashed and the cold ocean at our feet."
"God I haven’t ever felt so alive in my whole life. It was one of those moments where I wished I could have it burned into my memory. Like I could tuck it away and live in it forever."
"That was a good f*cking day."
"That’s so wholesome, it sounds like a scene right out of a movie"
"I feel happy reading this"
"Me and my crush were hanging out one time, and all I could say was. “I like you… a lot.” And she just smiled and said “Me too.” Has to be the happiest day of my life so far."
"I live near a popular district in Kansas City and I once bumped into a young man who'd just professed his love for someone, and he was so overjoyed I couldn't help but ask him what had happened."
"It made me really happy to see how happy he was."
"Same thing happened to me, she told me she liked me and it took me about 3 minutes to fully process what she had said and how to respond. I ended up saying "same bro". Well we're together now but that was a pretty stupid response."
" 'So far' I like your attitude"
- HomerpaintbucketCrush Flirting GIFGiphy
"5 years sober"
"Mad respect, I'm very proud of you internet stranger!"
"I'm right behind you with 4 years. Congrats Feels great to be me again"
That First Cry
"When my youngest was born, she really wanted out and my wife made it to the bathtub, and she came out with my help, she had the umbilical cord around her neck and I managed to get my finger under that and free her, that first cry made me so happy."
"She's eleven now and sitting on the couch right now eating chocolate and watching TV..."
"Kid's first cry was mine was well."
"Wow that's insane! Great job! When the umbilical cord wraps around the neck it's called a nucal. It can be pretty dangerous, especially in an emergency labor setting."
"I always thought I would never want to deliver a baby. And then we learned about emergency labor situations in the EMT course I took and I fell in love. Once again, great job! That must've been scary."
"I was taking a walk in December last year when everything around me in my personal life was hell. A feeling of calm washed over me, and I started to look at how beautiful the sky was. I was crystalline in that perfect moment, and cried a few happy tears."
"I realized that being "present" is the only way to truly live... The past and the future are illusions and robbers of life. Ever since then I am extremely committed to finding beauty in every day things. I frequently feel very happy now, because I never run out of things to marvel at."
"Dude I feel that. I lost my mom and several other family members in the last few years, went through a major breakup, had to move a bunch, plus all the COVID stress. I'm stressed a lot, mostly tired, but sometimes a moment washes over me and I'm just so grateful to be alive, looking at a sunset or a tree or the Christmas lights in my living room. Something about going through hell really makes you appreciate life."
"Grew up kind of poor, didn't go on my first vacation until I met the woman who'd become my wife. We went to Tennessee and got a cabin with a hot tub and some good muscadine wine."
"It was night time, gently thundering and raining, little bit of a mist coming in to the high rise porch we were on where the hot tub was, just relaxing, buzzing. To me it felt like the perfect setting, perfect feeling."
"Tied with that, she's the first person I saw the ocean with. Took over 6 hours to drive there, we unpacked, walked out to the ocean about knee deep, holding hands. The sound of the waves and the seagulls. The look of happiness on her face as she stared out."
"My ex, who loves frogs to death, asked me to go frogging with her early unto our relationship, not to kill them, just to catch and identify them. Its one of my happiest memories and without a doubt the most attracted I've ever been to someone."
"Its actually when I started to realize how strong and how smart of a person she was which combined with everything else made be fall head over heels."
"Thats awesome man. I'd be happy to have had a unique experience like that too. No dinner and a movie, Frogging!"
- EmseMCEhomer simpson frogs GIFGiphy
Y'all ... that got unexpectedly emotional, didn't it?
Turns out that for most of us, the thing that makes us happiest is one another.
Humans are adorable sometimes.
Narcissism is never a particularly attractive quality.
Which is rather ironic, considering narcissists believe they are simply the be all and end all, that everyone wants them or wants to be them.
Yet spending extended periods of time with people who are so egregiously obsessed with themselves can be simply exhausting, as they frequently find a way of veering the conversation back to themselves.
Making it all the more tempting to give them a taste of their own medicine, and find a way to annoy them.
Redditor RockyCasino was curious to hear people's favorite ways to annoy or anger narcissists, leading them to ask:
"How do you get under a narcissist's skin?"
A Bit Underwhelming, No?
"Grey rock technique."
"I don’t know if it was specifically designed to deal with narcissistic people, but it works wonders on people with NPD or just narcissistic traits."
"If they say 'I just won an award that’s only given to a handful of people. I really don’t work that hard (fishing for compliment) though, teehee!'"
"You just say 'that’s cool' and nothing more."
"They’ll try another line or two, so you may have to repeat the process."- False-Guess
Ignorance Is TRULY Bliss
"Don't try to."
"Just ignore them."- Envy_The_King
"Ignore them."- mimijane73ron swanson spinning GIFGiphy
Seriously, Just Ignore Them!
"Give them zero attention."
"That will drive them insane."- sigmindm
"My father is a narcissist."
"Ignoring them will almost certainly get under their skin and even make them angry."- handsomejack191
"Go no contact."
"It's the only way."- Motor-Beach-4564Go Away Reaction GIFGiphy
"Start communicating with the other people they manipulate."
"Narcissists will often pit people against each other."
"They like to keep the people they lie to separated so they don't communicate with one another and possibly figure out they're being manipulate."
"When you start communicating with them independently, it takes away the narcissists feeling of power and control."
Don't Take The Bait!
" think my mom's one."
"She LOVES pushing people's buttons til they snap at her, then acting like she's been wronged."
"But it totally enrages her if you don't engage her baiting game."- Altruistic_Proof_272
Take Your Pick...
"Things that worked for me were ignoring them, being very unemotional, not reacting to their contrived insults, limiting eye contact and keeping interactions very short."- Nice_Feeling4398
Move On, And Don't Look Back
"When you live a really happy life and forget about them."
"Like genuinely, take the time, heal from the trauma, block them from all social media, they will lash out, so it's best to establish distance before moving on."- MinghaolegsLeaving James Harden GIF by Farmers Insurance ®Giphy
Indeed, for people who thrive off of being the center of attention, nothing could possibly annoy them more than being ignored.
Unless, perhaps, everyone devotes their attention to someone else in plain sight of them...
With more and more unfortunate stories about misconduct in the news, there is an understandably low opinion of police officers in the United States.
Though we should always remember that the corrupt or ill-suited cops we read about in the news do not represent all police officers.
For law enforcement is by all means necessary, and can be an extremely taxing job, both physically and emotionally.
With many police officers coming in contact with people who have gone through experiences no one deserves to go through.
Redditor Fish_f*cker12300 was curious to hear some of the most unfortunate things police officers have been told by convicts they've come in contact with, leading them to ask:
"Cops of Reddit what is the saddest thing a criminal has said?"
Cold Comfort At It's Worst
"I nicked a guy for attempted murder once."
"I had met him before a few times, usually when he was a suspect."
"He just said 'even now, you're still the closest thing I've got to a proper friend'."- ConsTisi
They Learn At A Young Age, For Better Or Worse
"Work security in a town's retail supermarket."
"Watched the local drug dealer force his son of about 8 to shoplift some pastries."
"Nothing about this boy would have made him stand out as this man's son, just an ordinary looking kid but his father wanted to make him into a man by teaching him how to steal."
"Four years later and this boy is clearly his fathers son."- Seoirse82
Their Fate Is Already In the Cards
"Speaking to a juvenile in the cells with a butt load of warrants for stealing cars and armed robberies."
"Told me the only way he could get toys is if he stole them, and his parents would never help him with his homework but showed him what to say to get free McDonald's and how to avoid getting caught shop lifting."
"Some kids have no hope and are just going to end up in the system."- Terror_Tanuki
Some Rob Out Of Necessity
"A lot of stores were looted, and people were walking off with multiple TVs, appliances etc."
"Some citizen journalist was out on the streets, stopping looters, and interviewing them."
"It's winter, it's dark, and suddenly this little kid appears, holding a single bag."
"Couldn't have been more than 8."
"The citizen journalist stops him, and demands to see what's in the bag."
"He opens it up."
"One pair of pants."
"One pair of shoes."
"A three pack of underwear."
"This little kid had followed a group of adults into a chaotic situation and taken what he needed, and only what he needed."
"I can't watch the clip without sobbing."
"The interviewer sent the kid off with his little bag of one single, looted outfit."
"The final shot is of this tiny little thing, walking into the darkness, barefoot and alone."
"It was absolutely heartbreaking."- GCB78
Victims Of Circumstance
"Afghan in 2011-2012."
"Was on patrol pretty much doing cop work sometimes."
"We’d go door to door or compound to compound and our Lieutenant would talk to locals with our translator."
"During one of the meetings I was inside working as a sort of guard for my Lt."
"The guy he was talking to came up positive for gun trace residue and was a confirmed Taliban in the eye scanner thing we had."
"When my Lt questioned him before we detained him, he told my Lt that he didn’t want to fight us, but if he didn’t the Taliban would kill his family."
"I was 18-19 and my Lt was 24-25, now I’m 29 and I realize that war was all f*cked."- surf0302
Desperate To Change Their Circumstance
"I worked in a day program and a prevocational program."
"My clients came from institutions and were doing program as part of their conditions of release."
"One of my groups ran a hotdogs cart and they profit shared, after cart expenses."
"They made very little, they were on assistance so it wasn't an income supplement it was more of a perk."
"Anyways I had this one woman, she had been a sex worker since she 12, she was in her 40s."
"Her first week was a nightmare."
"She was late."
"Struggled to cut the onions."
"But she showed up each day late, frantic and crying to not be fired."
"She worked for 1 hour each day."
"The following week when she came to pick up her pay, a whole whopping $11.50, she burst into tears."
"I thought it was because it was it was so little money."
"She acted as if I had given her a thousand dollars and an Oscar."
"She clutched the little envelope and cried."
"She said 'it's the first money I ever made not on my back'."
"'Never thought I could'."
"We hugged she skipped off happily."
"Then I sobbed in the bathroom for 5 minutes."- MoxieAndSass
A Warning For Others...
"Sex worker asked if I had a daughter & likely could tell by my face that I did before I could answer."
"Tell her she's two bad choices away."- jjreason
Day in and day out, cops and others working in criminal justice are forced to come face to face with the fact that not everyone is dealt an equal hand in life.
And learn that some people break the law, not for self-gain, but because they truly and utterly feel that they have no other choice.
Making the need for programs to help them find a better path forward all the more important.
The term "fan" is believed to be derived from "fanatic" or "fanatical.
Meaning "a person filled with excessive and single-minded zeal".
Indeed, some fans simply can't hide their excitement for their favorite franchises, sports teams, recording artists, or political figures, no matter how hard they try.
Resulting in the birth of such monikers as "Trekkies", "Beliebers", or "Cumberb*tches."
And while these passionate, some might say obsessive, fan bases often find compatriots at conventions, premieres and meet-ups, those unfamiliar with the apples of their respective eyes might be confused by their level of fandom, if not down right annoyed.
"What is the most annoying fan base?"
"This will probably get buried, but back in 2012-2015 I was in the Creepypasta Fandom."
"The people in that Fandom were psychotic, it was crazy."- ElenoaL
"Serial killer fans."- xcxaxsxpxexr
Bring On The Clap-Backs...
"The fanbase of Rupauls Drag Race is pretty notorious for sending death threats to the hard working talented people they’re supposed to be a fan of."- rubenblomRupauls Drag Race Reaction GIFGiphy
All Of Them. Literally, ALL OF THEM!
"Any fan base if you go deep enough."
"Just go to one of those subs for a small Netflix show you’ve binged in a day."- qwerty12qwerty
"Evil Is Out There"... It's The Fans!
"Coming from a genuine fan of the show, I think that the Supernatural fanbase needs to pipe the f*ck down."- AaryanKearns
My Favorite Group Is Better Than Yours!!!
"Kpop fans who take things a bit too far."
"I had friends who'd have fights over who is 'worthy' to be called the wife of one of the kpop idols, no they weren't joking."- CaprisalK Pop Reaction GIFGiphy
Hence The State Of American Politics...
"Politicians' fan base."- NikinhoRobo
It's A Hedgehog Guys...
"Sonic fans are always a gamble."
"They can be so god damn wholesome and nice but then you got the f*cking weirdos."
"I don’t mean the kids who make fan characters."
"I personally don’t know why they are hated I find it to be wholesome seeing kids make art based of their interests."
"Im talking about the people who rage over any criticism towards the games, comics, developers, etc."- CaptainCringeOng
You Know They've Gone Too Far When They Name Themselves...
"I'm put off by any fanbase that has a collective name."
"'The B-Hive' and so forth."
"In almost every case it feels really forced."
"Football (soccer) Twitter is full of d*ckheads too.'
'The further away from the team's home ground they live, the worse they get.'Euro 2016 England GIF by SporzaGiphy
"Playstation VS Xbox ."
'iPhone vs Android."
"Those people."- L33HDX
There's nothing wrong being a fan of someone or something, no matter how fanatical you get.
Though it would be in everyone's best interest to learn how to temper those feelings around others, as not everyone will share your passionate feelings.
Just ask any Yankees fan who's dared to wear their team's cap in Boston...
Usually when we meet someone for the first time whether at a social function, at work, or randomly in public, we generally have a good Spidey sense about the type of person they are.
Even with alcohol in the mix, our instincts can be dulled but we still continue engaging with someone who seems outgoing and friendly enough at the bar.
But we also have the ability to tell right away if that person doesn't have good intentions.
Curious to hear of possible identifiers signaling that someone is suspicious, Redditor PsychologicalPop8776 asked:
"What is a subtle sign someone isn’t a good person?"
These familiar types of behavior really shows a person's true colors.
It Works Both Ways
"They believe that respect is earned but demand it immediately from you."
Prelude To A Diss
"Or, conversely, when they love to constantly say 'With all due respect' right before they disrespect someone."
A World Of Their Own
"Someone who is incapable of reflecting. They are the centre of their own universe. They are unable to grasp the big picture or how they fit within it. Everyone has a place in the larger picture, which is their small view of the world."
"They share private information about others with you."
"Casual unnecessary lying."
Saying "sorry" is too much for some people to say.
Passing On Responsibility
"Not owning up to their mistakes and always attributing it to someone or something else."
"My mom's famous line when caught doing something wrong 'Well, I didn't know' instead of 'I'm sorry.'"
"Obligatory posting of The Narcissist's Prayer:"
'That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it.'
Sometimes, it's the visible signals that indicate what kind of person someone is.
"Littering. It's not a violent act or anything, but it does indicate a lack of respect that usually carries into other aspects of the person's life."
"Yes. Watched a guy stick his gum on the underside of the bar and instantly knew we wouldn’t be going on another date."
Parking Lot Protocol
"Yes, kinda along the same lines of people who don’t return their grocery cart. That lack of respect."
Communicating With Drivers
"I feel the same way about a number of things people do when driving, specifically using your turn signal. The use of your signal lets other drivers (and sometimes pedestrians) know your intent - allowing them to better anticipate your actions. Not using it indicates you are only thinking about yourself...which is probably how you live the rest of your life."
I was in a packed movie theater once when I saw a woman sitting by herself. She wasn't waiting on anyone but she still saved a seat on either side of her.
When a couple entered her row, one of them politely asked if it would be cool if the woman moved down one seat so she could sit together with her boyfriend.
The woman said, "No" and stayed in her seat. I could hear a chorus of snickers from other audience members witnessing this.
Shocked, the girlfriend said, "Really? You're a horrible person."
Yeah, sounds about right.
Throughout the entire movie, the couple–who wound up flanking the woman on either side of her in their respective seats–kept passing the popcorn bucket to each other right in front of the woman.
In addition to the movie, this was a satisfying plot line to watch.