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People Describe The One Thing That Always Makes Them Think 'That Person Has No Manners'

People Describe The One Thing That Always Makes Them Think 'That Person Has No Manners'
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Rudeness is often based in a complete lack of awareness. That is no excuse. Rather, the ability to be so oblivious about the motivations and needs of other people is a fundamental character flaw.


A rude act based on that tendency is merely the tip of an uglier iceberg.

A recent Reddit thread offered solace to the legions of people out there that were forced to bite their tongue when they witnessed someone behave unconsciously and at the expense of someone else.

The thread served as a gathering place for pent up anger that, all at once, had the chance to explode.

And the thread also may leave you wondering how you might be more conscientious and remember your manners when the circumstances leave mindfulness harder to come by.

Fonzie1225 asked,

"What is one thing that instantly makes you think 'this person has no manners?' "

Proudly Excluding 

"Inviting everyone in the friend group to an event and excluding just one friend then proceeding to talk about how much fun they're going to have at said event in front of the person that was purposely excluded, in front of everybody."

"Happened today and thought it was pretty rude."

-- TDiddy_

Unfettered Rascals

"Parents who let their children run rampant anywhere. I've seen parents watch as their kid pops their fingers through every package of meat at the grocery store and do nothing...."

"Parents who let their kids kick a strangers shoe or other belongings."

"Letting the kids spit on windows and rub it with their hands. Letting them run around the store, playing with anything and everything and leaving a mess for others to clean and the parents literally just ignore it!!!"

"I never understood that. They really are your obligation, not the store associate who's unlucky enough to be working the shift you happen to stroll in during."

"Be a parent!!! Bad kids can turn into shi**y people."

-- Maliagirl1314

A Captive Audience

"Blasting music on the bus, absolute tw*ts" -- BigBadKYDO

"Yeah absolutely, I hate those kind of people, no one wants to listen to your shi**y music especially on a bus on the way to work or something" -- Orenge01

"People who bring their speakers with them on hikes and blast them out loud for every animal and people on the trail to hear...-_-." -- banhsauce

Grocery Store Faux Pas

"Standing in the middle of the aisle at a grocery store. Not returning the cart." -- bigboywords

"When grocery shoppers leave their carts in the middle of the aisle instead of pulling over." -- Sobemiki

"The grocery store is a cesspool for inconsiderate people. Idk why this brings out the worst in humans."

"People who leave their cart in the middle of the parking lot, people who dead stop to turn around without looking and crash into someone else's cart, people who exit an isle into the main isle without stopping and crash into someone else's cart..."

"...people who spend an absurd amount of time looking at a particular meat section so everyone else has to wait, people who bring an entire cart full of food to the express lane, people who park in the middle of the driving lane and block traffic because the close spots are taken up."

"I could go on all day about how much I hate grocery shopping lol." -- Dopekick

Obstructions 

"When they walk into an elevator before you have a chance to get off. Same w buses and subways." -- guyuteharpua

"Some girl did this in a building I was in once and I said 'You know it's polite to wait for people to get off before you barge on' and she just screams 'I know!' " -- jessflyc

"You would absolutely love Japan. I have never seen such considerate people when it comes to mass transportation." -- Castianna

Free Transportation

"When you offer your time and money to drive someone and they don't thank you for the ride." -- mishmash_iam_trash

"When you give someone a ride and they leave their empty soda can or coffee cup in your cupholder." -- kindcrow

"When you give someone a ride and they complain about it" -- danure

One Man's Trash is Another's Fury

"Littering" -- Regularjay69

"People who leave their litter and uneaten food all over fast food restaurant tables, and the floor area." -- ofbalance

"Hung out with a co-worker once and he threw all his garbage out the window of his car onto the street. Never hung out with him again." -- OmManiPadmeHuumm

Taking Service for Granted

"Being an a**hole to the waiter or waitress." -- lhuthien

"Yelling at retail workers. Most recently about wearing masks or putting hand sanitizer on. It takes little to no effort and people lose their minds over it" -- Klaus369

"Not saying "Thank You" to stuff like someone holding a door open for them or a waiter/waitress refilling their drink" -- Profanity_TX

"People who click their fingers at waiting or bar staff" -- GinAndBareIt92

PIPE DOWN

"Talking over people. If someone is talking stfu and listen, when they're finished you can tell your shi**y story, not halfway through someone else's." -- Its-my-d*ck-in-a-box

"Interrupting mid sentence. I know I'm guilty at times, it makes me feel like trash" -- HypnotizedMeg

"Speaking over others" -- jjstgo

Real Time Rudeness

"It's currently 10pm and my parents have decided that watching a movie at max volume with their sound bar seemingly set to max bass is an ok thing to do, in an apartment that has two families on either side one of which has a one year old"

"So I'd say that"

-- Shinichi-Migi

Things People Secretly Love But Would Never Admit To In Public

Reddit user sweet_chick283 asked: 'What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?;

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What makes us all unique is our passions and the things we love, whether it's singing in the shower, reading books, or listening to specific music artists.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where we are judged for our various tastes and interests thanks to social media, and it makes us consciously selective about sharing the things we love on the internet.

Curious to hear about people's personal desires under anonymity, Redditor sweet_chick283 asked:

"What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?"

These aren't really chores for the following Redditors.

Good Clean Fun

"Mopping, im a janitor and generally hate my work... but damn mopping is so good."

– MrDDog06

"When you have a great rhythm going it is something special. I get the same feeling while I vacuum, but won’t let my wife know I enjoy it."

– Bogus_34

Act Of Unwrinkling

"Ironing clothes. A dozen of them. Can’t explain how it relaxes me. I told one person and they looked at me like I’m crazy."

– eerie_white_glow

"My mum misses the days when dad would be out on a Friday night, my brother out with friends and me upstairs quietly playing PS1. She would pour herself a Bacardi & Coke and do the ironing while watching her TV shows."

"I'm sure she doesn't really miss it now that we've moved out and they've retired but it was her wind-down after a busy working week so I can see how people can find it relaxing."

– xdq

Our solo actions can spark joy.

Big Brother Is Watching

"pretending to be on the Truman show and whenever im in my house i act all inconspicuous so they dont know that i know that they’re watching me."

– Bec_121

"C’mon man, you’re not supposed to let him know. You signed a contract when signing up for live views. I’m reporting you."

– doeswaspsmakehoney

The Multi-Tasker

"Playing video games naked at home while eating cheese."

– thickening_agent

Releasing The Kraken

"I love the feeling when you've eaten good fibre and let out a solid long train log in the toilet. That feeling is heavenly."

– therapoootic

"Even better when it’s a clean wipe and not a poo crayon."

– TheWarmestHugz

Ultimate Comfort

"My (male 41) weekend routine is coming home from work, make hot chocolate, start a fire, dress in a ugly pink nightgown made for old ladies and watch forensic files."

– crazyloomis

Some people are obsessed with collecting things.

So Kawai

"Sanrio stationery stores. All those different multicolor pens, a thousand kinds of erasers, spiral bound notebooks galore... my kids sadly have absolutely no appreciation for this wonderland..."

– HavingNotAttained

It's A Staple

"Office supplies have a weird, special place in my heart ever since I was a kid. They don't even have to be 'cute' necessarily."

"Japan's legendary stationery stores is unironically a reason I want to go."

– _CozyLavender_

Not Caring Anymore

"The older I get the shorter that list gets. Not because I love less things, but because I don't care about hiding it."

– Bi-Beast

"YES!! I'm 53 now. I'm working my first job in public since 2006. Today is Halloween and we're allowed to dress up so I am sitting here waiting to go to work dressed as a VERY bad Wednesday Addams. My bf said I'd 'look stupid' because no one else will probably dress up and I'm like, 'WHO CARES!' My makeup looks horrible and not like I practiced, but I DO NOT CARE! I'm having fun with it anyhow and I don't care if my coworkers dress up or not. I'm bein' ME! :)"

– deanie1970

Honorable mentions start here.

The Savior

"Picking up worms from the street and sidewalks when it rains and moving them into the dirt so they don’t burn in the sun, every time it rains I do this."

– sky_kitten89

Hero Of The Moment

"Yoooo I scoot SO many snails and worms. I work as a tech/mechanic at an automotive shop, I had a peoject car towed to my house the other day and it was covered in snails. I saw them when the tow guy/coworker was unloading and I was like, 'oh! It comes with free snails!' and began moving them. He laughed then realized and said, '... Oh, you're serious. Uh... Okay.'"

"I don't care who knows it. These little things barely can look out for themselves, why shouldn't we if we can take a moment to help? I don't care what happens next, it probably doesn't matter overall but I can help this moment."

– chris14020

Why should some of the hidden desires mentioned above have to be secret?

Redditors opening up about some of these would make them a hit at parties–no shaming.

As a matter of fact, I'll totally be down for a Forensic Files viewing party where we all make hot chocolate, light the fireplace, and cozy up together in our respective pink ugly nightgowns for old ladies.

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We've probably all heard some variation of the saying "Truth is stranger than fiction."

Real life isn't just strange, it can also be downright ridiculous.

History is riddled with moments of absurdity.

So ridiculous that people have a hard time believing real life is, well, really real.

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