Dating apps can be the bane of single people.
Anyone with a phone can download a dating app like Tinder. That means, you have users of all ages mixed together and looking for love. And it's very easy and common to lie about your age, appearance, and basically who you truly are. This can be dangerous for teachers who have relationship seeking students in their area.
Redditor u/Dracula_in_Auschwitz asked for stories from teachers who matched with one of their students on Tinder and teachers shared all of the awkward stories.
10. A date is not worth a job
"I unmatched with them as soon as I realized who it was . We still had a month left in the semester , and she never brought it up . I teach in higher ed ., so it's 'legal', but definitely not worth the headaches and professional fallout it could potentially cause."
9. No drama please
Giphy"I matched with one of my online professors last semester. He has a unique name and once I realized who he was I unmatched. Even if it's legal... and at our ages, it would be. It's still a small town and I didn't want to bring the drama on us."
8. That intern has nerve
"I once drunk splurged on Tinder Gold (or whatever it's called) and noticed my CURRENT intern had swiped right on me.
Yeah, I had to ignore that one for a while. All the while keeping that secret for the rest of semester."
7. Anything could go back in the day
We had a HS teacher, an older, way older male who taught math, have an affair with a female student. She was a senior that turned 18 at the end of the school year but they had been together over a year. He and his wife divorced, and he married the 18 year old. He was allowed to keep teaching and when she graduated college she was hired as a teacher in the same school in his department. Of course this was in the late 1970's and I graduated in 1982, but I had them both as teachers."
6. The match turned into a lesson
"Not me, but one of the teachers at the high school I work at matched with one of his students on Grindr. The kid was 16. Teacher came and told us (the school counselors), and we had to sit the kid down and have a conversation about the dangers of lying about his age to have random hookups with older men. He said he had been doing it a while and appreciated that we were concerned about him. He said he did not plan on stopping, but he was obviously not trying to hook up with anyone from the school."
5. This might work out
"I went on a date a couple weeks ago with a former student. I was an adjunct prof and she was in my class. I thought she was cute and I had a suspicion she was queer too but obviously wasn't going to do anything while I was teaching. When she came Up on tinder (I'm no longer teaching university) I swiped right and we matched.
She is only a couple years younger than me though and the class was a couple years ago. We're hopefully going out again soon and we'll see what happens?"
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"Not in Tinder, but I downloaded Grindr and setup an account. When I first activated it, I didn't have any age restrictions set up. All of a sudden, I see one of my students.
I teach middle school. He was in 8th grade.
I called the principal and counselor and made them deal with it. I'm all for keeping kids safe but he was lying about his age (probably could pass for an 18 year old twink) and some moron would have (or probably had) slept with him. Don't want to come out to your parents? TOO BAD. Don't advertise your 14 year old body on a dating app."
3. They matched at the right time
"I teach University. A year or so after the end of the class she took under me she pops up and laughed. I thought there'd be no way she yes'd me so I swiped right for giggles. Instant match. I couldn't believe it. Turns out she wanted to hook up the whole time but didn't want to open that can of worms. So we went on a date."
2. Maybe someday it can work out
Giphy"As a grad student, I work as a TA at my university and because I teach for upper-level courses my students are pretty close in age (2-4 years typically). I usually try to just swipe left by default on all current and past students, but one made it through. She was an old student of mine, probably by about one year. I got the notification, thought about it for a bit, and unmatched.
I felt bad about just unmatching without saying anything, so I messaged her on Instagram and just said that I couldn't because she was my old student and we ended up talking for a bit... I looked it up in the university policy, and there was nothing I could find to stop us. So if she does ever ask me out I will instantly say yes, but I highly doubt it will ever happen."
1. This might be a teacher's worst nightmare
"In my district, one of the teachers revealed to his students that he was on tinder. The students made up a profile, cat-fished him, and made him believe he was talking to another adult. Then he sent them pics which they showed to everyone. Technically, the teacher did nothing wrong because he thought he was communicating with another adult. He is still teaching but I'm not sure how that works when all of your students have seen your manhood."
Redditor KnownNormie wanted to hear about the times when people went looking for a job, and then went running away because of a few hints that things maybe a little "off the rails," while in the interview process, so they asked:
"What’s the biggest red flag during an employment interview?"
I was once in an interview and the manager cried due to the understaffing.
I didn't even leave a tissue as I ran away.
May the Odds...
"30 people in the lobby, 'Some of you will be lucky enough to be chosen.'"
gobigred3562
Hunger Games Student GIFGiphyLet's Talk
"An employee offered to walk me out of the building after my interview and took the opportunity to basically warn me (in not so many words) about what the job really entailed. He was super-friendly and diplomatic, just like he was making small-talk, shooting the sh*t with me, then 'did they mention you’d get to do X?'"
"'Because if you’ve got your heart set on that, you might be disappointed with the reality of the role,' that kinda thing. Especially when he heard I was fresh out of college and would have had to move country for the job."
"Basically the job ad was complete BS, and he was making sure I knew. I will be forever grateful to people like him."
ididitforcheese
Evaluations
"When I mentioned a company's dismal Glassdoor evaluations, they became so enraged that they ended the interview. Well. I suppose I escaped that danger."
Even_Beginndsasws
"On the other hand -- I've had some good luck bringing up a company's positive Glassdoor and Indeed reviews when the scores are considerably higher than expected. It's exceptionally rare for companies to post above a 4.0 without serious vote manipulation."
"And I've run across some companies with 4.8/5 and higher. Asking how the company managed to end up with such a high employee satisfaction score gets them talking about what people like about working there, and you can easily tell if they're bullshi**ing you."
Chastain86
History Lessons
"Not being clear about why the position opened."
Earth-Rat
"Sometimes it really is a liability to discuss. I knew a guy that was fired for embezzling, in the aftermath the company really couldn't discuss it. It is very annoying to be silent on something, but it is necessary from time to time."
snowgorilla13
I conduct job interviews as part of my job. This is something that I cannot reveal to prospects due to confidentiality; two of the last three people I hired were hired to replace others who had been fired."
BobBelcher2021
Hey Lisa
"Being a nanny you get some bizarre ones. It’s not HR or a business owner. It’s Lisa the 27-year-old first-time mother. Who hasn’t done anything in her life. The biggest red flag was probably when she asked if I’d be interested in inducing lactation to nurse her baby."
Onlyfansnanny
Home Video Baby GIF by Apple TV+GiphyI don't know how anyone likes to babysit.
Kids are stressful to care for. Then you add parents. Oof.
TMI... thank you
"My recent interview with what I thought would be a dream job went like this:"
"'You know you're the 6th person we've tried to make this position work for and we're starting to think it's us.'"
Seedinthethorns
Seth Meyers Lol GIF by Late Night with Seth MeyersGiphyDownhill
"Group interviews are a giant red flag. I remember being recruited for a 'sales job' selling textbooks door to door and having to go to whatever state they sent you to in the summer. At first, they had 20 of us meet in a local Mexican restaurant and then when I had my one on one in college hall or somewhere, it went downhill."
JuniorsEyes90
Where's the Fun?
"The office has a break room with games, pool table, etc, that looks like no one has touched it in months."
WorriedlyFretful
"Funny thing is I work for a small family own company, we have a Ping pong table but it's because the family is obsessed with it. like they play each other at lunch or will stay after work to play a round. it's all in good fun and you better believe most days at 5pm sharp there is a mad dash to get the hell out of there by everyone."
glucoseintolerant
I See You
"I've posted on this before, but one I don't see mentioned a lot is the eyes of the interviewers. I'm not talking about do they seem shifty or whatever, I mean, do the people you're talking to seem chill and well-rested? Or are their eyes bloodshot, dark circles under them, and they seem exhausted?"
"It's harder to tell in a Zoom interview, but you can look for it once you start to notice it. I've said no to companies based on this alone. If everyone in a company looks tired, it's because they are stressed out and/or working extra hours all the time."
"Big red flag."
jseego
Not even a DVD?
"In 2017 I interviewed to teach at a small community college. It was a day-long affair and they showed me a video on the history of the school. The video was on VHS. Did I say it was in 2017?"
discostud1515
Animated GIFGiphyWhen interviewing for a job... always follow your gut.
If it says run... RUN!!
