Marriage we think it's time to end that thing.
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1. He got gamed
We expedited the marriage b/c she was prego, and I loved her already, so wasn't concerned about it. I was working crazy hours so she could stay home with the baby, and our schedule started shifting so we didn't spend as much time together. She had postpartum, and started playing online role playing games all night, and met a guy who didn't work, and lived off of his mother, so he had all the time to talk to her. Long story short, she kissed our daughter, gave her to me, and ran off with him.
Fast forward over a decade, and we're fine as friends now, and my daughter is cuddled up beside me as I type this, playing on her tablet. The karma is time and lifestyle haven't been kind to her, and our daughter would rather be with me, and trust me more.
2. My ex was previously engaged to a man with a terminal illness. They were together for many years, but he broke it off "for her own good." She was also sexually abused by her father and there was a lot of baggage that came with that too. We were very good friends in high school and reconnected over 10 years later. She was completely open with me about everything, so I knew was I was getting into.
With a broken heart, and broken family, she found comfort in an old friend, and what I feel happened was she mistook safety and normalcy for love. She was way out of my league by many standards, so I tried to give her everything she needed to make her happy. But she was dealing with a lot of mixed emotions. Because of her abuse, she very rarely enjoyed sex and thought she was letting me down as a wife, even though I told her I knew this going in and never expected anything and never pressured her one bit.
When she needed space, I gave her space. But when she needed somebody to talk to at first it was me, but I didn't have the history that her and her ex-fianc had. She would call him in the middle of the night at his 3rd shift job. At first I tried to be understanding of it, but it hurt. I knew she still loved him. We struggled, tried separating, it was a roller coaster.
Things were back on the way up while lying in bed one night she asked me (continued)
"Is it worth it?" meaning all of the ups and downs over the past year. I said "Of course it is, I love you. As long as we love each other enough, it's worth it." She look back at me with a look of guilt, and that's when I realized, she didn't. Not another word was said, I got up and slept on the couch. Left for the final time the next morning.
That was 8 years ago. I've been in a few relationships since, but ever remarried. I don't expect many of you have read this far, but that's OK. It was kinda therapeutic to write it out. So thanks stranger on the internet. You asked a question that nobody close to me has in years because back then I just brushed it off because I didn't want to talk about it.
At least we didn't have kids or any jointly owned assets, so our divorce was just a break-up with a little paperwork.
3. My mom's marriage to her first husband was only a year, year and a half at most. He was diagnosed with cancer and he said that he wanted to marry her before he died, so they got married and took a honeymoon to Hawaii, because he'd always wanted to go there too. EDIT: he passed away, that was what ended the marriage. Some have asked for clarification!
4. My cousin was married for eighteen hours, or something ridiculous like that. to hear her tell it, there was a really apocalyptic argument on their wedding night... (continued)
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there was a really apocalyptic argument on their wedding nightover where they went from there.
The moral of the story appears to be that before you get married, you and your spouse should have roughly compatible ideas of what you're looking for out of a marriage: how many kids, when to have them, where you live, whether you both work, money issues, etc. that's not stuff that just works itself out magically over time.
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