In the movies, we sometimes see children and teens develop crushes on their teachers and tutors. It's innocent, it's understandable, but what's it like from the teacher's perspective? Do they actually like coming to class and having a 14-year-old bat their lashes at them? I'd never thought of it before!
Attractive teachers of Reddit were asked: "Did you know which students had a crush on you?" These are some of the best answers.
My older brother used to propose to one of the cute English teachers at our high school every single day. Five years later when I got to her class, she remembered him very fondly. Turns out she had been going through a terrible divorce that year and his daily proposals made her laugh.
Was an English Teacher in Japan at a high school. I had the foreign-hot factor going for me, plus I was 21-22 at the time so by far the youngest teacher at the school.
When I first started, there was a comedian in one of my best classes. Genuinely funny, even in English (which is rare for a 16 year old learning a language). I only taught him his first year, but would see him around the hallways afterwards. He regularly asked me what my favorite food was, and if I would like to go get it with him. I'd say, "Maybe next time!" He eventually asked me to pretend to be his girlfriend in a film his class was making for a field trip. Of course I said yes, and the scene involved him introducing me to his friends in class, me linking arms with him, smiling.
I was teaching organic chemistry last year. Was 25 and I've come to realize that I'm quite attractive. Plus being a swimmer doesn't hurt. Anyways, one female student would come to my office hours to shamelessly flirt with me under the pretence that she needed extra help. Turns out she did. I told her that I would only continue meeting with her if she came prepared with all her work done, in her handwriting. So she did. Moved from near the bottom of the class to getting the second highest score on the final exam. I flirted back every so often, though very subtly. I never told her that I was gay.
I'm student teaching right now and a 6th grader I have stares at me. Just sits there and STARES with his mouth ajar. Maybe he is just doing it cause I am weird but...it's always funny to look over at him and see him staring then look away real fast.
I'm a first grade teacher so I just get a lot of dandelions.
If you're male, between the ages of 22 and 35, and not completely unfortunate looking, being in an authority position over high school girls guarantees that they'll throw themselves at you. Especially if you're a teacher that they work with for multiple years, like band directors, coaches, etc. (I'm a band director)
A lot of my non-teacher friends usually react the same ways, "niccccceeee" or "you ever get with one?" etc. Reactions like that are how you know they're not teachers. Getting advances from students like that it super awkward, and more than a little scary.
I have multiple colleagues that have had accusations leveled against them. Some of them I have no idea how to judge, but two of them I know extremely well, know the students involved, and know with 100% certainty that there is not a chance anything happened. Like, zero. Absolutely false. One of those guys barely managed to escape with his career. The other one didn't. He was one of the best band directors I knew, and now he's working in the business world, and hasn't picked up an instrument in years. Absolutely tragic.
So, you make DAMN sure you're never in a position where there's no witnesses. The office door is always open if a kid is talking to you. If a student's parent is late picking them up (and you would be the only one left with them), you ask one of the parents who was there on time to wait with you. It's like "defensive driving" except with horny teenage girls instead of cars.
There are people far more qualified than me to speak to why girls make [stuff] like that up, I just know that they do and it scares the hell out of me. I have ZERO interest in getting in a situation like that and do everything I can to avoid it. If/when a girl is really crushing on me, I always notice, but I have to pretend like it's not happening. Any acknowledgement is a potential problem.
On a more personal note...I just don't find them attractive. When I first started teaching at 22, some seniors caught my eye, but I grew out of that super fast. They just look young. And holy, do they act young. Women are hard enough to understand without adding the "I'm-discovering-myself-and-don't-know-how-to-handle-my-sexuality" layer. It's not attractive at all.
Also, yuck, morally repugnant.
I've taught in New Zealand and now I'm teaching in the States. It's very obvious when a kid has a crush on me or is just checking me out. I'm constantly getting boob-stared and seeing smirks between boys/overhearing comments. The things I've just overheard? "Damn, she's a sexy", "Yeah, that's right, walk away, I love that view", and things like that.
I'm pretty dense, so I don't always notice when people are checking me out. However, my students have to fill out evaluations at the end of the semester, and those usually give me an insight into their thoughts.
Q: What did you like best about the TA?
A: I liked that she was hot. ;)
The worst part is that some student worker has to type up all those awkward responses.
Student teaching at a junior high. 23 year old male, and I guess I'm attractive? The girls are flirty with me. A few have asked for my number, which I would not give out, obviously. Some show cleavage when I am trying to help them with an assignment, or do that little thing girls do where they hit a guy's shoulder and giggle.
Main thing is I just have to watch how I interact with them. They will take any act of kindness as an, "OMG I THINK HE LIKES ME" moment, so I just have to be careful, and remember that I am their teacher, not their friend. Some of the boys will kind of defend me and call girls out on it. I guess bro code has no generation gap.
When I was in college, I had my first "field observation" class. For non-teachers, it's not exactly student teaching, but I'd go to the school 2-3 times a week and observe, help the teacher with grading/making copies/paperwork stuff, and I think I had to do like 5 lessons over the course of the semester or whatever.
Anyway, I was a sophomore in college so around 19 years old - I was placed in a class of 12th graders in their last 9 weeks of school, so 17-18-possibly 19. These kids were very close to my age. One day, a kid came up to me and said, "So how do you like it at your college?" I told him I liked it and he said, "You know, I'm on campus like every weekend. You should let me take you out sometime." I was like, "Um, I don't think so" and kind of ran away to do something else. It was pretty awkward dealing with this kid for the rest of the semester, but it gave me a fun story about the time a student asked me out.
Yes. It's completely, 100% obvious. It came into play a lot for me. I started teaching when I was 24 years old. I am always carded when I go out meaning people regularly think I am as young as 18. So I didn't look much older than the kids I taught.
Anyway, it was extremely obvious from day one. I was also a Canadian teacher at a British school, so I had the accent going for me as well. A lot of kids were obvious about it and would tell me to my face that they thought I was "fit". Other kids would tell me that someone ELSE had been talking about how I was "hot". And with other kids I could just tell by how nervous they got around me.
But yeah, it ain't a secret. It was difficult because a lot of the time I had to pretend to not see/hear kids when they were VERY obviously checking me out/talking to me. It's very strange.
As a student teacher I walked into our local high school to observe a class. One of the high school students told me I should come and observe him instead, if ya know what I mean.
I also had a sixth grade boy in the class where I did my long student teaching experience who was "in love" with me. He'd sit in the front row, propping up his head on his hand, starting at me with his mouth hanging open. All the kids teased him about it but he didn't care. It was cute.
I had one freshman student run up to me dragging his friend, and proceed to try and tell my in English his friend had a crush on me. Only, he didn't know how to say it in English, so it came out like "My friend!" he grabs his friend in a headlock "My friend! He... you!..." then proceeded to ask the other students around how to say, "My friend has a crush on you in English. I laughed, pretended not to understand (the friend was tomato red by then), and said I had to get going, and to have a nice day.
"Yo, Ms. you look nice today."
"Yo, Ms. my eighteenth birthday is next month."
"You don't understand, Ms. I got it bad for you, yo."
And the all-time favorite, "Hey, Ms. I had a dream about you last night."
I don't consider myself a "hot teacher", but I constantly find students staring at my chest, and some students have even stood beside me attempting to see cleavage. I don't even wear revealing shirts! Consequently, I consciously monitor the way I stand/sit/interact to avoid any issues.
I've had students spread their legs while wearing skirts in front of me. Of course, being a new teacher I had absolutely no idea how to deal with this situation. Most common is girls that will seductively [stare] into my soul.
This all happened last year when I took over for a history class since the teacher was out for the entire year, I was 23 years old teaching juniors/seniors... it was hell. When I tried to tell the other teachers what was going on, the female teachers would all just laugh and talk about how I really got thrown to the wolves, while the older male teachers would just talk about how lucky I was.
I'm an English teacher in a foreign country, so that alone probably has a lot to do with the attention I get from students -- about 90% of whom are male (I'm a girl). I'm also the youngest teacher in the school by far. I currently have about 100 friend requests from students on Facebook, I get messages from a least a student or two every day.
To top it off, my students think I don't understand their language at all, so they often make comments thinking I can't understand them. My first day, I overheard one student ask his friend "Well, what do you think of the new English teacher?" His friend looked me up and down, smiled, and responded, "Oh yes... I am very satisfied." How I kept a straight face I'm really not sure.
I wouldn't say I'm the "hot teacher", but I'm young, female, and a sub, so that's like the trifecta for getting idiot high school kids to flirt with you.
"Miss, is that your phone?"
"Open up your contacts, and write 'Matthew'."
"Miss, are you rejecting me?"
"Miss, I've never been rejected before!"
I'm a male in my 20s and was a teacher at a public middle school, where the hormones are ranging and the social boundaries are completely non-existent. I had 12 and 13 year old girls doing things as innocent as asking me to walk them to class, or eat lunch in my classroom with me, to more explicit/weird like trying to touch my face or hair, leaving me notes and pottery, asking for my phone number and Facebook, and asking to pose in pictures with them.
Almost daily, it was "Do you have a girlfriend? I know someone who has a crush on you!" A lot of the students also had mothers close to my age, so there was some attempted matchmaking by my students as well. Parent-teacher conferences were weird.
It was oddly flattering though, if only women in their 20s were so upfront and direct. Thankfully nothing negative came of it, I loved my job and had full support of the other staff and administration who were aware of the "attention" I was getting.
I teach a drawing class at a university. After one of my students attended an art exhibition of mine, I emailed him my thanks for coming to see the show. This was his reply:
"That was not the purpose of me being there, my purpose was observation, and you were looking great in that dress."
Being a young attractive female secondary school teacher, you learn to perfect the 'not happening' look. Although, most sexual advances come from students who are intentionally trying to get a rise out of you, and are doing it to be edgy and impress their peers. The ones who have a genuine crush are harder to shoot down, because they will take it much more personally. I be gentle but firm, tell them its not happening, and that there are wonderful people their own age they should consider instead.
Honestly on my part, the idea of thinking about a student sexually is just weird. Whilst their bodies are mature (in the senior classes) their minds need so much more growing. They hold the sexual attraction of a tomato to me.
It is obvious which students like me. They giggle and try to flirt. They walk by my class and say so and so likes you. Some students I don't even know walk by me and say hi and giggle. The mothers make it worse. They tell their daughters how cute or hot I am, which excites these teenage girls more. One student told me she can't tell me what her mom said, that its embarrassing for her. I have been asked to prom. I seriously have thought about quitting, its uncomfortable when students (or anybody) keep making unwanted advances. I teach at a high school.
I'm not especially attractive or anything, but when I was in Korea teaching ESL, I was the token white guy at a school in a small town called Jeonju. The principal would actually lend me out to other schools so they could brag to the parents that they had a white guy on staff. I went to this one school once a week, and the kids would freak out whenever they saw me, pushing and shoving each other to get closer and give me candies or whatever. When I was sitting in the office, they'd all be pressed at the window fighting to get a look at me.
Once one of them played a joke on their friend and opened the office door and pushed her in there with me, slamming the door behind her. So it was just her and I in there, and a crowd of kids laughing outside. The kid was so embarrassed that she just started pounding on the door for them to let her back out. It was like they'd pushed her into the gorilla's cage at the zoo.
I used to coach a HS girls gymnastics team when I was fresh out of HS myself; started my Freshman year of college and many of the girls had crushes.
This was around the time when All American Rejects were popular and changed the lyrics to "We'll keep Ray our dirty little secret". Whenever the other assistant coach was gone (who absolutely hated me) they'd make it 'practice in sports bras day'.
Now I coach all-star cheerleading and the 4-6th graders also have some crushes. They'll ask me about my current GF and then compare themselves to her. "She's tall, skinny and blonde? I'm tall, skinny and blonde!!" Some of them draw me pictures and others will try to stand close by when we're having a team meeting and "subtly" lean against me.