Advice For People In Their 20s To Avoid Regrets In Their 30s

Spoiler Alert: I'm not in my 30s yet. So, thanks to the helpful elders on Reddit, I now have an abundance of advice to help me along the rest of my 20s. But I'm real lazy and unmotivated, so I'll probably just forget it all.

Thanks to all the users who made the mistakes in their 20s so we won't have to.

Source at the end of the article, comments edited for clarity.

You should decide that regrets are a meaningless waste of time and live your life.

Also save money.


Save up for things you want. Don't just splurge as soon as you can.

I just went to Niagara Falls / Toronto, flying out of Seattle. I probably could have done the trip for $2,000, myself and someone else, however we wouldn't have been able to do half of the activities. We ended up around $3,800-$4,200, but did literally everything we wanted to, and a few things we thought would be fun. End result? Had a blast, did it all, don't ever need to go again. No regrets.


I'm in my 40s and my biggest advice would be to treasure each moment you get to spend with your grandparents, if they're still alive. Listen to them and value their wisdom. They're like your real life Obi-wan and Yoda. 

And if their stories and advice seem out of date or too old-fashioned, it only means you're still too immature to make sense of it yet. By the time it hits you that, "Man, they were so right...about everything," they might no longer be around. 

Even though I loved them so much, not valuing my grandparents enough while they were alive and thinking I knew more than they knew towers over any and all other regrets I have in life.


Create some crucial healthy habits like exercising, meditating, saving money, etc. Habits made early tend to stick to you for life and by the time when you're in your 30s or 40s, you're already on auto-pilot.


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Drink more water.

Look after your joints and back.

You will feel invincible until your late 20's / early 30's, then it'll suddenly all start catching up to you if you don't look after yourself.


Clear their social media of pictures from their teen years.


I'd say follow through with any interest you have. There were a bunch of hobbies/habits I wanted to get into, but at the first obstacle or challenge, I'd just go "eh whatever" and give up.


Save money. Exercise sometimes. Don't eat garbage.


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Enjoy your body. Build your brain. Create friendships with trustworthy people. Do the things that you are afraid of. Make amends with people you wronged and forgive the ones that wronged you. Show love to your family. Pass on what you've learned to the next generation. 

And, no capes.


Brush and Floss


Just ask her out, man.


Choose a partner with whom you connect on an emotional level and share similar interests and most importantly have similar financial and personal goals

Looks and passion fade over time and these attributes have never carried a relationship through rough waters.


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Start saving for retirement.


Avoid debt. When you start planning in your 30s for houses and marriage and children, having debt that you generated in your 20s in order to buy that sweet 60 inch flat screen for your one-bed apartment... you end up hating the 20-something version of you for being that kind of stupid. 

If you can't afford to own something in your 20s you pay for it in your 30s and 40s.


Well you know that saying: liquor before beer you're in the clear, DON'T DO HEROIN.


You know how you drive yourself nuts having to fish around on laundry day for those socks that you always just kind of drop on the floor? Or how the roll of trash bags seems to migrate around the kitchen/storage cupboards and you can never remember where you put it? Or how annoying it is that your pocket change gets put on a counter near wherever you emptied out your jacket and then left there?

All that stuff is still going to be annoying when you're 35.


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Stay away from hard drugs. I get the whole "life experience" thing, but it's just not worth it.


Be careful who gets your time and attention. You give it to the wrong people and before you know it you've got no close fiends left. 

Also, I know today's attitude is free love, and sleep with who you want but in my experience so many people are single because of the terrible relationship they have with love and intimacy after being heart broken, or feeling used by others. 

That intimate side of you should be saved for the right people, not saying don't have fun but just be careful!


Exercise. Your body's metabolism will slow as you age and if you're unfit it will just get worse. Put the effort in early.


Don't be afraid of missing out.

Your friends will get married, buy homes, have kids, get promoted, travel the world, and you might feel like you are staying still. Don't feel the pressure. Live your life at your own pace. Make and tell your own stories.

Please don't pride yourself on sleep deprivation, your drinking ability or your workaholism. Do whatever you want, but don't let these traits identify you.

Don't have kids until at least 25. To each his own, but my heart aches every time someone I know get pregnant at an earlier age than that.

You don't need to go cage diving in New Zealand to explore the world around you. Go for a bike ride, or take a cheap bus to a nearby town/neighborhood. Find a hobby.

Build friendships to last.


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Wear sunscreen. Your skin will stay good. It doesn't magically rebound on its own.


Work on yourself. Invest in you. Learn, study, improve.


If you marry, marry someone because they are your best friend, you share a common philosophy on life, have common values, and want common goals in your future. Don't marry someone, primarily, because their butt looks good in jeans.


Binge on Bob Ross a bit. He will get your mind right



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