Not to sound too cliche but... it is about how you get back up after you're knocked down. No Phoenix becomes a Phoenix if it can't rise from the ashes. That is where all the glory lies. How do we know what we're made of if we're never tested? Though life can through a little extra we could skip once and awhile.
Redditor u/shygirlturnedsassy wanted to hear from true life champions as to how to rise from failure to win it all asking.... People who are happy and successful today, what was the lowest point in your life?
Living Each Day....Giphy
I have an autoimmune disease. My lowest point was about 3 years ago. I couldn't eat, I was in near-constant pain, and I lost 20 lbs - down to 114 at 5'10". I was starting to have suicidal thoughts.
Today my disease is fully managed. I'm on great medication, I'm eating healthy, and I started lifting weights. I always feel like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop; the medication could stop working at any time. But I'm going to enjoy it while it lasts. unikittyRage
When I was 7 I was lying in bed wishing to die. My alcoholic dad had just left, my mother had just finished calling me a piece of garbage. I asked God to take me away and to please not let me wake up.
The next morning I woke up and was so sad, and tired. I was so tired of life. 29 years later I am a well adjusted woman, happy with life. I have a wonderful family, a job I'm passionate about, great friends. I think about 7 year old me sometimes. I mentally hug her and tell her that everything is going to be amazing.
Hang in there kiddo. We're gonna be just fine.
Edit: I want to thank everyone for sharing your stories and for the sweet comments. Hopefully this can help someone through their own low point.
I want to encourage people to remember the little things that help people make it through crappy days. For me that made all the difference. The neighbor who would give me arm a squeeze secretly when my mother was putting me down. The other moms who would call to have me spend the night. The lady at the grocery store who said "It's not her fault" as my mother was yelling at me.
I felt you, I noticed you, I heard you. pm_me_pie_recipes
The cuisine will be better....
I was a broke student, my friend came over with 2 beers he bought on his last pennies in hope I have food, or at least nuts. Which I did not.
We ate dry cat food. It was tasty. My cat stared at me in utter disbelief. Thejagwtf
Steer clear of Drugs....
I broke up with a dude I had been dating for 9 months... because he wanted to go back to the same ex he had left me for last the time. That was on Monday. On Friday, my mom died of the very long, very drawn out battle with cancer. By the end she didn't recognize me. A few short months after that, my house got hit by a hurricane and I was displaced for 4 months. All of this while trying to complete my doctorate.
I was lucky enough that before we broke up, my ex had introduced me to a social group, and in the breakup, I got the group. I actually went to my first get together the day after the breakup. The people I met there changed my life forever, and through all that darkness were able to show me enough life to get through.
My sister wasn't so fortunate, and turned to heroin for her struggles. She's doing well now, but she had a much deeper hole to crawl out of. AndBeTheLight
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Dropping out of high school because I haven't passed a single year in it spending the next few years figuring out what I was going to do. It was tough and mentally exhausting. I didn't go out much I didn't eat much I didn't do much, I wanted to not spend as much of my moms money as possible. I would scrape up quarters to go to Mcdonald's to get some food.
My doctor told me I was malnourished I had a bmi of 13.5 at the time.
All that time I was focused on one thing, and that was programming. I knew it was either focus all my time on getting as good as I possibly can at programming, build a portfolio and get a job in that field. Or work some deadend McDonald's job for a long time.
While I'm not successful in terms of like a successful businessman who is like lets say 40 years old. I would consider my self successful for my age and I am only working my way up from here. WotDaHelll
Time and Patience...
When my oldest was 4 we moved away from my home town. I had family there but was living with a friend. I came home from work one day to find all his stuff moved out and a 3 day eviction notice on the door. I had just changed jobs and had paid him rent out of my last check so no money for a deposit or rent on a new apartment and the lease wasn't in my name so I couldn't do anything. My family wouldn't take us in so my daughter and I had to take roommates 3 cats to the pound and get into the homeless shelter. It was a very low point in my life. Luckily I got my tax return 3 weeks later and was in an apartment I could afford and we got back in our feet. WyoGirl79
Professionally, my first year out of college easily. It was during the recession and unemployment was consistently around 8-10%. I went from doing cancer research at 21 to being a telemarketer at 22. I left that after six months, worked a respectable yet modest corporate role (at a different company) for the last five years. I studied for a bunch of certifications over that five years and landed my dream job three months ago. Milk515
Happiness finds a way!
Right now, but its always possible to see the bright side of things. Sometimes there is no bright side to things yes, life does just suck at times and thats it. I mainly just find happiness from hobbies. Starfall44
I'm having one of those "why bother?" days. I know that I've been through far worse but some days it just seems like life won't give you a breather. But... time to put on the glasses and look for silver linings.
Best of luck. :) markalester
Life Must Go On....
34, married to my college sweetheart, moved across the country for great jobs, bought a house, working on starting a family and... cancer. I lost her later that same year. The two worst days were the diagnosis (and the drive home), and that last doctor's visit when she was really confused, exhausted and just out of it. The doctor knew what was coming and took me aside to discuss "DNR" forms. That's "Do Not Resuscitate." Not something a clueless 30 something guy puts much thought into. She actually never left her doctor's appointment. Her state deteriorated. They admitted her and she died 4 hours later.
Now, twenty years later, I'm married and we have adopted a son who's yelling at Super Bomberman and life goes on for the rest of us. shiny_brine
It's not about where you start... but that you keep going...Giphy
I grew up pretty poor. By the time I was in high school, life became a string of evictions from one crappy apartment to another, resulting in homelessness immediately after graduation. I spent a summer living out of a 1986 Grand Marquis with busted air conditioning and no idea how I was going to even eat from one day to the next, never mind get myself out of that situation.
After some months I got a job. Got a crappy apartment. A few years after that, I wrote a book. Sold the novel in a two book deal. Not a huge amount of money, but when you're poor, the amount it takes to be life-changing is pretty low.
Eventually I used that money to move from my small town to NYC. Fast forward to today-- I have a good job, great friends, I've traveled to places I never dared to dream I'd get to. I don't have to worry about where my next meal is coming from or how I'll afford to pay rent or bills. I am much happier than I ever expected to be at this point in my life.
That said, I've learned that life never just evens out. There are peaks and lows. The challenges are just different. Your heart gets broken. Jobs go from secure to shaky. People you love die. The future is never written. Life just becomes a series of adapting to new circumstances, and maybe your prior experience will help you deal with the blows but there's always something new to endure and overcome. Just because I've had it worse doesn't always make the new pain easier to deal with--it's still pain. hharrington