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The controversial act of "sneating" is nothing illegal. But it is definitely not cool.

According to Urban Dictionary, "sneating" is an action referring to someone who "sneaks" and "eats."

The phrase was supposedly coined in 2011, and has entered parlance among women who cannot afford the luxury of eating out but take advantage of "chivalrous men" who are likely to foot the bill on dates.

An anonymous science and law student revealed to the New York Post that she is basically a serial sneater.

She claimed her workload is so heavy that even her meager wage as a server in a seafood restaurant does not cover expenses other than basic groceries.

So she came up with a solution to date men for the sole purpose of having them pay for her meals.




"I started being more strategic about the guys whom I matched with on Tinder," she said about her profiling measures on the dating app.

"Guys who said they were old-fashioned or knew how to treat a lady were in. They were the ones who were likely to pay on a first date. Guys who said they were modern or into equality were out — they were clearly Dutch daters all the way."

"I started lining up one or two dates a week," she continued.

"Whenever the bill came, I did that lame thing where I offer to pay half but then don't argue when he says he'll take care of it."
"It works most of the time, with only a couple of guys taking me up on my offer to pay."


"I've been dating like this for about six months now, and I've scored probably close to 40 free meals from nice restaurants," she said.

But Refinery believes that sneating makes victims out of unsuspecting gentlemen in what should be a two-sided conversation.

While some believe that the women capitalizing on the kindness of men on dates is immature and rude, others say that the men are just as complicit and know what they are signing up for.


To back up this assertion, Refinery said:

"If a cisgender man is going on a date with a cisgender woman, it's still often expected that he'll be the person who pays. Most men not only understand these "rules" of dating, but tend to play into them, as well."


The bottom line is that most women are not committing anything objectionable if they agree to go on a date and eat the food that winds up being paid for.



Is this really a a big deal?

"Sarah" from the Post article claims she's not ripping off the men she dates on Tinder.

But she is getting a free course on dating tips.

"Most of them I have no desire to see again," she said, "in which case I send them a text afterward thanking them but telling them the spark wasn't there for me."

"But I'm learning more about myself and what I do and don't like in a romantic partner, and that should come in handy when I really start looking."


H/T - GettyImages, Twitter, NYpost, Refinery

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