Babysitters Share Secrets They Learned About The Parents They Worked For
Babysitting can be a very rewarding way to make money. As you can imagine, babysitters can often become rather intimately acquainted with the families whose children they take care of.
It's all fun and games until you discover the money the husband is hiding in his study, however.
Special thanks to Redditor NuclearSquid74, who asked the online community:
"Babysitters of Reddit, what seemingly normal parents had dark secrets?"
"Not a deep dark secret..."
Not a deep dark secret, but as someone with 15 plus year in childcare, it's pretty common for a lot of wealthy parents to prioritize their jobs and themselves over their kids. Kids can sense this and usually develop some sort of unhealthy way to get more attention. The response is usually to throw money at the problem instead of genuinely getting the kid help or re-examining their family structure. It's always so deeply sad to me, a few families I have worked for, I genuinely wondered why they had kids. I understand parents need a break and people have to work, but man, it was so sad.
"I worked full time..."
I worked full time for a family with 11 and 8 yo girls. Mom played everything off like they were all happy and perfect.
They treated the 11yo like a queen and constantly cut the 8yo down. Dad was sleeping in another room, and clearly couldn't stand the mom. She's play it off like he was just grumpy in the mornings.
I never understood why people think the nanny won't know. We know everything.
"One night they came home..."
Not so much as dark but really sad. I baby sat for a typical upper middle class family, dad worked mom was stay at home. The mother was always a little over protective like checking on their daughter the second they got home, but I didn't think much of it.
One night they came home and we talked a little. She mentioned how much she loved children and her daughter so I asked her if they ever thought about having another. She completely broke down and explained that she had multiple miscarriages before and after her daughter so they stopped trying. I felt really awful and really sad because it seems like she wanted another baby.
"You'd be surprised..."
I babysit 3-5 times a week.
You'd be surprised at how many adult 'bedroom' toys I see. A lot of them are just out in the open. Like they forgot to hide them. I overnighted once and the guest bed had bondage straps. Parents totally forgot about that.
That's not too surprising. But some of their kinks are.
"All of a sudden..."
I was babysitting once and the kids were wrestling in the living room. All of a sudden the smell of dank filled the room. I hear the kids stop and say "what is that?" One of them had knocked over a big tin can on a shelf and the parents weed stash spilled everywhere. I sent the kids away and cleaned it all up for them and put it back.
One family- I still dunno what was up with them. It's like they were squatting in a model home or something. It was a fully furnished house that looked to be straight out of Better Homes & Gardens magazine, but there was nothing in the drawers, fridge or cabinets. No toiletries in the bathroom except for toilet paper, no food or silverware in the kitchen, no clothes in the closets or in the kid's drawers and no toys! The lady just told me to order food for the kids & they watched tv. It was weird!
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I baby sat a lot when I was 13-15. At the time I lived in a small town. I was a very popular baby sitter as I also worked at the daycare centre. Often I would have kids from two or three different families at once. I didn't care I got triple the pay for having three different groups of kids. I was recently told why I always had groups of kids like that. Turns out the small town had a swingers club and I was the go to baby sitter for their different groups.
"The mother was in her thirties..."
I nannied for this very rich family with three kids from the west coast who would come to south Florida for summer vacation every year. The mother was in her thirties, clearly had her kids when she was young, and was very stereotypically hot— blonde, thin, big boobs, perfect teeth. Her husband was a little older, salt and pepper, suuuuper handsome, very George Clooney-esque. Their kids were all blonde-haired, blue-eyed, cute as hell. They absolutely adored their parents.
Dad would help the kids and mom settle in at the house and then fly back to Cali for work. I babysat 3-5 times a week, 6:30pm-2am. Mom would get all dolled up, leave her wedding ring on the kitchen counter, and come home very late, clearly drunk, and sometimes brought men home with her that she introduced as her "friends." She would often overpay me, which I never complained about, but I worried for the kids.
"I was babysitting..."
I was babysitting for a local family who owned car dealerships. I answered the phone hello as one does and it was the father who didn't know his wife had hired a babysitter so she could go to an appointment. He started in with the stupidest sexy voice until he realized it wasn't wife, he hung up. Later he was caught cheating.
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Somewhat wholesome story: I used to babysit for the kids down the street when I was in high school. One night I went into the parents' bedroom to get something - I think a puzzle - and there was a book on the nightstand called "how to comfort your kids when you're thinking of divorce" or something like that. The next time I was over, there was a book downstairs (on the mom's desk) that was "the couples' therapists' guide to saving a failing relationship."
It made me sad because the parents seemed really happy together whenever I saw them. I felt bad that they must have been going through a hard time behind the scenes. My parents had a pretty unhappy marriage so I tried to be extra nice to the kids. I hoped they hadn't had to listen to their parents fighting.
Anyway, this went on for a few months with no further indications of trouble. I felt like I knew this awful secret that the kids didn't know. One night I came over to babysit—the mom was in grad school and she had a class—and the same books were sitting on the counter. As the mom was leaving, she was like, "oh, I can't forget the textbooks!" and grabbed them off the counter. I actually didn't know what she was studying, so I asked what class she had. Turns out she was studying to be a couples' and family therapist. The books I saw were her schoolbooks. In retrospect, that made complete sense because the titles were kind of academic, but I immediately assumed they were divorcing.
About a decade later, they are still married and the wife is a very successful couples and family therapist. Go figure.
No matter how old we get, we still find ourselves keeping up with the latest trends.
Binging the show everyone's talking about, downloading the newest app, and partaking in the latest social media craze, all in an effort to appear cool to our friends and colleagues.
Of course, not all of these trends are "cool" to us.
In fact, sometimes we grudgingly partake in these trends, no matter how idiotic they seem to us.
While others have no concerns about being cool, and won't even think about joining in with everyone else, choosing instead to gleefully look down on them.
"What's something extremely popular but you just can't give a f*ck about it?"
What Exactly Are They Trying To Influence?
"They have a different vibe than I have/aspire to have, different ways of expressing themselves, different values, different beauty standards, etc."- smieklinsh
'My personal opinion."
"If you like them, cool."
'No harm done."- queen_tabby
"Isn't aren’t part of my life, so why should I take time from my life to think about the crap they’re doing?"- attention21Elon Musk Reaction GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy
Isn't It Good News Either Way?
"Gender reveal parties."- Back2Bach
Just Another Distraction
"TikTok never got into it."- thneakythnake660
How Many Strangers Are Looking At Your Pictures?
"Followers on social media."- Single_Goat3138Pop Tv GIF by Schitt's CreekGiphy
"Figure" Heads being the operative word
"The Royal Family."- Natasha_JB
Comfort Over Quality
"Like, I’ll indulge and buy a pair I think are really cool."
"But other than that, why tf would you spend $2000+ on a pair of shoes that actually cost less than $10."- eggtada
All Of Them!
"The Kardashians."- BeeImpressive7749Kim Kardashian GIF by E!Giphy
Fame Is Seldom The Same As Qualified
"I’d say entertainers who are so wealthy and think they are the voices of normal people."-mayoinstrumentalz
Or Anything Else About Him?
"Ye's Opinion."- SlimePrice
Just How Real Was It?
"Reality TV."- brycebrycehayeshayesPhaedra Parks Reality Tv GIF by Real housewives of AtlantaGiphy
Can It Even Be Considered A Chat?
"Since when was a fire emoji and a number a symbol of popularity and friendship?"
"I just don't have the time for this sh*t."- Yes-I-Have-Arrived
Quality Over Quantity
The best thing about opinions and personal taste is that they are unique to every individual.
No two people have to like the same thing, nor should we judge those who dislike something we like and vice-versa.
Even if it's hard to say it's unreasonable that not even two people should give Elon Musk or Ye any time of day.
Though again, that's just an opinion...
Meal times are meant to be fun. It's a time where you can take break from work and your problems, be with your friends or family, and most importantly, enjoy some good food.
Of course, good food is subjective.
There are plenty of popular foods and dishes out there that everyone loves.
However, sometimes people love a food so much that it loses it's luster and becomes overrated.
Redditors were only too happy to share which popular dishes they find overrated.
It all started when a Redditor asked:
"What food do you think is overrated?"
No Need For Synthetic Clay
"Fondant, if that counts. I see all these fancy cakes in bakeries and on tv shows and my first thought is "90% of that is just sugary Play-Doh.""
"It is gorgeous, but tastes like, well you said it."
But We All Need Coffee
"Anything at Starbucks"
"Starbucks? More like Starsucks!"
Presentation Is Only Half The Battle
"Macarons. They never taste as good as they look"
"I would have to agree with this! I’ve had macarons from regular stores, always thought they tasted “blah”. Then I was in France a few months ago, and someone swore by Laduree ones. They said “you have to try it, it will change your life”. Waited in line for 40 min so I could “have my life changed”! Well, I still thought they tasted “blah”"
"Yes! They are so pretty but I feel like I’m eating chalk."
Can't Go With Everything
"Bacon. Dont get me wrong I love it but people wrap everything in it , cover it with chocolate ect."
"Bacon should be a side dish. Adding it to anything else sullies the bacon."
More Money Does Not Mean Better
"Right? Give me some salmon roe and we're good. It's like fish boba, yummy."
Not The Highest Form Of Flattery
"California roll w imitation crab"
"Imitation crab is heinous"
Pure And Simple Is The Best
"Things made of Mac and Cheese, like Mac and cheese balls"
"Just give me some good, gourmet mac. Usually the stuff in mac and cheese balls is Kraft Easy Mac grade stuff."
"Yes, yes, yes, i thought i was the only one who doesn"t understand the Nutella lovers."
"Brown fatty stuff in sugar. Gag"
Last Meal Doesn't Mean Best Meal
"I’d prefer shrimp/crab/crawfish over lobster any day of the week."
Too Much Of A Good Thing
"Avocado. there is such a thing as too much"
"Just give me a fine spread, I don't need an avacado staircase on my toast"
Just A Bandaid Food
"Cheese is at the top of my list. Didn't really notice too much till the lactose intolerance set in but they put it on everything. I believe it's to cover up for really poor quality food. Have a sh*tty entrae? Cover it in cheese and people can't get enough. I never aye a lot of cheese before but it seems out of control the past few years"
Make It Yourselves
"Chocolate dipped strawberries. I can't believe people pay that much money for something that can be made so easily and cheaply and probably better at home."
Best Cookie In The World?
"Stopped eating them when I had braces because they gunked them up one time, and then I realized I didn’t like them a lot in the first place lol"
America's Favorite Food
"People who say "Bad pizza is still pizza" aren't actually eating BAD pizza."
"Truly abominable pizza is heartbreaking, infuriating and bewildering."
"7/11 is the only place i've ever had truly bad pizza from. i was shocked. how do you mess up pizza??!?"
"There are two instances where I've had actual bad pizza, not "bad pizza but it's still pizza.""
"The first was my college cafeteria. You go in thinking that it's awesome to have all you can eat pizza nightly...problem is, the pans weren't rinsed properly and every bite tasted faintly of dish soap. Pretty gross."
"The second (the worst of the two) was at an all-inclusive resort in Jamaica I stayed at for my brother's wedding. The only option for late night food within the resort was a shack that served pizza, burgers, nachos, fries, that sort of thing. I asked for a cheese pizza, but they didn't have an oven, just a flat top. They pulled out some dough, stretched it out a bit (but not nearly thin enough to cook evenly) and slathered some tomato paste on it, then topped it with slices of american cheese. It was raw in the middle and didn't taste right at all."
I never want to learn what truly bad pizza is!
Do you have anything to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.
We all have our preferences when it comes to the type of people we want to keep the company of.
When the people we're with do something undesirable or rude, they are an instant turn-off, and we lose all interest in continuing to hang out with that person.
I know for me that people who try to be funny by making rude jokes about others won't be in my life for long.
Redditors were all too eager to share their own opinions on what they think are instant turns-offs.
It all started when Redditor SnooRegrets8194 asked:
"What is an instant turn off for you?"
Clean Yourself Up!
"Bad teeth as well"
"Edit: mouth hygiene."
Get Me A Mirror...Or A Filter!
"Being completely obsessed with physical image. Especially via social media."
"Idiot duck lips has entered the convo"
Do Unto Others...
"Rudeness. Especially when the person is rude to people they think are beneath them."
"Bruh. If I’m with someone and they harass a service worker. I get heated."
Only Looking For One Thing
"Worst is you thought that person was nice and then after a few exchange of messages, here comes a subtle conversation about sex. Very disappointing."
"I hate when that happens. LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX NOW."
Just Be Nice
"Making fun of your interests or hobbies"
"Yes. If I can’t talk to you about the sh*t I’m passionate about, we ain’t working."
"When she gets on her phone while we have a good time"
"Dude my ex did this constantly. Every date we went in she'd be on her phone talking to her friends. I normally wouldn't have cared because friends are dope, but the texting got a fair bit. Well.. suspicious after I saw the way they spoke with her."
The Past Is In The Past
"When they complain about their ex on the first date"
Why Do Today...
"When men in relationships don’t do housework."
"Lazyness in general is a turn off for me."
Table Manners Matter
"Anyone who chews with their mouth open."
"Hearing or seeing this makes me so angry I have to walk into the other room otherwise I literally get violent thoughts about the person and I’m not a violent individual lol I HAAAATE ppl who do this!"
Oh The Horror!
"Dated a girl once who was upset I read Harry Potter because it involves witchcraft. That’s a turn off. Actually still makes me mad thinking of it considering it wasn’t just a small argument. Glad that’s over."
You're Good, But I'm Better!
"One-uppers/people who don’t have a disconnect from talking about their wealth, job, or how much they make constantly."
"Someone that's overly into themselves. Their selfie as their screen saver. Constantly sending you selfies and talking about how attractive they are. Confidence is nice, but sometimes it comes off as self-obsessed.
Also someone that demands so much of my time when I barely know them. "Why aren't you answering??" Or sending message after message when I'm busy. Like damn, you don't got nothing to do but text me huh? I don't have time for that shit."
"11:01: We can go to the mall tonight yes?"
"11:03: OK FINE I GUESS YOU DONT WANT TO GO WITH ME!! I AM NOT YOUR REBOUND!!!!"
"11:30 I get out of my meeting and read the messages like whaaaaaaaat?"
I See That
"I know an electrician that always turns me on… i’ll dm you his number"
Time To Convert
"I hit it off with a girl I met online, super sweet, but hardcore catholic, wanted me to swap from pagan to catholic just to be with her. I never really cared about someone’s religion tbh."
It's All About Me
"people asking questions that they use to turn attention/ the conversation back to themselves"
Yeah, that would be a turn-off for me too!
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The concept of an open relationship is nothing new.
It's just that nobody really spoke of it so openly in the past.
Now people are openly discussing whether monogamy suits them in modern times.
Redditor Jakubeu101 was wondering how people really felt about relationships with more than one lover, so they asked:
"What do you think about open relationships?"
It's certainly not for everyone, especially those who have a tendency to get jealous.
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"Tried it for a year. Didn't work. It's perpetual dating which is the worst. Then they get jealous."
"All the hassle of 2 (or more) relationships needs to be something everyone involved needs to be okay with. It can be done correctly by couples that really know how to communicate and are strong in conflict resolution. (Usually this also means starting in an open relationship and not opening up later on) Unfortunately many couples use 'opening up the relationship' as a solution to avoid the need to communicate better. Those are doomed from the beginning."
"My parents have been together for 40 years, married for 36. A couple weeks ago we went and stayed with one of my dad's childhood friends. As the wine got flowing, she regaled the rest of us with various stories of the shenanigans they got up to with their other friends. My mom was having the time of her life hearing all these stories she'd never heard before. (this was northern Wisconsin in the early 80s, lots of teenage drunken shenanigans)."
"Not for me, but I don't care if everyone's a consenting adult and no one is taken advantage of. The issue IMHO is that if you go from monogamous to open it is shifting the relationship in ways that rarely work, but if you come at it from the start there's decent chances of making it work."
All of It
"I think the idea that you've learned everything and there's nothing else new to know about a person is the first problem. I was in a polyamorous relationship for about a year and even to the end of it was constantly learning things about my partners, their SOs etc."
"I'm now monogamous and married, and years down the road I'm still learning things about my partner. They've lived a whole life before me, it will be many many years before I know 'everything' about them."
"I think it’s one of those things where both partners have to be 100% on board with what it means. There can’t be jealousy and you have to be ok with the idea of your partner sleeping with more people than you possibly. I think most people who consider an open relationship don’t really think about it means so it inevitably fails."
It's not for everybody. Emotions in check first.
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"I'm in one. Going strong almost 8 years. Requires a ton of communication. Also, what counts as an open relationship varies wildly and the boundaries/rules are determined by the people within the relationship. There is no one size fits all."
"I met a guy on tinder that was in an open marriage. We went on a few dates, one of which I was surprised to meet his wife and kids."
"They seemed like a happy family, very content with their arrangement. I enjoyed getting to know the guy, but he started to get impatient with how slowly I was moving. I wasn’t comfortable moving forward physically, so we decided to end it. Fast forward a year later, and he ended up committing suicide."
"His wife wasted no time posting online about how awful he was to her. It seems their 20-year open relationship was his game of control. He was a cheater and an abusive husband. I carry some guilt knowing he used me to upset her, and I sat there with a stupid smile on my face."
"Tried it, she screwed some dudes and when I picked up started getting jealous. Most open couples aren't really open. Usually someone wants it (or just wants to cheat without guilt) and someone's getting dragged into, pretending it's okay. Very few true open relationships, it's proven by how many last more than a year."
Doing It All
"My husband and I did it...very enthusiastically... For about 6 years. We made the decision to try it after 24 years of marriage and because neither of us had had any other partners before we met. For us it was a fantastic experience. We never had issues with jealousy but we had a very strong relationship with a high degree of trust. We definitely saw a lot of marriages fail due to those issues."
"Eventually we sort of... faded out of it tho. It is just a lot of work. Finding people with the right chemistry-the on line dating scenes, going to the clubs, the meet up's that don't always work: it's exhausting. But for us it was definitely worth it. And if my hubby came to me tomorrow saying that he'd met someone he'd like to screw, I'd still be cool with it."
"I personally hate them because of an ex. I was pressured to make our relationship open for months, and I really didn't want to. That wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted to have. I later then found out that she was pushing so hard because she was already sleeping with other guys and wanted a 'guilt free' way to cheat on me, and ended up sleeping with three other people that I am aware of."
"Generally I don't mind them if that's what you want and all parties are okay with that situation. I have a friend who does that and he's never been happier in terms of a relationship with someone. But I will refuse to ever do an open relationship with anyone."
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"I'm genuinely not a fan, i prefer monogamy as I feel a much closer bond can be created between two people rather than a group. however that is not how it is for everyone."
You do you.
Just be honest and really communicate how you're feeling and the boundaries you feel comfortable with.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/