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Sex education looks different across the world. Some places like the US or the UK are rather conservative with their education, while New Zealand and the Netherlands are liberal in teaching even young kids the basics of consent.

Given the vast differences in cultural norms around sex, dating, relationships and consent, it makes sense there would be people looking to the internet for advice,

We selected the best sex tips from AskReddit that seem to resonate the most with people.


Redditor Assorted_Education_ asked:

"What is this one sexual fact everyone would benefit knowing?"

Start taking notes!

Hygiene is important.

"Wash your f*cking hands before you put them inside someone!"

- soundsystxm

"I'll do you a better one: wash EVERYTHING you put inside someone."

- ChaimCad

"And file your nails."

- tehkittehkat

Use the bathroom when you're done.

"Pee after sex."

- tchawiczka

"If you do get a UTI, men too, get it treated or it can lead to kidney failure. Please stay well :)"

- hazel_0919

"This applies to guys as well."

- MyWorkAccount2018

"I had this problem a lot at the point of literally peeing blood, it was so frickin painful and traumatizing at the point of not wanting to HAVE sex, although I did pee after I had it like 3 times like in 4 months. I had to pay a sh*t ton of money since UTIs can only get treated with antibiotics. UTI are no joke, if you are a women it easier to Get it, if you are a man its really Hard to Get it, but you NEED to go to the hospital ASAP."

- ChungyAmoeba

"So fun fact, or maybe not so fun fact, there's apps like Lemonade Health which sound ridiculous, but you can get a doctor to call you and prescribe you UTI meds over the phone for under 40 bucks, they send the script to a pharmacy near you of your choosing. Super great if you don't have insurance but need UTI meds. And they follow up with an email to make sure everything is still going okay. (they do other stuff too, but that's how I found them, needing UTI meds)."

- Echo13

Communication makes great sex.

"Talk to your partner."

- sue_donyem

"Better communication = better sex."

"If you know what they want, you can do it for them. Mind reading makes things complicated and usually worse."

- eternal8phoenix

"Yes this is absolutely correct. I am stunned by how many people don't communicate. This includes people in a relationship."

"I used to say I have a foolproof pan on learning a woman's pleasure zones and those zones that'll get you smacked if you tickle there. Of course everybody smirks and says sure okay what is this magical plan? I reply: I ask."

- GurglingWaffle

"After the first time I had sex with my boyfriend I specifically asked him if there was anything that I could do differently or that he liked that I would continue to do. He said that he had never been asked that before and found it to be a very large turn on."

- Im_the_cool_mom

"This has to go both ways too. You have to be ready to honestly listen to your partner and also need to speak up when you want or don't want something. The second one is usually the more difficult."

- probabletrump

For some, it's the main course.

"Foreplay is important."

- TheCutOn

"Amen to that. My wife wants to skip it all the time and that makes sex boring sometimes."

- adamsbrad47

"The 'pre-foreplay' is also important. Never stop flirting with your partner no matter how long you’ve been together."

- FurtherAdieux

You have to find what works.

"Clitoral stimulation is not just a trigger finger as fast as you can. I can't speak for everyone because maybe that works for some people, but plenty of others need variation. change rhythms, change up the pressure, try different things until you figure out what works."

- cappybean

"I had a partner that treated it like the elevator button. 'I keep pressing it but it's not coming?? Maybe it's broken.'"

- obeehunter

"Agreed, it is not a radio knob that you keep rotating to find that perfect frequency. Asking what your partner likes will save you a lot of time and they will like it too!"

- thisisdwight

You're not alone.

"Whatever insanely weird thing you're into, you're definitely not alone."

- YorgiTheMagnificent

"If I've learned nothing else from Reddit, I've learned that. Doesn't matter what niche sexual or non-sexual quirk, experience, or interest I have, someone else is also interested in or has experienced it."

- 830_L

"This is a rule for life in general too, outside of sex. I love finding friends with mutually weird interests."

- bassicallyfunky

Once you found it, don't stop.

"If a woman is clearly enjoying what you're doing, don't go faster or harder immediately. She was enjoying what you did before for a reason."

- Limp-Sundae5177

"The trouble is it’s kind of like walking, I’m doing it at that pace but once you put my mental focus on it my pace changes."

- shellwe

"That’s why I don’t tell my partner to keep going haha because it makes them immediately conscious of what they’re doing. We have other cues to show that we’re about to climax."

Fuzzy_Maximum6011

No seriously, don't stop.

"The male orgasm does not end at the point of ejaculation but a few seconds after."

"If you’re pleasing your man and he ejaculates- DO NOT IMMEDIATELY STOP."

- BowwwwBallll

"An ex of mine when giving oral would keep going long after I got off. She basically kept going until I couldn’t take it anymore. It was amazing."

- GomezFigueroa

"And so is she single or…?"

- Killua_EU

Ultimately, the best thing to take away from this is everyone is different.

It's going to take open and honest communication with your partners and yourself to have good sex.

Most of us aren't taught these things in school, so you may stumble here and there.

There's nothing to be ashamed of, we're all still learning.

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