Sentimental People Divulge The Best Piece Of Advice They've Received
Whether we are asking for it or we find it, advice comes to us in life all the time. Unfortunately not all of us take the advice we are given, but these gems are worth paying attention to.
wf4 asks: What is the best piece of advice you've ever received?
Don't be obnoxiously proud
Never be afraid to admit you don't know something or need something explained again.
too much self consciousness will get to you
No one is paying nearly as much attention to you as you are to yourself.
How you respond is everything
You can't control other people's behaviors, but you can control how you respond to their behavior. Learning not to be immediately reactive.
Good friends are hard to find
To know who your true friends are, look for the ones who say good things behind your back and bad things to your face.
Procrastination will be the death of you
If it takes less than 8 minutes, go do it.
PS. This is an anti-procrastinating advice. Not a challenge.
Be one of a kind
You don't get paid based on how hard you work. You get paid based on how hard you are to replace.
You get what you give
Be the person you needed in life. Gave me something to think about
Number one waste of time
If you're worried about something and there's something you can do to help the situation, stop worrying and do that thing.
If you're worried about something and there's nothing you can do to help the situation, stop worrying - there's nothing you can do.
So... either way, worrying is a waste of time.
Dating advice from a nun, who knew!
Oddly enough I was told this dating advice by a Belgian Nun. "Make a list of everything you want in a partner. You know you've found the right person not when they tick every box on that list - but when you throw that list away."
If you expect marriage to change your relationship, you aren't ready for marriage.
Let it live!
Don't let the child inside you die.
Keep it moving
"do the next thing" an amazingly wise friend told me this 13 years ago when my marriage was falling apart and I was feeling so completely overwhelmed.
Just. Do. The. Next. Thing.
It's never far from my mind, seems basic but when things feel like they're spinning out of control, it's empowering to have just one thing to focus on
Try try try
Whilst I was travelling in Asia a barman in a hostel in Phnom Penh said to me 'Never try, never know.' Granted this was talking about firing a rocket launcher, which I didn't try, but I say this to myself about new things on a regular basis.
This was probably 25 years ago but I've never forgotten it. I'd just been dumped by my boyfriend and I knew I would be running into him that night at a packed bar where all of our mutual friends would be. I was heart broken, humiliated and so anxious. This girl I barely knew tells me this:
"It doesn't matter how you feel. You walk in there with your head held high and a smile on your face. Act like you own that place. You fake it if you have to. Don't let anyone even think it's something on your mind at all. And after a while you won't have to fake it anymore."
I've used that advice through several difficult situations in my life.
A dad at his best!
My dad. I was 16 years old and had my first true boyfriend, or so I thought... he dated me for awhile and then told me it wasn't working via text. He then proceeded to booty call me for months afterwards and be mean to me if I tried to contact him too much. I really wanted it to work since all my friends had boyfriends and I felt lame.
Cue the night I was with this boy and I was pressured to stay later. I thought he'd like me more, so I ignored my curfew and several phone calls from my dad and strolled in at 3am.
When I got home I expected to be yelled at beyond belief. However, instead, my dad calmly sat me down and explained to me that I was worth more as a person. That I cannot control how cruel others are at times, but I can control how I respond. That a person who deserved me, wouldn't treat me the way I was being treated. I ended up crying for a bit and stopped responding to this boy shortly after. My relationships became a hell of a lot healthier afterwards, too. Thanks, dad!
The urgency is real
The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is today.
Do it before you are dead
"There's one place, where all the people with the greatest potential are gathered. One place --- and that's the graveyard."
--- Viola Davis, Best Supporting Actress speech, 2017
I think about this quote quite literally every day. It encourages me to say "f*** it" and just go, do, and be.
Every person you meet has lived am entire life before that moment. Remember that.
If you just started going to the gym, don't be insecure about your weights or about how you look when you do your exercises. Everyone there is focused on themselves and don't really care.
Spend 30 minutes in nature everyday unless you're too busy, then spend an hour. :)