Sentimental People Divulge The Best Piece Of Advice They've Received
Whether we are asking for it or we find it, advice comes to us in life all the time. Unfortunately not all of us take the advice we are given, but these gems are worth paying attention to.
wf4 asks: What is the best piece of advice you've ever received?
Don't be obnoxiously proud
Never be afraid to admit you don't know something or need something explained again.
too much self consciousness will get to you
No one is paying nearly as much attention to you as you are to yourself.
How you respond is everything
You can't control other people's behaviors, but you can control how you respond to their behavior. Learning not to be immediately reactive.
Good friends are hard to find
To know who your true friends are, look for the ones who say good things behind your back and bad things to your face.
Procrastination will be the death of you
If it takes less than 8 minutes, go do it.
PS. This is an anti-procrastinating advice. Not a challenge.
Be one of a kind
You don't get paid based on how hard you work. You get paid based on how hard you are to replace.
You get what you give
Be the person you needed in life. Gave me something to think about
Number one waste of time
If you're worried about something and there's something you can do to help the situation, stop worrying and do that thing.
If you're worried about something and there's nothing you can do to help the situation, stop worrying - there's nothing you can do.
So... either way, worrying is a waste of time.
Dating advice from a nun, who knew!
Oddly enough I was told this dating advice by a Belgian Nun. "Make a list of everything you want in a partner. You know you've found the right person not when they tick every box on that list - but when you throw that list away."
Yes!
If you expect marriage to change your relationship, you aren't ready for marriage.
Let it live!
Don't let the child inside you die.
Keep it moving
"do the next thing" an amazingly wise friend told me this 13 years ago when my marriage was falling apart and I was feeling so completely overwhelmed.
Just. Do. The. Next. Thing.
It's never far from my mind, seems basic but when things feel like they're spinning out of control, it's empowering to have just one thing to focus on
Try try try
Whilst I was travelling in Asia a barman in a hostel in Phnom Penh said to me 'Never try, never know.' Granted this was talking about firing a rocket launcher, which I didn't try, but I say this to myself about new things on a regular basis.
Push through!
This was probably 25 years ago but I've never forgotten it. I'd just been dumped by my boyfriend and I knew I would be running into him that night at a packed bar where all of our mutual friends would be. I was heart broken, humiliated and so anxious. This girl I barely knew tells me this:
"It doesn't matter how you feel. You walk in there with your head held high and a smile on your face. Act like you own that place. You fake it if you have to. Don't let anyone even think it's something on your mind at all. And after a while you won't have to fake it anymore."
I've used that advice through several difficult situations in my life.
A dad at his best!
My dad. I was 16 years old and had my first true boyfriend, or so I thought... he dated me for awhile and then told me it wasn't working via text. He then proceeded to booty call me for months afterwards and be mean to me if I tried to contact him too much. I really wanted it to work since all my friends had boyfriends and I felt lame.
Cue the night I was with this boy and I was pressured to stay later. I thought he'd like me more, so I ignored my curfew and several phone calls from my dad and strolled in at 3am.
When I got home I expected to be yelled at beyond belief. However, instead, my dad calmly sat me down and explained to me that I was worth more as a person. That I cannot control how cruel others are at times, but I can control how I respond. That a person who deserved me, wouldn't treat me the way I was being treated. I ended up crying for a bit and stopped responding to this boy shortly after. My relationships became a hell of a lot healthier afterwards, too. Thanks, dad!
The urgency is real
The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is today.
Do it before you are dead
"There's one place, where all the people with the greatest potential are gathered. One place --- and that's the graveyard."
--- Viola Davis, Best Supporting Actress speech, 2017
I think about this quote quite literally every day. It encourages me to say "f*** it" and just go, do, and be.
Great advice
Every person you meet has lived am entire life before that moment. Remember that.
Do you!
If you just started going to the gym, don't be insecure about your weights or about how you look when you do your exercises. Everyone there is focused on themselves and don't really care.
Agreed!
Spend 30 minutes in nature everyday unless you're too busy, then spend an hour. :)
I can't definitively say I've come face to face with the spirits. But I have had some unsettling feelings in the dark. Shadows are just shadows sometimes, but who can be sure.
I hear it...
Nbc Wings GIF by HULUGiphy"I was helping my dad clean my grandma's house after she passed and I went in and was trying to find a song in my phone and before I could I heard a cough plain as day come from down the hallway where her room was. She died of lung and throat cancer it was pretty crazy."
Running Past...
"When I was 5 I remember getting home from my grandpa's birthday party. For context my mom was pregnant with my brother at the time, so my parents had already bought his crib. I woke up in the middle of the night to find a women in a white dress and long black hair standing over my brother's crib. I managed to wake up my dad so he could take me to the bathroom. When I got back it was still there. It was only until morning when it disappeared. Every now and then I see a glance of what I assume is that thing running past the backyard."
The Cat
"My best friend and his wife had moved to a new apartment. I came over to visit a few times, and each time I'd see the motion of a cat in my peripheral vision. Not the image of a cat, but a sense of how a cat moves. Anyway, one day I finally cracked some joke about the ghost cat in the place and his wife was instantly saying "See! See! I told you we had a ghost cat!"
"excuse me"
"I worked graveyard shift in a dementia ward for 4 years and it was anything but quiet. I was working with a nurse one night when we both heard a resident say "excuse me." We looked around and no-one was there. I checked on the resident in question and she was fast asleep in her own room. Many of us also experienced someone whistling in the ward late at night and one nurse even managed to catch a video of it happening. It was unnerving to say the least."
Clueless
Skeleton GIFGiphy"I once saw someone short walk by me in my house. They walked into the laundry room which only has one way in. I walked into it behind them and they where gone. I thought it was my little brother but I went to his room and he was asleep. I still have no clue what that was."
- ImBolio
Now was everyone here positive they were sober? Just asking. Those are certainly spooky moments. I'd like some video footage please. Continue...
Reflections
ghost library GIFGiphy"I was up at 3am when I was maybe 7 or 8. I looked out the window and saw a woman in a white dress run across my yard. I could see through her. She was transparent like the reflections on the window."
"you alright?"
"So, my work place is haunted. I was having a really crap day, and as a cleaner, it's normal that me and my co worker will be the only ones left at night. So I was standing on the second floor, leaning on the banister for the stair case, when I heard this male voice say in my ear "you alright?" Clear as day. I turned around so fast and nobody was there and it scared the hell out of me."
- Rex-the-
Watching Me
"I remember as a young kid I usually use to sit in my bed and watch tv with my room door open while the adjacent guest bedroom next to mine would always have the door shut. I always remember seeing that door fully open and close by itself multiple times a day very slowly and gently. Never really bothered me much now that I think about it… but there were other creepier experiences I had in the same house that made me feel uncomfortable like I was being watched."
Betsy
"I went to the Betsy Ross House as a really little kid in the early 90s. Normal house but I was confused why the tour guide never talked about the woman on the chair crying at the edge of the bed in Betsy Ross's bedroom. So I asked about it. No one else saw the woman at the edge of the bed. I figured it was just a wax museum since there was a wax statue of a man in uniform rolling bullets in the basement."
"Years later, I was looking at haunted Philadelphia tours to go on with a friend and the Betsy Ross House was on it. I was like "woah! I was there!" and looked into it some more. Turns out there is a woman at the end of the bed crying and a uniformed man in the basement that people have reported seeing. There is no way that 8 year old me would have known about either of these things."
hello kitty...
hello kitty lol GIF by Animation Domination High-DefGiphy"I had this hello kitty Balloon In my bed room, it had a string and weight on it. So it was late, I had the lights on just Sitting on my bed. The Balloon turns, faces my door, slowly floats into my hallway and turns and floats into my sister's room. To this day I am scared of balloons."
They are among us and they like Hello Kitty. I'm probably rattling the paranormal cages and they'll come for me next, but I'm ready. I feel like this thread has prepared me.
Boo!
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