You may remember the specific words someone told you that impacted you immensely, and these people have memories of their own thanks to Redditor WhereIsMyPony, who asked the online community: "What are some sentences that changed your life?"
"A friend..."
Giphy"Write the bad days in sand and the good days in stone"
A friend told me this before I got on a flight to a new city for a job, there would be a lot of bad days but this helped me get through it.
"They probably didn't..."
"Just as it would be morally wrong to enslave another human being, so too it is morally wrong to enslave yourself."
- My university tutor. They probably didn't make it up themselves and I have no idea what it was in reference to, but it really struck a chord with workaholic me.
"I was 12..."
"You only get one life, and on your death bed the only thing that'll keep you company is the memories of the life you lived."
I was 12 when I was sitting on a bench outside my church looking at a group of kids my age I wanted to introduce myself to. I wasn't a socially anxious person but this was the start of my "I wanna be cool" phase and I thought it would be embarrassing to introduce myself. (I dont know how this logic came about)
There was this old lady from my church who saw me sitting alone and asked me to help her stack the outdoor chairs. So I went over and helped.
She asked me if the kids were my friends. I said no. She asked why I was staring then. I just said 'i dunno. ' because i was embarrassed about the reason. She went quiet a moment then said that sentence.
Normally when adults would tell me advice it would go in one out the other. But this clicked for me. This one sentence kept me up so many nights because it finally just clicked.
"A drunk club girl..."
"People come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime."
A drunk club girl told me that in a parking lot of a supermarket 8 years ago and it stuck with me.
"It's from a goddamn video game..."
Giphy"There's a fine line between consideration and hesitation. The former is wisdom, the latter is fear"
It's from a goddamn video game and now it's framed on my desk at work. For me the toughest part about work isn't doing it, it's starting. This helps me get started, and I've gotten places I never thought I would because of it.
"No matter..."
"Everyone's drunk on something"
No matter what, who, or how it is, everyone needs that 'something' to attach to, to keep moving forward.
"This..."
"You have to fully feel your emotions before you can put them aside." -My Gym Teacher
This really got me to think of how I handle my emotions. Taught me not to suppress them and made me learn how to truly get over my feelings.
"My mom..."
"You can't expect people to love the same way you do."
My mom told me this during my first heartbreak. If you live life expecting people to show love the same way as you, you're always going to be disappointed. She also has borderline personality disorder and views love as a series of checks and balances but I digress.
"My grandfather..."
'If you love someone, tell them you love them. If you hate someone, don't ever tell them that because maybe one day you'll love them too'
My grandfather a few days before he passed.
"However..."
"It doesn't get easier, you get better."
This sentence came to me as a freshman in college during finals week and helped motivate me to not lose my scholarship after a rough semester. However, since then, it has stuck with me to help me with the other challenges inherent to life.
Redditor aloe_veracity wanted to discuss simple turn-ons and turn-offs, so they asked:
"What common 'sexy' thing is a turn-off for you personally?"
I do not get and will never understand skinny jeans.
Whoever thinks they are sexy is blind.
Use your words...
baby talking GIFGiphy"Baby talk, is that supposed to be sexy? Because it kinda makes me wanna take them to daycare."
kaeyasimp420
"I baby talk with my partner, but it’s less of a sexy thing and more of a cute n’ cuddly thing when we’re embracing each other."
H2OhYeahh
Off Color
"In Ireland, fake tan is very popular among women of all ages. But any guy I have talked to about this topic hates it, it's okay when done right but 99.9 percent of the time it is orange and patchy and looks like baby diarrhea smeared all over your body."
"Any woman I have discussed this with insists it looks amazing and that the boys love it, but I and any guy I have talked to about it are turned off majorly by the sight and even smell of it."
john_lemon7812
"My sister just shamed me for going somewhere without a fake tan. Don’t mind being pale in Ireland anymore though. Just too much effort to smell like fake tan, and have fake tan on my bed, and clothes. All just to look orange ha."
Kaza-beo
Just Howl
"Ripping off clothes during sex. Just take them off, no need to be a werewolf."
SuvenPan
"Did this twice. The first time I knew ahead of time that it was on the table, so I wore an old shirt that probably should have been thrown out by that point anyway. The second time, though, was totally on impulse and popped the buttons off of a really nice button-down blouse I’d worn for a job interview that day. At the time, it was hot af but once the hormones wore off and I couldn’t find all the buttons to sew them back on, I was miffed about it."
mokutou
Be Normal
"Aside from all the physical turn-offs, I am turned off by someone who's acting sexy, it's too ridiculous to me. Just act normal."
_Norman_Bates
"Ugh my husband used to do this, admittedly he can be incredibly socially awkward sometimes which cracks me up and is a reason why I love him, but man do I hate it when he tries to be sexy, squinting his eyes and slightly while raising his eyebrows, biting his lips and all. Gives me the ick so bad."
urscndmom
Unsexy
Not Listening Season 5 GIF by FriendsGiphy"Dated a girl who was really into anime once, she did the hentai cries to be sexy and it was just the most unsexy thing I've ever experienced."
GemoDorgon
This anime craziness is taking over.
To each their own.
Clothes On
dance party GIFGiphy"Male strippers. Just not for me and if I ever got a lap dance, I would probably just end up laughing lol."
semisweetdreams87
So Arrogant
"When confidence turns into arrogance."
DeerZealousideal7423
"Agreed. There's a difference between giving off the impression you know how to handle anything thrown your way and thinking that any communication with you is me thinking I'm hot crap and you think I'm unworthy of your attention."
patrickwithtraffic
"I struggle with this, but not because I am arrogant lol. I looked down on my abilities so much that I faked arrogance to be funny. My friends get the joke and we laugh, but I forget the joke doesn't land when the person has just met me."
jedadkins
I Still Cringe
"Oh, God. I KNOW this isn’t common outside of like, the 11th grade, which makes it worse. I have a 6’7 ex who would wiggle his eyebrows and do that tongue flicker thing. Something about something that off-putting being done by a towering beast of a man just made it 1000x worse. I still cringe."
No-Photo8763
"My ex used to do this lick/slurp noise and kinda hang his tongue tip out when he talked about hot people. It legit made me gag more than once. That particular gesture has stuck with me more viscerally than anything else he did."
LeSilverKitsune
Flavored
Tv Show Hulu GIF by The BearGiphy"Girls calling me 'Daddy,' it's gross and incestuous. I prefer to be called Chef, it's professional and implies we going to flavor town."
BicycleMinimum4629
Grow Long
"These stupid short beards which are way too symmetric and that everyone gets from the barber. Like someone drew it with a marker."
Kampfzwerg0
Again, sexiness is all subjective.
Our tastes are clearly all over the map.
Enjoy.
