Scientists Discover Saturn's Rings Are Only As Old As The Dinosaurs And They're Still Trying To Figure Out Why
One of those things that likely doesn't cross the average person's mind on a given day is the age of objects in our universe.
Sure, you learn in school the universe is over 13 billion years old, and maybe you know the Earth is 4.5 billion years.
But what about other things in the universe?
What if one of the features of our solar system was significantly younger than the rest of the planetary bodies?
It would seem to be the case with the rings of Saturn, which are estimated to be only 100 million years old.
Not as old as you thought. Cassini spacecraft data suggests that rings of Saturn might be 10 million or at most 100… https://t.co/btOBinFeta— Firouz M. Naderi (@Firouz M. Naderi)1547789241.0
In 2017, the Cassini spacecraft made several passes around the rings of Saturn as the last job on its mission. Falling into Saturn's gravity well, Cassini was able to measure the planet's gravity precisely.
It was an impressive feat of SCIENCE!
@Firouz_Naderi 💡learn something everyday— Ruby D (@Ruby D)1547819032.0
@Firouz_Naderi cc: @DrNormanBergrun https://t.co/MsIOZdoKYH— ❤️ (@❤️)1547818821.0
@Firouz_Naderi As usual great picture and facts. Thanks Dr. Naderi!— شيخ صنعان (@شيخ صنعان)1547799410.0
It took time to verify the data and ensure the measurements worked with their formulas, but with such precise detection of the gravity pulling on the rings, researchers were able to determine the mass of the rings and in turn, their age.
Since their discovery, explanations of the planet's rings have ranged from a moon that got to close to the plant, to nebular material from when the planet was first formed. With this new data, researchers can place their age range from between 10-100 million years old, discounting some theories.
This puts their formation at around the same time dinosaurs roamed the earth.
@stevenfoster4 @NASAJPL @NASA @CassiniSaturn It means Saturn existed for at least 4.4 billion years before the ring… https://t.co/Ak1uZf6e7f— beneboy303 (@beneboy303)1547758601.0
@NASAJPL @HNTurtledove @CassiniSaturn That young? Dang.— regularJim (@regularJim)1547754538.0
@JameAPrice1 @NASAJPL @CassiniSaturn https://t.co/ouczgIfa8C Here you go— Dylan Prunest (@Dylan Prunest)1547760701.0
The Cassini mission also found the rings are disintegrating. Material from the rings has been continuously falling toward the planet, with estimations that they may only last another 100 million years.
These sound like large numbers, but within the scale of the universe, these ages are peanuts. If you compare the age of Saturn to the age of a 30 year old human, the planet got its rings less than a year ago.
@D_Evil_Overlord @NASAJPL @CassiniSaturn Failed because their arms were too short to reach the controls. Tragic really.— Mart (@Mart)1547761836.0
@Rob_Rainbolt @NASAJPL @CassiniSaturn Lol— Michael Cannistraro (@Michael Cannistraro)1547766300.0
@frankcents @NASAJPL @NASA @CassiniSaturn In a galaxy far away— Thomas Ulreich (@Thomas Ulreich)1547771838.0
Cassini ran out of fuel in 2017 and was placed on a trajectory to fall to the planet's surface to protect the moons. As the remaining data is studied, more papers should be published in the coming months.
People Describe Which Small Achievement They Would Actually Like A Pat On The Back For
On the internet, people tend to say things they likely would not in the real world. The anonymity of a forum or comment section--composed only of verbal contributions beneath made up names--compels us to socialize with less inhibition; we take more risks with the peers we can't see in the flesh.
THANK YOU
<p>"Maybe not small. But my job is sort of essential. I support software that is used by many hospitals and medical facilities."</p><p>"I've pretty much worked every day and made sure our sh** didn't blow up whole covid wrecked shop. I get no mention. I get no praise but damnit I'm happy to keep helping fight the fight."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp5ubry?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">shartnado3</a></p>Making All the Right Moves
<p>"Trimming 7 years (so far!) off our mortgage through minor payment tweaks and tax return lump sum payments."</p><p>"It takes planning and discipline, but means we'll both be able to retire without house-debt. Planning to surprise SO with this next year once I get it down a little further." </p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp5w7mm?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">flitterbug78</a></p>The Leap
<p>"I finally got the courage to apply to, interview for, and accept another job, and quit the job I've had for a decade." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp63t9k?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">whatisgoinghappen</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Good job. I change as well last September. After 14 years it was stressful. Especially with a wife, a mortgage and a kid depending on my income." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp8x685?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Angio343</a></p>33.83 Years of Training
<p>"I successfully plunged a toilet today! For the first time in my 33.83 years of existence! I'm just relieved I don't have to call the guest house manager."</p><p>"That'll teach me not to flush toilet paper in India smh."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp69rfb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">fvckyes</a></p>Keep It Going, Keep It Going
<p>"Running 45 minutes to one hour most days for the last four weeks." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp5uufd?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">InbhirNis</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"That's brilliant!! Geesh if you can keep that up, even if it becomes just a few times a week you are adding YEARS to you lifespan, as well as LIFE!" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp6gjdv?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">BlueLunarStar</a></p>Pristine Extremities
<p>"I been biting my nails all of my life and have finally stopped. I always feel a little silly to show my friends and be like, look, I have nails!" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp64l2e?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">mobiuthuselah</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Hey that's awesome! I've been biting my nails for like 20 years, it is a HARD habit to break. 👏👏" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp8cu86?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">takethehiddenpaths</a></p>1, 2, 3
<p>"I did three loads of laundry today. Folded and put away too!" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp5tmtb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">rockbiter81</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Is..is that humanly possible? I mean put away and everything?" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp71hfd?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">AtheneSchmidt</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Several years ago, when I was majorly depressed, laundry was the hardest thing to do. It felt never <a href="https://ending.to/" target="_blank">ending.</a> To this day, keeping on top of laundry is like saying 'I'm doing ok' for me."</p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Doing three loads, folding AND putting away is amazing from my perspective! Congrats! Good job!!" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp7bebe?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Smartass_Narrator</a></p>Step One, Check
<p>"I've been making a point to try and shower every day."</p><p>"It doesn't seem like much, but when I'm going through a rough bout of depression - it's the biggest accomplishment I can muster and I'm very proud of myself and my current level of stinky-ness"</p><p>"(current stink level: not stinky!! Yay)"</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp61um4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">datCHEESElife</a></p>Upswinging
<p>"Drug addict for the last 10 years, tomorrow marks 2 months clean. May not sound like a long time but it's longest I've gone ever" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp601uu?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">yo_Slick</a></p><p>"Been an alcoholic for 9 years. 2 weeks sober tomorrow" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp5v4ol?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">IscreamwhenIsh**</a></p>Here's to You Making It
<p>"today is my 26th birthday and I'm still around for it" -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp5uq5b?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">b4byd0t</a></p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"I've been depressed for decades. I just turned 49 four days ago and I never thought I'd get here. It's been rough for most of those years, but I'm still here and I think of all the people I've helped that wouldn't have happened and it gives me a purpose. Do the same."</p><p style="margin-left: 20px;">"Think about anything you've done, even if it's just giving directions to a stranger. You helped that person get to where they needed to be. If you weren't there, they might still be lost now." -- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/luddci/whats_a_small_achievement_you_would_like_a_pat_on/gp7yyjw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">eddyathome</a></p>Time and dedication is critical to learning new skills.
Getting Stuff Done Around The Household
<p>How do other people get things done around the house? Like a human being? Not everyone had a Home Economics class made available to them in school, so some household skills got lost in the shuffle.</p>How Do They Make It Look So Easy On Cooking Shows?
<p>Getting all the components of a meal ready at the same time.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxx9n2?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Spellflinger2019</a></p><p>Same. I recommend using the "keep warm" setting on your oven &/or slow cooker if you don't have a warming drawer on your oven.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goya81o?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Delphavis</a></p><p>Gotta make sure you do all of the prep and measuring things out before starting to cook. Nothing like having to run into the pantry 10 minutes in to get something and throwing you off.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/AlienatedAstronaut/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">AlienatedAstronaut</a></p>...So We Don't All Just Stuff It In A Drawer?
<p>Folding a fitted sheet</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxtwel?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Momonthecoast</a></p><p>Ok so here's the move. Stick ya hands in a corner, any two corners, bring em together, and just skdjgnskakzhe real fast in a circular motion. Condensed ball of sheet, more than acceptable.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxvk9s?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">memetimeboiiii</a></p>Not Following This One...
<p>I still can't put on a bra without putting it on backwards to do the clasp. I'm incapable.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxgrmr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">BustyNat</a></p><p>Is this not how we all do it?</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goy9vka?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">8675309fromthebl0ck</a></p>Tripping Over Your Doing-Things-In-Front-Of-Other-People Feet
<p>Are other people around? Watching you? Judging you? Waiting for you to do something? </p><p>That's the worst, isn't it?<br></p>How Do Talk Good?
<p>How to socialize in groups of new people. I'm ok with socializing, just not in a setting where I don't know anyone.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxj6v9?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Magnolia120</a></p>Me No Speaky That Good Linguistics?
<p>Talking to people. "Smalltalk."</p><p>I'm fine with people I already know, or have lots in common with, can talk for 10 hours a day about nothing. but when it comes to strangers?</p><p>what the hell is going on. why are you talking to me, what do you want. please just be direct. I don't want to play mind games. i don't want to guess what your intentions are. just tell me. how can i help you? drives me insane.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxb0pp?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Spread-Smiles</a></p>Circle It Back, Keep It At A 45 Degree Angle, And You've Bumped The Curb
<p>Parallel parking. It's not that I can't do it, it's that I can't do it if <em>anybody else is around</em> (usually the case if you're parallel parking, in my experience).</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxevm2?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">stfupcakes</a></p><p>I can't do it and I refuse to try if there is anything solid that I could hit in the vicinity...trash can, cone, other car, etc. Add an audience and it's a double nope.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goy6g31?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">SaltyA--SnowQueen</a></p>Life Is Hard, Huh?
<p>Then there are those like skills that don't compute, no matter how much you try. Things that seem everyday simple for everyone else, yet, for some reason, your brain functions just don't match up to what you're trying to do.</p>Feel The Rhythm In Your Fee-And You're On The Floor
<p>Dancing. </p><p>My body just can't coordinate with my scumbag brain to be able to dance.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxh1lg?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">ZiggerTheNaut</a></p><p>Same. It's awful. Sometimes when I'm alone I'll try to dance and just feel the music. It FEELS awkward and awful. I can't even imagine how it looks.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goybik0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Hazel4292</a></p>Just Put Your Hands On The Floor Nice And-Now You're On The Floor, Too
<p>F-cking cartwheels. </p><p>How did every girl at school know how to do them?! I was like, hell no. I'm gonna break my neck. That was when I was like seven. Now I am 30. Same stance.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goyc2ub?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">GorpQuest</a></p>Put Your Lips Together, And...
<p>I can't whistle.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxcasw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank"></a><a target="_blank">Bandejita</a></p><p>Whisper the letter Q in English to yourself. Notice the whistly part of the letter, keep experimenting with how your lips are puckered at that moment and how you blow the air out. Keep doing that.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goyd4ib?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">sarabichat</a></p>And Here We Have The-OW!
<p>Detecting the presence of a coffee table without using my shin</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxvwxb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Cantankerous_Won</a></p><p>Yeeeeeep. Add in super pale skin + anemia and you're left with perpetually black and blue shins. Hawt. 🤦🏼♀️</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goyadz5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">memetimeboiiii</a></p>How Awful...
<p>Being able to fall asleep during the day for a power nap. I just can't. My brain won't settle down.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goxqmks?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">AyakaNatsuki</a></p><p>If I'm going to nap it's a 3 hour process for me. My wife can power nap in 15 minutes, but it takes me that long just to go to sleep.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltdfay/what_is_a_common_skill_you_just_cant_seem_to/goyjh4l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3">Frosti-Feet</a></p>Getting disowned by your family can either be absolutely devastating or a massive relief. Either way, usually it's to get rid of toxicity within a family structure, whether on purpose or an unintentional result of the situation.
Here are a few stories about being disowned by family members, from the side of the person who was disowned. Heads up, these might get a little ugly.
Now THAT’S a toxic family.
<p>I don't consider myself disowned, but I have been cut off from seeing my younger siblings. I've pretty much disowned certain family members myself.</p><p>My mother(50) has been abusing her position of EPOA for my Alzheimers addled Grandmother(80) via extortion, and unlike everybody else, I choose to hold her accountable for her actions, because her selfish actions lead to my nana nearly needing her feet amputated from having lack of medical care and attention.</p><p>I told everyone what she was doing and nothing happened. No one wants to prosecute her because apparently legal fees are more important than getting my grandmother justice.</p><p>So, essentially, I was 'disowned' for exposing her extortion.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mumsacunt/" target="_blank">Mumsac*nt</a></p>At least there was a happy ending.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwMDY3NC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0NjQ0ODQ1NX0.50384xr_KZ6kXnpm2NPzxtQUNKoxaiuvdeefciyQ3bU/img.gif?width=980" id="6a14b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="1841f01792526bfa9519bd02ba86da10" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="360" />bart simpson whatever GIFGiphy<p>Mom saw that I'd worn some of her clothes while she was in another province for work. I came home to her screaming that I'd sold thousands of dollars of her clothing to my high school friends (we were so poor we had to steal food; nobody bought any clothes, nobody stole them either lol).</p><p>She then said she was going to destroy everything I owned, and in a panic I hid in my room and put the dresser against the door. She started throwing herself against it, and I was terrified to realize she was gonna get in. My lava lamp fell, I caught it, and threw it when she forced the door open. She screamed, I jumped out a window and ran barefoot to a friends house.</p><p>She called the police accusing me trying to murder her, I turned myself in and told the police that I did assault her and would accept any charges. They released me to my friends house and told my mom that they'd charge her with child abandonment if she kept pushing.</p><p>Her ex best friend drove four days to get me. She signed over the ownership papers and I've had an amazing dad ever since.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Individual-Youth958/" target="_blank">Individual-Youth958</a></p>Talk about mommy issues.
<p>My mom decided when I was 13-14 that she didn't want to have kids anymore. Her and my dad divorced. So my dad moved out of the family house and my mom was newly single.</p><p>So she gets my sister out first by asking my sister to go away to stay with our dad for the weekend. When my sister came back, my mom had packed all her items in boxes and said, "find somewhere else to live." Sister was maybe 15. Her reasoning is she didn't like the crowd my sister was running with.</p><p>With me, I stuck around longer. I took more abuse and neglect. My mom didn't cook, or clean, or have food in the house. And despite getting child support, if I asked for shoes, or anything, "ask your father, don't ask me."</p><p>Despite not having food or money, she wouldn't give me the alarm code to the house, or a key. I could only come home if she was home. One day she agreed to drive my friends and I to the movies. Well she and I got into a small argument about something in the morning (I don't remember what) and I left and arrived home in the afternoon. She was home but wouldn't let me in. I was a 13-14 year old kid (before cell phones were that commonplace). Ringing the bell, peering in the windows. She wouldn't let me in. Finally, I found an open window and climbed through and she coldly looked at me and said, "you know, I could have you arrested for breaking into the house if I wanted to."</p>This mother is a monster.
<p>I was told by my mother that my general existence causes more problems than it solves, and I had two weeks to either leave or kill myself. She didn't care which I chose to do, but if I killed myself I needed to make it look like an accident or she couldn't collect on my life insurance. She decided this needed to happen because I'm disabled.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/alchemicals/" target="_blank">Alchemicals</a></p>Screw that mess, indeed.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwMDY4MC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYxOTA2MjU0MX0.n131ClXLEFf7zJlsU81cnGvFDmY3hpXFsPud2V1_XxE/img.gif?width=980" id="e1c11" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="5e6939807d6cc78a7e46681e1b29188a" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="480" />Sad Murdoch Mysteries GIF by Ovation TVGiphy<p>My dad. It was mostly my decision because we used to do hard drugs when I was a kid. Growing up I thought it was normal until friends found out and told me they were worried about me. I first overdosed when I was 14 from drugs he gave me and let me just say it was all downhill from there. </p><p>I'm 13 years sober now but I kicked him out of my life around the same time. My dad still says horrible things about me and his whole family believes him... so I cut them all out. It's definitely for the better as I have created my own family with supportive friends. Screw that mess.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/jessvszombies/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Jessvszombies</a></p>Very culty.
<p>I was a Jehovah's Witness, and I started asking the wrong questions.</p><p>There is now several hundred people that watched me grow up, the only social circle I was allowed to have, that must pretend I don't exist if they ever see me.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/excusetheblood/" target="_blank">Excusetheblood</a><br></p>WTF to all of this.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwMDY5Ny9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyODE2NzY4N30.jnPPGZOY8r2ocnAZwVQS3RG2rWB-8IJ4l2FsHKAraWQ/img.gif?width=980" id="668cd" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="dea203429b9f16653755bcfac9e60e41" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="500" data-height="280" />britney spears GIFGiphy<p>Where do I start?</p><p>My mother and I have never gotten along. As a child she has been overly critical of me (Asian parent). Even when I was small I remember her telling my Dad "If she can't even cut in a straight line what can she even do?!". I was 5 when she said that. When she realized that I was not going to grow up like she did or have the interests she wanted me to have she grew more critical of me. She laid of a bit when my little sister came around and she favored her more. I always felt like I was never enough in her eyes. She only was affectionate during family get togethers, vacations or sometimes in public.</p><p>When I came out of the closet, she didn't believe me. She always said lightheartedly that she would love me no matter what but when push came to shove my bi-ness was just a phase. We then went to church for the next few months afterwards (I was catholic). When I hit depression in my teens each time she picked me up from therapy she always kept asking "When am I going to be ok" or hinting how much my sessions are while on anti-depressants. She then cheated on my dad when I was around 18. When I had my son, she came to be supportive after the birth but ended up critisizing how dirty my place was, my parenting and subtly hinted at calling CPS. Post partum hit hard and a failed suicide attempt ensued.</p>Good riddance.
<p>My biological father is an abusive alcoholic, but also super Christian? And super redneck conservative. He gave up his rights when I was 4, which my mom always told me was for the best. After I found out I was pregnant, he added me on social media and saw where I had shared some posts with pro-choice views. I guess it bothered him because he blocked me lol</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Emotional-Fruit/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Emotional-Fruit</a></p>We all have our vulnerable moments we try our best to keep hidden.
They say, "Never let see you sweat," but sometimes that is easier said than done.