Remorseful People Reveal The One Thing They Regret Doing On Their Wedding Day

Weddings are supposed to be perfect, but little things often go wrong. It's okay though, just keep the booze flowing and no one will notice. Or remember.

lifeisstateofmind asked, What's the one thing you regret doing for your wedding day?

Submissions have been edited for clarity, context, and profanity.

Registering for good china. I didn't want it. Knew we would never use it. Received everything. Never have used it in 25 years.

My number one regret is telling people not to take pictures. I know it sounds dumb but it is much worse than that. In our agreement with our photographer, she told us that other cameras were not allowed as the flash from another camera could ruin our pictures. So we politely told people to refrain from taking pictures and explained the situation. We had a great wedding and the photographer even sent an extra photographer to work the wedding (2 instead of 1). A few weeks after we tried contacting her for the photos. We got ghosted. We tried for about a year to track her down. We were still willing to pay for the photos, even unedited. We just wanted the photos. Fortunately, some people didn't get the message so we have a few (10-20) photos from our wedding. The worst part was that someone had contacted my wife through FB two weeks before the wedding warning us about her but we decided to take the risk because there probably was no way to get another photographer in that kind of time. When she showed for the date we were relieved and thought we dodged a bullet

Letting my mother-in-law have any say in anything. She ruined the food.

Having an outdoor wedding in August in South Carolina. Timing necessitated it. Otherwise, I loved my wedding and love my wife.

Paper invitations and RSVPs. Set up a wedding site and have people RSVP there. The amount of stress I put myself through trying to get paper mailed back to me in an era when no one uses mail anymore was so unnecessary. At one point we'd gotten very few RSVPs back and I had a total crying meltdown about how no one was going to come. Of course they were going to come, it's just no one uses mail anymore. Save yourself the headache and the money. It's my biggest wedding regret.

Not having our grandmas as flower girls. We didn't have anyone to be flower girls, and I didn't think of asking grandmas until way after the wedding.

Letting other people help pay. As soon as that happens they take over the wedding. The guest list, decor, cake, everything.

Edit: Wow this post blew up. I guess people have different experiences but let me lay out some of mine.

Uncle offered to pay for the Limo. Great. But it turned out to be this busted 1980s limo with a spiderwebbed window and no hubcaps. What looked like a homeless driver. He literally went on craigslist and got the cheapest one with no research. We called an uber.

In-laws offered to pay for half of the catering. Which is how our guest list was 70 people but 200+ showed up. Would have been fine if they would have told us so we could adjust catering, but no. We had to have the caterers adjust on the fly and drag some tables out of storage. And then we had to order pizza for the rest. People we actually wanted there were eating fucking pizza on dusty tables.

Other uncle offered to pay for airfare for the honeymoon. Which is how an eighteen-day trip turned into twelve days because that was the cheapest ticket.

Brother in law paid for the wine, which actually turned out fine. But we didn't have enough because of all the completely unexpected guests.

All we wanted was a smallish celebration with 75 people, and to have an awesome wedding. But we wound up with a big celebration that was kind of mediocre. And really stressful.

In-laws actually told us we could not say hi to our actual friends because then we'd have to go to each table and say hi to everyone to be fair. Which would have taken two hours. Which caused an argument.

Maybe your families aren't that type. But I wish we had just done our own thing and not accepted any help.

I've been married for 16 years now so this is a little old school. We bought a bunch of disposable cameras and set them all over the place at our reception with a note on them that said take some pictures. At the end of the night, we collected all the cameras and had the film developed. Most of them turned out really cool and we got some pictures we would have never thought of taking. The regret comes in me underestimating some of my friends' ability to be adults for 1 night and ended up with a lot of penis pics also. Lol.

I'm guessing a lot of people getting married today could just set up an Instagram account and just have everyone upload cell pics to it.

Inviting people I didn't really want to invite. They just cost you money, you don't interact with them at all, and they usually don't bring a nice gift to make up for it.

EXCEPT for letting all of the divorced aunts and uncles bring +1's. Because that let to a whole jealousy competition train that was extremely entertaining.

Not preparing a speech. I thought I'd just go up, thank everyone for coming and sit back down. Short and sweet, get it out the way. That's exactly what I did, without mentioning my parents or my wife.