Getting married is an exciting and pivotal time in our lives that comes with a lot of changes. There are a ton details that you should know about before getting married because life is a whole different ballgame from your single or dating life. Commitment is work and sometimes some unexpected changes happen.

EssamSidqi asks:

What should you know before getting married?

That people often change throughout their lives, but not just because they got married. Many people get married with either the expectation that marriage will change their SO or that the person will stay the same forever. Neither are correct. People will change, but not always in the ways that you expect and you have to be willing to adapt to them.

How they relate to their family and if you can handle it.

If, say, your partner's family is nauseatingly close and loves to spend time together, are you down with that? Is your partner good at setting boundaries?

In-laws can destroy relationships.

Divorces are expensive.

It's work, and it's everyday work. If you want a healthy relationship you need to tend to that relationship.

As a recent widower I can only say this: Nothing is forever. Cherish every moment you have together. Good, bad, or mundane.

Where you're going to spend holidays.

How much time you're going to spend with each family.

Most people don't realize how much stress each other's families bring to the table. Always be a united front.

Don't lose your individualism. My best friend recently got divorced and discovered that he didn't even know what he liked to do anymore. The person you're going to marry fell in love with YOU. Don't lose that. It's okay to have different hobbies/interests.

Make sure you're both getting married for the right reasons. Not to save a relationship or because it is what they want or to keep family happy.

Divorced..

You should know that while you think you might be communicating well, you can always do better. What I mean by that is that relationships take rigorous honesty and compassion.

That you agree on the important topics:

Children (and how to raise them)

Finances/Expenditures

Future Plans

Religion

These are the likeliest topics to have little to no compromise on so if you disagree drastically it will eventually cause a rift.

That if your relationship is on the rocks getting married won't fix it.

It's probably never going to be 50/50. Somebody is usually going to be carrying more of the load. As long as the burdened partner is not the same one all of the time, you can make it work. Just my opinion.

When you fight, remember that you two are on the same side.

Sometimes it'll feel like it's you versus her... whenever it feels like that, Stop. Back up. Figure out how it's you both versus the world (or you both versus the fear they're feeling, or you both versus the problems you're having or whatever...) and not the two of you against each other.

Hell, try to remember that when you're not fighting too.

If you can't do this... well, I won't say "don't get married"... but do work on this, it's important.

Your SO most likely fell in love with the best and strongest version of you. When you get married, make sure that your SO will still love you when you're down. It's a lifetime. Hard times will come. This goes both ways.

Also, marriage is work. If you don't put effort into it, it becomes boring.

Go to Ikea together. It's like Hunger Games for relationships.

Your SO's stance on having children. This really needs to be talked out fully. Even if you both end on a maybe, it should be an honest maybe from both parties.

Pretend you aren't going to have a wedding. Still wanna get married?

Don't forget to continue going on dates after you're married

Being married is just hanging with your best friend every day. Treat them like you would your very best, best friend, and you'll do just fine.