Too many times I've sat in a job interview and knew in my gut I should be running for the door.
I'm not alone in this experience.
I didn't take all of those jobs, but I took more than I should've.
I never give my gut and the red flags enough credit.
That's why I work from home now with two dogs.
And even that isn't drama-free.
Redditor pbourree wanted to hear about the times they had an eerie feeling about the place they were thinking about working at.
"What are subtle red flags at a job interview that say 'working here would suck?'"
I once went on an interview that turned into a therapy/meditation session.
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"They told me all about their generous severance packages. In the initial interview. Turnover city."
sparks in their eyes...
"I always ask about training and learning curves. Every job I’ve had that went wrong- I notice that when that question came up they stumbled. The current job I have, when I asked the question they had sparks in their eyes as they explained the whole process from day 1 of shadowing to the transition to working solo. And even when Covid hit they managed to continue without skipping a beat."
"'Well, the overtime isn't mandatory, but most folks stick around after hours most days.'"
"Spoilers: The overtime is mandatory."
"The most terrifying thing is that in any places, the managers won't even need to encourage/threaten you to work overtime. Your coworkers will shame you for 'leaving early' if you leave right when your working time is over."
"'Overtime isn't mandatory. By the way, remember your performance review is coming up.'"
"Was interviewed by a Senior programmer and the department head. The department head was continuously making condescending remarks towards the other interviewer. Poor guy just sounded broken. Hope he's somewhere else now."
"Years ago I was told by a manager that he needed some help with a technical interview. This manager was not especially skilled, so I ended up conducting the interview. When it was the time for goodbye the candidate offered me his business card and the manager commented in front of him with 'funny how he's given his business card to you, when you are basically irrelevant.' I could see the guy cringing so hard at that point and he was obviously right."
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"Besides always hiring, they seem almost overly eager to say, 'Yes, we could do that!' to everything you ask. No job will have literally everything you want, and if your gut is telling you they seem to be promising a bit more than they can offer, they likely are."
All I can say is "Been there/done that!" I've been on all of these interviews.
"My favorite is 'there's a lot of people waiting in line to work here, count yourself lucky. Huge red flag."
The Final Capper
"I had an interview once, the owner of the company told me he was going to hire me, let the man in the office train me, then fire that man once I was up to speed. He also told me that sometimes employees have to hold their paycheck. And the final capper, (not that I needed it, I had already decided not to work for him) was he told me I looked like his nephew. I am female."
"Once an interviewer straight up asked me if I had any trouble working for free on weekends... I told them my free time is more valuable than anything and that the only way that I would work a weekend is if they are paying me and if I felt like working a weekend. She got really mad at me and ended the interview right away. Biggest red flag I’ve ever seen because they didn’t even try to hide it."
What we Expect!
"We cater lunch and dinner for our whole team! Sounds like a positive, but what it means is, 'We expect you to be working past dinnertime hours, and there will be a lot of social pressure to never leave, and to socialize with the team well past working hours. We don't understand that anyone might want a life outside of work.'"
Less of a problem now, hopefully, but in the tech bro heyday, this was super common."
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"At my current job, after my interview the manager said ‘just don’t get involved in the staff drama and you’ll be fine.' It has not been fine."
Go with your gut. You always know at hello.
We all need a paycheck but we don't need that much drama to go with it.
Do you have similar red flags to share? Let us know in the comments below.
It pays to know another language. Being bilingual can open many doors.
It's also pretty useful for eavesdropping, not that we're endorsing that.
As a Spanish speaker—hooray for growing up in a bilingual household!—I have always been rather humored by moments when people were talking about me... under the impression that I didn't know what they were saying.
Imagine their faces once I proved them wrong!
Those who speak any other language have undoubtedly had a similar experience at least once.
People shared their stories with us after Redditor 64eight asked the online community,
"Multilinguals, what's your 'They didn't realise I could understand their language' story?"
"I was in Germany..."
"Am ethnically Chinese but grew up learning German."
"I was in Germany for student exchange and attended a dorm party one night. Two German guys at the party started flirting with me and openly discussed who would be able to sleep with me that night."
"Played dumb and rejected both their advances. A week later at another party I conversed with other friends in fluent German in front of them. Their expressions were priceless."
I bet they were shocked! What a power move.
"My dad was down the aisle..."
"Very innocent comment towards my Dad, but regardless they clearly didn't think I could understand them. I once overheard some middle aged guys say that my Dad looks like "the oldest kid from The Brady Bunch if he grew up" in Spanish."
"My dad was down the aisle getting something and I was manning the cart and they were semi near me. I just start laughing because my mom had a crush on Greg from The Brady Brunch as a kid,so it was perfect! Even my Dad's name is Greg!"
"No one was offended, but the guys did look scared for a minute."
I bet they were scared. Must have given you quite a laugh!
"I responded in Spanish..."
"It happens to me all the time because I look middle-eastern when I'm really Hispanic. I was working at a coffee shop and two hispanic men came in talking mad s**t about our food and confused about the menu."
"Right in front of me the guy's like "Lets ask this guy" "This guy? What's this camel gonna know about anything here" (I guess camel is a slur for middle eastern or something?). I responded in Spanish and it was back-pedal o'clock."
Serves them right, if you ask me. Hopefully they learned a valuable lesson.
"In high school..."
In high school I spoke Spanish fairly well. It was not common for that time and for my area."
"A family was buying groceries, and as I was ringing up the items the father said "he has not seen the stuff on the bottom, don't get it."
"I rang up what was on the belt, and sat there, after a few moments I asked about the stuff on the bottom. They would not look at me for the next 2 mins or so of the transaction."
Few places can inspire interactions like this more than the supermarket checkout line!
"I took a youth group to Six Flags..."
"I took a youth group to Six Flags. We had extra tickets from a couple of no-shows, so I decided to scalp them."
"A Korean family walked up and I made my pitch. They conferred together in Korean. I'm a white guy, but I lived in rural Korea for a year and bargained with a lot of shopkeepers, so I knew their counter-offer and what they were willing to pay before they announced it in English."
A secret skill! Look at you go. Oh to be a fly on the wall and see their reactions!
"I was in NYC..."
"I'm French. I was in NYC, on top of the Empire State Building and a young couple was standing next to me admiring the view, the guy turns to his gf and says in French "ahh I need to s**t so bad". I couldn't not laugh."
Can't blame you! One of the best things about knowing another language is catching moments like that.
"I was solo traveling..."
"I was solo traveling in Morocco. I'm 22, female and speak Arabic enough to understand conversations, basic words and phrases, etc. I was trying on clothes at a small shop and there were two women helping me choose what to try on."
"They started talking about me in Arabic, saying how I would be a great wife for one of the lady's sons. They were going on and on, and as I was leaving I responded in Arabic, "No thank you, but I appreciate your help," and they were stunned."
Good thing you could speak enough to get by! You could have been in an awkward situation!
"Oh, the cooks..."
"Oh the cooks at my job still don't know I'm fluent in Spanish. Yes, I know everything you're saying, Alejo."
Restaurants must be full of juicy drama and you have heard all of it!
"My wife is Indian..."
"My wife is Indian and her family speaks Gujarati. I've spent many years trying to pick it up and have found it to be very difficult as there are no great resources that I am aware of to learn it. You just have to listen and try to guess the context."
"Anyway, over the years I've gotten pretty good, and when my wife's aunt was visiting from India she went right in to my wife about how much weight I'd gained and how bad my diet must be."
"I understood every word and stopped her about two minutes into her rant. Turns out it didn't stop her from continuing."
She didn't even stop? Boundaries much?
If you happen to know another language, you pretty much have a secret superpower at your disposal! People will think twice about what they say around you, as they should.
Have stories of your own? Tell us more in the comments below!
Everybody wants a happy ending in life.
A happy love story ending that is.
But it may take longer to find than we'd like.
And we have to have standards and lines that are not crossable.
Know your boundaries.
Be able to say...
"That is my limit."
Redditor arbetarbladet wanted to hear about the reasons people will leave the search for love behind.
"What's a dealbreaker when it comes to dating?"
Draw a line in the sand and stick to it.
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"They don't initiate ANYTHING such as dates or intimacy."
"The date being obsessed with themselves or continually talking about their ex partners."
"Went on a date many years ago. This was one of my first dates after my wife left me. On this date the woman kept asking about my ex. Probably half of her questions were about the ex."
"Naturally I answered her questions but always tried to move the conversation back to me, her, whatever. Next day she texts and says she didn't think I was ready to date, that I was clearly still in love with my ex because I kept talking about her on our date."
"A ‘fix me’ person. I will support you to be your best. But I am not responsible to fix you."
"I think what’s even worse is when they treat you like you’re the fix-me-up. It’s very condescending and humiliating. That’s more of a pet relationship."
"I have a bad habit of picking partners who need fixing, it's unconscious really, but it's happened often enough to be an obvious pattern. And even as a person who sought out this trait, dealing with a person who needs to be fixed is exhausting."
Blocked him fully...
"When u notice that they want to change you into ways they like more, subtle hints at start but progressively they get more ballsy."
"I dated a guy who saw me as a lump of clay he could mold to his liking. I told him repeatedly that I was uninterested in attending grad school despite getting great fellowships because I got the job I thought I needed graduate school for."
"He sat me down and told me he could leverage some of his connections to get me into a good program, I told him absolutely not and that I didn't need his help, that I had gotten into good programs,, and he ignored me and just kept on with his pitch. I broke things off directly after this and he vetoed and said he didn't agree so we were still together. Blocked him fully."
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"Not brushing your teeth/poor dental hygiene on a regular basis."
Teeth are the key to life.
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"Old body odor stank."
"People need to realize that just because you don't smell it doesn't mean other people don't smell it. It's the same sh*t a smoker thinks."
"I just recently dated a Flat Earther! Didn’t find out until a few months in. Also didn’t find out about his ex being pregnant with his baby several months in, that was the dealbreaker for me but I should have stopped at Flat Earther."
"Or Young Earther."
"A couple years ago I dated a guy for a month before learning that he believed the world was just 6000 years old. The day I learned that, I showed up at the house of my biologist friends who had just been ranting about their college students who didn't 'believe' in evolution. I set down the beer and backpack I was holding and said, 'Guys, he's a Young Earther.' Took them a second to sort it out, and then we all collapsed with laugher. I broke up with him within the week."
"A bad temper."
"My stepfather had a bad temper. Never violent, but I could never understand why my mother married him. Never date, much less marry someone with a bad temper."
Not a Weapon
"Using their mental illness as part of their identity. No attempt to truly address it and leverage their illness to guilt others."
"It's maybe not the best thing to talk about during a first date. But it's the kind of thing I would want my date to know beforehand. I'd rather be told that she's not interested because of my mental illness than not telling her and letting her discover this side of me."
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"As someone who doesn't want children, dating someone who does is a dealbreaker. Suffered a couple broken hearts over having to make this decision."
"This is so important! And, to add, believe someone when they say they don't want kids. Don't take it to mean that they don't want them right now, or any time soon. If they firmly don't want children, that's not likely to change."
Deals to the self are important. Stay true...
At the end of a long work day, many of us can't be bothered with the daunting task of cooking.
While ordering out every night is not a financial viability for most of us, what else is there to eat that doesn't always involve nuking a frozen dinner entree?
It turns out there are plenty of options on our home menu.
Curious to hear what some of those might be, Redditor AdamIsAnAlias asked:
"What is your go-to 'I don’t want to cook' meal?"
Chances are, your fridge has enough ingredients to throw together a surprisingly tasty, quick meal.
Wrap It Up
"Throw sum sh*t into a tortilla wrap it up and eat."
Dinner In One Hand
"When I have tortillas in the house, this is the answer every time. Chicken patties and salsa? Beef and broccoli noodles? Leftover chili and chips? Why not put it in a wrap?"
When all else fails, throw these in a bowl.
Convenient All Day
"There's never a wrong time of day for Cereal."
"When I was in high school and dealing with seasonal depression, cereal was basically the only reason I survived, lol. Morning, afternoon, 2 am...cereal was always there."
Add It To Ramen
"I felt really clever the day I realized I could cut a green onion into the pot with a pair of scissors and not bother with a knife and cutting board 😅"
Add A Little Kick
"Yes ramen any way as long as you have some 🌶"
"I like a thai twist on ramen."
"Drain most of the water then add the seasoning packet, a spoonful of peanut butter and curry powder to taste. Mmmm."
Basic And Nourishing
"Pasta or soup."
Ingredients From A Favorite Grocer
"Trader Joe’s . Box of their tomato soup, frozen gnocchi,and a bag of spinach."
"Heat soup, add gnocchi, cook for 6-8 min, add spinach. Done!"
When you don't have the time.
Cheap Like Fancy
"Uncle bens 90 second rice topped with a can of chili. I’ll even melt some cheese and/or add minced onion if I’m feeling fancy."
"Although this was more of a poverty meal and less of a I don’t feel like cooking meal."
I always have rice in my rice cooker so that every time I don't feel like cooking, I can just scoop out some rice and top it with egg and natto.
What's natto, you say? Well, they are fermented soybeans that are considered a super food in Japan. They have a foul odor and it is an acquired taste.
But they're packed with protein, fiber, and probiotics and are extremely beneficial for your heart, bones, and immune system.
I stock up on them whenever I hit the local Asian market and it involves no preparation at all for consuming.
Try it. You may have to pinch your nose while you eat it to mute out the intense nutty flavor, but your body will thank you.
When we encounter a homeless person or panhandler, most people will have some spare change or petty cash at the ready to offer them.
Unfortunately, not everyone is as willing to give them even as little as a penny.
In some cases, it might be a safety issue, as they might not carry loose change in their pockets, and don't feel comfortable taking out their wallets.
Then too, in this day and age, fewer and fewer people even carry cash around with them any more.
Whether their reasons are justified or not, many people have a response at the ready should they be approached by a homeless person asking for money.
"How do you usually respond to a homeless person asking you for money?"
No Response Necessary
"Okay so my car is a rusty old beater with the bumpers duck taped on."
"The other day there was a man pan handling where I was stopped at a red light and he asked all the cars for cash and when he got to mine I didn’t even have to say anything."
"He put his hands up, laughed and walked past me. "
"So yeah."- West_Concern_1165
We're Not So Different, You And I...
“I’m one missed pay check from asking you the same thing”- livelaughloaft
Depends On The Location...
"Literally never had a response back but feel like it's better to acknowledge they spoke to me?"
"Just seems like politeness I guess."
"I'm in Liverpool, UK."
"It was honestly REALLY noticeable the difference between homeless people here, I presume usually people who struggle accessing benefits for some reason or substance addicts, and the cities I've been to in the US, seemingly profoundly mentally unwell and intimidating."
"In my whole life in the UK a homeless person has never said more to me than 'got any spare change?'"
"So I feel comfortable meeting their gaze and saying 'no sorry', or occasionally giving them change."
"But in the US I very quickly learned to look straight ahead and say nothing."
"Especially in Philadelphia, holy sh*t."- Saxon2060
Short And Simple
"I usually just say 'no, sorry'."
"If I give money to everyone who asks me, I'm going to be homeless too."- AngryHippo3920
Choose Your Words Carefully
"I usually say 'sorry dude', but when I said that to a guy in San Francisco he started yelling at us about not needing our apology."
" At that point I just said "sorry, I'm Canadian!" while running away."
"Just for clarity, I hate these jokes. But even moreso that I did it unironically."- fubes2000
Silence Is Golden
"I smile sheepishly while shaking my head and walking past."- LucyVialli
Advantages And Disadvantages Of Being Cashless
"'I don't carry cash', which is true, because I don't carry cash, my phone is encrypted and biometrically locked, and the cards I carry are easily cancelled and replaced."
"Gotta make it so if you get mugged you don't have to do much after handing it all over."- frygod
Alternatives To Giving Cash
"I live downtown in a major city."
"I get asked for money about 5x/day."
"I just smile and keep walking."
"I regularly buy water and food for the ones that sleep near my apartment that I see repeatedly."- knovit
"I'm pretty sure a homeless guy tried robbing me."
"He came up to me and held up a knife to my face telling me he was selling it for $20."
"Me not acknowledging the fact this shady guy was holding a knife to my face in the middle of the night just say 'I don't carry cash' and continued walking."
" It was only after the fact I realized that the guy was probably actually trying to rob me."- Shadow948
Being asked for money is simply an uncomfortable situation, not to mention a reminder of one's relative privilege.
If you don't have anything to give, perhaps the best thing to do is imagine if the situation was reversed, and what you would want to hear.