Love is so elusive these days isn't it?

Who knows what anyone is looking for in the relationship department anymore.

It's all too exhausting.

But people we keep trying.

RedditorProblemNice5257wanted to hear why so many people are still on the hunt for that perfect one. They asked:

"Why are you single right now?"

I'm single because I've given up. And I'm good. For now.

Peace

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"I put absolutely no effort into meeting someone."

grayestorm

"Same! Also it's extremely difficult when you feel so at peace being by yourself. The fact that I have to find someone whose presence outweighs my level of comfort being alone seems impossible."

cheezkurls

Staying Put

"Hard to meet people when you are a hermit."

EchoOfShadow

"Yeah, I describe myself as a shut-in, lol. I leave my apartment to work, I leave my apartment to buy food, and occasionally I’ll bring out the trash, otherwise I just watch Hulu, play online chess, surf Reddit."

Tru-Queer

"Same. I've spent months trying to find an apartment I can afford without a roommate and finally settled on a small studio apartment for $1100 a month because I'd rather living in a tiny space and be left the hell alone than share a much nicer place even with a good friend."

ablondedude

Problems

"I have too many unsolved issues, i can't in good conscience bring someone else into them."

Zdos123

"Idk your issues but everyone's got some crap. Not sure how unique yours are but everyone's got some crap. It's good to share some of your struggles with other people. Just don't open with it haha."

dr-305

"Issues unresolved or not, (in my case) only makes it worse when you feel like you could open up to them, and they just take those to use it against yourself afterwards."

if_itsMolly

Isolated

"I hardly go out and expose myself to people. I'm uncomfortable with the notion of myself being in a relationship at this point. Also, I'm very dry in terms of personality."

Torturephile

"I spent a year entirely isolated due to covid and now I can't handle physical contact. It makes me really uncomfortable and a hug is enough to make my body shut down. I'm hopeless."

DinoHunter64

truth

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"Supply chain issue."

Insso

"Best answer here."

superdude311

That's funny. But it feels oddly true.

Ahhh...

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"I'm attracted to many, and unattractive to all."

shewstepper

Toxic

"Last relationship was so toxic, I've sworn off dating, at least for awhile. I haven't had this much free time in ages. It's nice."

"Edit: Hey, it's really great hearing from so many people with similar experiences. Like many of you, I've been taking it in stride and focusing on bettering myself, both physically and mentally. It's done wonders for my health and I feel a whole lot better. I wish y'all the very best. Stay excellent, my friends."

muchkoku

Alone Forever

"I'm 35yr old single father to a 5yr old and I work nights. It's hard to find free time to meet someone, especially in my area. If I do have free time to myself, I like staying home and ordering a pizza while drinking some beers and playing video games. I pretty much faced the fact that I will probably be alone for the rest of my life."

No_Leader_2711

taking space

"I was in an 8 year relationship (married for two) to my high school sweetheart. Exactly this same time last year, we got divorced because I found out he was cheating on me with my best friend. The best friend I had known LONGER than him and was friends with since fourth grade."

"She was living with us to try to get back on her feet. Yeah lol. So I lost my best friend and the man I had been with for 8 years within the same night. So I moved to another state, got an apartment by myself, and am now single and divorced all by 26. Not really looking unless the right person comes along."

"It’s pretty happy and peaceful now that they’re both out of my life though honestly. You realize people’s toxicity and flaws the most once you get space away from them."

yodacat24

Bad Loop

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"Because my relationships end before they even begin."

_uberwench_

"This is my story right here."

xxshole

Alright. Now that we've laid out all the excuses, let's get to matching with some people.

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