People Confess The Reason They Knew Their Relationship Was Over
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Two people getting together for the first time and feeling the undeniable chemistry between them is an enchanting discovery.


Without anything being verbally communicated, a person feeling a mutual romantic passion is the spark that potentially can ignite a long-lasting relationship.

However, that spark can also burn out when passions are too high, and that gut feeling indicating a fling was over before it started is never a welcome feeling.

Curious to hear about the negative dating experiences of strangers, Redditor LynxExplorer asked:

"What made you realize the relationship was over?"

Sometimes, the inner voices of reason doesn't register, and outside indicators sound the alarm to let scorned lovers know that romance is dead.

A Third Party

"When I got a Facebook message from another dude saying 'your wife is cheating on us.' He thought we had one of those open relationships."

"Editing to add: this happened a little over ten years ago. I got custody of the kid, I’m remarried, great job, new house, I’m doing good. And I also laugh about it when I think back on it."

– This_Personality3731

Googling

"I once googled 'how do you know when a relationship is over' and the top suggestion was 'you google it.'"

– staticzapper

Changing Perspectives

"When I finally learned to listen to her actions, not her words."

– Geryth04

These Redditors reflected back on their relationships only to realize the love in their relationships have disappeared some time ago.

Contempt

"When contempt enters the picture. Hard to explain what contempt is, but once it's there it is done for."

"There's nothing like having someone you had an amazing time just have disgust for anything you do. Oh and the glare is deadly."

"Luckily by the time I got there I already made up my mind and stopped playing her victim blaming. We both had rough lives but you cut yourself to manipulate me."

"Yeah contempt."

– ScorpioLaw

Alone In Love

"when i was crying more than laughing. constant hurt and confusion, didn’t feel like the love was reciprocated."

– Training_Head9167

Waiting For It To End

"I realized that I wouldn't care if he cheated on me and would've been quite happy if he left me for someone else. I felt trapped and didn't know how to leave at the time"

"Edit: We have a child together and share custody, so he will always be in my life, but it's still better than having to walk on eggshells in my own home."

"I'm very sorry to those of you going through this now. I hope you find happiness one day."

– Pom_Pom_1985

A Powerful Yearning

"When I started fantasizing about what it would be like to be completely alone."

– Fish_in_whiskey

These are just downright cruel and unforgiving discoveries. ​

Sliding Into DMs

"When I found sexts between her and my 'friend.'"

– Personal-Buffalo-477

The Manipulator

"He kept breaking up with me and then making up with me. Broke up with me on my birthday (because he wasn't getting my undivided attention as my best friend was there), called me for 6 months after trying to get back with me. Called me a 'f'king weasel.' His family still tries to reach out over 11 years later."

– starfishsex

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