Friendships are one the most important and intimate connections young people make. Friends are the people you are close to, who you grow up with, and who are always there for you when you need them.
A majority of people have best friends. That's the one friend who you trust and love above everyone else. The one who has proven he'll always be there for you and the one you're ready to drop everything for.
However, not all friendships are meant to last. Sometimes, one or both of you will change. Other times, you'll just drift apart. And sometimes, the friendship will end because of malicious actions. Redditors seem to have a lot of those stories!
Curious about what broke apart once strong friendships, Redditor gli-tc-h asked:
"People of reddit what ended your friendship with your best friend?"
Work And Friendships Do Not Mix
"I gave one of my best friends a job at my convinince store when he was down on his luck. He worked in his dad's shop previously for like 6.50 an hour and his dad was toxic so he quit and came to work for me till je got a better job. The inferiority complex kicked in and he started talking down to me and talking about how I was spoiled and a daddy's boy "my dad gave me the shop.""
"I paid him the best money he ever made and he would routinely go off on me for perceived managerial issues or start stupid arguments with customers like not selling kids toy guns because they would be at risk and not selling cigarettes or beer to pregnant women, which I understand is a personal choice but as a business I can't just refuse to sell people sh*t their allowed to buy legally. Covid hit and he became a huge antimasker and I finally fired him after a huge blowout about me trying to establish a mask policy. He's a marine now and got married to a girl he knew for two weeks. We still talk but I've never trusted him since. It sucks because I think he was just like me but from a worse situation. If I was in his shoes maybe I would be way worse."
– joyesthebig
Uneven Investment
"I got tired of always being the one to put forth any effort. Fly across the world to meet up, attend family gatherings, reach out, be patient, make sacrifice. It was good times when we were together. So it was worth it for a while but when she moved close and still never bothered to make an effort, I was over it. Wish her nothing but the best."
– SpoonfulofYou
Not A Real Friend
"When I realized he was a bully. I just wanted his friendship and attention, and then I realized he was using me for kicks."
"I put up with his bullsh*t because I wanted to be liked."
– bananajr6000
Neither A Borrower Nor A Lender Be
"After 14 years of friendship we get an apartment and suddenly he loses his job as a personal trainer because of a dress code violation (he wore a hoodie to work, allegedly) and then 2-3 months of him not working. Then after he agreed to pay me back eventually, all he ever gave me was $400 from his mom (I paid over 14,000 for the year). So I paid the full year lease and he stayed 8 months total. I never talked to him again also because I found a receipt where he was trying to make a copy of my car keys make and model. F*CK THAT GUY"
– autumnsromeo
Flirting With Disaster
"Every single time that I would tell her I was interested in/talking to a guy, she would try to get with him. She was never successful but it hurt that she kept trying. I confronted her about this in a very nice and civil way and explained to her how I felt about this. She apologized profusely and promised it would never happen again. And then it happened again. I just immediately cut her off after that, no explanation or words needed. She knows what she did. Haven't spoken a word to her since"
– WhiskeyMeAway-
Just Didn't Mesh Well
"Took an international vacation where we realized we hated damn near everything each other did the whole time. Realized year of seeing each other 1-2 times a month made us hardly know each other."
– McJumpington
Me, Myself, & I
"Just made a post about this but she uses me as a therapist but when I try to vent to her, she gives me a few cliche words of support before turning the conversation back to her. It's gotten to the point where we don't talk unless she has a bad day and needs someone to talk to. She'll take days or even a week to respond to a funny meme but then immediately start dumping on me about things going on on her life. I'll invite her out to have fun and within a few hours, I'm being her life coach."
"Also, we just started to grow apart. She's turned into her parents and her parents are the typical snobby surban people that are extremely judgemental."
– Pear_Jam2
Completely Tacky
"She didn't invite me to her birthday party. It was my first time back from college and I would have been able to go. She made a whole Facebook event page and invited everybody but me. I found out through mutual friends, the kicker was no one showed up and she called me crying that this other girl didn't show up."
– ubettawuurrrk69
"A friend did something similar when he didn't invite me to his wedding. He called me years later apologizing when he needed to vent about his marriage."
– tamagotchi____
A Passive Lady Macbeth
"My husband at the time had to step away from his job because he was dealing with pretty severe mental health issues. We had a young child and I was a stay-at-home mom and it was really devastating not only financially, but socially as a lot of our social life revolved around his job and work friends."
"I was really good friends with a coworker’s wife. The coworker moved into my husband’s (higher up) position when my husband had to resign. We had to sell our home since we couldn’t make the mortgage payment anymore. The friend came to help me pack, and while doing so told me that they always knew this would happen because the Lord had revealed it to the husband in a dream several years earlier. They had basically been waiting around for my husband to “fail” so that coworker could “succeed” and fulfill the Lord’s prophesy."
"Yeah no. Said goodbye to her, moved out of state, and never looked back. I won’t tolerate people using religion to be jerks."
– LittleWhiteBoots
...No Big Loss
"He peed in my college dorm room after he found out that I was still friends with his ex-girlfriend even after they broke up."
"He (let's call him P, no puns intended) was one of my first friends in uni and was dating this girl (let's call her N) when I met him. Initially N and I wouldn't talk much, just share a few memes with each other or talk about things pertaining to P (stuff like "hey can you make sure he's awake for this class", or "could you order this cake for his birthday")."
"When covid struck we all went back to our homes, doing nothing. My sleep schedule was pretty fcked up, turns out, N had an equally fcked up sleep schedule too. She would be awake at the same time as I, so we started talking more. Eventually she became more than just my best friend's girlfriend- she and I became friends independent of the relationship I had with P."
"One day P calls me and tells me that him and N broke up. I do my bit in consoling him, making sure he's alright, video calling him every once in a while, the whole nine yards. Throughout all this, I don't stop talking to N- for the very simple reason that she and I were friends now and even though the breakup was a tricky situation, it didn't warrant me ending my relationship with her."
"Eventually P finds out about N and I and confronts me about the situation. I try to explain my side of things to him but he isn't ready to listen. Not wanting to push this man (who has also just had a rough breakup) I give him his space just so he can wrap his head around it. No biggie."
"Months pass, complete radio silence. He removes me from his socials and stop talking to me completely. It was a little awkward initially because P and I were a part of the same friend group, but eventually he started hanging out with the group lesser and lesser. The friend group was aware of the situation and after multiple back and forths with both of us, they understood the situation and (thankfully) agreed that I wasn't in the wrong."
"By this time, N and I had gotten even closer. While the whole P situation was playing out, I had broken up with my long-distance girlfriend and gotten COVID leaving me with a ton of free time. I chose to spend this time with N: we would watch movies on video call, or play a few games online. I enjoyed my time with N a lot and I didn't tell her much about what was going on between P and I."
"When the lockdowns finally ended, we were called back to attend uni offline. A few of my friends and I moved out of the college dorms when we came back, but a lot of my stuff was still in the dorms. I casually mentioned to a friend of mine that I was planning to go back to my dorm room to pack up my old things and bring them to my new place. He pulled me aside and asked me if I had been to my dorm room yet. I told him I hadn't. He asked me to not go. He said, "I was talking to P the other day, and he said he vandalised your room. He also mentioned peeing in it.""
"All my friends found out a week before I was told this. I had no idea how to react. It was f*cked up and disgusting. I ended up telling the warden and having my room cleaned out by the cleaners. All of us in the friend group cut ties with him as he left for a semester abroad."
"A lot of people have since heard this story and the look on their faces when I reach the climax is priceless. As for N and I, we have been happily dating for the past 11 months. She knows the whole story now and we still laugh about it."
– oneandahalfpunjabi
People Really Do Change
"I knew my best friend since 1st grade, we where inseparable, then he became creppy. He started to follow me everywhere i went. In quarantine, we used to play with another kid. We where a trio. A month in, he became seriously toxic, me and the other guy would wait for him so we could all play, but when he joined, he couldn’t resist 5 minutes before starting arguments. Saying lies bout me, telling me i was trash etc etc. We used to insult each other, in a playfull manner. Everyone could insult anyone, it was all cool between us. Each time we hang out he grew even more toxic, so i started distancing myself from the both. In the time i kept off two things happened"
"Other guy asked toxic friend for some hw answers, toxic guy gave him the wrong answers and tattled on him with the teachers"
"He started making up lies about other guy"
"Other guy dmed me saying “hey, toxic guy is going way out of line, think you could help me make a video about him bout how we are kicking him out?” I said, yeah sure!""
"We make the video, it was basically making fun of him for the things he did"
"Claiming i had aimbot cause aim assist"
"Saying i was a spammer"
"He would always camp/ ran away from battle"
"And that he was “working hard” to repay his depts (we had bets)"
"And that he was kicked off our group"
"Also sprinkling in a inside joke that tbh is offensive not knowing the context"
"TWO HOURS LATER"
"My mother calls me asking wtf did i do to him, she was saying that he was crying"
"Turns out, he called his mom, told her we where bullies, her mom got worried (obviously as a mother should) called the school, wich called out parents and shit went nuts. Apparently, he “never insulted us back” wich the lil shit almost got away with because our insults where verbal and none where on text, except for the whatsapp chats, we showed this too everyone, gave our side of the story, and they suspended us 3 for 2 days"
"He tried to apologize, but i shut him down, he tried to “try it again” but i reminded him he was the one that became toxic, i reminded him that we wanted things too cool down but he didnt want to back off."
"Havent talked to him in a year, i have too see him in 3 days"
"(Damm this should go on aita)"
– Automatic_Search_123
Liar, Liar
"She started lying about her life when we got to 7th grade in order to seem cool in front of other people. If i tried asking her why she was lying when others were around she'd either deny it or not know what I'm talking about, but i know for sure that she did those things cuz she made pictures of it and send it to me."
– confused-girl_lol
Lesson Learned
"She taught me the lesson that you can forgive someone, but that doesn't mean you should invite them back into your life. Kinda like being shown a landscape and being told it used to have landmines in it. You should think twice before going in there."
– walkinghomeat3am
MOH-Zilla
"She was my maid of honor at my wedding. Jealousy has taken her over since she wasn’t having a wedding of her own. She started a huge fight at my bachelorette with my sister in law who was tired of her being mean to me and putting me down on my own bachelorette. She then on my wedding day made up lies to all my bridesmaids to get them to hate me / never talk to me again. Which ended up causing a lot of stress for me."
Once I found out what was happening I confronted her (weeks after my wedding) and she tried to blame me. Then we "never spoke again. Good thing too - I hear more and more from people about how manipulative and backstabbing she was. We were best friends for 32 years."
– Jscholtzy
Many Years Doesn't Make A Good Friend
"We had been best friends since high school, half our life. There had been several times where we would get into an argument or disagreement and she would ghost me for some time. The most recent time, she came around after I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. Because I was diagnosed while in school outside of my home state and had health insurance in the state I was currently living in, I had to get my surgery and treatment in that state and had to cancel multiple trips home. I didn't get to go home for almost 2 years."
"Well, a few months ago, I had the opportunity to go home for the first time in nearly 2 years. I wanted to surprise my parents, including my elderly father. The reason I wanted to come home was because he had been having some health problems and I wanted to physically see my father. I had some vouchers that were expiring that covered one way and found a really cheap flight, but it would land at an airport nearly an hour away (30ish minutes with no traffic) and in the middle of the night over the weekend. There were no shuttles from the airport anymore and a taxi/uber would cost about $100 (almost as much as the plane ticket). My parents were unable to drive at night due to their poor vision. Before booking the ticket, I asked if she would be willing to pick me up from the airport, and if she couldn't, I would pay the extra money to go to a closer airport OR I just would not be able to go and see my father. She told me "book the ticket, I'll make it work. You need to see your father.""
"4 days before I was supposed to come home, she texted me saying she couldn't pick me up anymore because of her dogs (which I told her she could bring with in the car with her if she was worried cuz I know they're good in the car. Granted the whole round trip would be less than 3 hours and her dogs are alone for 8+ hours a day while she was at work) and she had run club in that morning and it would be "too much back and forth." Mind you, run club is an optional thing, not a mandatory scheduled job. I responded saying thank you anyways but I was disappointed since I wouldn't have booked the ticket if I knew she wasn't going to be able to come get me, especially since she said she would make it work."
"I never heard from her again. She never asked if I made it in to town ok, never asked how my father was doing (this was the whole reason why I was coming home after all!!), never once reached out to me again."
"I accidentally FaceTimed her 2 months later when I meant to FaceTime my dad. It was 3 days before my birthday. As soon as I realized I had FT'd her, I ended the call. She texted me a few hours later asking me if everything was ok. I said yes, it was an accident. Never heard from her after that. Not even a happy birthday, not even checking in. Nothing. Completely ghosted me. After 14 years of friendship. It was my last straw. I removed her from social media, deleted our text strain. Everything short of deleting her number."
"The other thing that always bothered me that she did but I never told her was, when I was getting radiation, I got my partner, parents, and another friend of mine shirts in support of me, with the thyroid cancer ribbon on it. It was to wear on my day of radiation. I was terrified that my cancer had spread and it was important to me to know I had support from friends and family, even if it was by wearing a silly shirt. Everyone else was fine with it and I bought them (didn't even ask anyone to pay for them!!!) and mailed it to them. When I asked for her address, she wouldn't give it to me and said she would make one herself. She never did. It was one of the most hurtful things anyone has ever done."
"So ya, after being friends for 14 years, half my life, I've officially cut her out and honestly, my life is better because of it. I wish her well, but the friendship was over and can never be repaired."
"And wow it felt REALLY good to type that all out haha"
– greenvsblack
Human ATM
"After a few years I became aware that he only wanted to hangout when he was short of cash and wanted me to buy the beer. I realized he didn't wanna see me when he had his own money to spend"
– Lubedguyballa1
Priorities
"I’m a leap year baby, I try to make a big deal of my bday since it only comes every four years. My 24th, I booked a beach house to spend it with my family, my other best friend and her. Told her two months in advanced. Paid for everything and family took care of the food, so all she had to do was show up. The day comes and she said she couldn’t come cause she couldn’t get off work early enough (we were there on a Thursday-Sunday) so I thought she’d at least make an effort to come on the weekends. She never came. Then a week later, she tweets that she’s compulsively took time off work to watch F1. Felt like she couldn’t even make time for me but can make time to watch cars racing."
– kkhhaayyccee
It's never easy or fun to lose a friendship, but it is sometimes part of life.
Sometimes, it's something that will always haunt you, but you can learn from that. And other times, it's just a way of expelling toxicity from your life, and you can find better friends who will enrich your life.
People's Wildest 'WTF Is Wrong With You?' Experiences
Reddit user nekorei2023 asked: 'What did the person do/say that made you go "what the f**k is wrong with you?"'
We all have that moment where someone we know says something so completely absurd, the only response we think of is 'WTF is wrong with you?'
Sometimes, it's something woefully inaccurate that you can't wrap your head around the fact that someone believes that.
Othertimes, it's something completely offensive and you regret your association with that person.
My college roommate was a girl I knew from my high school. I didn't know her too well, but we had some big things in common, so I figured it'd be fun to live with her.
This girl was half-Korean and talked a lot about racist people. At first, I let her rant, figuring maybe she or someone in her family faced some racism. I faced some myself, and I agreed with most of the things she said about racists. Eventually, however, I realized she was equating the word 'racist' with the word 'white.'
I spoke to her once, telling her she can't use 'racist' and 'white' interchangeably. She agreed to stop doing that, but within a few days, she started doing it again. She was a very bright girl, so I was a little concerned about this, especially since her own dad was white and was possibly the nicest man in the world. Not to mention, this made her and her siblings half-white too. Did that mean they were all half-racist?
I stuck by her for a while, but when she started saying things about what she wanted to do to racist people (once again using the word 'white' instead of 'racist'), I realized I couldn't be around her anymore. She couldn't talk about anything else after a while, and every time she spoke, I wanted to say, 'WTF is wrong with you?'
We did not room together the next year.
Redditors have stories similar to mine (and some even crazier), and they are eager to share.
It all started when a Redditorasked:
How To End A Friendship
"In college I used to kill time between classes hanging out with a guy who was from the same redneck county as myself. We didn’t really have much else in common, but he was nice enough and seemed eager to socialize so I figured why not. I wasn’t overly social myself and didn’t know a whole lot of people."
"One day we decided to go somewhere off-campus, and he drove us. While driving, on an interstate mind you, he proceeds to show me his handgun that he kept in his truck - not in a menacing way, but in a “Ain’t that cool?” way."
"I was not immediately frightened, but I respect firearms enough to recognize we are going like 60-70mph on an interstate in daylight, and nothing good can happen in this scenario. I calmly asked him to put it away because I was not comfortable in this situation at all. He then tells me “Oh it’s not loaded” and presses the gun to his head before pulling the trigger."
"Thank f**k he was right, but still it was a wild and frightening display of reckless disregard for his own life and mine for that matter in the event that he’d accidentally killed himself while driving us. I didn’t hang out with him much after that, certainly didn’t get in a car with him."
– omjf23
"“It’s not loaded” famous last words of many an idiot."
– GloInTheDarkUnicorn
The Worst Kind Of People
"When my dad was in the nursing home, they weren't running certain expenses, like ambulance rides, through his insurance. When I took over his financials, he was tens of thousands in medical debt that shouldn't have ever been charged to him in the first place. He was in numerous collections, and his credit score was tanked."
"When I complained to the nursing home director, he said, "Well, it's not like he's going to be buying a house or a car!" Then he laughed."
"My dad was paralyzed from the waist down and needed lifelong care, so he was never going to leave the nursing home. Even though he was technically correct, I gave him the "WTF is wrong with you look." Then I complained to HIS boss and he got canned a couple a weeks later. My dad's insurance was fixed pretty quick, too."
– MNWNM
"“Sorry, what was funny about that? Could you please explain.”"
– v3n0mat3
...Seriously?
"MIL told my wife she should divorce me bc I googled whether a lasagna should be covered with foil while cooking."
– Struggle-Silent
"This is my first laugh of the thread lmao wtf."
– koreantrvp
"It actually ruined this entire trip. It was at my BIL’s wedding, which was only close family (siblings + parents) and they had the caterer make a lasagna for an evening dinner."
"Father of the bride was gonna pop it in the oven and asked if it should be covered. I googled lasagna cooking instructions and said yes it should be covered and cooked at this temp. MIL said absolutely not!"
"Me and the father of the bride kinda gave each other a look and he covered it. MIL was furious and texted my wife that I was an a hole and she should divorce me before we had kids."
– Struggle-Silent
Hostile Work Environment
"Boss at old job told the team we needed to ‘get used to a healthy level of conflict, fear and anxiety in the workplace.’ I dipped so fast after that."
– Prestigious-Energy69
"Similarly, a boss told me that I owed him my loyalty because he was paying me."
– Kylearean
How To End A Relationship
"A girl I was with while we were still together just looked at me while I was driving to her house and said.” You know I would get over you faster than you’d get over me” I was like …… Tf did you just say?"
– omega91301
"Huh. And just like that I'm over you."
– Pineapple_Spenstar
"Honestly, that would absolutely do it for me. When I was younger, I would be stupid and hurt and argue. I'm past 50 and I got no time for that nonsense."
– Terpsichorean_Wombat
There Are Other Ways To Stave Off Boredom
"I was DD for some buddies who wanted to go to a particular dance club in Baltimore. They're all hammered, it's too loud and we've been there for several hours. Casually an older woman next to me chats me up and notices my eyes are nearly crossing from boredom. I explained what I was doing there and casually (stupidly) mentioned I'm a bit bored. This psycho BITES ME on the chest! Afterward says "Well ya ain't bored now, are ya??""
– Mike7676
"Well, were you bored after that?"
– DontWannaSayMyName
"I must say, I was not!"
– Mike7676
That Goes Both Ways!
"I'm a man who works with kids, and when I started this job, I was talking to one of my old coworkers about how every once in a while I'll get weird looks for being a man working with kids and my coworker said I deserved it because some men can't be trusted with kids. I was shocked and she went on to say that I did it to myself and deserve to be questioned about it. I immediately stopped talking to her."
– Dolhedew
"What? What in the actual f**k? Doesn’t she know there are women who can’t be trusted with kids?"
– Anonymoosehead123
That Escalated Quickly
"The lady that accused my kids of cutting the line. (They hadn't, I was watching). When I went to ask her what was wrong, she told me to go back to my own country with that sh*t. (I was born in Massachusetts.)"
"The line was to pet dogs at a Renaissance Fair."
– pasafa
Everything All At Once
"While alone with a coworker, he told me that "women in the work place will lead to the decay of the fabric of society" to me. A woman. He also asked me out, got an attitude when I didn't say yes and continues to walk around with huge incel energy. He always complains that he has no one to go home to yet refuses to look at himself as a possible reason."
– Nopeferatu31
"Sounds like they should learn something from the phrase, "if you meet one a**hole, they're the a**hole. If everyone you meet is an a**hole, you're the a**hole.""
– tmpope123
Ouch!
"I told a coworker my wife had died."
"Her response: "You're one of those bald middle aged guys with a dead wife.""
"Me: "Yeah.""
– WalrusCello
"I want to think this was a wholesome thought that came out wrong. An awkward attempt at dark humor."
– ThisUsernameIsTook
*Cringing*
"Had an otherwise normal co-worker who was completely convinced windmills will cause the earth to stop spinning."
– Shadowmant
"WINDMILLS DO NOT WORK THAT WAY! GOOD NIGHT!"
– Torvaun
These are all crazy 'WTF is wrong with you' stories, but that last one blew my mind in 'how is it possible people think that could be true' sort of way!