Coming at this as someone who will never experience the wonder of childbirth, it does seem rather difficult.

While not every woman will be, or even wants to get, pregnant, there is a universal fascination with the process. You're growing something in your belly, after all. It's something those who haven't experienced can only dream about, and even then it's a stretch, as women who've gone through it wish they could warn their younger selves about what it's like to create life.

Reddit user, u/BonkBoi_TacoFace, wanted to hear firsthand when they asked:

Pregnant women of reddit, what is something you wish you knew BEFORE you got pregnant?

Some Experiences Tend Towards The...Stomach Churning

To get this topic out of the way, there are a lot of changes and trials you might experience that people outside would find "gross." It's all part of the amazing life-making process, but surely in the moment it doesn't feel that way.

You Still Don't Understand What You're Dealing With, Do You?

Baby kicks don't feel like butterflies.

They feel like something crawled across your skin quickly; but from the inside


Yep. Always expected something to burst out like the scene from Alien...


Uncontrollable Release

During labor the "water breaking" is not one rush of liquid. it's continuous and can occur for several hours. it's horrendous and messy and incredibly awful to deal with. it feels like peeing but you have zero control over anything and if you tense up then everything is much more painful and weird feeling.

nobody ever told me that and i was VERY surprised to find out for myself.


It's The 3rd One That'll Get Ya'

No one ever told me about the "3rd delivery" aka your first poop. I was struggling for so long.

Edit: My first awards! Thank you people! Never thought talking about poop would get me awards.

Edit 2: for all asking. The first delivery is the baby, second is the placenta and the third is the poo.


A Physically Challenging Test

Of course your body is never going to be the same. That's science. What happens during those radical changes, however, can be some of the most physically and mentally taxing experiences you've ever encountered.

How About Instead, "Sleep When You Can?"

The sickest joke of all: you stop being able to sleep way before the baby gets here.

Everyone loves to tell me to "sleep now while I can" but pregnancy leads to unexplained insomnia and I'm a total wreck already.


Beyond Sensitivity

My boobs hurt so bad. I hit one in my sleep and woke up in excruciating pain. I knew they got bigger, but the pain was a surprise.


I was told by my sister about boobs hurting in the first trimester from growth, she forgot to mention my nipples would feel like they were burning in hell.


It's All On The Table

Your hormones are crazy, literally making anything and everything that happens to your body a pregnancy symptom.

Bloody nose? pregnancy. Hands dry? pregnancy. Itchy skin? pregnancy.

Pregnancy is the wild f-cking west, ya'll.


Expect The Unexpected

However, the one thing most common among every woman's pregnancy experience is how not every woman's pregnancy is the same. What you go through may not be what everyone else goes through, and sometimes that can be the scariest part.

One Can Sympathize Greatly

You can order one, but get two.


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The Healing Is Mental And Physical

I wish someone had told me that no, your body does not magically go back to normal once the baby is out. You have weeks of healing, your boobs are still on baby mode and have a whole new set of problems now, pooping will be terrifying lol depression risks are higher, just a lot of stuff continues on after the baby.

I don't know WHY people insist on visiting right after delivery. I am tired, I am busy with this baby, I am tore up from the floor up, please come in a month when I can at least have some sort of a routine.


Things Are Never Really The Same

The stuff that stays with your body afterwards. I developed allergies after I had my second. My feet definitely got bigger. Hormones are no joke.


My feet grew half a size and my hair got curly. It was wavy before, but now I get ringlets. It also made my fingernails stronger. Also I developed an aversion to beef that never really went away. I only eat it like once a month to this day, and my youngest is about to turn ten. It's like a second puberty...what the hell is happening to my body???


The Thing That Happens More Than You Think But No One Talks About

Miscarriage is ridiculously common.

I say this as someone currently carrying a dead baby waiting for the NHS to give me a surgical removal.


I second this. I was absolutely SHOCKED when my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I thought that I must have done something to cause it. When my second pregnancy ended the same way I started to think that I had some kind of physical malfunction. Only after talking to several other women about it did I realize how common it is. Still heartbreaking though.


When you feel ready to bring life into the world, know that things are never going to be the same. Your sleeping patterns, your daily routines, and even your body are all up for offering on the altar of baby. It's amazing when it's over, because you have something there for you to love and raise and protect, but be prepared for what's coming before that.

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