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Coming at this as someone who will never experience the wonder of childbirth, it does seem rather difficult.


While not every woman will be, or even wants to get, pregnant, there is a universal fascination with the process. You're growing something in your belly, after all. It's something those who haven't experienced can only dream about, and even then it's a stretch, as women who've gone through it wish they could warn their younger selves about what it's like to create life.

Reddit user, u/BonkBoi_TacoFace, wanted to hear firsthand when they asked:

Pregnant women of reddit, what is something you wish you knew BEFORE you got pregnant?

Some Experiences Tend Towards The...Stomach Churning

To get this topic out of the way, there are a lot of changes and trials you might experience that people outside would find "gross." It's all part of the amazing life-making process, but surely in the moment it doesn't feel that way.

You Still Don't Understand What You're Dealing With, Do You?

Baby kicks don't feel like butterflies.

They feel like something crawled across your skin quickly; but from the inside

chrisP__bacon

Yep. Always expected something to burst out like the scene from Alien...

Lets-B-Lets-B-Jolly

Uncontrollable Release

During labor the "water breaking" is not one rush of liquid. it's continuous and can occur for several hours. it's horrendous and messy and incredibly awful to deal with. it feels like peeing but you have zero control over anything and if you tense up then everything is much more painful and weird feeling.

nobody ever told me that and i was VERY surprised to find out for myself.

notgrass87

It's The 3rd One That'll Get Ya'

No one ever told me about the "3rd delivery" aka your first poop. I was struggling for so long.

Edit: My first awards! Thank you people! Never thought talking about poop would get me awards.

Edit 2: for all asking. The first delivery is the baby, second is the placenta and the third is the poo.

MomOfRPM31

A Physically Challenging Test

Of course your body is never going to be the same. That's science. What happens during those radical changes, however, can be some of the most physically and mentally taxing experiences you've ever encountered.

How About Instead, "Sleep When You Can?"

The sickest joke of all: you stop being able to sleep way before the baby gets here.

Everyone loves to tell me to "sleep now while I can" but pregnancy leads to unexplained insomnia and I'm a total wreck already.

tibbymoon

Beyond Sensitivity

My boobs hurt so bad. I hit one in my sleep and woke up in excruciating pain. Like...wtf. I knew they got bigger, but the pain was a surprise.

cat_romance

I was told by my sister about boobs hurting in the first trimester from growth, she forgot to mention my nipples would feel like they were burning in hell.

smallhardseed

It's All On The Table

Your hormones are crazy, literally making anything and everything that happens to your body a pregnancy symptom.

Bloody nose? pregnancy. Hands dry? pregnancy. Itchy skin? pregnancy.

Pregnancy is the wild f-cking west, ya'll.

ninten-dont

Expect The Unexpected

However, the one thing most common among every woman's pregnancy experience is how not every woman's pregnancy is the same. What you go through may not be what everyone else goes through, and sometimes that can be the scariest part.

One Can Sympathize Greatly

You can order one, but get two.

YourAverageTiredDad

Username checks out

suburban-dictionary

The Healing Is Mental And Physical

I wish someone had told me that no, your body does not magically go back to normal once the baby is out. You have weeks of healing, your boobs are still on baby mode and have a whole new set of problems now, pooping will be terrifying lol depression risks are higher, just a lot of stuff continues on after the baby.

I don't know WHY people insist on visiting right after delivery. I am tired, I am busy with this baby, I am tore up from the floor up, please come in a month when I can at least have some sort of a routine.

Davis1511

Things Are Never Really The Same

The stuff that stays with your body afterwards. I developed allergies after I had my second. My feet definitely got bigger. Hormones are no joke.

Shakenbake1811

My feet grew half a size and my hair got curly. It was wavy before, but now I get ringlets. It also made my fingernails stronger. Also I developed an aversion to beef that never really went away. I only eat it like once a month to this day, and my youngest is about to turn ten. It's like a second puberty...what the hell is happening to my body???

MargotFenring

The Thing That Happens More Than You Think But No One Talks About

Miscarriage is ridiculously common.

I say this as someone currently carrying a dead baby waiting for the NHS to give me a surgical removal.

rexrat

I second this. I was absolutely SHOCKED when my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I thought that I must have done something to cause it. When my second pregnancy ended the same way I started to think that I had some kind of physical malfunction. Only after talking to several other women about it did I realize how common it is. Still heartbreaking though.

Raisin-Weak

When you feel ready to bring life into the world, know that things are never going to be the same. Your sleeping patterns, your daily routines, and even your body are all up for offering on the altar of baby. It's amazing when it's over, because you have something there for you to love and raise and protect, but be prepared for what's coming before that.

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It’s weird how much stuff we let slide when we’re kids. Even if you look at the TV shows we watched back then, we had such a high threshold for the bizarre (early 2000’s Nickelodeon, anyone?). So it’s no surprise that some of us straight-up didn’t react when we saw weird crap in person.

Here are a few wild examples of seemingly harmless things we saw as kids that would be horrifying to see now. Brace yourself, this one gets crazy.



Kids and water aren’t a great mix sometimes. It can get real gross, real quick.

Not worth the tranquility.

I've always loved the tranquil feeling of being under water. When I was a kid I would just hold my breath and float around. Sometimes adults would think I was drowning and run up and scoop me out. I don't remember this (it was when I was pretty young) but my parents have told me about it

I used to think it was a funny story... people thinking I was drowning when I was just trying to relax

....until I watched a video explaining child drownings and yeah, the way I acted in water looked exactly like a drowned kid.

I don't think it's funny anymore.

Turboshot49cents

Uhhhhhh.....ew?

Renee Zellweger Water GIF by Working Title Giphy

Flood water. It was fun and games for the kids, and we even splashed around in it, much to the horror of our parents (who immediately scrubbed us down). We didn't understand then, but now, oh wow...sewer, insects, rats, parasites, etc.

MrFantasticallyNerdy

That’s actually hilarious.

My friend and I were walking along the road in about thigh high flood waters. A small boat with two men comes up to us. We were about 9 years old and I think they were National Guard. Anyway, one of the men asks if we remembered exactly where the manholes in the road were. We answered no. He told us that all of the covers had most likely been washed away in the flood but not to worry because it would probably only take them a few days to find our bodies if we were sucked down one of the holes by currents they produced. He spoke in a matter of fact tone and then left.

As an adult, I have zero doubt those two men had a good laugh as they looked back and watched us nope out of that water like two roadrunners in a cartoon.

Edit: It was Fish and Game Wardens. The NG didn't come until later.

Daykri3

Not to mention the crazy injuries that kids somehow are constantly surrounded by.

Had a jogger get hit by a car outside my house once when I was about eight or nine. My nephew came running inside yelling at my parents and my sister to call the ambulance because he was bleeding pretty badly.

I could even see him from our playrooms window and I wondered what he was doing lying on the grass. Turns out he was bleeding out pretty badly, deliriously yelling at my parents when they tried to help.

Eventually, an ambulance came and picked him up, but my parents always told me he made it out okay. The day after, in the spot he was found someone had put a lily in the grass in a vase.

It took me longer than I care to admit to figure out he died from the hit and run.

SixthUnderminer

How sharp were they, though?

A kid f*cking sharpened his fingers with an automatic pencil sharpener at grade 2. Everyone didn't know what was going on until the teacher started freaking out.

NubbishWood

I just remembered I tried to stick my finger into electric pencil sharpeners as a kid and disliked how my fingers were too big to fit in it. What the hell was I thinking?

BSPlanes

Rock climbing can definitely be dangerous.

scared george costanza GIF by HULU Giphy

We did climbing in PE (sixth to eight grade). Like rock climbing and we had to do our own harness and stuff. PE teacher (supposedly) checked it after we were done to make sure it was done right. One day my neighbor broke an arm and leg because she wasn't properly strapped and fell.

This was at an international American school in Egypt around year 2000, for all those wondering what type of school does rock climbing.

Ashleywalz90

Kids are, in fact, made of elastic.

We used to jump of our roof. First time hurt a little, but after a few times you learnt how to land.

Did it regularly and would try various items as 'parachutes' to see if it slows you down any.

I look at that height now and wonder how the hell we never broke anything - kids bones are more elastic I guess.

Reapr

​It’s amazing what adults can get away with right under kids’ noses.

A casual hit-and-run.

car japan GIF Giphy

My babysitter was running late to take me to piano lessons and rear ended an old man at a stoplight. She told me that he must not have noticed because he didn't get out of his car. I thought nothing of it, and she drove away and took me to my piano lesson.

I forgot about it, and it didn't click until I remembered the incident years later that I had been unknowingly involved in a hit and run.

Idontknowwhattoput22

Big yikes.

Not so much something I saw - but when I was 5 or 6 I was at a family wedding, and there was this really friendly adult guy (who I didn't know) who told me he was really worried about his nice new car in the parking lot and how he wanted to check on the car but didn't want to leave the wedding.

He asked if I could go check on it and he would pay me $5 just to go see if his car was "okay" being that age $5 was a crazy amount of money so I couldn't believe my luck.

On the way to the parking lot, my mom intercepted me and was absolutely horrified, I remember not understanding why, like trying to tell her no she had it wrong he was nice and paying me! And as an adult now I'm like that's so messed up and I wonder how close a call that could have been.

DeclanAF

Go grandma!

Until the age of 12 my grandma had custody of me. I used to sleep with her and she slept with a baseball bat next to her bed. It wasn't until I was much older that I realized she did it dads friends wouldn't be able to do anything to me.

Dad was a drug addict and drunk and when he was out of prison he had all kinds of people in and out of the house. You would never know what would be missing the next day - often my Nintendo :(

She did everything she could to protect me from God knows who/what and I had zero clue!

Edit: Damn this blew up while I was sleeping!! Thank you so much to everyone for the support :)

Im adding extra details to help understand the situation.

My grandmother was born in 1914, had a third grade education and was a housewife her entire life. She was already 71 when I was born! My grandpa died when I was 4 and it was just her and I. We lived in a tiny 2 bedroom house in a terrible neighborhood. It was paid off and that's all she could afford. She lived off of the social security death benefits from my grandpa and food banks. She couldn't just "leave" and go anywhere else.

Also, for those suggesting she should have called the cops - cops don't do anything if you say "I'm scared these guys will do something bad" cops have to wait till something bad happens.

She did her very best and raised my right! Now my father is back in prison (shocker) and is pissed at me for not letting the past be in the past and welcoming him with open arms. Meanwhile I'm a 2x college graduate with a great job, my own house and recently married! She definitely did something right. Unfortunately she died when I was 12. Id give anything to be able to tell her how grateful I am to her for doing everything right.

LostLadyA


We see some scary stuff as kids. No wonder most of us are so messed up years later. Often these things don’t even register as something terrible- a lot of times, the things we witnessed were just a part of life.

The best we can do is to take our trauma, and learn from it, so we don’t pass it down to our own children. Because kids don’t deserve it- they deserve to have happy childhoods and not think about the horrors of the world.