There are definitely some negative consequences when it comes to posting NSFW pictures online. True, you can do what you want- I don't judge, I was a burlesque dancer myself. But it's important to know the safety concerns, like having your "fans" approach you. Here are some of those stories. Post with caution!
u/Adrous asked: People who post NSFW pics on Reddit, have you even been approached by a "fan", if so how did it go?
Damn Tumblr.
I had always really struggled with body image stuff and didn't want anyone to look at me for the most part. I found this app called "Mobli" which was essentially Instagram for d*ck pics. I had lost a few pounds and decided to take a leap into the deep end and post a few things since I got to control who could see my "private" pics through a request/accept system. One was a photo of me in my underwear.
Someone apparently stole that and posted it on tumblr. I'm kind of a stocky/fat hairy guy with a beard so I never imagined that happening but I met someone at a party weeks later that recognized me from it. He told me he saw me there and I felt sick.
I asked him if he remembered where so he found the post and sent a link and there I was - face and all with the camera situated to put my junk all in the viewer's face. It had been reblogged like 700 times already including by some magazines specific to guys like me apparently.
Wholesome!
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Years back, there was a exotic dancer in town that I recognized from a Lil Wayne video. She was actually surprised that I knew that. Nice girl, hope she's doing well.
Yikes.
I happened to meet someone who showed me a list of his four favorite NSFW tumblr blogs he followed. Mine was on the list. I am not sure if he actually recognized it was mine and I didn't reveal the fact on my own.
Sounds like high school.
I used to post NSFW pics on tumblr, about a year after I deleted it some girls at work found the pictures and sent them to everyone at my work. I had to have a very awkward conversation with my manager.
To answer a couple of questions, the girls did get a talking to and had their probationary period extended but nothing really came of it. My manager spoke to me about it but I didn't get in trouble. I think the main reason she did was because she found out before I did and she thought I should know. The pictures had been reposted on other sites etc so I'm assuming they found them on one of those. Didn't really feel like asking them where they found them.
Awkward.
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I used to sell my underwear, socks and stuff online during my college years. I hardly ever met with clients but met this guy, let's call him Jim, a couple of times in a coffee shop to hand him the package because we lived in the same city. Super quick transaction - hi, thanks, have a good one. All was fine. Happened maybe 3-4 times. Always the same order.
Fast forward to a couple years later, I was invited to a job interview. Got there, met the CEO and we talked for a bit. Everything went great. I met a couple of other people and everyone seemed utterly lovely. At the end of the interview, CEO tells me to wait a bit because he wants me to meet the head of my future department. Well, Jim walks in. I probably wouldn't have recognised him if he hadn't acted all weird and pretty much fled the room after like 30 seconds of awkward starring. I got a call later from him today, he apologised and said that he was looking forward to working with me. I ended up taking another offer. Still get texts from him from time to time asking if I'd still sell him stuff though. So, yeah, that was fun.
Put a bag on your head.
There was a girl at my school, who had a video that her boyfriend recorded of them having sex go pretty viral on tumblr, everyone knew then, but the couple didn't really seem to care.
Fast forward to now, I sh*t you not I still see this video if I browse, not even looking it's just all over, she has had to make a post about dudes from our school hitting her up either trying to blackmail, or just sleep her because they assume she's easy?
Moral of the story, put a bag on your head.
Oh my GOD.
I posted a gif of my round man butt jiggling on Reddit about 8 years ago.
It ended up being used in some porn ads, blissfully unaware it was a man.
That's so scary.
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A friend from high school, who I knew of but didn't know, DM'd me on Facebook letting me know that there was a website dedicated to identifying GW girls. They had most of my pictures, my full name, my hometown, state, and college.
That was like 5 years ago and I haven't posted to GW since.
I owe her a lot.
Hijacking this comment for a PSA to anyone who posts anything NSFW on Reddit, even text stories: there are multiple websites out there that use automated bots to scrape content posted to Reddit and store / display it offsite, and often that includes attempts to dox the poster behind the content.
I had a friend who didn't even post nudes, just stories on r/gonewildstories, and she found that her posts were almost immediately (like, in a matter of hours after submitting) appearing on other porn sites under her username. She had a "profile" page created of her and everything, linking to all the stuff she'd posted that was stolen from Reddit and archived on other websites.
The takeaway here is that once you submit any NSFW content to a public site like Reddit, it's no longer under your control. You can delete the posts, take down the pics, even delete your account and that content will persist forever on other websites.
That's so messed up.
I used to post maybe 5 or 6 years ago. A friend of mine on Facebook warned me he'd come across my photos on a separate forum. People had taken them from reddit and posted them on a forum dedicated to doxxing women. They had my first and last name, and names of places (bars, etc) I commonly visited.
I had to change up my entire life because I was terrified of being murdered or assaults.
Edit: I edited this into a comment further down but adding here to dissuade the crazy theories. I went back to look at the Facebook message, it's been five years so I didn't remember details. He knew about it because they were extorting his sister for $500 to take down her photos. So he was looking in the (our area) thread to see if he recognized anyone else to warn. It has been taken down.
This is cute.
It was kinda cute. I was at a coffee shop and she approached me, asking about the book I was reading. I could tell something else was on her mind. I expected some pyramid scheme pitch, but she casually asked if I posted on reddit and if I was the username I used at the time.
It threw me off guard, like my real life hit with this anonymous world, but she turned out to be super nice and we ended up dating for a few months. I think she had an abnormal amount of self confidence and most people wouldn't approach.
That's kinda cool actually.
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Not exactly what is being asked and not my own experience.
But the opening scene for Wolf of Wall Street when Leonardo rips a line off of a woman's a** — she went to the same little college as I did. I didn't know her very well, as she was a couple years older.
On campus, those that ran in her circle knew and were supportive, and contrary to what might be expected, there were no creepy stalkers or whatever and it was largely accepted as a kinda neat fun fact about her.
And apparently DiCaprio is a delight.
What a strange first date.
Not this, but I was once set up on a blind date with a "fan" from FetLife. I didn't know until he called me by my username and asked if I'd do things from my profile with him. There definitely wasn't a second date.
That's creepy.
Not on Reddit but I used to be a cam girl. An older man in Walmart approached me saying he loved my videos and was very sad when I announced I wouldn't be doing them anymore. He saw my daughter (who was three months old at the time) and said "oh you got pregnant. You could have made a lot of money doing pregnant vids. I would have loved to watch you grow".
It freaked me out a bit, and my daughter and I left the store immediately. This is one of 3 people I've run into and he was the most polite, which is sad.
Yikes.
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I was a nude model in my younger years and posted some work on DeviantArt. Some of them ended up on 4chan and eventually the link to my portfolio got sent around at work in a very male dominated field. A lot of people liked to have opinions about me because they saw me naked, but had never actually spoken a single word to me in their life.
Lots of sexual harassment and unwanted attention came of it, but I still don't regret doing it. It was all very classy stuff and I'm proud of my body of work.
Thrift stores are the best places to flirt.
I had a guy recognize me in a Goodwill once. But he didn't come up to me, he messaged me a day later to tell me he had seen me but was too scared to say anything to me. We chatted for a while but never met up and it eventually fizzled out.
What's on the menu? What are the specials? What's popular? What's your favorite item?Tell me everything.
Back when I was in hospitality, these are part of the litany of questions I would get from visitors to our country. It became a bit irritating. I should've made a sign with "Regular FAQs."
I didn't have a lot of answers, due to the fact that I find American food pretty run of the mill. I'm going have to be schooled on what is considered extra yummy only in the states.
Although I must admit, the shoe definitely swaps feet when I travel. Tell me everything. The rest of the world is far more compelling with their menus.
Redditor u/Well_shi__-_- wanted to discuss what menu items we all need to discuss by asking:
What common foods in your country are considered delicacies by foreigners?
The closest "delicacy" for America I can come up with is pizza. Right? But only in NYC. And bagels, but only in NYC. Maybe alligator in Florida? And oranges, but only in Florida. Were very centralized here aren't we?
Berry Way
Thanks Strawberry GIF by DriscollsBerryGiphy"Goji berries. We put that stuff in our soups and many people pick that out when they drink the soup."
- eienblue
Essentials
"(good) Olive oil."
"Weirdly enough, Costco's house brand, Kirkland, is supposed to be some of the best, non-adulterated olive oil available in the States. I would look for a source on this, but I'm stoned."
"Kirkland California Extra Virgin Olive Oil is white label Cobram Estates, which is the California grown product of the Australian olive oil company, Boundary Bend. They have an unimpeachable reputation for quality and win many awards!"
baby fish
"It was supposed to be caviar, but now it's also unaffordable for us. cries in Russian."
"I used to eat caviar all the time as a cheap snack growing up moderately poor (Romanian). I was stunned to find out it's a delicacy."
"I was thinking caviar in Iran, but I don't know if it's true still. A lot of sturgeon species in Eurasia are endangered from overfishing and habitat destruction."
In the Forest
"Hmm, forest berries perhaps. I live in Finland. We have a lot of forests, so lot of berries such as blueberries and lingonberries. Everyman's Rights mean that you can just go and pick as much as you can find. It's kinda one of those things where if you live near any forested area, and are willing to spent time there come late summer, you'll probably have enough to last until next year in your freezer."
"We have so much berries that people from poorer countries (Thailand is a common one for some reason) are hired to pick them up, because doing berrypicking enough to actually profit monetarily is heavy work. And apparently the pay isn't worth it for most Finns. At the same time, forest berries are considered a superfood around the world, very healthy and trendy. Dunno about actual delicacy status, but definitely a difference in how we think about them."
The Little Lamb
baby lamb GIF by The DodoGiphy"I worked for a charity in Iraq for a year and we'd buy a dozen lamb chops for the equivalent of $5. That's like $60 to buy in the US and it's worse quality."
Ok, now that is what I call a menu. And I actually had a few of these items on my list when I heard the question. Only in Italy can you find true oil. And caviar? Guess I'm flying to Russia. Knock, knock Vlad. LOL
Aloha!
spam GIFGiphy"Hawaii has somehow turned spam into a sought after food, especially by visitors from Japan."
Shroomed...
"I would add mushrooms for Finland. Especially porcinis (herkkutatti), chanterelles (kantarelli) and C. tubaeformis (suppilovahvero) are incredible food mushrooms which are sought after e.g. in Italy. We can just go pick them in the forest thanks to our "jokamiehenoikeus", every man's right, which allows anyone to pick mushrooms and berries etc. on public land such as state-owned forests."
- Resumme
When in Mexico...
"Avocados here in Mexico, pretty common and cheap."
"I spent 3 months in your wonderful country 10 years ago and I still am disappointed when I eat an avocado or a mango here. "It´s just not like the ones in Mexico."
"Yea I always thought papaya was disgusting and tasted like pee warm beer until I ate one in Mexico. I can never get that real taste out of my mind."
Spain Eats
"Jamón Serrano, here in Spain is really common and you can find very good product for a very affordable price."
"We are going to Madrid this fall and my husband has already informed me that he plans to eat his weight in Jamón Iberico. We used to get slivers of it from a Spanish importer near our old house for crazy money."
Truth Hurts
british crown GIFGiphy"Englishman here, been scrolling for sooooo long to find my country..."
"Maybe some stereotypes are true."
Spam? Just, no. And I will say, I think the English are in the same boat as the good ole US of A. Empty food treasures. I've been to London... the supermarket sandwiches were good and you can drink in the streets. I guess you make up where you can.
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