You get a very specific type of clout when you're dating a celebrity. While it can be hard to have your relationship in the public eye, there are some pros to it. Here are the stories of the Redditors that have dated a celeb.
u/sabr_miranda asked: Normal people who have dated famous people, how was it like?
What a cool dude.
I dated the drummer from a very popular band (and moonlighted for two other very popular bands) for about a year. He went on tour and I was in college so it didn't work out, but we're still really close friends and talk frequently. He never signed anything for me because he always said, "I only sign stuff for people I'll never see again." He says that still, and it's kind of cool because we see each other every now and then since we live relatively close to each other.
It was fun showing up with him to my friends birthdays and stuff, they were all kind of star struck (because they loved one of the really huge bands) and he would turn on the charm and make it special. He was/ is a good sport about that sort of thing.
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A friend of a friend is engaged to Jonah Hill. He's a nice guy, they travel a lot, he obviously is pretty wealthy but funny, relatively normal. Doesn't love the spotlight - he went to a college graduation and everyone made such a big deal that he was there and tried to take pictures that he had to leave because he just wanted to support his girlfriend's sister.
My mom met her now-best friend at a party, the friend was new in town so my mom brought baby me over to play with her kids. She said the entryway had a ton of sports memorabilia, so she assumed they were just really big sports fans. The friend's husband came home in workout clothes, apologizes because he's been at practice and my mom says "which high school are you coaching?"
He was actually a big-deal NBA player who'd recently been traded to our city's team. He's always been a really cool family-oriented guy, he'd take us behind the scenes for all the games, floor seats, it was a blast. He's still involved in the NBA now (not as a player) and is just as cool.
A pupper fan.
Family friend dated Juliet from Lost for awhile. He said it was really tough to be in public with her because she would get swarmed. She apparently really loved walking dogs and actually took our dog on a walk one time when she visited. She loved being in the middle of nowhere apparently. She was exceptionally nice though and we talked a lot about the Red Sox which was cool for young me.
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I dated a now very famous cosplayer about 5 years ago. Back then she had around 150k Instagram followers, now she has around 600k I believe. Those 150k were bad enough.
She posted ONE picture of us together about 3 months into the relationship. Just us smiling together on a date.
I received personal DMs and comments on my Instagram, even after our relationship ended about 6 months later, hundreds upon hundreds of:
- death threats, on account of not being good enough in the eyes of her fans
- penis pics from men who wanted me to know that their manhood would satisfy her more than mine
- repeated spam comments on any and all pictures I had personal friends and family tagged in so they would get notifications for every. single. one.
Our relationship ended because she moved across the country and I couldn't commit to that, but her insane fans were a contributing factor to that lack of commitment. Not a life I wanted. Even after she deleted the picture and I made my Instagram private, I still dealt with thousands of follower requests, these people finding my Twitter/Facebook, and so on for a good year or two after we broke up.
Only the men though. A lot of her female fans would leave nice comments. Those dudes, though. God.
Random but cool!
Not me, and this is from a while ago, but a friend's sister dated Max Baer Jr., Jethro from The Beverly Hillbillies. They parted on good terms.
He is a super nice guy, smart and kind. He could not come to the sister's wedding but sent a nice letter and an EXTREMELY generous gift.
That influencer life.
So I dated an IG influencer back in college. Not famous, but girls would recognize her in the streets (NYC). It was fine and first but we couldn't even get a drink at the bar without people coming up to her for a selfie. And the guys were beyond creepy. I would often catch men (middle aged mostly) just staring her down. I called out a few and they left us alone after that.
Anyway social media dictated her happiness. We would be having a great time and she would completely lose it because her video only got X amount of likes. I eventually broke it off because of the stress her "career" had on the relationship.
TLDR; go outside and enjoy nature and stay off social media.
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My mother in law is a famous celeb. She's surprisingly down to earth as is her son (my husband).
She actually hates the fame part of her career path and the fact that she can't go anywhere unrecognized. She can't leave her home without looking great at all times.. makeup, hair, carefully selected outfit.
When we go out with her, people stare a lot. I'm very aware of it but she and her son don't notice it anymore. Fans are very polite but they do interrupt frequently for selfies or to start conversations with her. She is polite but tries her best to send them off quickly. It can get invasive and frustrating, especially when you're just trying to have a meal, conversation or run errands.
We have been harassed by paparazzi a few times in our outings, especially when she was dating another very famous celebrity. During that time, I had to make sure I looked my best too because I was showing up in photos and video.
She invited other well-known celebrities to our wedding. Some of my guests probably RSVPd yes because of it. Congratulatory messages and photos were printed in national magazines and television shows.
The main benefit is that when we are with her, we get VIP treatment everywhere we go. We get the best service. We are prioritized at restaurants, get complimentary desserts, are upgraded to the best suites at hotels, and so on. She herself is often upgraded to first class on planes. People will bend over backwards for her and we get to take in the benefit of that.
On a one-on-one it's completely normal with her, like with any other MIL. I often forget she's a celeb and only remember when she starts being hounded for selfies.
I dated a famous guitar player before he was famous. I'm not going to name names because I don't want to link my account with my real life for obvious reasons. I broke up with him because I didn't want to be in a relationship with a famous person and I didn't want to hamper his success. I didn't like the role of being a musician's girlfriend (yes, despite the r/ name I am a chick). There were always lots of girls who wanted to get around him after shows and I didn't want to have to share my life with the public and he did, plus his career made having a normal dating life hell.
He was regionally famous when we were together. The last straw for me was going out on my birthday for dinner and to see a show. He got invited up on stage to play a song with the band and I was left standing around by myself, once again having to play the supporting role when I just wanted one day that would be about what I wanted (I just wanted to have some cheesecake and do a little dancing).
I think it's weird to see this person as a public figure. He's starting to age and is getting past his prime, which is even weirder. He became famous relatively young and now he's starting to look like worn out. I hope he's happy and I'm happy for him.
People used to act like I was crazy for breaking up with him on the cusp on him becoming famous and I was just like *shrug*. Fame dating wasn't fun for me and I see why so many celebrity couples break up. It's a hard life and it makes normal stability hard.
Just a persona.
I know someone whose mum dated Gordon Ramsay before she met her dad. Apparently he's a really nice guy. The TV stuff seems to be a persona to drive people to exceed.
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I'm a stage actor in London and my last girlfriend (also an actor) got a principal role in a TV series. It went from being hungover, eating morning after kebabs in my shared flat to seeing her being interviewed on international TV in a matter of months.
We used to go out for drinks a few nights a week, but it became a huge chore almost instantly. But she's so lovely, bless her, that she'd talk to everyone. I'm a lot more miserable than her, and can't stand people talking to me when I'm eating so I'd be really pissy. Haha.
She ended up moving to the states and we broke up, but still text all the time.
It made me realise that fame is an unfortunate side effect of the work. Being famous is sh*t.
During my first enlistment, I was doing my usual perusing of the college bars for some fun easy to get sex. Clicked with a chick and she took me to the beach house she had rented a few blocks away. Sex was GREAT.
Found out next morning during pillow talk she's a fairly well known porn star that lived south of where we were. The house had been rented to film a porn the previous day. Yes she was the star. No I'm not grossed out.
I dated Marilyn Manson back when he was playing Paul on The Wonder Years. He was cool except that time he had a rib removed to blow himself.
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I'm not going to say who it is to respect his privacy, but he still plays and will have made upwards of $100M by now.
And yes, the cheating is absolutely insane. They literally do not give two sh*ts. It's so expected. I'm absolutely positive his wife knows and just looks the other way. All the baseball wives do.
At least they found true love.
I dated a now famous YouTuber for 6 years, we were together for four years before his career took off but once it did our entire relationship became sort of fodder for his channel. Even his proposal, which was sweet but awkward and stilted was taped from start to finish and once edited came out looking like the most gorgeous, romantic thing. I remember reading through his IG and YouTube comments obsessively as strangers gushed about "shipping" us and how we were this amazing couple and half of me using it as a justification to stay in it and the other half thinking " if only you knew how miserable we really are..." .
After we broke up he deleted almost every shred that we were ever together off his accounts except one video of us. Maybe once a year I'll go back and watch it to remind myself of who I was then and because his cinematography is goddamn gorgeous.
I met my now husband a week after we broke up, we started dating 9 months later and got married 9 months after that. Everything just felt more natural with him and like what love actually feels like, not just what it looks like on the surface.
I love presents. I try to hide my enthusiasm, and I do my best to appease the greater public by saying "it's the thought that counts." But that is a WHOLE lie. I don't just love gifts, I love great gifts. And if you go rogue from my lists, please keep a receipt. It's just plain rude to divert from what the recipient has requested.
This thought process has emerged from experience. I have received some trash presents over the years and now I'm too old to pretend you just went crazy while shopping. Like... "do you even know me?!"
Redditor u/sulemannkhann wanted to hear all about the presents some of us have received that we prayed, came with a receipt, by asking:
What's the worst birthday gift you ever got?
Have we met? That is an actual question I asked a gift giver once. (Who shall rename nameless) Football tickets. FOOTBALL TICKETS?! Who? What? I can't.
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"My own scarf. Yes, that's right, my mother went into my room took my only scarf, wrapped it and gave it to me like it was a new scarf."
"Thought I was getting a bike for my 15th birthday but my foster parents announced that they were sending me to a group home after living with them for 11 years. Devastation! That place was a wake up call. More independence then at my foster home but those kids had it really really bad, 12 year old heroine addicts, abuse... what the entire hell! I hurried up, graduated from high school at 16 and got the hell out of that place. I turned out ok, work in the legal field, live in Las Vegas. I did forgive my foster parents before they died."
The Forgotten One
"My brother and I worked for a farmer one summer, and he paid us with a used car. At the end of the next year, my brother graduated high school, so my parents paid me out for my half of the car, and that was his graduation gift. I gave them all a big discount compared to what it was worth. So like $500 for my share of a $2500 car."
"2 years later, and I needed $50 for some graduation fees, so I borrowed it from my mom until I could get to the bank. (Before mobile banking and ATMs everywhere.) Later, when my mom is telling me they invited all their friends over for a 'graduation' party, I asked if they had gotten a gift for me. "Well I gave you fifty bucks."
"I paid it back the next day, and she didn't blink. The 'graduation party' was just my parents friends, who said congratulations to me, but it wasn't really for me. A few years later, my little sister graduated, she got a car. They bought a used car for her, and our other little sister got the same when she graduated. My parents are mostly nice, and I never felt like they singled me out at birthdays or anything. Just my graduation seemed like I turned invisible."
Office Party Fail
"HR complaint from two subordinates fighting over how to throw me a surprise birthday party."
"I've never worked in an office environment, but the stories I've heard of people being required to buy a cake for the whole office and to celebrate their birthday with their coworkers would be enough to keep me in blue collar work for life, were it not for the fact that I love being active and working with my hands and could never sit at a desk all day anyway."
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"My Asian mom's gift was "no extra Kumon homework after school homework" so my birthday gift was that I didn't get extra homework from her."
Regifting is trash behavior. Do better. I'd rather you just say I forgot. Or... I just don't care for that much. But regifting? No.
"Stomach flu and my first ever period, at the same time. I think it was my 13th birthday."
"Omg, exact same story for me. It was my 13th birthday and my family took us kids to visit our relatives in Subsaharan Africa for the first time. I was sick, jetlagged, overheated and riding down a bumpy road in a Jeep driven by my dad in the complete darkness. We had just eaten at a restaurant where I found a giant scarab beetle in the bottom of my soup bowl. I have flashbacks to this day."
"My grandparents have been gifting me (and my brother) the same set of three vice grips for almost 10 years. Collectively we have 60 vice grips. I don't know if they bought a pallet of them, or where they are coming from. GET A GRIP GRANDMA!"
"I had a friend who's father was famous for doing Christmas shopping at the last minute. One year she complained that she went downstairs on Christmas morning and found, sticking out of her stocking, a spatula. Her birthday was a few days after telling that story, so myself and her friends all decided to get together and get her spatulas for her birthday, as a gag gift."
"Well, when it was our birthdays she retaliated. Which lead to a counter-offensive. And soon a new tradition was formed. And guys, I have so many spatulas now. Everything from dollar store cheap plastic, to hand-carved spatulas, a golden spatula, and even a replica of the famous Malaysian fighting spatula."
"I've got seasonal spatulas. As in, today it's time to pack away the Christmas spatulas and bring out the heart-shaped Valentine's day ones, followed by the bunny-shaped Easter ones. We've also been passing around this clip from the Weird Al Yankovic movie UHF. "Spatula City, we sell spatulas, and that's all!"
Their ultimate whack-a-doo move...
"A pair of homemade custom pajamas. Only problem was that they weren't made yet. It was just the fabric and a promise to make them for me. I had to give the fabric back and I never got the pajamas."
"Nothing legal just at our wedding they gave us a card that basically said 'have some land.' When the dust settled I asked what they thought we would do with it, they said build a home. I said ok, gonna need legal ownership for like building a house. They said sure we will get right on that. Then they decide to sell out and retire and never mentioned our wedding 'gift' again."
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"My grandma got me a hairbrush with a plastic horse head handle. The horse head was all chipped up and there was hair in the brush."
"My Godfather sent me a Birthday card each year which said, he paid 100 bucks to a bank account which I was supposed to get, when 16yo. He then got into alcohol, used all the money and died."
Oh for God sake, why even bother giving anything at all? Lint rollers, used brushes, homemade pjs... y'all ever hear of a gift card? Just put five bucks on it and call it a day. You can't hide cheap, so stop trying.
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I'm still on the fence about this whole extraterrestrial situation. I need more proof. Now I'm not naive enough to think that in this vast, endless universe only the human race exists. I just need proof, tangible, solid, didn't see it from my trailer through beer goggles proof.
I also need proof about the afterlife, another out there topic. Truth be told, I've never been that into this whole conversation. I've got enough daily problems on this planet, let alone worrying about making Will Smith's biggest hits into documentaries and not just popcorn/comedy space farce.
But let's compare thoughts...
Redditor u/ValencikHannibal197 wanted to discuss life beyond this planet, what do we really think? They asked:
What's the best theory on UFOs or aliens you've ever heard??
I definitely wouldn't turn down an excursion to AREA 51. I'd like to poke around and get a sense of the place. I've never personally been up close and face to face with a "non-Earther." Not sure I'd like to be...
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"UFOs/Aliens are a cover for all of the secret projects that the government is working on. Actually stole that from the X files."
"How human birth parallels alien abductions:
- Babies are taken from their home (womb)
- They still developing sight, so they see bright lights and grey figures.
- They hear an "alien" language they don't understand.
- They suddenly feel cold after leaving their womb.
- They are in a surgery room being poked with tons of instruments.
Long story short: some people suggest that abductions are just people who had memories of their birth."
In the Mind
"I just don't think anyone will ever see this. But I think that UFO's are the projection of our unconscious collective mind. Everything that exists in reality, also exists, in our immaterial mind. Is it possible that the insides of our mind are also just one drop in the ocean of consciousness... and together we create the material reality were in, simply by experiencing it in a real way, inside-out through our senses."
"My father was an aircraft mechanic and fabricator for test and spy aircraft for the USAF. He spent 75-85 working with test aircraft. He said that when they were going to do a test, that could possibly be seen by the public, they would make a betting pool on how many UFO reports local authorities and flight towers received."
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"I like the idea that some UFOs aren't machines. Instead they are some sort of Upper-Atmosphere Jellyfish. I found the issue of Fortean Times that had this article. Here's the cover: http://ft.gjovaag.com/q/images/a/ae/FT291.jpg"
Interesting. There are some ideas we can look into. None of it proof, but possibilities. There are certainly plenty of future film ideas.
"We are like that un contacted tribe and everyone agrees not to bother us."
"I've heard it explained from a channel (idk if you know what channeling is) kinda like this. First of all, we as a species tend to freak out, shoot first and ask questions later. Most humans would have a literal psychotic break. You have to believe in vibrational energy as it relates to our consciousness."
"The aliens (certain ones) are at such a higher level that it would be jarring for us to come in close contact with. We are slowly getting there but it's a process. Like 2012, end of the Mayan calendar, wasn't the end of the world it was the end of an energy cycle that we as the human race had never made it past before."
"Previous civilizations have been destroyed or destroyed themselves before they got this far. We passed a point where we are very unlike to destroy ourselves anymore. This doesn't mean we won't see some real bad hardships yet but we will keep progressing."
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"I was a firm believer in t em when I was in high school and kept googling theories and info in my spare time and during my study halls. They said their bodies were so lightweight or something that the reason why you can't see the evidence is that they disintegrate before hitting the ground."
"And then LOL it was so funny, some people would swear you could "train your eyes" to see rods... HhhahAHAHAHA. Like there were these experts. Video showed him walking around with a serious face, then pointing. And he's like, "that was one just there." "You can't see them, you have to be used to them... like me."
"I've spent many years immersed into hunting them finding them. That's why I can see them." And then one day China, who loves occult stuff, had like a lab that set up a nighttime camera to capture footage of rods at night... then realized they were normal bugs at overexposure. lol"
"The Dark Forest theory. Basically the theory that the reason we haven't made contact is because all the other civilized life in the universe/galaxy knows not to broadcast their location. They've learned that there's something awful or predatory lurking in the dark forest of our galaxy, and that it's better if they keep to themselves."
"That the universe is so vast that we haven't been discovered yet."
"This makes sense to me because traversing the distance to or from even our our stellar neighbors would require technology that is not known to us now or likely to be known by us anytime soon if it's even possible at all. To assume without evidence that aliens could possess this technology and have visited us does not meet my skeptical standards."
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"Time travel exists, and UFO sightings are actually future humans coming back to our time. That is why they are so discreet, and never openly make contact."
I hope time travel exists. Now that I'm onboard for. If aliens do exist... just come on out guys. We could probably use your help.
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Life is full of suspicions and theories that we'll never be able to prove in concrete but are just obvious. I'm not talking about wild conspiracy, but thoughts that make sense without a shadow of a doubt. Just lacking tangible evidence. Which can sound like wild conspiracy.
Think about aliens, ghosts, unsolved murders, all situations we know we have validation, but... do we have solid receipts? The everlasting issue. Let's break it all down.
Redditor u/Lazy-Ape wanted to dive into what we know deep down are facts, no matter what others say, by asking:
What are you convinced is true but cannot prove?
I don't know where to begin. I know who killed JonBenet. But I can't say. But we all know, and we can't say. It's no theory, but we have no receipts.
"There is some scam going on with power companies in the US. The colder months when I literally don't turn on the AC at all (electric for heat and cold) is basically the same price... I called and asked them if they are averaging it and they say no... someone is lying."
"That Tom Holland "spoiling thing" and some "leaks" are all a marketing strategy. And it works!"
"I'm not a fan of superhero movies but i saw him idk why my algorithm did that and yes you are right, you have to be next-level stupid to be spoiling stuff accidentally, one time I understand but not again and again. He is not a kid (although he looks like one)."
"The real Sonic movie was already finished. Then they put some extra time in to make the bad sonic trailer. The outrage it cost was the best publicity they could get for the movie."
The X Files
"The evidence for aliens to exist is so strong that it is not really a question of their existence. Look up Drake's equation if you haven't. Just consider 100-400 billion stars in just our galaxy, the milky way. And then 100 billion other galaxies in the observable universe."
"Each star has a habitable zone and some have Rocky planets in their habitable zone. There are many forms of life and the are theories about forms of life that are not carbon based either. There is no doubt there is alien life. Now intelligent alien life is going to be much much rarer, but still there is a high probability of intelligent aliens. Look up Fermi paradox."
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"Money can buy happiness."
"This one's been proved. I don't remember the numbers but people are happier the more they make up to a certain dollar amount. If nothing else money buys peace of mind, which is the next best thing."
Life is a mess of confusion. Can any of us prove anything? Well yes, money DOES buy happiness. That is just truth. Go out and get some.
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"That earth is simply a 5th grade science project for some kid, to whom we are the size and importance of fruit flies. Our entire existence and history amounts to about 5 days in her time."
"Google many worlds theory. Worlds is a misnomer, if iirc. Basically it's a solution/interpretation of quantum mechanical wave function I think (not an expert). It's much more complicated than that and a lot of it very sciencey. And very philosophical. Don't get surprised if you get an epiphany. https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/qm-manyworlds/ Here you go , it isn't deep quantum mechanics but it does do a nice job of explaining it."
"Ten-ish years ago Google offered a free 411 service using voice-to-text. You spoke the person or company you wished to call (and perhaps added the address) and the Google computer would respond with the information. They stopped the "experiment" or "beta" or whatever they called it after 3-4 years. The conspiracy theory? Google now uses that voice recognition for their Google Assistant devises and services. AND has sold the technology to the government to improve wiretaps and eavesdropping."
I WANT TO MAKE SURE IT FITS!!!
"I'm lowkey convinced there's a clothing industry conspiracy to keep physical retail outlets in business. There's an unspoken mutual agreement to make sure everyone uses their own proprietary clothing sizes. That makes it impossible to transition clothes shopping to a fully online experience."
"Clothing shops suck. The selection is garbage. They are always short on certain sizes. They are always understaffed and it takes forever to grab something from the backroom. It always takes forever to go through checkout. People still go to physical clothes shop though. What's the number 1 reason they give? I WANT TO MAKE SURE IT FITS!"
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"Elvis Presley lived in Las Vegas impersonation himself from 1978 to 2013, when he actually died. Easiest case of witness protection ever."
Oh Elvis. Just say hi. Keep strong in your fortitudes. Find all of your evidence. Prove life.
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When reflecting on failed relationships, do you ever wonder if you've missed any indication the person you used to share a bed with was not a good match?
"What 'Red Flags' did you totally miss in your past relationships? And why?"
A person's lack of trust in a relationships is indicative of a larger issue.
"She insisted on checking my phone all the time, but I was never allowed to touch her phone, ever."
Phone With X-Rated Content
"when one month into the relationship I discovered nudes of other women on his phone and that he still had Tinder. when three months into the relationship he went though my text messages and read through old conversations I had with someone before I even started seeing him and somehow made me feel guilty about it, and four months into the relationship when he cheated on me for no reason other than that he could in the moment and he was drunk. it took me three years to break up with him."
Addicts who will not get help are bad candidates for love.
It's Not Up To Us To Change People
"I was too new to realize that you can't 'fix' an addict."
"That somehow there was always a good reason to drink. Later he became lazier and stopped pretending to have a reason and just drank the whole time out of habit."
"I'm half convinced zombies are a metaphor for addicts. They look like your loved one which why you don't immediately recognize them as a bottomless pit of hunger that will either get close enough to try to bite you and turn you into one of them or simply tear chunks out of you until there's nothing left."
"I married a mom's boy. I didn't see the problem at first but things got weird quickly. She controlled him and our marriage."
"It took 15 years and couple of kids, but I left that situation. The funny part is, after the divorce, she and I got along quite well."
Gaslighting is a common problem in relationships that people unfortunately are unable to identify early on.
"He 'didn't get jealous' but he also didn't want me to hang out with male friends. Or, in fact, other people in general. One time he came to pick me up from the cinema, saw I'd been there with a friend, and got so mad on the drive home that he punched the steering wheel. That was...a thing."
"He also took advantage of my mental health problems to not only gaslight me but to make him look like the better person and to make me out to be crazy. I didn't realise the extent of it until ages later when I was in a healthy relationship! Lesson time: if someone is constantly making you feel uneasy and vulnerable, they are not your friend, let alone your partner."
"YES. The whole 'I'm not controlling you because I'm not directly 'forbidding' anything; I'll just find ways to emotionally punish you after, until you can't muster up the energy anymore' game. A classic. Your world shrinks month by month, seemingly by choice, and one day you look up and realize you have nowhere else to turn. Textbook."
"If they're yelling anything like 'I'm not controlling!' or 'I don't get jealous!' at you, it's a red flag. This is NOT a debate that needs to happen in healthy relationships. You're not crazy, you're just being gaslighted. Sure sign to GTFO."
Mental Health Denier
"First bf I had, he was 24 I was 18. Was the only person outside my family who I told about my depression after I was diagnosed with it. He said that was a fake disease. Because this was many years ago and on the media, there wasnt much info about it like nowadays, I believed him. One time he went out with me and my sister, he took us home but he was extremely wasted. He crashed against a wall and the car was a total loss."
"At that moment I felt like sh*t because of his car and because 'this wouldnt have happened if he wouldn't have taken us home'. Months later he used to laugh about the accident because his parents bought him a new car. He was always joking about how we 'defeat death', and later confessed to me that he knew the brakes were not working properly that night. I was so f'king pissed cause my sister and I could have died. Overall the guy was a complete a**hole and I am glad we only dated for 9 months. After that I have never dated with anyone who drives after drinking, nor with anyone who believes mental health issues are fake."
Many in the thread said red flags are often there but are ignored.
This was true for a friend of mine who was in an emotionally abusive relationship. She recognized all the signs telling her she needed out of that relationship, but she stayed with him because, "he was working on changing to be a better person."
She held him to that promise for three years and realized he was not making any effort to change at all, but she refused to see it because she "loved him."
She eventually left him and is now happily married. Her only regret was the fact that she wasted a lot of time ignoring what her gut had been telling her all along.
It was a good reminder we should trust our instincts more.