"'Til death do us part" is a pretty long freaking time. So before people get hitched, they should probably, ya know, make sure that they're with the person they want to spend their life with. If that's not the case, it's usually pretty evident as early as the wedding day.
Fridayrules asked: Have you ever been at a wedding where it was obvious to you the couple was doomed? What happened?
50. Why even get married?
"I was at a wedding as a videographer. Bride was really happy and everything but the groom seemed disinterested and bored. Film the ceremony and everything and we need some shots of the guests mingling. My buddy says he hasn't got any footage of the groom and asks if I've seen him. I say no but offer to walk around and look.
I eventually find the groom way down by the lake sitting on a bench and chatting with one of the bridesmaids. They don't notice me, but I see them share a kiss. Mentioned it to my buddy who just shrugged and said we were there to film the wedding so it's not our concern."
49. Some people never change.
Giphy"They stayed together, but they HATE each other.
A friend from long ago called me up to be a groomsman. I was his friend back when we were in elementary school and hadn't thought about him in years, but okay. I get there and my friend has changed dramatically and for the worse. Or maybe it was that he hadn't changed. He was still that elementary school kid, only bitter. I figure I'll enjoy the party, see some old pals, and get through it. This isn't my trainwreck to stop.
The first time I saw my pal interact with his soon-to-be wife I knew there was gonna be problems. They swore at each other, in front of everyone, at their arranged parties. Not like "you're so hot" and stuff, but "you're a dumb b" kind of stuff.
I admit, I went to the wedding just to see what would happen.
They have 2 kids, they hate each other, and I have no idea why they stay with each other. Maybe they just both like being angry all the time?"
48. Sounds like a scumbag.
"My sister and her husband. They met each other our junior year of high school and she moved in with him half way through our senior year. I never liked him and did not hide that fact. I especially didn't like him after he hit on me while they were dating. Didn't hide that fact either, but my sister brushed me off.
Before he popped the question, she found out he'd been texting other girls. He promised he'd change.
The wedding was a train wreck, honestly. It was a small affair in our back yard, with her aunt officiating. The aunt started crying midway through the ceremony.
My step mother read a poem about them she wrote halfway through the ceremony (she always wants to be the center of attention), the grooms drunken father (who had been barred from the wedding) came stumbling in at some point during the vows to search for alcohol, and I saw the groom grab one of the brides maid's butt. I didn't point that out to my deliriously happy step-sister. I should have.
A year later it turned out the groom had been sexting my step mom.
My sister somehow forgave both of them. She has low self esteem.
They got caught again a year after that.
At that point my dad had divorced my step mother, so I have been distant from this whole shebang. But my sister (who I do still talk to) finally divorced that scum bag.
Divorce for everyone! Let's pull an Oprah."
47. That's one reason to get married...
"My sister-in-law's first wedding. Never really liked the groom from the first time I met him. After a year or so, he proposed. They started planning their wedding that was to take place in a year. But then, on whim, they get married in a civil ceremony with plans to still have the big ceremony later in the year. A few months after the civil ceremony, the groom goes in for heart surgery (bad valve he's had since he was born). The big ceremony finally comes except every major aspect of it has been stripped away.
Less than a year into the marriage, my sister-in-law brings me a credit card bill and asks me if she knows what this $600 charge her husband has on it. A little internet research and I find that he's tipping cam girls. They're officially divorced about a year after that.
In retrospect, it became obvious what had happened. My sister-in-law was grifted for a new heart valve. He didn't have the insurance at his job to cover the surgery, so he convinced her to marry him - earlier that expected - to get on her insurance, get the heart surgery, and then split."
46. YIKES.
Giphy"Got invited to a wedding of an ex girlfriend. There was one of those cheesy dollar dance things where bride and groom shake down the crowd for more money. Fine, I suck it up and dance with the ex for a fiver.
During the dance, she whispers "This should have been you". Freakout time. I left very quickly after that.
Needless to say, they didn't last."
45. Service Times.
"All of my interesting stories came from my time as an event server. Honestly, I felt like a lot of the weddings I saw at that event hall represented the culmination of two people's most expensive mistake of their lives. Coworkers and I routinely placed bets on which ones would last the year. Our manager even told us about one time when they called a couple to clear up some minor details regarding the wedding a few months prior, only to find that couple was no longer married.
I have to say, though, that the best (worst? take your pick) MOH speech I have ever heard was the one where the MOH had formerly dated the groom.
And she said this. In the speech.
And she also mentioned that it hadn't worked out between them for a laundry list of reasons, which unfortunately for my nightly entertainment she did not delve into.
AND then she threw in a few wink-wink nudge-nudge comments about the groom's sexual performance.
The bride looked furious the whole time this speech was happening, and made a beeline for the bar as soon as it was socially acceptable (can ya blame her?)
The groom, meanwhile, is super awkwardly (suspiciously?) avoiding eye contact with the MOH/his former lover, and the last thing I witnessed between the happy couple was a tense exchange interspersed with both of them chugging their drinks.
Yeah, I wouldn't place any bets on that one."
44. Red flags everywhere.
"I was a bridesmaid in my brother's wedding a few years back. The bride was okay throughout their relationship, but it felt very superficial, and she had done small things that signaled that she wasn't a very kind person - like refusing to take an obviously suffering pet cat to the vet because "it's just a cat". She had the money, she just didn't care at all. My brother did it for her in the end and wound up keeping the cat, but back to the story.
Leading up to the wedding, she got snippier, which we all brushed off as nerves, but she was being straight mean to her other SIL, who was literally doing everything. SIL planned the bachelorette party exactly as my bro's wife wanted - bro's wife pouts because we were talking to each other as well as her and just stands up and leaves. Just friggin leaves. Other SIL is clearly very hurt, and we did our best to cheer her up, but she had to share an awkward hotel room with bro's wife, so yay.
The rehearsal comes, and bro's wife sends SIL out to do all the last minute errands that bro's wife was supposed to do, but didn't because she's decided it wasn't her job but didn't tell anyone. So flowers, decorations, tons of stuff was missing and SIL was blitzing to retrieve it. We didn't know until bro's wife both bragged about what she did, and then about how SIL was late, useless, etc. I told her SIL was doing everything for her, she should be grateful, and then left while she was screeching.
Day of the wedding, she's miserable, barely smiles, yells at everyone for everything, refuses to dance at the reception beyond the first dance because she wanted to pout over unknown reasons, tears open the gifts to see who was cheap and who was worthy, and then flounced out while leaving trash everywhere.
I don't know how, but she and my brother remained married for about 5 years. She was just nasty the whole time. My brother is also a turd, but damn, she really went all out to out-turd him.
So she's gone, and we're all much happier without her. Still keep in touch with her brother and his wife (other SIL) though, because they're great folks."
43. A happy ending, at least.
Giphy"My best mate and his girlfriend. They were from polar opposite sides of the world with the bride some 10,000 miles from home. They were both located in a country that was not where they were born, they did not speak the language and they both were under immense strain. The Bride had other issues too that I won't share but that exacerbated the situation
The wedding was a small and simple affair - a registry office and a pub lunch, followed by a few beers by just very close family and a couple of friends. I was taking photographs.
The bride's mood was annoyed at best describe it - her new husband would put his arm around her and she would push him away. She stated to me she just did not want to be there. More than once she just stared at me in total despair. As a result he looked despondent at times and almost heartbroken. I didn't think they would see the year out.
15 years later they are still very much together, very much a team and happy. They worked it all out, they learned from each other and they stuck to it. And for me, I couldn't be happier for them."
42. WTF is a "running muscle"?
"I was the guest of the bride who was a coworker and we also were running partners. I was at the hotel bar the night before the wedding and the groom drunkenly touched my leg to feel my "running muscles."
They didn't even last two years."
41. Love Weed.
Well, it wasn't so much only the wedding (though I was best man at it), it was obvious the whole relationship was doomed when I learned this:
(Important to note, the groom was a hardcore stoner)
- She demanded before they got married that he quit smoking weed -- she was strenuously anti-drug.
- He had no intention of doing so, but was convinced he could hide it from her (so starting out with a lie, and one that was bound to be found out)
- He was horrible at hiding it when he was stoned.
They were divorced 9 months later after she caught him smoking in his car in the driveway. So stupid, the whole thing. Why people get into these relationships I have no idea. Iwanttheknife
40. "Once More with Feeling."
GiphyInstead of saying "I do", he said "Eh... I guess..."
It didn't last two years. khalamar
My dad said, "I'll try". Over 30 years together at this point. PM_ME_RHYMES
39. Swatting a fly?
There's a clip of a wedding (I think in Eastern Europe somewhere) where the bride playfully move the cake away from her husbands mouth and he loses it and slaps her in front of everyone.
I hope she got that annulled immediately. TGND03
38. All Bets.
My friend's. 12 people literally sat at a table at the reception and formed a pool for how long it would last. Shortest guess was 1 month, longest was 2 years. I had 15 months.
The divorce was announced at 2 years, 1 month later. We decided all bets were off. picksandchooses
37. Guilty!
The bride ugly cried the entire reception until her, the groom and her mom got into a yelling fight about it. They both made it clear the only reason they got married was because she was pregnant with their second child. The best man (of a different race, it's relevant...) seemed very jumpy the entire time... fast forward to 6 months later, and the baby is clearly biracial.
Less than a year after the wedding, bride & groom are divorced and she's with the best man.
Edit to add: I feel like I should add that the groom was not unhappy to get a divorce. General consensus was he was probably as guilty as she was, she just had the misfortune that her infidelity was a lot more obvious. thethowawayduck
36. Not a Chance.
GiphyWent to a wedding where the groom accidentally spilled champagne on the brides dress. Now she's probably not the only bridezilla out there who would go nuts. But this turned nasty in a matter of seconds. It started with her being irritated over the dress, to blaming him for everything wrong with the wedding (which no one noticed), issues with his family followed and to top it all off she questioned his mental health (he'd had problems in the past). All this while screaming at the top of her lungs in front off about 150 people. Poor guy never stood a chance. Queenofwands78
35. The Soundtrack.
The couple came to see me by appointment to choose wedding music for their ceremony.
There, in the church choir loft, they got into a heated argument over each piece of music under consideration. From the wedding processional to the recessional, there was zero agreement or willingness to compromise with each other.
To try to bring some harmony, I suggested that the bride choose the organ processional and the groom select the recessional, even though they strongly disagreed with each other - same with other music for the occasion. That worked for the moment.
In less than 6 months, the pastor informed me that the couple was back to see him for counseling, with divorce under consideration. Back2Bach
34. We Loved YOU....
My college girlfriend decided to marry her back-home-HS boyfriend. Fine, whatever. She invites me to the wedding. Fine, whatever. I go to the wedding, and her father, very loudly at the reception, pounds me on the back and announces, "THAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN YOU UP THERE!"
They were married for 23 or so years. Then he divorces her, and she switches teams. dramboxf
33. The Creeper.
My wife and I had thought this one couple wouldn't last. The groom gave off a creepy vibe. We gave them 2 years max.
Two years came and they were expecting a baby, so we gave them another few years. Few more years came and another child was on the way. Then about a year later the crap hit the fan.
Our initial thoughts were correct - dude was creepy and hiding some sketchy stuff from his past. Lied about a lot of things, like his education.
This explains why he always worked the lowest position in their line of work (they both work in the medical field). He claimed he had a degree, which would put him at a much better paying position, but he kept working the bottom tier (practically volunteer) job. Money was a huge issue for them, and she made the bulk of their combined income. Arch27
32. Age Limits.
GiphyMy Father-In-Law was getting remarried in his late 60's. His wife died 20 years earlier to cancer, she was married 3 times prior, twice divorce, once to death. When we met the new girlfriend at the time, 2/3 of the children told him point blank that she wasn't a good match for dad. Of course, he couldn't (didn't want to) see it.
(And took out a loan of $20,000 to repair her house) The thing is, he's super stubborn, as in he is clearly in the wrong with evidence supported, and he will still argue it 20 mins. And he's a yeller (If I raise my voice, then I'm more right!). She is also stubborn and extremely religious. (He is also religious, but she took it to an 11).
Any time they would get together while my wife and I were there, there was always a screaming match going on. They would find the littlest thing and start going off at each other. Well it never did get better. Weeks leading up to the wedding just added more fuel as they had more things to shout about.
The day of the wedding it felt really tense. Very smiling through their teeth. They hardly came back from their honeymoon when he approached my wife and I asking for advice. She served the divorce papers 2 months later, and he's still doing payments on her roof! Celestial_Scythe
31. Mistakes.
At my cousin's wedding, she came to hang out in my brother's and my hotel room to hangout because apparently her new husband just sat down in the honeymoon suite, put his face in his hands and said something along the lines of, "I made a mistake." They stayed together for five years, had two kids, and a very angry divorce. BagelsAreStaleDonuts
30. They'll be another....
Yes, he proposed drunk and she took it seriously. He clearly wished he could take it back. Big wedding they couldn't afford, he was nervous AF everyone there was dressed like it was a bbq, and were all there to get drunk. As soon as they were married they both had a smoke and a VB in each hand. Classy. Gave it 2 years. Boom to the day they were divorced, she found another dude and wore the same dress to her next wedding. Bogan AF. BDR529-7
29. Storyteller.
Yes. A coworker. She was constantly telling us stories that made it clear that the guy she was marrying was emotionally and verbally abusive. She would dread him coming to pick her up. I'm not the only one who told her not to go through with it.
Sadly, it sounded like her father was also really emotionally abusive and critical so she'd grown up with that kind of behavior being normalized. They are thankfully divorced now. It was pretty ugly but she seems a lot happier. Toomuchcustard
28. The 50 Mile Radius.
Yes. And unfortunately she was my best friend from high school/college, and I was the maid of honor. Everybody in a 50-mile radius could see that, while they were both nice people, they weren't right for each other. But he loved her, and I got the impression she just kinda wanted a wedding.
She filed for divorce 10 months later. She and I eventually drifted apart when my husband and I moved out of state. SaveBandit0215
27. Not Cute..
They wrote their own vows.
His were touching and endearing, about how his life was complete now that he was together with her.
Hers were a bunch of passive-aggressive, sexist attempts at jokes. "I promise to never let you win an argument. I promise to never let you watch a football game in peace. I promise to leave the bathroom a mess and yell at you about the toilet seat." Oudeis16
26. Too Good to be True.
My cousin and her husband had a pretty lavish wedding, one that seems like it should have been out of their price range. Husbands grandparents are wealthy so the assumption was that they had paid for it. Well couple months go by and on Facebook they are posting about their new Maserati they bought. My cousin is a college student, and her husband is in "sales."
After that they bought a brand new Mercedes and a yacht. Well turns out they had been running a Ponzi scheme and had defrauded people out of more than a million dollars. After they got caught they turned on each other. Husband got 9 years in federal prison, and my cousin got 2 years. Oh and she gave birth to their child in prison. Both of them are disgusting human beings so I'd hoped for more time in jail. Skate3158
25. The Right Girl.
GiphyWas friends with a girl, she's bit dramatic, emotional, severe enough that I wouldn't want to date her, but not that bad that I wouldn't be friends with her.
She introduces me to new boyfriend. Chill dude, into gaming like I am, becomes part of our group of gamers and we have frequent lan parties together.
She's always yelling at him about everything, emotional manipulations, yelling at him in front of the group of friends, but he sticks around, I have no idea why.
Tells me in confidence the one day that he sees her as the 'right now girl', not the 'right girl' and will be moving along shortly.
Then out of the blue they announce their engagement. wtf? but, i thought... whatever Married and divorced a year later.
He's now married to an awesome woman, been together around 10 years now, 1 cute daughter. Their first date was my wedding :) Reapr
24. Walk Away.
Brother wedding, told him he could walk away, he didn't, weren't married long. Best man at his next wedding he asked me if I were going to tell him he could walk away, I said no this is the one. Been together a long time and married quite a few years. Fean2616
23. I saw this on Dateline.
The groom's family hated the bride so much that they refused to allow her and her family at the reception. So there was a wedding, then two separate receptions. Amazingly, the marriage lasted a decade.
They HATED her. Had her committed, took her daughter away, tried to murder her. Literally MURDER her. Joke's on them, their precious baby boy ended up in prison for assault. He's now a registered sex offender who can't see his own daughter. She has the daughter and they're doing well now, thanks to her amazing mom. Jenny010137
22. I Do.
The bride got totally drunk, she sexily danced on the dance floor solo instead of her first dance, turned the wedding DJ into a Karaoke, started a fight with the best man's girlfriend. At the end of the night Then she had to be carried to her room because she was that drunk..... we've been happily married for 15 years now, so turns out I was wrong. megabollockchops
21. 364 days Counts.
My brother's wedding. I was up front with my parental units and I saw the bride walking down. She didn't have a smile on her face. I turned to my mother and said this marriage isn't lasting a year. She smacked me in the shoulder and gave me a scowl. Marriage didn't last a year. bricosis
20. Forget Scum.
My BFF's wedding, sad to say. She and her husband never smiled throughout the entire ceremony. The officiator kept saying how they looked like such serious a couple; not how cute or charming, but serious.
Two months later, she calls to tell me her husband was cheating on her, spent their wedding money on other women, and were being evicted from their home because he was spending his paycheck on himself and his extra-marital affairs. She is now happily divorced and moving on from her scumbag of an ex husband. Latter-Day_Gamer1540
19. Bad Chats.
Yeah, former friend got married to his partner of over 6 years, but he was always chatting up other girls online both before and after the wedding. He eventually got fired from a job for sexual harassment. He didn't tell her for a while and she dumped him soon after. He was living at her parent's place. kingochaos
18. Refunds?
I see a lot of posts here of people claiming the wedding was doomed because the couple got divorced, but I doubt they knew that at the time.
I had a wedding invitation that I refused to accept because of this. It was for a high school friend. I knew he had slept with all of the bridesmaids at some point or another. I knew she was constantly cheating as well. There was no way it would be stable.
So, I claimed I couldn't get away from my family, and sent a modest gift. According to another friend who attended, there was a fight at the wedding reception. The couple ended up annulling or divorcing soon after.
I never got the gift back though. Reddit
17. Revelations....
GiphyI thought they were doomed alright, but not in they way you're thinking. By their request the priest quoted Revelations because they were hardcore rapture believers. If you want to know what part of Revelations is appropriate for a wedding, the answer would be none of it. Anywho they joined a cult in the Rockies and disappeared up in the Yukon. Patches67
16. Deployed.
The guy was in the military and was being deployed overseas the day after the wedding, so they made an effort to make the wedding extra big and exciting.
He was gone for like 7 months or something and they got divorced the week he came back. velour_manure
15. Oh Queen...
Yep. My cousin got married to this guy she'd been dating for a year or so. They had a fairytale wedding at a plantation in Louisiana, gorgeous wedding. I turn and look at my mom and say "they aren't going to make it." She asks me what made me think that, to which I replied "I know for a fact he's gay."
He used to help out at band camp when I was in high school and he was very clearly gay, but closeted. He was his most comfortable self when he was hanging out with the dance instructor and they were openly gay.
Turns out I was right, they split up like 2 years later because he finally came out to my cousin as gay and wanted to live his best life. MommaGoinNuTz
14. Oh the Snark.
My brother's wedding. Prior, I hadn't seen my brother in years and he was getting married. Sent me a week notice to appear at his wedding. His soon-to-be wife was a bit odd. Really shy, quiet, and had ultra-conservative parents who you could tell didn't agree with the wedding because she should've of married a Christian white man and not an Atheist asian man.
They always had a snarky comment to me or my mom that we looked like savages. My brother is on the weird side as well. Super frugal, but also super wealthy. I gave it 2 years. They were married for 5 years, and she filed for divorce and ran off with another woman. Cut contact with her family and everything to be a lesbian. Fast forward to this year, and my brother finally opens up about the marriage saying that they never fought about anything, no arguments, no disagreements about money, children, future, etc. He assumed she was a closeted lesbian and wanted to be free from her family. Jiggly_Love
13. The BF Story....
I was the best man at my then best friend;s wedding. I knew he would blow even though he swore he was done with other women. Marriage lasted for nearly three years. His ex is doing really fine. He is still the old whiny lying and failing dude. Doesn't care much about his son too. Bavarian36
12. For the Money.
She (a morbidly obese "Live, laugh, love" fan) had a lit cigarette during the vows, berated the groom when he stumbled over the words, and had a face like thunder the whole time.
He (a mentally challenged pub glass collector) later admitted to being pressured into the whole thing by her.
The best man made a joke about her only marrying him for the money (despite his job he's LOADED, I think from an inheritance), and he developed a look that clearly said "oh crap, that's right, I've been played."
Divorced in a week, marriage unconsumated. She accused him of assaulting her, despite previously confirming the lack of sex.
Yeah... Aurell1an
11. Listen to Your Heart.
GiphyAt my first wedding, I couldn't stop sobbing. It was weird. I thought it was because I was emotional, but I realize now that it was my body screaming at me saying, "DUDE STOP." We were stuck together for 10 years. BruceLee1255
10. The Hard Worker.
My cousin's, ten years ago.
They married after their firstborn son turned 1.
She didn't like my family and did everything she could to make her parents to be the favorite grandma and grandpa.
The last decade, they got two more children and built two houses, my cousin worked his butt off for as a firefighter and a plumber simultaneously.
Now that she achieved everything she wanted, she sew him off and is trying steps to get the houses and the kids. Luckily we're in Germany and the houses are legally his, as he solely paid for them. Chances are that he will end up with the houses but has to pay for his soon to be ex-wife. His intentions are to legally give one house to his kids and allow the mother to live there with them, leaving him only to pay a small amount of child support. realultralord
9. Oof....
Pagan ceremony, bride in fairy wings. Groom begins his vows with 'We were both with other people when we met.' Bride begins hers with 'As most of us know, I'm not mentally well.'
Oof, just... Oof. StrangePondWoman
8. Family Feud.
Oh yeah, my cousin got married to some fool nobody in the family liked. I'm not sure I ever said one word to this guy. But fancy wedding with a lot of people, they divorced one month later. She did eventually marry a very nice guy the entire family likes so it does have a happy ending. BurghFinsFan
7. The Family.
My uncle got married and they had an on and off relationship ( they couldn't afford divorce) until my uncle got the crap beat out of him by her family. borny106
6. Too Young.
My stepbrother married is now ex-wife way too young. Besides the fact the wedding was dry due her not being 21 at the time (she was 20 he was 21) she was just not a nice person. She rejected us every time we tried to be kind to her. They would always leave family gatherings early. There was a ton of family drama the day of the wedding about seating (so dumb) and the pastor almost didn't marry them because he thought they weren't ready.
I was in the wedding party and when I was standing up there I just had that feeling "this isn't going to work." After 6 years of her changing jobs, relocating for those jobs, and dragging my stepbrother along they got divorced. He had to transfer nursing schools 3 times because of all the moving around. My stepbrother gave and gave and she just took and took. spenceballs
5. Hey Mr. DJ?
GiphyI was a DJ years ago, and I had a Friday night gig to do a wedding reception. They had hired a band, too, and I played music between the band's sets.
Well, the groom got rip-roaring crapfaced drunk and passed out at the head table. I'm playing the tunes while everybody danced the night away. Except the bride is nowhere to be seen. She was the only one in a sparkling white dress, so normally you couldn't miss her.
Ten minutes later, I see her sneaking out from behind the backstage curtain, and rushing off into the bathroom. Half a minute later, the singer of the band also creeps out. He's grinning like the fox who ate the canary. He strolls up to me and basically starts bragging about how she was pretty tight for a woman with three kids. All I could do was shake my head. thudly
4. The Day Arrives....
Backyard wedding between two missionaries. I got to the house for the rehearsal dinner the night before to hear screaming and crying as the pastor tried to calm each of them down long enough to get them to agree to move forward with the wedding the next day. Day of the wedding, the wedding party (including me) were told we were the ones responsible for setting to the tables, making centerpieces, and doing signage 4 hours before the wedding while bride is still distraught.
Oh, also, self service bar plus lots of kids meant lots of drunk kids whose parents weren't watching as they drank Long Island ice teas straight out of the dispensers. This culminated in the drunk two year old flower girl faceplanting off a trampoline conveniently placed on a concrete driveway and having to be rushed to the emergency room covered in blood during the speeches.
They moved out of state just after their wedding and I've only spoken to them a couple times, she has become something of a hermit and he's gotten very into his job so I'm guessing they don't talk much either. Stellaheystella
3. $50 for all....
Wedding was at some white trash event hall. When the reception was wrapping up, the bride's family began to pick up the chairs around each table (I later learned that they refused to pay the $50 pickup fee so they were picking up themselves). No one from the groom's family were helping pick up the chairs and the bride's family did not like that at all.
The chaos started with smart comments from the bride's family and quickly escalated into a full-out brawl ending with the bride and groom being rushed into their getaway car like they were Bonnie and Clyde. They were divorced a year later. felton225
2. Don't be Late....
Relatives wedding.
Bride was 45 minutes late to ceremony. Bride parents (who was separated due to the dad having an affair with the mums best friend, who he later married) fought throughout the whole day. Father of the bride speech was all about him, the groom didn't even write one, and stood for 15 minutes babbling about anything he could think of. Step mother of the bride through a hissy fit that the wedding dress got dirty she was planning to resell it.
The Groom then proceeded to drink 3 bottles of Jack Daniel's and hijacked the bands drum kit and play a 20 minute drum solo. He spent the rest of the evening in the recovery position.
Marriage didn't last two years, can't divulge why as the Criminal case is still ongoing. clclark1992
1. Are you even thinking?
GiphyOh yes. There was a palpable emotional disconnect between bride and groom. She seemed completely void of emotion. He got drunk at the reception, missed the cutting of the cake and was carried to their hotel room upstairs. Marriage lasted just over two years. She got them into enormous debt via credit cards buying everything she saw. He spent most of his off time surfing and no interest in spending time with her. They had zero in common. Still cannot figure out what they were thinking. justusethatname
Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.